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Best way to prevent molestation?
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Lenona. From http://www.betsysblog.com/ : Today's Parenting Tip (July 20) Posted by (columnist) Betsy Hart under Today's Parenting Tip [2] Comments Protecting kids. . . On the "Hannity and Colmes" last night, our debate was about the value of so-called "good touch bad touch" education for kindergardeners, as a way of warding off sexual predators. I argued that at best such education at very young ages doesn't protect children. At that age, these kids have trouble distinguishing between (the letters) p and d! At worst, it might be invasive, unsettling and most concerning, if we think we've protected out children against something when we haven't, we may even be leaving them more vulnerable than ever! Like putting a band-aid on cancer. The issue is the abusers. Not only all that, but we don't want to leave kids terrified of every loving adult who just tries to give them a hug. Here's what was passed on to me by very wise parents, and now here's what I tell moms and dads are the two things to tell kids early that will help, at least, to protect them from so much, and nost likely from more than sexual predators! First - every sexual pervert tells his young victim, "let's keep this a secret!" But you know what? No one should be coming between you and your child anyway, even if well intentioned, without your knowledge and permission (i.e., a trained therapist.) "Good touch bad touch" for a 5-year-old is likely going to be confusing and complicated. You can help protect your children against a wide range of abuse by instead teaching your kids the simple principle that "if ANY adult ever says to you, 'let's keep a secret from mom and dad' that person is trouble because he's trying to come between us - no matter who it is, you come tell me right away!" Second - make sure your kids know that they can tell you ANYTHING - and you will always love and help them (or get them help) more than anyone else in the world, because you love them more than anyone else in the world does. That's how it's supposed to be! Nothing is "for sure" but keeping loving lines of communicataion open, and making sure your kids know you are there greatest advocate is a start at protecting them in this world. Happy Parenting |
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Best way to prevent molestation?
wrote in message oups.com... Your opinion? Lenona. You can help protect your children against a wide range of abuse by instead teaching your kids the simple principle that "if ANY adult ever says to you, 'let's keep a secret from mom and dad' that person is trouble because he's trying to come between us - no matter who it is, you come tell me right away!" Second - make sure your kids know that they can tell you ANYTHING - and you will always love and help them (or get them help) more than anyone else in the world, because you love them more than anyone else in the world does. That's how it's supposed to be! I don't want my children to be obedient, that is, to do something just because an adult tells them to. |
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Best way to prevent molestation?
On Jul 24, 2:02?pm, wrote:
Your opinion? Lenona. Fromhttp://www.betsysblog.com/: Today's Parenting Tip (July 20) Posted by (columnist) Betsy Hart under Today's Parenting Tip [2] Comments Protecting kids. . . On the "Hannity and Colmes" last night, our debate was about the value of so-called "good touch bad touch" education for kindergardeners, as a way of warding off sexual predators. I argued that at best such education at very young ages doesn't protect children. At that age, these kids have trouble distinguishing between (the letters) p and d! At worst, it might be invasive, unsettling and most concerning, if we think we've protected out children against something when we haven't, we may even be leaving them more vulnerable than ever! Like putting a band-aid on cancer. The issue is the abusers. Not only all that, but we don't want to leave kids terrified of every loving adult who just tries to give them a hug. Here's what was passed on to me by very wise parents, and now here's what I tell moms and dads are the two things to tell kids early that will help, at least, to protect them from so much, and nost likely from more than sexual predators! First - every sexual pervert tells his young victim, "let's keep this a secret!" But you know what? No one should be coming between you and your child anyway, even if well intentioned, without your knowledge and permission (i.e., a trained therapist.) "Good touch bad touch" for a 5-year-old is likely going to be confusing and complicated. You can help protect your children against a wide range of abuse by instead teaching your kids the simple principle that "if ANY adult ever says to you, 'let's keep a secret from mom and dad' that person is trouble because he's trying to come between us - no matter who it is, you come tell me right away!" Second - make sure your kids know that they can tell you ANYTHING - and you will always love and help them (or get them help) more than anyone else in the world, because you love them more than anyone else in the world does. That's how it's supposed to be! Nothing is "for sure" but keeping loving lines of communicataion open, and making sure your kids know you are there greatest advocate is a start at protecting them in this world. Happy Parenting Neither bit of advice will guarantee that your child will not fall prey to the manipulations of a child molester. The only way to truly prevent it is to not let your children out of your sight, which isn't reasonable. It isn't that they don't know the difference between a bad touch or a good touch or that they want to keep secrets and were told to, it is the confusing feelings that are brought about by the whole deal, compounded with the words of their molestor. I believe in discussing good touches and bad touches AND that when somebody says "Keep it a secret from your parents." it is because THEY know it is wrong. My kids also know that no matter what happens in their lives, I will always love them, even if someone tries to tell them that I won't. Like it or not molestation can produce enjoyable sensations for a youngster that confuse them and have them unafraid. |
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Best way to prevent molestation?
On Jul 24, 11:02 am, wrote:
Your opinion? Lenona. Fromhttp://www.betsysblog.com/: Today's Parenting Tip (July 20) Posted by (columnist) Betsy Hart under Today's Parenting Tip [2] Comments Protecting kids. . . On the "Hannity and Colmes" last night, our debate was about the value of so-called "good touch bad touch" education for kindergardeners, as a way of warding off sexual predators. I argued that at best such education at very young ages doesn't protect children. At that age, these kids have trouble distinguishing between (the letters) p and d! At worst, it might be invasive, unsettling and most concerning, if we think we've protected out children against something when we haven't, we may even be leaving them more vulnerable than ever! Like putting a band-aid on cancer. The issue is the abusers. Not only all that, but we don't want to leave kids terrified of every loving adult who just tries to give them a hug. Here's what was passed on to me by very wise parents, and now here's what I tell moms and dads are the two things to tell kids early that will help, at least, to protect them from so much, and nost likely from more than sexual predators! First - every sexual pervert tells his young victim, "let's keep this a secret!" But you know what? No one should be coming between you and your child anyway, even if well intentioned, without your knowledge and permission (i.e., a trained therapist.) "Good touch bad touch" for a 5-year-old is likely going to be confusing and complicated. You can help protect your children against a wide range of abuse by instead teaching your kids the simple principle that "if ANY adult ever says to you, 'let's keep a secret from mom and dad' that person is trouble because he's trying to come between us - no matter who it is, you come tell me right away!" Second - make sure your kids know that they can tell you ANYTHING - and you will always love and help them (or get them help) more than anyone else in the world, because you love them more than anyone else in the world does. That's how it's supposed to be! Nothing is "for sure" but keeping loving lines of communicataion open, and making sure your kids know you are there greatest advocate is a start at protecting them in this world. Happy Parenting Good touch-bad touch, telling if an adult says to keep something a secret, shoot, I wouldn't count anything out. I think I remember John Walsh saying something like would you rather have your kids a little frightened or to be molested and perhaps killed? I agree. Any advice is good advice. The easiest way I started the conversation with my kids was that no one should be touching their private parts except themselves, mom, dad, or the doctor. When I would hear something in the news along the lines of child missing or child being molested, I would take that as a reminder to ask my kids, "Who can touch your private areas?" And all three, including my 4 year old repeat what I have told them. I have told them other things as well, including the former in this post. And I always tell them, they can come to me for anything. I know my kids well and my middle would be the most frightened with regards to *stranger awareness*. So with her I speak clearly, but a little more tenderly. And, of course, we have went over the how to get out of a situation you are uncomfortable or frightened of. First being call attention by screaming your bloody head off. I hope this doesn't sound like I spend my days frightening my kids. That is far from the truth. But again, it is better to have them aware then out there with no clue a'tal. VIckie |
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