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Do you have any friends who have or had daycare? You could ask them who they had and trusted. When I was thinking about going back to work (I didn't get the job and I wasn't really willing to seek out another job just to get a job), I talked to a friend's nanny (the friend didn't need her anymore) about her services. I knew the nanny and felt good about her. Another source that is continually mentioned is your church (if you are a member of one - I'm not) - see if there are any daycare providers or babysitters there. Not really, I'm quite a young mum (24) so most of my friends haven't got to the stage of having kids yet. The few friends that use daycare mainly use nurseries linked to there places of work. The one linked to my place of work is full, they are in the process of building a new one, but it won't be ready til October and I'm on the waiting list. My church has been very useful, but summer is difficult, those that do childcare have there own kids home so don't want to do it. The older people often are busy with their own grandchildren. |
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Ouch - is there anywhere near you that does Vactional care? This might
be an option worth looking into (I don't know what the OS options for this are but in Aus there are places that do care for children when normal childcare is unavaliable). As far as I have so far found only for school age children. |
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To the OP: My mother is also obsessed with me stopping at one year. It's really strange (her obsession), IMO. All my sisters stopped all their babies at 6 months, so she was all weirded out about me nursing to one year with my first; she was used to that with my second, but now I'm not weaning the third at one year. I have told her I can't wean during this famously bad cold/flu season, and that has put her off, but I really don't know when I will wean right now. At least I will have quiet from her until cold/flu season is over. Is it cold/flu season where you are? Maybe you could use that as an excuse for a few months? sadly not, but it will give us an excuse to go on through next winter, and possibly the following one! |
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Dawn Lawson wrote in message news:_oBKb.971206$pl3.647795@pd7tw3no...
Karen wrote: DH and I are trying to figure out how to go see RotK in shifts. We did this when ds was little, it was the only way we saw any movies. There is a mall within walking distance of our house, with both a movie theater and a casual restaurant we like. I would go see the movie first, an 11:00ish showing, we'd meet for lunch at the restaurant RotK is 3.5 hrs long. Why not rent it? Mostly because the speakers on my TV won't do justice to the soundtrack. Every time I've heard snippets of it on NPR or whatever, I've realized about 10 seconds in that I'm really enjoying it. Ordinarily movies in theatres, especially action movies, are far too loud for me to tolerate, so ordinarily I do rent whatever I want to see. But I saw FotR in the theatre, then TTT at home on my TV, and was sad. :-) Now I am trying to decide if I will be sad enough to want to juggle our problematic schedules enough to watch a movie by myself in a theatre with sticky floors. Now, if I had a huge TV and Bose surround speakers at home, renting would be my preference. Seems a killer expenditure when I would use it just for movie rentals once every few weeks or so, though -- I'm not much of a TV watcher. -- C, mama to one year old nursling |
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Molly Fisher wrote in message '
I wish more theaters (especially those in my neck o' the woods) would offer a Mom's Matinee. If I recall correctly, you are in Michigan right Molly? Birmingham's Palladium has Mom's morning out to see movies. But, like Dawn I can't see the appeal to see a movie with my kid/s or other people's children. When I see a movie, I like to engross myself in it and forget everything. That is hard to do with my kids or others that are loud. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... |
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i had (and still am) having the same exact problem, expect for two
differnces...1) my baby is only 7 months old and they want me to stop...and 2) they have wanted me to stop since cayden was 1 month old.....and its not my family its my boyfriends family...they were against it since the begining that i started...te first time that i ever breatfeed the baby in front of them was when i was in the hospital right after cayden was born...due to not really fully understanding how to latch him on yet, i needed to take my shirt off so that i could see how he was doing...i warned my boyfriends mom that i was going to feed the baby and she said that was fine...maybe i should have told her i was going to take my shirt off and just have a sheet over my uper half, but i totally forgot...i took my shirt off with my back to her and got into bed and covered my other breast with the sheet, leacing the other one fully exposed...after the baby was latchd on, she told me that breastfeeding was BAD for the baby (can you imagine) and that i should realy bottle feed...i tried explaining the beneifts of breastfeeding to her she wanted no part of it...then about a month later we went out to her house and the baby was hunrgy...not think, once again lol...i lifted up my shirt and started to nurse him...i heard her whisper to my brothers sister that i just (let them plop out anywhere) i was not amused...i screamed and yelled at her, and so did my boyfriend...we told her that until she got comfortable with my breastfeeding the baby shecouldnt see him anymore...and we left....she called later and said that she was sorry and that even if she didnt agree with it she wouldnt say anything about it anymore...boy did she lie...on christmas eve we went out to her house, and she hadnt seen me nursethe baby for awhile because whenever she was there he wasnt hungry...she must have thought i weaned him....but on christmas eve cayden was hungry again, so i started to nursehim....she looked at me and said "i cant belivce that your STILL breastfeeding the baby"....i told her that i was and i planned to doi it until cayden decided he wanted to stop...boy did that blow her up....to make matters worse, besides his mother my boyfriends STEP mother keeps dropping hints about how its best to wean the baby at six months old, to get him used to bottles so tat i can go out without the baby...i told her 1) the baby is used to bottles he gets them 2 days a week when i work and 2) i dont WANT to go out without the baby, at least not yet...that set her off, saying that i was spoling the baby and that he needs to get used to caregivers besides me and she alos said that cayden needs to learn how to cry...because i never let him cry...well shes right i never let him cry, there is no reason a 7 month old baby should have to cry at least not without me holding him...and every time he does cry my first instinct is to of course nurse him.....im sure my story hasnt helped you at all besides to let you know that your not alone in this matter....just keep your head strong and do what you think is right for your baby...if i did what everyone else thought was right for cayden i wou,d have weaned him when he was a month old.... |
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Linz wrote in message . ..
On 6 Jan 2004 11:10:20 -0800, (Irene) wrote: Linz wrote in message . .. On Mon, 5 Jan 2004 21:54:26 +0000, Anne Rogers wrote: When I say the WHO say you should breastfeed for 2 years, people say that doesn't matter as we have good water here. "Water doesn't contain the antibodies he gets from my milk, does it?", you ask, innocently! Love it! I've said similar before, but never as well, I'm afraid. ;-) I will, of course, forget this as soon as someone questions my desire to extend BF! Or, you'll remember, but no one will phrase their question in such a way that your response will work! ;-) Irene |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote in message ... 150 miles! 3.5 hours drive, so a week or not at all is the best option. She might be able to come here for some of the time, but I have 6 weeks of childcare to sort out, I might take unpaid leave from work, if that is the only option. I see what the problem is now. I didn't know we were talking a week. I know you said she could stay for three weeks, could she be talked into coming for the whole six weeks? (tell her it would be better for your son to be in his home envoirnment). ) it would be useful, but I think she has a 2 week holiday booked, plus as a teacher she has to go in to work for 2 days a week apart for exam results. seems to me that you only have one option - if work is important to you and you are not prepared to take that time off, then you need to find someone local who can fill in while your regular carers are unavailable. It sounds like a difficult job but if you start now and interview and do trial periods while you are there to supervise, I think you would find someone who you would feel comfortable with. I would also feel that if anything did go wrong, at least you would be close by to help or fix the situation. If your Mum has trouble, then you are 150 miles away. Personally, I would feel a lot more comfortable with the close-by carer situation. Also, it sounds like your Mum has her own life to live - she works, she has holiday plans - she obviously wants to help out and that is great - you have to decide if it is practical. I dont want to come over too critical about this because I use both parents for childcare - I work 2 days/week and my Mum does one and my MIL does another. However, I am adamant that this will only be while it is fun for all concerned and anything else that crops up will be worked around. Eg., my Mum is away for a week right now, my MIL will away 3 weeks os in July, we worked around a breast cancer operation recovery a couple of years ago. Looking after the child is our responsibility and they help only when they want, otherwise we make other arrangements (usually involving us taking time off - we have not yet had to use formal childcare). Grandparents have already raised children, grandkids should be fun, not an obligation. What about looking into a course for nannies or childcare workers - they might have students who would be interested in holiday work. They would be young but should have an interest in kids and some of them may have lots of babysitting experience already. As Tine said, you wouldnt know them to start with, but you could get to know them beforehand and they could become a valauble resource later to you. Dont write this suggestion off on the basis of one unsatisfactory experience. Do you think your child would be happy to stay a week away from you - both mine would definitely not be and I would not like it either. Your child might be completely ok with it but I think the more practical solution is to find someone local. JMHO, good luck Leah |
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"Chotii" wrote in message .. .
I don't know how many times I've heard the phrase, "When you kids were little, I never childproofed a thing. You all learned what 'no' meant and there weren't any problems. And you all turned out just fine." Yeah, yeah. I'd be willing to bet my brothers and I spent most of our toddlerhoods in a playpen, which is just reverse babyproofing - you protect the house from the baby, not the other way around. I suspect many of our grandparents and parents did it this way, and this is exactly why they not only don't have babyproofed houses, but would protest the need to do it, even to watch their own grandchildren. Exactly. I hear, from MIL, stories about how she'd be cooking in the kitchen, and she'd hear a noise from down the hall, and so she'd go down the hall to the bedroom to check on the baby, give him a new bottle, change his diapers, and then she'd have burned her dinner. Amusingly, my MIL is convinced that DS just needs to handle the objects he's investigating once at which point they'll lose that special new quality and cease to be interesting, and that if I allow him to explore at her house, he'll gently pick things up, study them, and then put them back where they belong. He is smack in the middle of the developmental "throw!" stage. -- C, mama to one year old nursling |
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Anne Rogers wrote:
Before ds was born I intended to nurse him through the first year, it hadn't occured to me that longer might be good. Now I'm better educated, it's best for him to carry on longer and I intend to let him self wean. The problem is my mum and my friends, they all think I am nuts, [. . . ] At a recent family gathering, DS's step-great grandmother sat next to me while DS dozed post-bf, and she told me about a woman who nursed all of her children to age two. She asked, "Can you imagine?" I smiled and nodded "yes," and was pleasantly surprised when she went on to say how wonderful she thought it was. Since DS turned 10 months yesterday, I imagine I'll be getting the "when" question from some people in a couple of months. I have no idea who will ask, but it should be interesting. DH has commented that it's not as if a curtain drops at 12 months and suddenly the baby no longer needs to bf. . . .. Bottom line: You'll do what you know is best. Your mother doesn't get a vote! -- Belphoebe |
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