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brutal honesty please
Here I am at the community wading pool. It is shallow enough for
toddlers to walk in. We brought a few toys for the kids, like a ring and a raft. A rather large family comes to share the pool. They didn't bring toys for their kids. Their kids played with our kids' toys and other's toys, which we didn't mind. When it was time to leave, I approached a 2-3 yo who had our ring. As I approached, her older sister, around 10 yo, told her we were leaving and we needed it back. When I got to her, I told her we were leaving and we needed it back. Since it's a rather large tube and I don't think she could take it off herself, I helped take it off. She did not fight or anything but she did not understand, so when I left, she started crying. I shouted an apology to her from where I was when I saw her crying. Her mom came over and told us that when I want to take something away from her child, I need to come to *her (mom)*, because her DD was small. Seeing as she was upset about her DD, I just told her okay, since anything else would just escalate the situation. She can't argue if I agree, which she didn't and she just left. Anyway, did I do anything in bad form? I'd like the etiquette in this situation, since I hate being rude and not knowing it. |
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toypup wrote:
Here I am at the community wading pool. It is shallow enough for toddlers to walk in. We brought a few toys for the kids, like a ring and a raft. A rather large family comes to share the pool. They didn't bring toys for their kids. Their kids played with our kids' toys and other's toys, which we didn't mind. When it was time to leave, I approached a 2-3 yo who had our ring. As I approached, her older sister, around 10 yo, told her we were leaving and we needed it back. When I got to her, I told her we were leaving and we needed it back. Since it's a rather large tube and I don't think she could take it off herself, I helped take it off. She did not fight or anything but she did not understand, so when I left, she started crying. I shouted an apology to her from where I was when I saw her crying. Her mom came over and told us that when I want to take something away from her child, I need to come to *her (mom)*, because her DD was small. Seeing as she was upset about her DD, I just told her okay, since anything else would just escalate the situation. She can't argue if I agree, which she didn't and she just left. Anyway, did I do anything in bad form? I'd like the etiquette in this situation, since I hate being rude and not knowing it. I don't think there's particular etiquette on the matter, but I think when you're dealing with really little kids that you don't know, it usually is a good idea to work through the parent/sitter/sibling/etc. if it comes to something that involves actual contact. I think you could have safely asked her to give you your tube back, or asked the big sister to help her, but if neither of those produced the tube it's probably safer to ask rather than do it yourself. I don't think you did anything wrong or rude, per se. I just think that the woman's response wasn't unusual (more than a little rash and precipitate, if you ask me, but not unusual). If my kids are playing with someone else's toys at the pool, I'm generally watching carefully to make sure my kids cough up the toys before the other family leaves. You know that the moment the other family tries to collect their toys and leave, there are decent odds that there will be some tears if you have little kids. Best wishes, Ericka |
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brutal honesty please
In article , toypup says...
Here I am at the community wading pool. It is shallow enough for toddlers to walk in. We brought a few toys for the kids, like a ring and a raft. A rather large family comes to share the pool. They didn't bring toys for their kids. Their kids played with our kids' toys and other's toys, which we didn't mind. When it was time to leave, I approached a 2-3 yo who had our ring. As I approached, her older sister, around 10 yo, told her we were leaving and we needed it back. When I got to her, I told her we were leaving and we needed it back. Since it's a rather large tube and I don't think she could take it off herself, I helped take it off. She did not fight or anything but she did not understand, so when I left, she started crying. I shouted an apology to her from where I was when I saw her crying. Her mom came over and told us that when I want to take something away from her child, I need to come to *her (mom)*, because her DD was small. Seeing as she was upset about her DD, I just told her okay, since anything else would just escalate the situation. She can't argue if I agree, which she didn't and she just left. Anyway, did I do anything in bad form? I'd like the etiquette in this situation, since I hate being rude and not knowing it. To get your *own* thing back? From *ten* year old?? Good grief, you dont' have to be running to get permission to get your own things back. Unless you're OJ Simpson Banty |
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"Banthy" wrote in message ... To get your *own* thing back? From *ten* year old?? Good grief, you dont' have to be running to get permission to get your own things back. The kid was maybe 2 or 3 yo. The sister was next to her, maybe 10. The sister told her I needed it back because were were leaving, but the little girl just sort of sat there. I then told her I needed it back because we were leaving. I took it off her, because she wasn't moving and because I don't think she could do it herself, because it is a big ring. The friend I was with was offended, saying they should have brought their own toys, if they don't want people taking back their toys from their kids. I'm not sure which way I should look at this. I know some people are particularly sensitive about their kids, but I don't think I'd be upset if someone took their toys home that my child was borrowing. After all, we'd just have been happy they let us borrow it. I would probably get to my child first to return the toy before the owner had to come get it, but if I didn't know they owned the toy, I wouldn't be upset the owner came to take it herself. After all, if she was watching, I at first shouted to DS to go get the toy, but as I saw a toddler in it who was not budging, I went to get it. I think the parent should have known we wanted it back. Come to think of it, I don't think I've ever been in a situation where another parent came to me to get back a toy. They've always gone to my child to just ask for it back. |
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brutal honesty please
In article , toypup says...
Here I am at the community wading pool. It is shallow enough for toddlers to walk in. We brought a few toys for the kids, like a ring and a raft. A rather large family comes to share the pool. They didn't bring toys for their kids. Their kids played with our kids' toys and other's toys, which we didn't mind. When it was time to leave, I approached a 2-3 yo who had our ring. As I approached, her older sister, around 10 yo, told her we were leaving and we needed it back. When I got to her, I told her we were leaving and we needed it back. Since it's a rather large tube and I don't think she could take it off herself, I helped take it off. She did not fight or anything but she did not understand, so when I left, she started crying. I shouted an apology to her from where I was when I saw her crying. Her mom came over and told us that when I want to take something away from her child, I need to come to *her (mom)*, because her DD was small. Seeing as she was upset about her DD, I just told her okay, since anything else would just escalate the situation. She can't argue if I agree, which she didn't and she just left. Anyway, did I do anything in bad form? I'd like the etiquette in this situation, since I hate being rude and not knowing it. On reading this again and thinking about other responses, maybe the picture is - the 10 year old was apparently watching her and did you give the 10 year old a chance to actually remove the ring instead of you? Still, the mom was a little too up in arms (agree with Rosalie), she didn't say you should have asked the 10 year old, and I don't think it's reasonable for you to have to find the parents of any kid that may have one of your family toys. I think this is just one of those things, if you find a mom in the next instance that mom would be irritated that you bothered her and didn't just take the ring LOL. Batny |
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"Banty" wrote in message ... On reading this again and thinking about other responses, maybe the picture is - the 10 year old was apparently watching her and did you give the 10 year old a chance to actually remove the ring instead of you? As I was shouting for DS to get the ring (not really noticing who was in the ring) then going to get the ring, the 10 yo did know we needed the ring was telling the child we needed it back. She did not move to get the ring off her. She did have time for that, but no, I did not stand there to wait. I told the child nicely that I needed it back and took it off because she was not budging, like I would have done for my kids and would have expected of others (but then I would have removed it before the situation had to occur anyway). |
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