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The most common question I get asked while pregnant.. Is it a boy or girl.. We simply don't know..but I do daydream about it often. What could it be???? However, as much as I will be over the moon and thrilled at whatever sex the baby is, there is that tiny bit of apprehension I have if its a boy. I am one of 5 girls Most of my girlfriends have daughters I do have 1 nephew close to me I am bombarded with women in my life The Estrogen levels defiantly out numbers the testosterone levels around me. I understand the mental makeup of girls much more than boys and although I love the men in my life as much as the women, I often think...will it be easy to naturally gravitate without effort towards my baby if my baby is a boy. I have no idea about raising a boy. Is this a common apprehension, or am I just thinking hot air and any apprehension I have now will disappear the moment I see my son for the first time..if its a boy.. Now, all four of my sisters are pregnant also. All four are having boys..none of my sisters have any apprehension at all and are fully confident that they can raise a boy. Basically I am a little scared that I am going to ****up somehow. My husband on the other could care less.. he is ready to rock and roll fully confident what ever the sex is. What gives me great comfort is, that seeing my husband is male..he knows instinctively about boys and comes from a long line of boys himself. Its not something I am stressing over. I know that I will enjoy been a mother to bits and give just as many hugs and kisses no matter what.. But the thoughts are there..niggling ones.. Anyone else felt anything similar? Areaba.. |
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Areba schrieb:
Hi everyone The most common question I get asked while pregnant.. Is it a boy or girl.. We simply don't know..but I do daydream about it often. What could it be???? However, as much as I will be over the moon and thrilled at whatever sex the baby is, there is that tiny bit of apprehension I have if its a boy. snip Anyone else felt anything similar? *lol* yeah. I remember sitting on a bus with my big belly way back when I was pregnant with Sam thinking "How the hell do I teach you stuff?! I don't know what boys do.." but you know when they're babies they don't do "gender specific" things and later they'll let you know what toys they like and which they don't. And I haven't met a boy yet who won't stop dead in his tracks when he sees construction going on while most girls could care less. You'll be fine. It's just a kid, nothing to be afraid of ;-) cu nicole |
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Areba wrote:
[...] I have no idea about raising a boy. Is this a common apprehension, or am I just thinking hot air and any apprehension I have now will disappear the moment I see my son for the first time..if its a boy.. [...] Its not something I am stressing over. I know that I will enjoy been a mother to bits and give just as many hugs and kisses no matter what.. But the thoughts are there..niggling ones.. Anyone else felt anything similar? I've read that it's really common for women to feel this way about the prospect of having a boy - a feeling of "Oh, my goodness, what do I do with a boy?" So you're certainly not alone. I had the same feeling that I knew much more about girls, and I always somehow expected to have a girl. So I was surprised when the scan in my first pregnancy showed a boy. But I saw that as a positive thing. Children don't turn out the way you've imagined they will - they grow into their own little people who surprise you with who they turn out to be. My feeling was that it was a good thing that the baby was a boy, so that I could get used to that feeling of unexpectedness, of dealing with the child I had rather than the child I imagined, right from the start. ;-) BTW, one thing I would say (in general terms, not just with regard to the whole boy vs. girl thing) is not to have any expectations about anything amazing happening the moment you see your son for the first time. People talk about this amazing surge of love that changes your whole life, and for some women it is like that, but for other women that feeling comes on later and more gradually. I know that when I first saw my babies my feelings were more along the lines of "Bloody hell, a baby. Great, does that mean that's over?" I was mostly just relieved to have got through labour successfully. I really doubt that I love my children now any less than a woman who fell in love with hers from the start! So, don't expect that it's automatically going to be a Hallmark or slushy novel moment - it may be, but it may not be, and it's fine either way. All the best, Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell |
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"Areba" wrote in message ... Hi everyone The most common question I get asked while pregnant.. Is it a boy or girl.. We simply don't know..but I do daydream about it often. What could it be???? However, as much as I will be over the moon and thrilled at whatever sex the baby is, there is that tiny bit of apprehension I have if its a boy. I am one of 5 girls Most of my girlfriends have daughters I do have 1 nephew close to me I am bombarded with women in my life The Estrogen levels defiantly out numbers the testosterone levels around me. I understand the mental makeup of girls much more than boys and although I love the men in my life as much as the women, I often think...will it be easy to naturally gravitate without effort towards my baby if my baby is a boy. I have no idea about raising a boy. Is this a common apprehension, or am I just thinking hot air and any apprehension I have now will disappear the moment I see my son for the first time..if its a boy.. Now, all four of my sisters are pregnant also. All four are having boys..none of my sisters have any apprehension at all and are fully confident that they can raise a boy. Basically I am a little scared that I am going to ****up somehow. My husband on the other could care less.. he is ready to rock and roll fully confident what ever the sex is. What gives me great comfort is, that seeing my husband is male..he knows instinctively about boys and comes from a long line of boys himself. Its not something I am stressing over. I know that I will enjoy been a mother to bits and give just as many hugs and kisses no matter what.. But the thoughts are there..niggling ones.. Anyone else felt anything similar? Areaba.. Heh yeah, I'm going through it now I'm expecting baby #2, and I don't know the sex yet. When I was expecting my daughter, it never occured to me to be worried, even before I knew what I was having. A little while ago, I was changing my friend's baby boy, and suddenly realised it's all different down there! This time round, I'm suddenly anxious about what we're having this time, and how else it'd be different to having a girl. I'm sure it'll be fine,and once I know the sex, I'm sure I'll sort my confidence. But wow, yeah, it's scary this time! Lucy x |
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Areba wrote:
I have no idea about raising a boy. Is this a common apprehension, or am I just thinking hot air and any apprehension I have now will disappear the moment I see my son for the first time..if its a boy.. I think this is a common worry. I don't think it will totally disappear the moment you see your son for the first time, but you will quickly realize that you are parenting an individual child whom you know better than anyone else, and not some generic "girl" or "boy." You may well find that you have some challenging adjustments to make along the way, but you'd find that with any child. I grew up with girls and found some significant adjustments living with two boys...but I've also had to make significant adjustments to expectations with my daughter. Now, all four of my sisters are pregnant also. All four are having boys..none of my sisters have any apprehension at all and are fully confident that they can raise a boy. Or perhaps they're just not expressing any concerns, or perhaps they have other concerns that overshadow concerns about gender. Basically I am a little scared...My husband on the other could care less.. he is ready to rock and roll fully confident what ever the sex is. What gives me great comfort is, that seeing my husband is male..he knows instinctively about boys and comes from a long line of boys himself. Eh, I don't really think *anyone* has all the answers easily and instinctively, regardless of the sex of the child. Your husband may feel comfortable with the idea of a boy, but I guarantee that your child will send him for a loop sometime regardless of whether it's a girl or a boy--and same for you. Best wishes, Ericka |
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On Sun, 27 Apr 2008 13:52:35 +0800, Areba
wrote: I have no idea about raising a boy. Is this a common apprehension, or am I just thinking hot air and any apprehension I have now will disappear I felt that way about my son. He's my first child, and I was more or less raised in a household of women -- my sister and my mother. There were men in my life, growing up, but they seemed more peripheral. I had no idea what to do with a boy, when I got one. However, I've managed. The early baby times are all much the same, I think -- slightly different plumbing to clean and wipe (and you've got to watch for the fountain effect with baby boys!), but still the diaper has to be changed, the baby needs to be fed and cleaned and loved. As he's gotten older, well, I've been glad to have my husband around to influence -- now that he's 6, he's really into his Daddy and doing "man-things". And it helped to have an example around for peeing standing up, when potty training time came around. As he's my first, I'm not always sure what part of his rough-housing and occasionally getting into trouble is just part of being a boy, or general non-gender-specific human nature, or just _him_. It doesn't really matter, usually, but I'm curious. I'm now expecting twins, a boy and a girl. I'm curious to see how our next boy turns out, compared to our first, and am looking forward to having a daughter, too. |
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NL wrote:
Areba schrieb: Hi everyone The most common question I get asked while pregnant.. Is it a boy or girl.. We simply don't know..but I do daydream about it often. What could it be???? However, as much as I will be over the moon and thrilled at whatever sex the baby is, there is that tiny bit of apprehension I have if its a boy. snip Anyone else felt anything similar? *lol* yeah. I remember sitting on a bus with my big belly way back when I was pregnant with Sam thinking "How the hell do I teach you stuff?! I don't know what boys do.." but you know when they're babies they don't do "gender specific" things and later they'll let you know what toys they like and which they don't. And I haven't met a boy yet who won't stop dead in his tracks when he sees construction going on while most girls could care less. You'll be fine. It's just a kid, nothing to be afraid of ;-) cu nicole Very VERY Funny you say that..Both my husband and I are Architects and if my calculations are correct - if my conception day is actually correct, that means this bubba was concieved in a new commercial building, 3rd floor, mid construction on a routine private Architect inspection. What ever sex the baby is, we are estimating anything to do with construction will turn its head :-) |
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