Another UPDATE: UPDATE passive-aggressive people at work (long)

Okay, so last night, she and I finally got some time alone. She asks me if
there's something wrong. I figure she deserves an answer so we can fix it
like adults. So, I tell her. She starts crying, saying she would never
ever hurt me intentionally. She said she's always thought highly of me and
she was just joking, getting too comfortable and she said she was being a
jackass. That's what she called herself. She apologized profusely.

Before all this started, we would have code words for when I wanted her to
do something; so she gave me a code word for when I thought she was
offending me or otherwise not being nice and she guaranteed me she would
stop immediately.

I think she was being sincere, though we will have to see, but maybe it
really was a difference in sense of humor and we were just miscommunicating.
I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. If all that happened
stops, I will be happy. Thanks to all for your advice. If things go
downhill again, I will be prepared and know how to handle it. If not, I
know where I can turn to. Wish me luck!

this one professional way to deal with her, she knows her mask is
uncovered and forced to be honest with you, you must be moved seeing
her tears? Write when you have more troubles w/ her.

"toypup" ) writes:
Okay, so last night, she and I finally got some time alone. She asks me if
there's something wrong. I figure she deserves an answer so we can fix it
like adults. So, I tell her. She starts crying, saying she would never
ever hurt me intentionally. She said she's always thought highly of me and
she was just joking, getting too comfortable and she said she was being a
jackass. That's what she called herself. She apologized profusely.

Well. Misunderstandings happen. You seemed so sure that
she was trying to bother you -- but I guess she wasn't.
Maybe some people need to be reminded more than once about
what you want to be called. Maybe she thought you were
joking when you said what you wanted to be called.

Anyway, I hope it all works out positively.
--
Cathy Woodgold
http://www.ncf.ca/~an588/par_home.html
We are all Iraqis now.

toypup wrote:
Okay, so last night, she and I finally got some time alone. She asks
me if there's something wrong. I figure she deserves an answer so we
can fix it like adults. So, I tell her. She starts crying, saying
she would never ever hurt me intentionally. She said she's always
thought highly of me and she was just joking, getting too comfortable
and she said she was being a jackass. That's what she called
herself. She apologized profusely.
Before all this started, we would have code words for when I wanted
her to do something; so she gave me a code word for when I thought
she was offending me or otherwise not being nice and she guaranteed
me she would stop immediately.

I think she was being sincere, though we will have to see, but maybe
it really was a difference in sense of humor and we were just
miscommunicating. I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. If
all that happened stops, I will be happy. Thanks to all for your
advice. If things go downhill again, I will be prepared and know how
to handle it. If not, I know where I can turn to. Wish me luck!

I'm sure glad things seem to be working out and kudo's to you for being up
front and honest with her.

She has a weird way of joking around with co-workers. Sounds more like
flirting to me.
--
Nikki

"Sushi Fish" wrote in message
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this one professional way to deal with her, she knows her mask is
uncovered and forced to be honest with you, you must be moved seeing
her tears? Write when you have more troubles w/ her.

Well, I do have my guard more up than I did before. I will keep an eye out
for trouble brewing. Thanks for the warning.

"Catherine Woodgold" wrote in message
...
Well. Misunderstandings happen. You seemed so sure that
she was trying to bother you -- but I guess she wasn't.
Maybe some people need to be reminded more than once about
what you want to be called. Maybe she thought you were
joking when you said what you wanted to be called.

Anyway, I hope it all works out positively.

I wasn't sure she was trying to bother me at first, then things started to
escalate. I'm not absolutely positive about her right now, but I'm willing
to give her the benefit of the doubt. Of course, I will keep my eyes more
wide open, in case of problems. Thanks to all for your help.