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Do you "correct" others' kids?
In another thread someone mentioned that her kids were jumping on the
coffee table when her friend's kids started it. So that made me thinking.. Sorry if this was discussed here before. This happened to us in the past. I didn't have kid(s) then. Anyways, if you have visitors and if their kids decide it would be so cool to jump on the coffee table or sofas what do you do? Do you just bite your lip and hope that the sofa won't tear off? What would be the right thing to do? Ofcourse I would correct my kids if they don't behave in other people's houses. Thanks. |
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ted wrote:
This happened to us in the past. I didn't have kid(s) then. Anyways, if you have visitors and if their kids decide it would be so cool to jump on the coffee table or sofas what do you do? Do you just bite your lip and hope that the sofa won't tear off? What would be the right thing to do? Bite my lip while others' kids attempt to destroy my home? No way! I'll give the other parent a chance to do something first, but if they don't, I walk over and very nicely, but firmly, explain our house rules. I always phrase it carefully as rules for *our house*, not as general rules. I don't see any reason why I can't set house rules for my own house and expect other kids to abide by them. I wouldn't correct table manners or tell them what to eat or anything like that, but I see safety issues and rules to protect my property as well within my purview, regardless of what their rules are at home. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"ted" wrote in message om... This happened to us in the past. I didn't have kid(s) then. Anyways, if you have visitors and if their kids decide it would be so cool to jump on the coffee table or sofas what do you do? Do you just bite your lip and hope that the sofa won't tear off? What would be the right thing to do? Ofcourse I would correct my kids if they don't behave in other people's houses. My house, my rules, no jumping on the furniture. Child would most definitly be corrected. -- JennP. mom to Matthew 10/11/00 EDD #2 10/24/04 remove "no........spam" to reply |
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Darned right I do. If the parents of the children do not like it they can
start keeping their kids in line. I have since I was a teenager. Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Anna or Xavier due 10/17/04 "ted" wrote in message om... In another thread someone mentioned that her kids were jumping on the coffee table when her friend's kids started it. So that made me thinking.. Sorry if this was discussed here before. This happened to us in the past. I didn't have kid(s) then. Anyways, if you have visitors and if their kids decide it would be so cool to jump on the coffee table or sofas what do you do? Do you just bite your lip and hope that the sofa won't tear off? What would be the right thing to do? Ofcourse I would correct my kids if they don't behave in other people's houses. Thanks. |
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On Mon, 17 May 2004 22:27:04 -0400, Ericka Kammerer
wrote: I wouldn't correct table manners or tell them what to eat or anything like that, It is sooo hard for me to have another child over and listen to them sit there chewing with their mouth open, smacking their lips. I want to say something so bad I can barely stand it. (also when kids cough without covering their mouth or at least turning their head away, and this is with kids who are old enough to know better) Marie |
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The only thing that bugs me is that I have a friend that has corrected my
daughter for climbing on her furnature but HER kids are the ones that taught my daughter to do it. I had wittnessed her kids running arround on her couches chairs and other things but when my daughter followed behind My Friend said "Do you let her get on the furniture at home" like it was unheard of in her home for a child to climb onto a couch. If I had not seen her kids doing the same thing less then a week before I would have felt a little bad. She does climb onto the arm of the couch but she knows how to work the light nobby thing on the hologen light and that is the only way she can reach it. Usualy she gets right down after she turns the light on Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Anna or Xavier due 10/17/04 "Marie" wrote in message ... On 17 May 2004 18:51:38 -0700, (ted) wrote: In another thread someone mentioned that her kids were jumping on the coffee table when her friend's kids started it. So that made me thinking.. Sorry if this was discussed here before. This happened to us in the past. I didn't have kid(s) then. Anyways, if you have visitors and if their kids decide it would be so cool to jump on the coffee table or sofas what do you do? Do you just bite your lip and hope that the sofa won't tear off? What would be the right thing to do? Ofcourse I would correct my kids if they don't behave in other people's houses. I would say, "We don't jump on the furniture!" as soon as the child started (usually if the child will do this in the first place the parent isn't planning on stopping it). Marie |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On 17 May 2004 18:51:38 -0700, (ted) wrote: In another thread someone mentioned that her kids were jumping on the coffee table when her friend's kids started it. So that made me thinking.. Sorry if this was discussed here before. This happened to us in the past. I didn't have kid(s) then. Anyways, if you have visitors and if their kids decide it would be so cool to jump on the coffee table or sofas what do you do? Do you just bite your lip and hope that the sofa won't tear off? What would be the right thing to do? Ofcourse I would correct my kids if they don't behave in other people's houses. Thanks. I give the other parent an opportunity to say something, and if they don't, I have no problem speaking up to preserve my belongings. Usually a calm "honey, please don't do that" is sufficient. Nan I think the answer to your (Ted's) question depends on the age of the "kids". Are they 3 yrs old or 10? Were they made aware of the House Rules when they arrived (or as soon as they transgressed them)? You can't be peeved with them for breaking your rules if you never told them what the rules were in the first place. I am the mother of two 'sofa jumpers' as we specifically bought big sturdy sofas so that the kids could jump on them. We are an enthusiastic, jumping-up-and-down kind of family. And yes, stuff gets broken at our house a lot. We will replace the sofas in a couple of years when the kids are older (preschoolers now). So, it's possible that your little guests didn't even know that their behaviour was out of line. Some kids have no experience of delicate furniture. Obviously, my kids do need to be reminded about the different rules at the houses of family and friends, but it has really been no big deal teaching them to respect 'different place different rules'. I do, however, tend to curb my kids a lot when we are out of our house. They are well mannered in a very old fashioned way and are respectful of others. So even though I haven't taught my kids to respect furniture, I have taught them to respect *people*. If you asked them to stop jumping on your sofa, they would stop. So, I guess if I were you I would (like Nan) just ask those kids to stop jumping. It usually works. My friends and I correct each other's kids if they are disobeying house rules (or broader social rules like being rude or mean) - but we start each visit with a reminder of *what the rules are*: "Remember, no shoes on in Grandma's house!", "Remember, no drinks in Bobby's living room!", "Remember, Don't knock on the fish tank!", "Don't change the TV channel on Poppy's TV", "No loud voices in the hospital", etc. It's not fair if you keep the rules to yourself but then get upset when people break them. So I guess my short answer is yes, correct those kids. IMHO, If you can't speak up for yourself in your own home, to even a little kid, then you may be looking at bigger problems than footprints on your sofa ... Suzie Egg. |
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