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'Kate wrote in message news On Mon, 01 Dec 2003 22:50:48 GMT, "CME" 'Kate wrote in message ... On 1 Dec 2003 06:42:46 -0800, (Vickychick) I saw a Dr. Phil the other night. It was a mother they revisited who has been in therapy. Her own daughter called her a monster, due to her horrible parenting style. But there was hope and she found it. It was amazing to see mom taking time out for herself. I think doing too much makes mothers more prone to fussiness and breakdowns. Any thoughts? Vicky (who takes time outs when "I" am angry.) Mothers are judged to a different standard than fathers. Because we expect less from fathers, even the word "fathering" means fewer things, fewer expectations than the word "mothering", then mothers will feel as if there aren't enough hours in the day. Until the responsibilities of the roles are truly equal with respect to responsibilities (income, childcare, and housework), then mothers will continue to forego taking time out for themselves. Fathers seem to be more able to do this. They take the time that they need and then give to others. Perhaps it's because of the way that we think of fathers. Their traditional role is as income producer whereas mothers have traditionally taken care of everything else regarding home and family. I can only theorize that the idea of motherhood and fatherhood must change to catch up to the economic changes in the operation of the family. 'Kate I'm with you on this one Kate. I found that living with someone else created more problems than helped ease them. I found I was doing even more work, whereas that other person could have helped out more. I think when it's just me, I have only myself to count on, and when I was living with someone else, their expectations weren't in line with mine (clean house, laundry done, the basics really). *sigh* I want to be in a relationship where it's based on equality. I find that typically, even though I was working or going to school full-time that *I* was still responsible for the household duties and let me tell you, that didn't fly for very long. lol Christine I know what you mean. That was typical of my marriage. When I worked, I still had the same household and childcare responsibilities. I don't remember getting more than 4-5 hours of sleep per night because my day ended somewhere around midnight and started at 5 am. Weekends were spent doing the major cleaning, cooking for part of the week, and the general laundry (towels and sheets). It was awful. I think that men, in general, have changed from generation to generation. I hear different attitudes from the younger men. Many of them were raised in single-mother households and know how to take care of more than their older, more traditional counterparts. There are, of course, exceptional men and women who shared duties from the start or have adopted non-traditional roles by choice. 'Kate Yeah and where can I meet them??? lol Christine |
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