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Hi everyone, I am right at 37 weeks pregnant. This baby is due on
January 19, 2004. My son was born exactly four weeks early, but that was nine years ago and I had problems with my home life, my blood pressure, and other things, so far with this one everything has been amazingly wonderful, different Dad, different lifestyle, go figure. I am 30 years old and scared to death! I always said I wanted a house full of kids, but the closer the time comes, the more nervous I am, and MOODY!! My family loves to hate me right now, not really, but they have made comments about my mood swings. With my first son, him being a month early, he only weighed 5 =BD pounds and I thought I was dying, would have bet money on it. My water broke with him, and I had no real bad pains until they gave me something to make the contractions come sooner, I forget what it's called, but 30 mins. later when the pains came, I was told I couldn't have anything for pain or it could stop the labor, natural childbirth is not something I look forward to again. I am scared. I remember thinking I was going to die, and I know I didn't and won't with this one, I know it's something that I have to go through, but I have nightmares about this! My better half said that his daughter, my 19 year-old step-daughter, weighed over 10 pounds when she was born, & this child already feels huge! Now, I have been told that it doesn't matter if they are big or small, it still hurts the same, but this one terrifies me. Guess I have carried on long enough, I just figured maybe if I talked about it, I wouldn't be quite so worried. Thanks for listening. |
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Hi Anita, and congrats on your pregnancy! No real advice to give on labor...this is my first...but I hope it goes well for you and is easier than your first! -Michelle edd 3/14/04 |
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Anita MS wrote: Hi everyone, I am right at 37 weeks pregnant. This baby is due on January 19, 2004. My son was born exactly four weeks early, but that was nine years ago and I had problems with my home life, my blood pressure, and other things, so far with this one everything has been amazingly wonderful, different Dad, different lifestyle, go figure. I am 30 years old and scared to death! I always said I wanted a house full of kids, but the closer the time comes, the more nervous I am, and MOODY!! My family loves to hate me right now, not really, but they have made comments about my mood swings. With my first son, him being a month early, he only weighed 5 ½ pounds and I thought I was dying, would have bet money on it. My water broke with him, and I had no real bad pains until they gave me something to make the contractions come sooner, I forget what it's called, but 30 mins. later when the pains came, I was told I couldn't have anything for pain or it could stop the labor, natural childbirth is not something I look forward to again. I am scared. I remember thinking I was going to die, and I know I didn't and won't with this one, I know it's something that I have to go through, but I have nightmares about this! My better half said that his daughter, my 19 year-old step-daughter, weighed over 10 pounds when she was born, & this child already feels huge! Now, I have been told that it doesn't matter if they are big or small, it still hurts the same, but this one terrifies me. Guess I have carried on long enough, I just figured maybe if I talked about it, I wouldn't be quite so worried. Thanks for listening. Hi Congrats and hope you have an easy one this time! -- Vidya mom to Vandu(4) EDD May 6th '04 |
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On Tue, 23 Dec 2003 16:20:22 -0500, Anita MS wrote:
snips I always said I wanted a house full of kids, but the closer the time comes, the more nervous I am, and MOODY!! My family loves to hate me right now, not really, but they have made comments about my mood swings. That's perfectly normal late pregnancy behaviour. You are starting to ward off any potential harm to your baby, and may find you have become very self-centered. There is nothing wrong with you, think of how mother bears behave towards strangers when they have cubs (not that you should start clawing at people ). Tell people how you feel, and that it is not because of them, but because of the upcoming birth. With my first son, him being a month early, he only weighed 5 ½ pounds and I thought I was dying, would have bet money on it. It sounds like you never completely got over this traumatic birth experience, and therefore you are very scared. It is very good of you to talk about it like this, nothing works better to get over a bad thing than talking, IME. Yes, you will have to go through another birth, but there is absolutely no reason to presume it will be equally bad, and chances are pretty good it is going to be a lot easier in fact. As many women on this group can concur, bigger babies are often easier to birth than smaller ones. Try to come to terms with your birth experience, and also make sure that the OB/GYN or midwife who assists you during birth knows about it. A lingering anxiety can influence how you progress in labour, or how you respond to certain tests, so it is very important they know. In addition, they will be much better able to console you, or more eager to administer any pain medication you might ask for. Make sure you talk it through with them before you go into labour, and ask them what they can do to help you through it. Ask how they feel about epidurals, just the idea that you can ask for one may make you feel reassured, and the more relaxed you are, the better labour will go. In the end you may not even need any medication, just because you know it is there.... I am sure you will do just fine giving birth! And feel free to ask for more support around here if you need it. This is a wonderful group of women (and some men), and the combined knowledge and experience is immense. Take advantage of it! -- -- I mommy to DS (17m) mommy to a tiny angel (Oct 2003) guardian of DH (33) TTC #2.5 War doesn't decide who's right, only who's left |
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Welcome and Congratulations! :-)
-- Brigitte aa #2145 edd #3 February 15, 2004 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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Thank you all. You have been a lot of help and given me some things to
think about too. Anita |
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On Tue, 23 Dec 2003 16:20:22 -0500 (EST), (Anita MS)
wrote: I am right at 37 weeks pregnant. Congrats and welcome! -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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With my first son, him being a month early, he only weighed 5 ½ pounds and I thought I was dying, would have bet money on it. My friend had something similar happen. Her first was born 11 weeks early. Her second (7 yrs later) was full-term. She said the "extra" 11 weeks she had with her second pregnancy was so weird. Hang in there Sophie #4 due 7/18/04 |
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Anita MS writes:
: Hi everyone, I am right at 37 weeks pregnant. This baby is due on : January 19, 2004. Hi, and welcome to the newsgroup. : My son was born exactly four weeks early, but that : was nine years ago and I had problems with my home life, my blood : pressure, and other things, so far with this one everything has been : amazingly wonderful, different Dad, different lifestyle, go figure. Things like thyis can make a birth experience pretty horrible. With some support your will have a better experience this time. : I am 30 years old and scared to death! I always said I wanted a house : full of kids, but the closer the time comes, the more nervous I am, and : MOODY!! My family loves to hate me right now, not really, but they have : made comments about my mood swings. Mood swings in pregnancy are normal. Hang around here and we will try to be understanding and helpful. : With my first son, him being a month early, he only weighed 5 ½ : pounds and I thought I was dying, would have bet money on it. My water : broke with him, and I had no real bad pains until they gave me something : to make the contractions come sooner, I forget what it's called, but 30 : mins. later when the pains came, I was told I couldn't have anything for : pain or it could stop the labor, natural childbirth is not something I : look forward to again. I am scared. I remember thinking I was going to : die, and I know I didn't and won't with this one, I know it's something : that I have to go through, but I have nightmares about this! My better : half said that his daughter, my 19 year-old step-daughter, weighed over : 10 pounds when she was born, & this child already feels huge! Now, I : have been told that it doesn't matter if they are big or small, it still : hurts the same, but this one terrifies me. Whoa, slow down. Let's talk about this one thing at a time... First, you say that you had no bad pains until they gave you meds to increase your contractions. This is normal, and they way it should be. I would suspect that what they gave you is pitocin, a drug that is used to either induce or augment labor. It tends to cause back to back contractions that are very painful. Very few women can stand to have this drug without some pain relief. I think this is the problem you faced. The fact that you gave birth with augmentation and no pain meds is a testament to your strength! What you had is NOT a natural childbirth! With a natural childbirth, you would not have been give the pitocin! Many women can tolerate a REAL natural childbirth without the excutiating pain you experienced. Just refuse induction or augmentation, and you will probably not need pain meds nor will you have the unpleasant experience you had with your first. Next, if your first was 5+ lbs at 36 weeks, then your next will probably be around 7+ lbs at term. This is not especially large. Don't listen to the scare stories! This is one area where being soundly informed can help you have a better experience. One of the most important factors in the ease of giving birth can be the POSITION in which you give birth. Some OBs want you to give birth lying on your back or sitting, but this closes the birth canal up to 30%. It is much easier to give birth in a squatting, side lying, kneeling position, or on all fours. You should discuss this with your OB. I suspect you were placed in the wrong position for your first birth. There is no reason for birth to be terrifying or unreasonably painful. But to make it better, it is very helpful to be knowledgable about what is going on. I know time is short, but I would recommend Henci Goer's book "The Thinkning Woman's Guide to a Better Birth." Finally, seek out the collective support and wisdom of this newsgroup. There are lots of women who have been through the experience that you face and can be helpful. If you have questions post and expect good and insightful answers. : Guess I have carried on long enough, I just figured maybe if I talked : about it, I wouldn't be quite so worried. Thanks for listening. If you are interested you can read about our children Clara's and Niel's births at http://home.comcast.net/~l.mcmahan. Good luck, Larry |
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