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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Wed, 5 Dec 2007 11:37:34 -0800 (PST), Beliavsky
wrote: On Dec 5, 2:15 pm, Nan wrote: How relevant are these findings to the parents in this group, most of whom appear to be well-educated and not impoverished? You assume a lot. There are probably a good number of posters on this group that live on incomes well under $30k a year. Well educated and impoverished can go hand in hand with the failing economy, unfortunately. I read the newspaper, and an unemployment rate of 4.7% does not indicate a failing economy. You're basing it on the national average. Many areas have much higher unemployment rates. And have you shopped for groceries lately? The price of staples such as milk, eggs, cheese and bread have risen quite sharply. Nan |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Nan wrote in
: On Wed, 5 Dec 2007 11:37:34 -0800 (PST), Beliavsky wrote: On Dec 5, 2:15 pm, Nan wrote: How relevant are these findings to the parents in this group, most of whom appear to be well-educated and not impoverished? You assume a lot. There are probably a good number of posters on this group that live on incomes well under $30k a year. Well educated and impoverished can go hand in hand with the failing economy, unfortunately. I read the newspaper, and an unemployment rate of 4.7% does not indicate a failing economy. You're basing it on the national average. Many areas have much higher unemployment rates. And have you shopped for groceries lately? The price of staples such as milk, eggs, cheese and bread have risen quite sharply. not to mention that after a time unemployed people 'fall off' the unemployment rolls. if you have been out of work for long enough to run out of employment compensation (i think it's 16 or 18 months, but it's been a while since i got employment compensation), or if you have just given up on finding a job because there aren't any you are qualified for in your area, then you 'fall off' the unemployment roll and are no longer counted in the % unemployed. also, if you work for *one hour* during a quarter, you are not counted as unemployed... so you can take those wonderfully low unemployment figures with a huge grain of salt. technically i'm unemployed because i don't work and am able to (although one field i'm eligable to work in is retail & i'm highly chemical sensitive to formaldyhide and the ink on US currency, so i can't work in a mall or handle cash. there's not much call for sys admins that don't do Winbloze around here either), but i'm certainly not counted in that 4.7%, as i'm not particularly seeking employment & i don't qualify for compensation anymore. lee and farms that don't net more than 50k in profit don't count as employment either |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward wrote:
Thank you all very much for this useful debate. We spent our first two hours in daycare today - of which the first hour together - and, after some initial shyness, my daughter joined in happily, and by the end of it was reluctant to leave. I am quite encouraged by her response and confident about my decision. They offer her so much variety in the way of activities and socialisation which I simply couldn't provide at home, so that even if I am able to keep her with me and the baby, I would worry that she was losing out by not being in daycare. My concern is her (physical) health as she will inevitably go down with something pretty soon. This was the crux of my relative's argument - that a child under 3 is best left protected at home. Maybe I should have said this more explicitly in my original post. Oh, pbbbthb on the health issue. If the child were immune compromised, that would be a problem, but otherwise, it's not the end of the earth for kids to get sick. They're going to start building up their immune systems sooner or later. Sure, she'll come home with crud (and likely pass it on to you), but keeping her home will just postpone that process until later. Make sure you're happy with the sanitary practices at the daycare, keep her home perhaps if something bad is going around, and just deal with the rest. I'm enjoying a cold brought home by my 4yo preschooler now. I'd love not to have to deal with that, but what else is one going to do? The relative is actually a life-long kindergarten teacher herself, about to retire, so I guess she felt this entitled her to meddle in my affairs. Maybe. Of course, some relatives just feel entitled, period ;-) |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 6, 11:33 am, Ericka Kammerer wrote:
Oh, pbbbthb on the health issue. If the child were immune compromised, that would be a problem, but otherwise, it's not the end of the earth for kids to get sick. They're going to start building up their immune systems sooner or later. Sure, she'll come home with crud (and likely pass it on to you), but keeping her home will just postpone that process until later. Yes, but older kids are more robust than younger kids, and it is plausible to me that delaying the age at which a child is exposed to many illnesses has value. Make sure you're happy with the sanitary practices at the daycare, keep her home perhaps if something bad is going around, and just deal with the rest. I'm enjoying a cold brought home by my 4yo preschooler now. I'd love not to have to deal with that, but what else is one going to do? If the OP has absolutely no choice other than to send her child to the day care center, why did she start the thread? |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 6, 12:02 pm, Beliavsky wrote:
On Dec 6, 11:33 am, Ericka Kammerer wrote: Oh, pbbbthb on the health issue. If the child were immune compromised, that would be a problem, but otherwise, it's not the end of the earth for kids to get sick. They're going to start building up their immune systems sooner or later. Sure, she'll come home with crud (and likely pass it on to you), but keeping her home will just postpone that process until later. Yes, but older kids are more robust than younger kids, and it is plausible to me that delaying the age at which a child is exposed to many illnesses has value. I can't see how this would work if one were to have 1 child -- unless, of course, one is homeschooling. Sibling transmission of 'whatever is going around at school' seems to be the norm, ime. DD2, who was initially in daycare then kept at home, contracted far more colds once her older sister entered school than she had during daycare. Then again, the daycare environment had a static small set of kids (3), and her sister was in a building with 300 other people. Or maybe it's just that we cranked the thermostat at home down once our income decreased. (And to think that I thought oil prices were high then!). Caledonia |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
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Beliavsky says... On Dec 6, 11:33 am, Ericka Kammerer wrote: Oh, pbbbthb on the health issue. If the child were immune compromised, that would be a problem, but otherwise, it's not the end of the earth for kids to get sick. They're going to start building up their immune systems sooner or later. Sure, she'll come home with crud (and likely pass it on to you), but keeping her home will just postpone that process until later. Yes, but older kids are more robust than younger kids, and it is plausible to me that delaying the age at which a child is exposed to many illnesses has value. Make sure you're happy with the sanitary practices at the daycare, keep her home perhaps if something bad is going around, and just deal with the rest. I'm enjoying a cold brought home by my 4yo preschooler now. I'd love not to have to deal with that, but what else is one going to do? If the OP has absolutely no choice other than to send her child to the day care center, why did she start the thread? Why wouldn't you take her at her word that she wanted to know if there were any compelling evidence regarding not starting daycare until the age of three? It's quite reasonable and plausible and her concerns have been consistent with it. Nothing has been turned up that's very convincing. Banty |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Beliavsky wrote:
[snip] immunizations? A few people have mentioned that day care may have no ill effects or be beneficial if the mother researches the alternatives carefully and chooses a high-quality center. Yes, but mothers intelligent and conscientious enough to do that will probably be better SAHMs than mothers in general, and I doubt that their children will enjoy health or cognitive benefits from extended periods in day care. Alternatively, the kind of mother who enjoys a project like researching the local daycare centres and assessing their suitablity for their child might find the day to day care of a young child tedious. Coming up with metrics to analyse staff ratios versus outdoor time could be much more pleasant to them then getting out the finger paints, or taking that slow dawdle to the park for the fifth time this week. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
In article , Penny Gaines says...
Beliavsky wrote: [snip] immunizations? A few people have mentioned that day care may have no ill effects or be beneficial if the mother researches the alternatives carefully and chooses a high-quality center. Yes, but mothers intelligent and conscientious enough to do that will probably be better SAHMs than mothers in general, and I doubt that their children will enjoy health or cognitive benefits from extended periods in day care. Alternatively, the kind of mother who enjoys a project like researching the local daycare centres and assessing their suitablity for their child might find the day to day care of a young child tedious. Coming up with metrics to analyse staff ratios versus outdoor time could be much more pleasant to them then getting out the finger paints, or taking that slow dawdle to the park for the fifth time this week. Yes. OR just tapped out from doing all those wunnerful finger painting, dawdle to the park, etc. etc., things during all the non-daycare hours. Kids can benefit from being with all kinds of people, with different things to offer. Not only the intelligent have things to offer. A really bright mom might actually connect better with the child as an eight year old, or later, than a two year old. Not that he or she can't connect with the two year old; it's just that parenting changes as the child goes through development, and that meshes better or to a lesser degree with what any particular parent has to offer. This has been the argument that men have been giving for not connecting with infants or young kids for some time - that they'll be more involved when the kid can start carrying a fishing pople! Beliavski - what exactly is it that you think intelligent mom will be doing with her kids that's so all-fired special that she should be there for every waking hour?? I've heard this thrown about, regarding smart moms should be staying home to make for smarter kids, but it seems a mantra. It never gets developed to *what*, *exactly*, is supposed to happen differently. The working mom has many hours with her children (as working dads have had for decades) an able to to a lot in those off hours and days. And, as a working mom, on a Satruday it still gets into the umpteenth time dawdling to the park believe me. That's why kids have spent a lot of time with grandparents or other childminders (relatives, other youths) probably for as long as there are people. It's the nuclear family with kids at home, interacting only with one parent through the day, that is the *anomalous* model. Banty |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
On Dec 6, 12:56 pm, Banty wrote:
In article , Penny Gaines says... Beliavsky wrote: [snip] immunizations? A few people have mentioned that day care may have no ill effects or be beneficial if the mother researches the alternatives carefully and chooses a high-quality center. Yes, but mothers intelligent and conscientious enough to do that will probably be better SAHMs than mothers in general, and I doubt that their children will enjoy health or cognitive benefits from extended periods in day care. Alternatively, the kind of mother who enjoys a project like researching the local daycare centres and assessing their suitablity for their child might find the day to day care of a young child tedious. Coming up with metrics to analyse staff ratios versus outdoor time could be much more pleasant to them then getting out the finger paints, or taking that slow dawdle to the park for the fifth time this week. Yes. OR just tapped out from doing all those wunnerful finger painting, dawdle to the park, etc. etc., things during all the non-daycare hours. Kids can benefit from being with all kinds of people, with different things to offer. Not only the intelligent have things to offer. A really bright mom might actually connect better with the child as an eight year old, or later, than a two year old. Not that he or she can't connect with the two year old; it's just that parenting changes as the child goes through development, and that meshes better or to a lesser degree with what any particular parent has to offer. This has been the argument that men have been giving for not connecting with infants or young kids for some time - that they'll be more involved when the kid can start carrying a fishing pople! Beliavski - what exactly is it that you think intelligent mom will be doing with her kids that's so all-fired special that she should be there for every waking hour?? I've heard this thrown about, regarding smart moms should be staying home to make for smarter kids, but it seems a mantra. I think children with educated and caring SAHM moms who never go to day care or preschool can do just as well as kids who attend them. I don't think I have asserted that day care and preschool cause cognitive *deficiencies*, I am just questioning that they have cognitive *benefits*, especially lasting ones, for kids with good mothers at home. Quoting from a study Darcy Olsen and Lisa Snell "Assessing Proposals for Preschool and Kindergarten: Essential Information for Parents, Taxpayers and Policymakers" Goldwater Institute http://www.reason.org/ps344_universalpreschool.pdf "To help determine the efficacy of early education programs, we examine the results of some of the programs considered to be early education models--including, Perry Preschool, Chicago Child Parent Studies, Abecedarian, and Head Start--and find the research to be flawed and therefore of questionable value. We also review information from the National Center for Education Statistics, which reports no lasting reading, math, or science achievement differences between children who attend half-day and full-day kindergarten. We also examine the results of the National Assessment of Education Progress in Georgia and Oklahoma, where universal preschool has been fully implemented without quantifiable benefit. We find the widespread adoption of preschool and fullday kindergarten is unlikely to improve student achievement. America's flexible approach to early education gives children a strong foundation. Skills assessment at kindergarten entry and reports by kindergarten teachers show a large and increasing majority of preschoolers are prepared for kindergarten. The effectiveness of the current system is also evident in early test scores. At age 10, U.S. children have higher reading, math, and science scores than their European peers who attend the government preschools cited by advocates as models for the United States. To the degree that the state remains involved in financing early education, we recommend measures for transparency, program assessment, and improved flexibility through individual student funding." I would favor increasing child tax credits over increasing government subisidies to day care centers and preschools. Tax credits let parents, not the government, decide whether to use the extra money to reduce the working hours of one of the parents, most often the mother, or to use the extra money to purchase better care. |
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Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?
Beliavsky wrote:
On Dec 6, 11:33 am, Ericka Kammerer wrote: Oh, pbbbthb on the health issue. If the child were immune compromised, that would be a problem, but otherwise, it's not the end of the earth for kids to get sick. They're going to start building up their immune systems sooner or later. Sure, she'll come home with crud (and likely pass it on to you), but keeping her home will just postpone that process until later. Yes, but older kids are more robust than younger kids, and it is plausible to me that delaying the age at which a child is exposed to many illnesses has value. Actually, there are studies showing that early exercise of the immune system has benefits. There are things that are more dangerous to very young children, but keeping them in a bubble isn't really much of an option, so there's always a risk of catching something or other. Make sure you're happy with the sanitary practices at the daycare, keep her home perhaps if something bad is going around, and just deal with the rest. I'm enjoying a cold brought home by my 4yo preschooler now. I'd love not to have to deal with that, but what else is one going to do? If the OP has absolutely no choice other than to send her child to the day care center, why did she start the thread? Because she wanted to hear other people's opinions, of course. And in my case, I did/do have a choice, but I'm not going to keep my preschooler cooped up just so that she won't get sick. Getting sick happens. She needs time with other kids and time to get out of the house and do things (and I'm not about to stay cooped up in the house 24/7 either), so dealing with illness is just the way of the world. And, of course, it's a moot point once there's at least one child in school Even if you keep the littles at home, the older kids will bring everything home to share. Best wishes, Ericka |
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