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5th bday party
ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother,
James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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oh, and at what age do we stop giving out party gifts (goodie bags)???
"thefackrells" wrote in message t... ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother, James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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Gwen, my son was in Kindergarten last year and this is my $.02. I would
maybe select 1-2 of the classmates that he seems closest to right now or in a few weeks and leave it at that. Don't send the invite to school but give them personally to their moms. At this age feelings get hurt easily and I mean parents more than the kids. If invites are given out at school the ones left out may feel bad. Plus you don't want to start out the school year on the wrong foot for him or you. I would not invite the class unless you are prepared for all of them to show up. I do not think there is a nice way to explain why a child is left out and you have the right to invite or not invite anyone you want. It is all in the delivery. I was the Room Mom in my son's class and could see the sensitive moms and situations that arose. Thankfully I stayed out of all of them. I hope that helps a little. -- ~~~ Tracy "thefackrells" wrote in message t... ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother, James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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You can't possibly invite all the kids in the class and all the parents know
that. Having 8 year olds in the same class also get sticky. Our school will not give addresses out of families, only names. I have given the invitations to the twins and asked them to give them to their friends. We have always limited the parties to a couple of good friends (each gets 2), then we can do something really fun (i.e., the bowling alley). Ask the teacher for help too, they are well versed in this delimenia. Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 - newly registered 3rd graders - yikes!!!! "thefackrells" wrote in message t... ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother, James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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We still do, but the last party Kathleen went to it was t-shirts. Goody
bags here are given until the sleepovers start (10 or so). Good luck Shirley "thefackrells" wrote in message news:WeC0b.152487$cF.55669@rwcrnsc53... oh, and at what age do we stop giving out party gifts (goodie bags)??? "thefackrells" wrote in message t... ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother, James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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Tracy, that's a great idea, get ahold of the room mom - she also might be
able to intervene for you. I forgot - I was the room mom last year and there are a lot of things we can do to help. Shirley "Tracy WB" wrote in message ... Gwen, my son was in Kindergarten last year and this is my $.02. I would maybe select 1-2 of the classmates that he seems closest to right now or in a few weeks and leave it at that. Don't send the invite to school but give them personally to their moms. At this age feelings get hurt easily and I mean parents more than the kids. If invites are given out at school the ones left out may feel bad. Plus you don't want to start out the school year on the wrong foot for him or you. I would not invite the class unless you are prepared for all of them to show up. I do not think there is a nice way to explain why a child is left out and you have the right to invite or not invite anyone you want. It is all in the delivery. I was the Room Mom in my son's class and could see the sensitive moms and situations that arose. Thankfully I stayed out of all of them. I hope that helps a little. -- ~~~ Tracy "thefackrells" wrote in message t... ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother, James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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Gwen,
As a teacher (well, former teacher now :-) I would suggest you only invite a couple of the students from the class that you know your son really wants to invite, or even "all the boys". If you invite the entire class, you better be prepared for them all to show up. You can easily give the invitations to the teacher and ask him/her to discretely pass them out. In my classroom, as in most, we had "mailboxes" where all the going home papers were placed. I took time towards the end of the school day to put their papers and the invitations in the box at that time. That way one of the students wouldn't go over to their box, see the invitation, and open it and show it around. I'm not sure that 5 year olds could handle it, but my classes of 2nd & 3rd graders were told that they could only discuss the party between the people who went to the party. They understood about hurting others feelings. The only other suggestion I can give if you don't want to leave anyone out, is to have the party in two stages. One group goes bowling and then everyone meets later at chuck e cheese for the party (or at your home.) Gayle "thefackrells" wrote in message t... ok, so this isn't in regards to my twins but rather their older brother, James...He has just started kindergarten (yay!) and his 5th Bday is in a month...now usually we've always had a family party with a few other kids invited...or a bunch of kids for the first couple of hours followed by a family bbq....Now, I know we don't *have to* to invite his entire class but being that his bday is so early, its not like he's established a circle of friends yet, kwim? Plus he's got the few others I know he would like to see at his party, outside of his classmates.....my dilemma is (and I know I've done it to myself) that we've decided to have his party at a bowling alley and its $11/person...yeah, ouch! So how should I eliminate the kids?? I was thinking that if the class list (which we have yet to receive) gave addresses, that I would then just invite the kids that lived close by. Or should I just invite them all and pray that only half show up???....or just stick to the handful and maybe send a note to the other parents explaining why their kiddo was left out??? Boy, I didn't think it would be this hard!!! I don't want to hurt any kiddos feelings but I don't want 30-40 kids at my house either!! LOL and the going rate at any birthday party type places is is about the same....or more! GULP....help! Gwen |
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OT but 5th bday party
What is a room mom? Is this a U.S. thing?
Anita "Shirley M...have a goodaa \;-)" wrote in message news:frJ0b.207262$Ho3.27732@sccrnsc03... Tracy, that's a great idea, get ahold of the room mom - she also might be able to intervene for you. I forgot - I was the room mom last year and there are a lot of things we can do to help. Shirley --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.512 / Virus Database: 309 - Release Date: 19/08/2003 |
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OT but 5th bday party
The Room Mom coordinates parties and aids the teacher in any way she can.
She is kid of the liaisons between parents and teachers. -- ~~~ Tracy **Member of the Scrappin Safari Castaway Crew** http://www.scrapnsafari.com Check out the latest issue at http://www.scrapnsafari.com/currentezine.htm! Pages Scrapped in 2003: 174 2002: 320 2001: 248 "Anita" wrote in message able.rogers.com... What is a room mom? Is this a U.S. thing? Anita "Shirley M...have a goodaa \;-)" wrote in message news:frJ0b.207262$Ho3.27732@sccrnsc03... Tracy, that's a great idea, get ahold of the room mom - she also might be able to intervene for you. I forgot - I was the room mom last year and there are a lot of things we can do to help. Shirley --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.512 / Virus Database: 309 - Release Date: 19/08/2003 |
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OT but 5th bday party
Room Mom or homeroom Mom is basically the go-between person of parents and
teacher. She organizes parties, field trips and volunteers in the classroom from time to time. ~Kimberly Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02 come see us... http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/ |
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