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#62
November 16th 04, 04:53 PM
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"Tiffany" wrote in message ... "P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "CME" wrote in message news:4_pmd.105372$VA5.22062@clgrps13... "P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "CME" wrote in message news:tPamd.157259$df2.38754@edtnps89... "P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "P. Fritz" wrote in message ... "Karen O'Mara" wrote in message om... (Bebelestrnge0721) wrote in message ... Hi all that are aware of our situation. A turn of events hit our household last night when we picked up the mail. Seems after almost 11 months, and two weeks [snip] It's seems possible to me that the paternal grandparents are not materialistic and are petitioning with genuine intentions for the sake of the baby. Your daughter does not seem fit to be a mother right now. If you feel you are fit, perhaps you should try and adopt the baby. Karen That is not an option because it would require consent from the father. I would say it is better than 50/50 odds that primary custody will be awarded to father at this point, and the mother will be required to pay child support. yeah right Paul........ you really think the system would do that? lol (make the mother pay support) I should have said 'ordered'.......they will order CS from the mom, but doubtful they would enforce it. How you doing by the way? Hanging in there........doing lots of chauffeur work LOL. Looking forward to New Yeas in the Carribean again :-) Can I come? ~bats eyelashes~ You trying to make Tiff jealous again? LOL Ok, compromise, bring us both. lol That is not a compromise....that is a death wish LO How would an old guy like me keep up with both of you two young things? ;-) Viagra and heart meds. LMAO....... ;-p T 
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#63
November 16th 04, 05:33 PM
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#64
November 16th 04, 10:18 PM
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"P.Fritz" wrote in message ...
You have to remember...'it is all about her' which is the crux of the problem......she hads never been motivated by what is best for her daughter or grandaughter.......it is only what is best for her. hello out there. I've lost track of the thread so am chiming in at an inappropriate point, but I would like to know more about the paternal grandparents. What is their home like? Do they have money? Can they provide for this baby? Karen
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#65
November 17th 04, 12:26 AM
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"Karen O'Mara" wrote in message om... (Bebelestrnge0721) wrote in message ... It takes a while but they catch up with the deadbeats ! I just know of one woman who's kids are grown and her paycheck is being deducted by the D.A. for past child support to payback her exhusband (who took care of the kids). That's all I know. Karen Karen, where I used to work, I caught up with a man who did not pay for 22 years. I was able to call the mother, who relayed the message to the children, who were waiting 22 years to see him. Too bad it is in court. V
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#66
November 17th 04, 02:00 AM
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She has created a hostile environment for the father.....and she maintains an 'ownership' mentality toward the grandchild.......neither will play well with a judge if the father has a competent lawyer. Well unfortunately it doesn't seem either parent is what's best for this child but then again we're only seeing one side of the story. Let's hope the judge gets all the facts and makes the best decision for this child and not the children fighting over her. Christine Sadly, the judge won't order the child go up for adoption. That would still probably be the best bet for this child even at almost 1 year old. sigh Sometimes a "King Solomon" type mentality would be of great benefit in today's lack of society. Just my 2 cents......... Christine
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#67
November 17th 04, 02:43 AM
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Subject: what do you think?
From: "Tiffany" Date: 11/16/2004 11:42 AM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: "P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "P. Fritz" wrote in message ... It is already being destroyed by a sick grandmother who only thinks of herself. The father has a lot going for himself, the child currently resides in a highly dysfunctional household with a mentaly unstable mother and grandmother. Trust Paul to get to the crux of the problem. Christine Apparently you suck too............. Original. Very original. Why bash on Christine because she pointed out Paul's ability to get to the crux? T Tiff, because Christine and Pauls Crux is wrong, I am not a sick grandmother, I am the mother of a daughter with mental health , and emotional issues that have resurfaced due to the babies fathers consistent emotional abuse and harrassment since the day he walked away from both my daughter and his. He never seems to have any money when his daughter needed clothes or shoes, my daughter would call and ask for some food from him since that is what she settled for for 11 months and the 7 jars of food he would send with his parents cause he didn't seem to have the time to even pick his daughter up for visits, he was too busy with his new girlfriend.Why shopuld my daughter or granddaughter have to wait or call him every friggen week for the 7 jars of food? Sometimes she would get well I am busy right now maybe tomorrow. The young man has enough money to be driving a 2000 car with light effects and a bangin stereo system, but a few jars of food was too much ....So after all the emotional mind ****ing he gave my daughter she finally decided to go for support, I never pushed her to it , but do support her choice because this young man bailed and that is what the truth is.Will I stand behind my daughter and see to it my granddaughter gets what she deserves from this deadbeat YES and so would any of you that would find themselves in this position.
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#68
November 17th 04, 02:58 AM
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Subject: what do you think?
From: "Tiffany" Date: 11/16/2004 11:30 AM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: "Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message ... Subject: what do you think? From: "Tiffany" Date: 11/16/2004 7:53 AM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: "Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message ... Subject: what do you think? From: 'Kate Date: 11/15/2004 3:36 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: On Mon, 15 Nov 2004 15:28:04 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote: You suck! lol T Oh god.. I hope he does! yeah but I've heard he sucks at sucking don't waist yer time, he'll leave ya hanging, and god that sucks ! AS does our situation, which sucks that these two suckers had to take it off topic in thier sucky sucked up way. Ya know whether or not I am metally ill (which I am not) or my daughter is mentally ill , we love this baby with all our hearts, Paul has disliked me from day one and I really don't care, I expected him to be the asshole he is. Tomorrow we will fight the fight many parents have fought, It is heart breaking to everyone , If my daughter losses her baby because of her mental health, I will hurt for her as any mother would for thier childs pain, Is it possible, yeah it is, it hurts, it hurts a lot, and it sucks that Paul and Tiff suck and you are so hard up for it you lost compassion. So if "What you think" about what is happening for us is you pray to a god you don't believe in that Paul "sucks" Well thanks for your advice Kate, but I'm sucked fine , he is all yours. 'K What the hell is your problem? Paul commented to me that he was going to the islands for the new year and I said he sucks. There was no sexual innuendo there..... Kate made the extra comment. He did not take it off topic, he told you exactly how he felt. That hurt I am sure but his thinking might be the JUDGES thinking too. Better get use to it. T Come on Tiff, stop playing that that was an all sweet non-sexual comment from Kate. I am sorry if I misunderstood your intentions of the word, but I know what Kate meant...heh.. she is like that, she likes to play. I am upset with her choice to use my thread to do so. I am sure she might have been playing around.... so what? Its wrong to make a joke in the mist of a serious situation? Yes when the serious situation involves a family crisis, that someone asked for advice for in a single parents group. ..BTW, I wasn't playing that it was a non-sexual comment from Kate. I was stating that it didn't start out as anything other then me telling Paul he sucks for going to the islands. I know Tiff , it was not you that started the mind/gutter desent. ..This is Usenet, anyone can make any comment in any thread. I know Tiff, people sometimes do try to use this forum for good honest help and a little compassion and thoughtfulness would help when things get hard for a family, whether you like the damn grandmother or not. It was not inappropriate either. I would have replied to Kate's joking but I am trying to keep my hormones under control. We disagree...cause I am the one hurt by the "**** you" I felt. Sorry. I enjoy playing too , lord knows I surely understand hormones , It was not a good time for me and I lashed out . Bev T
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#69
November 17th 04, 03:16 AM
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Subject: what do you think?
From: "P.Fritz" Date: 11/16/2004 8:45 AM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: You have to remember...'it is all about her' which is the crux of the problem......she hads never been motivated by what is best for her daughter or grandaughter.......it is only what is best for her. Paul, I am sorry this is how I am perceived . My daughters and grand daughters best interests ARE what motivates me. I agree, I am in this deeper than I thought I ever would of had to been, it gets easy to fall into that when you have a kid that will not stand up for themselves and as a parent you hate to see them be walked all over by jerks. My daughter has a communication problem she has difficulty expressing what she is feeling, this is all very frustrating for her, she has learning disabilities as well , Not an idiot not a psycho, not a danger to her baby, this is my kid and she loves her daughter . If what is best for my daughter is to survive the limits she was born with and does not get discriminated against because of her limits, then yes what I do is whats best for her. What is best for me ?, to stay strong. while I stand by my
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#70
November 17th 04, 03:20 AM
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Subject: what do you think?
From: "P.Fritz" Date: 11/16/2004 11:43 AM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: "CME" wrote in message news:A%pmd.105373$VA5.80947@clgrps13... "P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "Bebelestrnge0721" wrote in message ... Subject: what do you think? From: 'Kate Date: 11/15/2004 3:36 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: On Mon, 15 Nov 2004 15:28:04 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote: You suck! lol T Oh god.. I hope he does! yeah but I've heard he sucks at sucking don't waist yer time, he'll leave ya hanging, and god that sucks ! AS does our situation, which sucks that these two suckers had to take it off topic in thier sucky sucked up way. Ya know whether or not I am metally ill (which I am not) or my daughter is mentally ill , we love this baby with all our hearts, Paul has disliked me from day one and I really don't care, I expected him to be the asshole he is. Tomorrow we will fight the fight many parents have fought, It is heart breaking to everyone , If my daughter losses her baby because of her mental health, I will hurt for her as any mother would for thier childs pain, Is it possible, yeah it is, it hurts, it hurts a lot, and it sucks that Paul and Tiff suck and you are so hard up for it you lost compassion. So if "What you think" about what is happening for us is you pray to a god you don't believe in that Paul "sucks" Well thanks for your advice Kate, but I'm sucked fine , he is all yours. 'K What the hell is your problem? Paul commented to me that he was going to the islands for the new year and I said he sucks. There was no sexual innuendo there..... Kate made the extra comment. He did not take it off topic, he told you exactly how he felt. That hurt I am sure but his thinking might be the JUDGES thinking too. Better get use to it. You have to remember...'it is all about her' which is the crux of the problem......she hads never been motivated by what is best for her daughter or grandaughter.......it is only what is best for her. T Yeah I've sure noticed that as well. But all she sees is I somehow 'hate' her.....(I think it is a 'little bit' of projection on her part) I hate that you suck.
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