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Melania writes:
: Alec's birth story Congratulations, Todd would be proud! :-) Larry |
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Alec's birth story (long, of course!)
Alec's birth story
(pictures at: http://spaces.msn.com/members/mdcnnn/) All weekend long I was saying to myself "this baby's getting ready to be born." I had a lot of prelabour signs, but nothing that indicated exactly when I might expect the little guy to make his debut. I figured he would likely come sometime between the 20th and the 25th, and other than that I had no real idea. I had a few painful contractions on Saturday, and then nothing more. Sunday dh and I realized we'd better take belly photos if we were going to, and we shot some great pictures of the pregnant tummy and the family together. We also decided that if dh was going to put in any extra hours at work, Monday would be the day to do it, just in case the baby came "early." Tuesday the 17th was my LMP due date, but I figured I had about 5-8 days to go past that. Monday the 16th I found myself obsessing over whether or not my waters would break before labour began, as they had done with my first birth. I spent some time on mkp and Google trying to work out the likelihood of it happening, and I briefly considered going out to buy a plastic sheet to put on my bed. Monday afternoon I didn't feel like doing anything but play and enjoy spending time with ds, so we went swimming together, and then turned on some music and had a big dance party, just the two of us. We also spent some time in the building's playground. Dh brought home souvlaki for dinner, and after eating the three of us went to a nearby park and blew bubbles. Monday night after ds was in bed, dh and I watched a movie and settled in for the night. I went to bed at about 10:30. I woke up soaking wet at 12:25 am. Immediately knew that my water had broken, so I got up, got cleaned up, and checked the water - clear, with just a touch of pink, and baby was relatively active, so I decided to go back to bed (now swaddled in towels). Of course, dh woke up and asked if I was okay, and I told him what had happened. I lay in bed for two hours, getting up frequently because I kept needing the washroom. Far from being excited, I was disappointed to be starting the process tired and disoriented after 2 hours of sleep, and I also found myself suddenly worrying about how having a new baby was going to impact my relationship with ds (great timing for that particular worry . . . ). And then I was disappointed with myself for being so negative about the birth beginning. Not a great mindset to be in! Finally, at 2:40 am, I got up for good since it was obvious I wasn't going to get any more sleep and I was disturbing dh. Still no contractions, but they started weakly about 10 minutes after I got up. I posted about my water breaking at mkp, and then tried to lay down on the couch and get some sleep. Contractions became regular at about 3:30, but were very manageable. I rested between contractions, never quite dozing off, till 5 am. I was just getting to the point of thinking, "one more and then I'll wake up dh," which went on for about 4 or 5 contractions, when he got up. I had a second helping of tea and toast with him, and he put on some coffee. He started timing contractions, which I hadn't been doing, and they were actually 8-10 apart; by 5:30 they were 6-8 apart, with 2 mini-contractions in between, and slow dancing through them was starting to be ineffective. We called the grandparents to fill them in (they live in a different time zone - we're not that mean!), and called ds's care person to come over. We also called M, my friend who was attending the birth. By 6 am dh had talked me into going to the hospital. Ds was still sleeping, and his aunt was here. I didn't have a single contraction waiting for the taxi, on the ride over, or during admitting, and I was beginning to think I'd made a huge mistake in going to the hospital when the next three contractions caught me. We got settled into our room and met the nurse, who was just about to end her shift. We gave her the birth plan, which she read, and which she said she would share with the rest of the staff. She then asked me a battery of questions, most of which dh had been asked by the nurse on the phone when he called in to tell them we were coming (when waters broke, appearance of waters, when contractions started, baby's activity, etc), and she did a strip test through two contractions. I was getting pretty annoyed with the questioning, and with being made to sit in a chair for the strip test when I wanted to be on my feet for the contractions. Around 7 am a young guy in scrubs walked in and introduced himself as the resident. He had a big list of questions to ask, most of which we were now being asked for the third time in an hour, and many of which a glance at my file would have answered (lmp, first pregnancy or not, etc.). I was really unimpressed by now, and actually being rude in my responses. I have to admit I wasn't pleased with the resident just based on appearances, which isn't fair. I told him, between contractions, that it was really ridiculous to be asked all these questions so many times, and he seemed genuinely sheepish. He also said he would need to do a cervical check, and I asked if my doctor had been called yet. He said they didn't want to call her till he knew how dilated I was, so I consented. The day nurse, who was fantastic, came on shift and assisted with the exam. I should also mention that both the resident and the nurse told me they'd read the birth plan and thought it looked great. The resident found that I was 4 cms, mostly effaced, and baby was at 0. This was far better than what I was expecting - and the exam didn't hurt at all. I thanked the resident, told him it didn't hurt (it was gradually dawning on me, based on his interaction with the nurses, that he had almost no experience with attending births, and was actually really nervous, and I hadn't helped with that initially), and settled in. M had brought her cd player and we hung out for a while, timing contractions, which were 3-5 apart and strong enough that I was leaning over the table or the birthing ball with dh applying pressure on my hips and pelvis, and moaning quite loudly through the contractions. My doctor came by at 8:45 on her way into the office, by which time I was yelling through contractions. I was feeling terrible emotionally, because in my first labour I had about 8 hours of contractions 4-6 minutes apart, and between contractions I was happy and gregarious. I just felt grumpy and irritable this time, and upset that I wasn't getting a second wind or an adrenaline rush. My doctor didn't examine me at all, but said, "this baby's coming before noon!" She told me to make sure that I called the nurse when I hit transition, which she assured me would be obvious, and to "remind them to call me right away; sometimes they forget." Huh? Especially when her office is kitty corner to the hospital? Um, okaaaay . . . I didn't look at the clock after that, but things got fast and furious. In my last birth, I had an epidural after a lot of labour without much dilation, so I was about to experience unmedicated birth for the first time. I couldn't find a good position for my contractions, which were getting stronger and stronger, and ended up sitting on the ball at the end of the bed, holding a stirrup in each hand and basically howling through the contractions. I decided I wanted to try the nitrous oxide, which my doctor had said didn't do much and mostly just helped focus the breathing. Sure enough, I used the gas through three contractions and found that it made me light headed without helping the pain, so I put it away. I ended up kneeling on the floor, hugging the birthing ball through the contractions, and refusing to talk or even move between contractions. I wanted desperately to lie down, I was so tired, and so angry at myself for not feeling "better," but I knew that if I did lie down the next contraction would be unbearable. Dh started asking, "is this transition? Is this transition? What's transition like?" Till I yelled, "I DON'T KNOW!!!" I had one contraction where I found myself shouting, "MAKE IT STOP!" and I began to sob with frustration at the pain. Through it all, M and dh were stellar - she was timing every contraction, and announcing, "halfway done!" "almost done!" which I heard through the pain and which helped me not to panic. Dh was still doing the pressure on my hips, which I'm sure was helping. The next contraction after the "make it stop!" one I felt myself bearing down, and then realized I wanted to sit on the toilet. I knew now that we'd better call the nurse, which we did, and when she came running in I was refusing to get off the toilet. I didn't want her to check me, since I knew only a couple of hours had passed since I'd been at 4 cms, and I didn't want to be discouraged, but she insisted because I was feeling a pushing urge. A quick check had her saying, "you're at 8 or more, there's a bit of cervix, baby's right there," and suddenly I was elated. I was able to handle my contractions on my feet again, just leaning into the birthing ball, and dh's pressure on my hips was taking away what felt like 50% of the pain - I could almost talk through the contractions. It was, I discovered later, not even 10 am yet. Nobody had expected me to go from 4 to 8 in 2 hours, except maybe my doctor, and there was a scramble to get everything lined up (including my doctor!) for the birth. The doctor got there, and they got me up on the bed on my knees, leaning forward into the back of the bed. I was definitely having pushing contractions now, and although the beginning of the contractions hurt, the pushing felt wonderful. I surprised everyone by smiling through several contractions. It helped to have such wonderful support people; the nurse kept saying, "you're amazing!" and my doctor told me "that's how you do it! Just like that!" several times. The resident was back, and I realized he was being coached through the delivery by my doctor (I had specified in my birth plan that students were welcome at the birth). Subsequent inspection of the birth photos show her hands guiding his in perineal support and in supporting the head as it delivered, too. I heard him say, "so, you can deliver the baby with her on her knees like this?" And my doctor said, "oh, yeah, some women find this a really comfortable position." My legs, however, got shaky and I decided to try side lying for the birth. Dh held my right leg, and I hung onto his jeans pocket and belt loops through the contractions! I wanted so badly to give it everything I had and push like a maniac through the contractions, but my doctor kept saying, "just breathe, just breathe, let your body do it." Once I got the hang of breathing through instead of holding my breath and bearing down, the contractions felt easier. I remember between contractions looking over at M, who was taking pictures, and flashing her a big grin. I felt so relieved that the negativity I'd been feeling through what I now knew to have been transition had vanished. They let me know the baby was about to crown, and said, "okay, you'll be feeling the ring of fire soon," at which point I felt the ring of razor wire (no kidding, fire does NOT describe it). I started chanting "it hurts it hurts it hurts it hurts" to which someone said, "oh, we know it hurts, that's you stretching to fit the baby through, you're doing great!" and I chanted "it hurts I know you know it hurts I just need to keep saying it hurts it hurts it hurts" and then the next contraction came, which at that point was a relief. When it was over, the pain was gone, and I could feel the head partly out. I made the mistake of thinking, "oh, good, ring of razor wire is over," because when it came time to fully deliver the head and I felt the REAL pain, I started yelling "nonononononono!" and trying to push up away from the pain. Fortunately, everyone was calm, happy, and wonderfully supportive through the few seconds it took to get past that point, and suddenly the head was out, and although delivering the rest of the baby wasn't comfortable, the worst was certainly over. At 10:53 am, up he came onto my belly, I rolled onto my back, they dried him off there, and in the distance I heard the resident asking the doctor, "so, when does the cord stop pulsating?" and her replying, "oh, it depends, we'll just deliver the placenta before we do anything." Alec hung out with me till then, and when the placenta was out and the cord had stopped pulsating, dh cut it. I confirmed for everyone the obvious fact that he was a boy, and we noticed that he has the same microtia (ear condition) as his brother - only on the opposite side. After a quick physical, Alec was returned to me to nurse, which he did like a trooper. I took some of the nitrous before the freezing was put in, to stitch up a couple of small tears, and it was much more effective at taking the edge off of that than during labour! Within minutes of Alec's birth I felt on top of the world. He was so lovely and ready to be born - in spite of being early by my calculations and on his due date by lmp, he was covered in flaking skin, completely free of vernix, and had long, manicured-looking nails. I made all the announcement calls from the bed, with Alec in my arms, and felt physically well instantly. Such a far cry from how I felt after an augmented labour with an epidural! I admit I was taken aback by the pain of the contractions during transition, and by the pain of delivering the head, but having done it both ways the payoff immediately after the unmedicated birth was completely worth it. We stayed at the hospital for one night. The nurses and doctors were completely supportive of him cosleeping with me during that time. The only time Alec left my sight was when dh took him to the lab for an ultrasound on his kidneys, which is required when an outer ear malformation is present, since the two develop at the same time in utero. Apart from the ambient noise, the hospital was very comfortable and we debated staying an extra night to take advantage of the jacuzzi tub (which felt maaaarvelous after having given birth!) and the care in case something suddenly went wrong. However, Alec was already nursing like a champ, we missed ds (although he was welcome at any time and indeed spent several hours with us in the room), and the hospital food was unspeakable. As an entertaining aside: there was a provincial election on Alec's birthday, and we had election officials coming uninvited into the delivery room twice during labour and once within the hour after the birth, hounding me to vote! At which point (I hate to admit) I told them off and announced that I wouldn't be voting at all, thank you very much. I had intended to vote, actually, but was not feeling up to it in the event, and certainly did not appreciate their persistence. In spite of my initial concerns upon arrival at the hospital, I couldn't be happier with how the birth went and with the support I got - dh and M were wonderful, I was able to call the shots throughout the birth, my birth plan was not only adhered to but applauded by the staff, and I was able to try a mild medication and then discard it as an option, to deliver without medication, and to deliver in the position I chose. My doctor and nurse actually remarked several times that they wished they had the labour and birth on video so they could show women how a normal unmedicated delivery looks! So, here we are six days after the birth. My rash has not flared up, mercifully, and establishing nursing has been a dream. I feel so much healthier and better than I did following my first birth. Ds is dealing very well with everything, although he has of course been a bit more sensitive and vulnerable, and he's giving the baby loads of gentle snuggles and kisses, helping with diaper changes, and generally being involved and interested. For my part, I've been taking advantage of my newly reduced belly to get in heaps of snuggling with my big boy. I fell instantly in love with Alec, and am just soaking up the joy of being with my two wonderful sons. Melania Mom to Joffre (Jan 11, 2003) Alec (May 17, 2005) |
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On 23 May 2005 22:01:08 -0700, "Melania" wrote:
Alec's birth story (pictures at: http://spaces.msn.com/members/mdcnnn/) Ohhhh, he's gorgeous! And your oldest is such a cutie pie :-) Thank you for sharing your story. Nan |
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Congratulations! I'm so glad your labour delivery went so well! I've been
anxiously awaiting your post. Sounds like a wonderful hospital, which one was it? What beautiful boys you have! |
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Love your story, but I am fascinated as to how election officials managed to
get into Delivery! I would have thought security would be a bit tighter -- to say nothing of care for women in labour! Maybe you could write to your newspaper about this? Congratulations again -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "In Melbourne there is plenty of vigour and eagerness, but there is nothing worth being eager or vigorous about." Francis Adams, The Australians, 1893. |
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"Melania" wrote in message ups.com... Alec's birth story (pictures at: http://spaces.msn.com/members/mdcnnn/) SNIP .. I fell instantly in love with Alec, and am just soaking up the joy of being with my two wonderful sons. Melania Mom to Joffre (Jan 11, 2003) Alec (May 17, 2005) aw, that is alovely story. well done. more power to you! congrats and welcome baby alec christine |
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Melania wrote:
Alec's birth story (pictures at: http://spaces.msn.com/members/mdcnnn/) Melania Mom to Joffre (Jan 11, 2003) Alec (May 17, 2005) Oh how beautiful Congratulations, wonder-woman How strong do you feel? The pics are gorgeous, too! Can't wait to share my story... Hope I have as much memory of it's intricacies as you did - you really brought the story to life Jo (RM) |
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"Melania" wrote:
Alec's birth story (pictures at: http://spaces.msn.com/members/mdcnnn/) Melania Mom to Joffre (Jan 11, 2003) Alec (May 17, 2005) That's a wonderful story, Melania. Your boys are beautiful. Glad it went so well! -- Rebecca Jo EDD may 27 2005 |
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many congratulations Melania,
you never actually mentioned his weight, surely you know it is imperative to give us all the stats! Anne |
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Congrats! Great story, glad you had your unmedicated natural birth.
Since you got compliments on your birth plan, would you mind posting it or emailing it to me? I'm eons away from needing to write mine, but thought I should start getting ideas so I can talk to the OBs about them while I decide if I should switch to a midwife. email address is avoisine at gmail dot com Congrats again! Amy V. EDD 11/25/05 |
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