marital life post partum

On May 22, 12:02 pm, "Jamie Clark" wrote:
"Anna.Nicole.m" wrote in message

oups.com... Thank you thank you everyone. I feel much better and my husband and I
are doing better. and it's on him to set the mood. Someday soon I
think someone other then I will have the ability to put my ds to sleep
at night. until then it's my time. and that's ok.

How old is your baby again? I'd HIGHLY recommend letting dh start putting
her to bed, even if it's tough on her and doesn't work right away.
Seriously, even if it means that you go spend the night at a friends house
for the weekend and coming back in the morning. Or wearing earplugs. Or
putting a pillow over your head, or getting in the shower during bedtime,
etc. If you put this off, you are only setting the current situation in
concrete, and the longer it is only you who can put her to bed, the harder
it will be to get dh or anyone else to be able to put her to bed.

You might work on teaching dh any of your tricks, as well as perhaps having
him hold/wrap the baby in one of your worn t-shirts/nighties, so that she
smells you on him, and begins to associate your warm fuzzies with him.
Other than that, babies just need to learn how to be soothed by daddy, and
daddy needs to learn how to sooth baby. It's a learning process, but it
will happen.
I honestly would like to, but it's such an argument with my husband
and with Neil doing most of his nursing at night I think it would be
equally hard on Neil. My mom and my sister can put Neil to bed so I'm
ok with that. My husband does the whole "I think he needs to nurse
thing" ALLLLLL the time. It's just one less argument. And it's also
me. I can't stand hearing Neil upset, it makes my anxiety level go
through the roof.