In need of some advice.( long, gross, and might be hard to follow) lol

Hi, I didn't know where to post this issue i am having, I figured
since we all have and love our kids then this would be a good spot..

I have a three year old daughter, and I married a man who has two
other kids to two different Moms, making me Mom number three, that was
not a big issue to me..here is the issue, the older children keep
getting head lice, it has been an on going problem ever since his 16
year old was a small child,
(I did not know that ) to make a long story short, his middle child
came home with lice when I was pregnant, and believe me, I know
_anyone_ can get lice, the cleanest of the clean can get it, BUT, we
got rid of it and worked our tails off scrubbing, washing bedding,
picking eggs out of her hair, etc. BUT, this is the problem, when she
goes to her mothers SHE does nothing, and now BOTH of his kids are
infested with lice and neither of the Moms will treat the kids, there
are other siblings in both families and -everyone- has lice, my ex is
almost bald so as far as I know he does not have it, and my daughter
is there 50% of the time and as far as I know she has never had
it...but I am suspecting that he is treating her hair before she comes
home to me, because he knows I would raise this issue, this was a huge
problem in our marriage, (he did not want to embarass his kids by
(checking) their hair, so me and my daughter learned to live with
lice. ( I never had it either) but when i was there it was like we all
lived separate...he would never make the kids take percautions, so I
would go to other rooms, etc.
he, told me last week that I would never believe how big the bugs are
that he found in her hair, he also said that she had this lice since
LAST July, and that it is possible that it never left from when I was
there, so that would mean that she has had lice for two years
straight. now please know that me and my ex are very clean people, we
do not think it is the right thing to do, IE. just live with it, but
what can HE do? he is disgusted too.

now here is the advice I need, we have been talking about getting back
together, maybe not even a -living together- back together, but a
close relationship, and I feel like there is nothing I wouldnt do so I
could be with my daughter more, she is only three and very clingly to
me, but I dont know if I can deal with
''living my life with lice'' my ex seems to have just givin into the
lice and instead of -doing something about it- he is putting a band-
aide over the whole thing..it is him, and three girls, they are there
50% and they all have there own towels, own seat in the living room,
own brushes, etc. my ex said he spent hundrends of dollars on NIX..and
sprays, but as soon as they go back to the mothers they come back
infested...he knows it is disgusting but if I say anything about it
then he gets extremly defensive, toward the kids, and I know it is not
their fault.

Now, he is planning a family vacation, and he asked me if I want to
come along, and I jumped at the chance so i can be there with my
daughter, it is rough to do things with a 16, y/o a 10, y/o and a very
curious 3 y/o, so I said yes...when I asked where, he said camping, in
a tent, all five of us..
That is the very -worst- place to pick up lice, I suggested two tents
(because of the problem) and he said
''no, because two tents will take away from the family type camping
trip''
I just don't know what to do..if it was -anywhere- but in a tent!!!!
has anyone experienced lice THIS bad? I have LONG hair and it is
thick, and I just will not feel good in a tent for several nights with
two infested girls...but otoh I 'want' to work things out with my ex,
and if I say anything about his kids and the situation, and will say
''just forget it''
I really don't know what to do..

Also, last month my daughter came down with the strangest flu like
sickness, she was throwing up for days, and she was extremely
larthergic, and sleepy, no fever, no, diahreah,[sp]? and no one else
caught it, she was in the ER and recieved IV fluids but remained sick
another day, total of five days..am I being paranoid to think that he
might be treating her hair and she had a bad reaction from the
product?
because he knows how anal i am about her and her hygiene, and he would
treat her hair just to be on the safe side..

I know this is a really disgusting story, and I thank anyone who made
it this far!!!
but for whatever it's worth, I want you all to know that we ( My ex
and I) and very respectable and clean people, it is their mothers that
are not..

I am also so fearful that my ex will get the school dictrict ( we live
in different districts) and his middle daughter has such a bad
reputation, she has been sent home from school countless times with
lice..and i dont want mine to have a reputation like that, the other
daughter goes to yet another district..
why the school's have not found out this time remains a mystery, my ex
is very happy that the schools did not find out about this time, but
he already knows that it wont be gone by Sept.
I guess it's not that the school did not find out -this- time, beause
it has been almost a year maybe even two, my ex seems to think it
never left from July 05...so the school -did- know at one point but
they must not have rechecked the kids when they returned to school...

does anyone have any advice for me?
I love my daughter so much and my husband too, but is it possible to
live with lice..(for YEARS) making it ''a way of life''

thanks for any advice, I know this was probably way off topic but it
is a parent issue..

Um, I think I left out a very important part, my husband and I got a
divorce in the middle of all this, I'm sure anyone who read this mess
figured that out, but we did divorce 2 years ago in Jan,




On Jun 20, 10:24?pm, missy wrote:
Hi, I didn't know where to post this issue i am having, I figured
since we all have and love our kids then this would be a good spot..

I have a three year old daughter, and I married a man who has two
other kids to two different Moms, making me Mom number three, that was
not a big issue to me..here is the issue, the older children keep
getting head lice, it has been an on going problem ever since his 16
year old was a small child,
(I did not know that ) to make a long story short, his middle child
came home with lice when I was pregnant, and believe me, I know
_anyone_ can get lice, the cleanest of the clean can get it, BUT, we
got rid of it and worked our tails off scrubbing, washing bedding,
picking eggs out of her hair, etc. BUT, this is the problem, when she
goes to her mothers SHE does nothing, and now BOTH of his kids are
infested with lice and neither of the Moms will treat the kids, there
are other siblings in both families and -everyone- has lice, my ex is
almost bald so as far as I know he does not have it, and my daughter
is there 50% of the time and as far as I know she has never had
it...but I am suspecting that he is treating her hair before she comes
home to me, because he knows I would raise this issue, this was a huge
problem in our marriage, (he did not want to embarass his kids by
(checking) their hair, so me and my daughter learned to live with
lice. ( I never had it either) but when i was there it was like we all
lived separate...he would never make the kids take percautions, so I
would go to other rooms, etc.
he, told me last week that I would never believe how big the bugs are
that he found in her hair, he also said that she had this lice since
LAST July, and that it is possible that it never left from when I was
there, so that would mean that she has had lice for two years
straight. now please know that me and my ex are very clean people, we
do not think it is the right thing to do, IE. just live with it, but
what can HE do? he is disgusted too.

now here is the advice I need, we have been talking about getting back
together, maybe not even a -living together- back together, but a
close relationship, and I feel like there is nothing I wouldnt do so I
could be with my daughter more, she is only three and very clingly to
me, but I dont know if I can deal with
''living my life with lice'' my ex seems to have just givin into the
lice and instead of -doing something about it- he is putting a band-
aide over the whole thing..it is him, and three girls, they are there
50% and they all have there own towels, own seat in the living room,
own brushes, etc. my ex said he spent hundrends of dollars on NIX..and
sprays, but as soon as they go back to the mothers they come back
infested...he knows it is disgusting but if I say anything about it
then he gets extremly defensive, toward the kids, and I know it is not
their fault.

Now, he is planning a family vacation, and he asked me if I want to
come along, and I jumped at the chance so i can be there with my
daughter, it is rough to do things with a 16, y/o a 10, y/o and a very
curious 3 y/o, so I said yes...when I asked where, he said camping, in
a tent, all five of us..
That is the very -worst- place to pick up lice, I suggested two tents
(because of the problem) and he said
''no, because two tents will take away from the family type camping
trip''
I just don't know what to do..if it was -anywhere- but in a tent!!!!
has anyone experienced lice THIS bad? I have LONG hair and it is
thick, and I just will not feel good in a tent for several nights with
two infested girls...but otoh I 'want' to work things out with my ex,
and if I say anything about his kids and the situation, and will say
''just forget it''
I really don't know what to do..

Also, last month my daughter came down with the strangest flu like
sickness, she was throwing up for days, and she was extremely
larthergic, and sleepy, no fever, no, diahreah,[sp]? and no one else
caught it, she was in the ER and recieved IV fluids but remained sick
another day, total of five days..am I being paranoid to think that he
might be treating her hair and she had a bad reaction from the
product?
because he knows how anal i am about her and her hygiene, and he would
treat her hair just to be on the safe side..

I know this is a really disgusting story, and I thank anyone who made
it this far!!!
but for whatever it's worth, I want you all to know that we ( My ex
and I) and very respectable and clean people, it is their mothers that
are not..

I am also so fearful that my ex will get the school dictrict ( we live
in different districts) and his middle daughter has such a bad
reputation, she has been sent home from school countless times with
lice..and i dont want mine to have a reputation like that, the other
daughter goes to yet another district..
why the school's have not found out this time remains a mystery, my ex
is very happy that the schools did not find out about this time, but
he already knows that it wont be gone by Sept.
I guess it's not that the school did not find out -this- time, beause
it has been almost a year maybe even two, my ex seems to think it
never left from July 05...so the school -did- know at one point but
they must not have rechecked the kids when they returned to school...

does anyone have any advice for me?
I love my daughter so much and my husband too, but is it possible to
live with lice..(for YEARS) making it ''a way of life''

thanks for any advice, I know this was probably way off topic but it
is a parent issue..

On Jun 20, 11:38?pm, missy wrote:
Um, I think I left out a very important part, my husband and I got a
divorce in the middle of all this, I'm sure anyone who read this mess
figured that out, but we did divorce 2 years ago in Jan,

On Jun 20, 10:24?pm, missy wrote:



Hi, I didn't know where to post this issue i am having, I figured
since we all have and love our kids then this would be a good spot..

I have a three year old daughter, and I married a man who has two
other kids to two different Moms, making me Mom number three, that was
not a big issue to me..here is the issue, the older children keep
getting head lice, it has been an on going problem ever since his 16
year old was a small child,
(I did not know that ) to make a long story short, his middle child
came home with lice when I was pregnant, and believe me, I know
_anyone_ can get lice, the cleanest of the clean can get it, BUT, we
got rid of it and worked our tails off scrubbing, washing bedding,
picking eggs out of her hair, etc. BUT, this is the problem, when she
goes to her mothers SHE does nothing, and now BOTH of his kids are
infested with lice and neither of the Moms will treat the kids, there
are other siblings in both families and -everyone- has lice, my ex is
almost bald so as far as I know he does not have it, and my daughter
is there 50% of the time and as far as I know she has never had
it...but I am suspecting that he is treating her hair before she comes
home to me, because he knows I would raise this issue, this was a huge
problem in our marriage, (he did not want to embarass his kids by
(checking) their hair, so me and my daughter learned to live with
lice. ( I never had it either) but when i was there it was like we all
lived separate...he would never make the kids take percautions, so I
would go to other rooms, etc.
he, told me last week that I would never believe how big the bugs are
that he found in her hair, he also said that she had this lice since
LAST July, and that it is possible that it never left from when I was
there, so that would mean that she has had lice for two years
straight. now please know that me and my ex are very clean people, we
do not think it is the right thing to do, IE. just live with it, but
what can HE do? he is disgusted too.

now here is the advice I need, we have been talking about getting back
together, maybe not even a -living together- back together, but a
close relationship, and I feel like there is nothing I wouldnt do so I
could be with my daughter more, she is only three and very clingly to
me, but I dont know if I can deal with
''living my life with lice'' my ex seems to have just givin into the
lice and instead of -doing something about it- he is putting a band-
aide over the whole thing..it is him, and three girls, they are there
50% and they all have there own towels, own seat in the living room,
own brushes, etc. my ex said he spent hundrends of dollars on NIX..and
sprays, but as soon as they go back to the mothers they come back
infested...he knows it is disgusting but if I say anything about it
then he gets extremly defensive, toward the kids, and I know it is not
their fault.

Now, he is planning a family vacation, and he asked me if I want to
come along, and I jumped at the chance so i can be there with my
daughter, it is rough to do things with a 16, y/o a 10, y/o and a very
curious 3 y/o, so I said yes...when I asked where, he said camping, in
a tent, all five of us..
That is the very -worst- place to pick up lice, I suggested two tents
(because of the problem) and he said
''no, because two tents will take away from the family type camping
trip''
I just don't know what to do..if it was -anywhere- but in a tent!!!!
has anyone experienced lice THIS bad? I have LONG hair and it is
thick, and I just will not feel good in a tent for several nights with
two infested girls...but otoh I 'want' to work things out with my ex,
and if I say anything about his kids and the situation, and will say
''just forget it''
I really don't know what to do..

Also, last month my daughter came down with the strangest flu like
sickness, she was throwing up for days, and she was extremely
larthergic, and sleepy, no fever, no, diahreah,[sp]? and no one else
caught it, she was in the ER and recieved IV fluids but remained sick
another day, total of five days..am I being paranoid to think that he
might be treating her hair and she had a bad reaction from the
product?
because he knows how anal i am about her and her hygiene, and he would
treat her hair just to be on the safe side..

I know this is a really disgusting story, and I thank anyone who made
it this far!!!
but for whatever it's worth, I want you all to know that we ( My ex
and I) and very respectable and clean people, it is their mothers that
are not..

I am also so fearful that my ex will get the school dictrict ( we live
in different districts) and his middle daughter has such a bad
reputation, she has been sent home from school countless times with
lice..and i dont want mine to have a reputation like that, the other
daughter goes to yet another district..
why the school's have not found out this time remains a mystery, my ex
is very happy that the schools did not find out about this time, but
he already knows that it wont be gone by Sept.
I guess it's not that the school did not find out -this- time, beause
it has been almost a year maybe even two, my ex seems to think it
never left from July 05...so the school -did- know at one point but
they must not have rechecked the kids when they returned to school...

does anyone have any advice for me?
I love my daughter so much and my husband too, but is it possible to
live with lice..(for YEARS) making it ''a way of life''

thanks for any advice, I know this was probably way off topic but it
is a parent issue..- Hide quoted text -

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Reconciliation or not, the stigma those poor girls face from school
alone is reason enough to fight for the fix. I can't imagine the
troubles it causes their classmates either. Anyway, I don't have an
answer for you, as I have not had to deal with it yet, but my sister's
little girl fought it long and hard thanks to repeated exposure at
school until her hair had been treated so many times it lost it's
golden hue and turned ashen. It is not good. They were finally rid of
it when summer vacation rolled around. It is summer vacation now and
now would be a great time to treat them, but only if everything in the
house is taken care of properly as well. I don't have time to check,
but when I inquired way back when about why adults don't seem to get
it, someone mentioned that it was because we dried our hair with a
dryer making it a hostile environment for them? You can check that one
out on your own I guess. I would also start making calls to social
services or something. My heart breaks for what those children are
going through due to the laxness of their mothers. It sounds like it
doesn't have anything to do with your ex at all, other than him having
to turn them back over to their mothers. If even social services could
help their mothers adequately take care of what needs to be taken care
of in their homes, maybe it would be worth it. Heck, I would even go
so far as jarring up some of those bugs, documenting the timeline,
which I'm sure school could back you up on, and handing those over as
well. Take them to a pediatrician and get their input. Maybe they
would report it if you are worried about that. I would definitely
mention my susupicions as to your daughter's illness to them as well,
just in case. I definitely would not go camping and if your ex can't
see you as being a protective mother, an area in which his exes are
sorely lacking, then poo-poo to him. Fighting a bout of it for a while
is one thing, but for years is another. IMO.

On Jun 20, 9:24 pm, missy wrote:
Hi, I didn't know where to post this issue i am having, I figured
since we all have and love our kids then this would be a good spot..

I have a three year old daughter, and I married a man who has two
other kids to two different Moms, making me Mom number three, that was
not a big issue to me..here is the issue, the older children keep
gettingheadlice, it has been an on going problem ever since his 16
year old was a small child,
(I did not know that ) to make a long story short, his middle child
came home withlicewhen I was pregnant, and believe me, I know
_anyone_ can getlice, the cleanest of the clean can get it, BUT, we
got rid of it and worked our tails off scrubbing, washing bedding,
picking eggs out of her hair, etc. BUT, this is the problem, when she
goes to her mothers SHE does nothing, and now BOTH of his kids are
infested withliceand neither of the Moms will treat the kids, there
are other siblings in both families and -everyone- haslice, my ex is
almost bald so as far as I know he does not have it, and my daughter
is there 50% of the time and as far as I know she has never had
it...but I am suspecting that he is treating her hair before she comes
home to me, because he knows I would raise this issue, this was a huge
problem in our marriage, (he did not want to embarass his kids by
(checking) their hair, so me and my daughter learned to live withlice. ( I never had it either) but when i was there it was like we all
lived separate...he would never make the kids take percautions, so I
would go to other rooms, etc.
he, told me last week that I would never believe how big the bugs are
that he found in her hair, he also said that she had thislicesince
LAST July, and that it is possible that it never left from when I was
there, so that would mean that she has hadlicefor two years
straight. now please know that me and my ex are very clean people, we
do not think it is the right thing to do, IE. just live with it, but
what can HE do? he is disgusted too.

now here is the advice I need, we have been talking about getting back
together, maybe not even a -living together- back together, but a
close relationship, and I feel like there is nothing I wouldnt do so I
could be with my daughter more, she is only three and very clingly to
me, but I dont know if I can deal with
''living my life withlice'' my ex seems to have just givin into theliceand instead of -doing something about it- he is putting a band-
aide over the whole thing..it is him, and three girls, they are there
50% and they all have there own towels, own seat in the living room,
own brushes, etc. my ex said he spent hundrends of dollars on NIX..and
sprays, but as soon as they go back to the mothers they come back
infested...he knows it is disgusting but if I say anything about it
then he gets extremly defensive, toward the kids, and I know it is not
their fault.

Now, he is planning a family vacation, and he asked me if I want to
come along, and I jumped at the chance so i can be there with my
daughter, it is rough to do things with a 16, y/o a 10, y/o and a very
curious 3 y/o, so I said yes...when I asked where, he said camping, in
a tent, all five of us..
That is the very -worst- place to pick uplice, I suggested two tents
(because of the problem) and he said
''no, because two tents will take away from the family type camping
trip''
I just don't know what to do..if it was -anywhere- but in a tent!!!!
has anyone experiencedliceTHIS bad? I have LONG hair and it is
thick, and I just will not feel good in a tent for several nights with
two infested girls...but otoh I 'want' to work things out with my ex,
and if I say anything about his kids and the situation, and will say
''just forget it''
I really don't know what to do..

Also, last month my daughter came down with the strangest flu like
sickness, she was throwing up for days, and she was extremely
larthergic, and sleepy, no fever, no, diahreah,[sp]? and no one else
caught it, she was in the ER and recieved IV fluids but remained sick
another day, total of five days..am I being paranoid to think that he
might be treating her hair and she had a bad reaction from the
product?
because he knows how anal i am about her and her hygiene, and he would
treat her hair just to be on the safe side..

I know this is a really disgusting story, and I thank anyone who made
it this far!!!
but for whatever it's worth, I want you all to know that we ( My ex
and I) and very respectable and clean people, it is their mothers that
are not..

I am also so fearful that my ex will get the school dictrict ( we live
in different districts) and his middle daughter has such a bad
reputation, she has been sent home from school countless times withlice..and i dont want mine to have a reputation like that, the other
daughter goes to yet another district..
why the school's have not found out this time remains a mystery, my ex
is very happy that the schools did not find out about this time, but
he already knows that it wont be gone by Sept.
I guess it's not that the school did not find out -this- time, beause
it has been almost a year maybe even two, my ex seems to think it
never left from July 05...so the school -did- know at one point but
they must not have rechecked the kids when they returned to school...

does anyone have any advice for me?
I love my daughter so much and my husband too, but is it possible to
live withlice..(for YEARS) making it ''a way of life''

thanks for any advice, I know this was probably way off topic but it
is a parent issue..

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your hair to come in contact. Buns or braids are recomended.
Your ex husband trying to save the kids from embarisment is only
helping to further the spread. Chances are the kids would rather be
checked and get past it than to save a little embarisment and live
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cycle. The most important are to know what you are looking for, take
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On Jun 21, 4:13?am, Chris wrote:
On Jun 20, 11:38?pm, missy wrote:





Um, I think I left out a very important part, my husband and I got a
divorce in the middle of all this, I'm sure anyone who read this mess
figured that out, but we did divorce 2 years ago in Jan,

On Jun 20, 10:24?pm, missy wrote:

Hi, I didn't know where to post this issue i am having, I figured
since we all have and love our kids then this would be a good spot..

I have a three year old daughter, and I married a man who has two
other kids to two different Moms, making me Mom number three, that was
not a big issue to me..here is the issue, the older children keep
getting head lice, it has been an on going problem ever since his 16
year old was a small child,
(I did not know that ) to make a long story short, his middle child
came home with lice when I was pregnant, and believe me, I know
_anyone_ can get lice, the cleanest of the clean can get it, BUT, we
got rid of it and worked our tails off scrubbing, washing bedding,
picking eggs out of her hair, etc. BUT, this is the problem, when she
goes to her mothers SHE does nothing, and now BOTH of his kids are
infested with lice and neither of the Moms will treat the kids, there
are other siblings in both families and -everyone- has lice, my ex is
almost bald so as far as I know he does not have it, and my daughter
is there 50% of the time and as far as I know she has never had
it...but I am suspecting that he is treating her hair before she comes
home to me, because he knows I would raise this issue, this was a huge
problem in our marriage, (he did not want to embarass his kids by
(checking) their hair, so me and my daughter learned to live with
lice. ( I never had it either) but when i was there it was like we all
lived separate...he would never make the kids take percautions, so I
would go to other rooms, etc.
he, told me last week that I would never believe how big the bugs are
that he found in her hair, he also said that she had this lice since
LAST July, and that it is possible that it never left from when I was
there, so that would mean that she has had lice for two years
straight. now please know that me and my ex are very clean people, we
do not think it is the right thing to do, IE. just live with it, but
what can HE do? he is disgusted too.

now here is the advice I need, we have been talking about getting back
together, maybe not even a -living together- back together, but a
close relationship, and I feel like there is nothing I wouldnt do so I
could be with my daughter more, she is only three and very clingly to
me, but I dont know if I can deal with
''living my life with lice'' my ex seems to have just givin into the
lice and instead of -doing something about it- he is putting a band-
aide over the whole thing..it is him, and three girls, they are there
50% and they all have there own towels, own seat in the living room,
own brushes, etc. my ex said he spent hundrends of dollars on NIX..and
sprays, but as soon as they go back to the mothers they come back
infested...he knows it is disgusting but if I say anything about it
then he gets extremly defensive, toward the kids, and I know it is not
their fault.

Now, he is planning a family vacation, and he asked me if I want to
come along, and I jumped at the chance so i can be there with my
daughter, it is rough to do things with a 16, y/o a 10, y/o and a very
curious 3 y/o, so I said yes...when I asked where, he said camping, in
a tent, all five of us..
That is the very -worst- place to pick up lice, I suggested two tents
(because of the problem) and he said
''no, because two tents will take away from the family type camping
trip''
I just don't know what to do..if it was -anywhere- but in a tent!!!!
has anyone experienced lice THIS bad? I have LONG hair and it is
thick, and I just will not feel good in a tent for several nights with
two infested girls...but otoh I 'want' to work things out with my ex,
and if I say anything about his kids and the situation, and will say
''just forget it''
I really don't know what to do..

Also, last month my daughter came down with the strangest flu like
sickness, she was throwing up for days, and she was extremely
larthergic, and sleepy, no fever, no, diahreah,[sp]? and no one else
caught it, she was in the ER and recieved IV fluids but remained sick
another day, total of five days..am I being paranoid to think that he
might be treating her hair and she had a bad reaction from the
product?
because he knows how anal i am about her and her hygiene, and he would
treat her hair just to be on the safe side..

I know this is a really disgusting story, and I thank anyone who made
it this far!!!
but for whatever it's worth, I want you all to know that we ( My ex
and I) and very respectable and clean people, it is their mothers that
are not..

I am also so fearful that my ex will get the school dictrict ( we live
in different districts) and his middle daughter has such a bad
reputation, she has been sent home from school countless times with
lice..and i dont want mine to have a reputation like that, the other
daughter goes to yet another district..
why the school's have not found out this time remains a mystery, my ex
is very happy that the schools did not find out about this time, but
he already knows that it wont be gone by Sept.
I guess it's not that the school did not find out -this- time, beause
it has been almost a year maybe even two, my ex seems to think it
never left from July 05...so the school -did- know at one point but
they must not have rechecked the kids when they returned to school...

does anyone have any advice for me?
I love my daughter so much and my husband too, but is it possible to
live with lice..(for YEARS) making it ''a way of life''

thanks for any advice, I know this was probably way off topic but it
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Reconciliation or not, the stigma those poor girls face from school
alone is reason enough to fight for the fix. I can't imagine the
troubles it causes their classmates either. Anyway, I don't have an
answer for you, as I have not had to deal with it yet, but my sister's
little girl fought it long and hard thanks to repeated exposure at
school until her hair had been treated so many times it lost it's
golden hue and turned ashen. It is not good. They were finally rid of
it when summer vacation rolled around. It is summer vacation now and
now would be a great time to treat them, but only if everything in the
house is taken care of properly as well. I don't have time to check,
but when I inquired way back when about why adults don't seem to get
it, someone mentioned that it was because we dried our hair with a
dryer making it a hostile environment for them? You can check that one
out on your own I guess. I would also start making calls to social
services or something. My heart breaks for what those children are
going through due to the laxness of their mothers. It sounds like it
doesn't have anything to do with your ex at all, other than him having
to turn them back over to their mothers. If even social services could
help their mothers adequately take care of what needs to be taken care
of in their homes, maybe it would be worth it. Heck, I would even go
so far as jarring up some of those bugs, documenting the timeline,
which I'm sure school could back you up on, and handing those over as
well. Take them to a pediatrician and get their input. Maybe they
would report it if you are worried about that. I would definitely
mention my susupicions as to your daughter's illness to them as well,
just in case. I definitely would not go camping and if your ex can't
see you as being a protective mother, an area in which his exes are
sorely lacking, then poo-poo to him. Fighting a bout of it for a while
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I did a little searching, and there are different types of lice, head
lice, body lice, and pubic lice. Each look differently as well. Some
cause chronic node enlargement in the neck and it can cause infection
requiring antibiotics. Unless your husband has had the actual lice
identified by a professional, it could be that they have been treating
the wrong kind. In fact, some cases of lice warrant an outside
intervention as well, as child abuse is suspected in some cases, as
with pubic lice, which can amazingly be found on the eyelashes of
children without pubic hair. Ick. Also, "It is recognized that chronic
head lice is frequently a symptom of families in crises with other
health/social issues" as well. Considering that the mothers of these
girls could be bringing unseemly male partners around their girls, I
might be asking some other questions too.

It seems to me that you should talk to the mothers and tell them that if
they don't fix the problem with the lice permanently, you're going to
report them to child protective services for child neglect. There is no
excuse for what they are doing. Sure, anyone can get lice. But it is not
that difficult to get rid of it, either. Much easier than living with it
for years.

And do it.

And, I would not let my 3 y.o. daughter over there either, until this is
fixed.

Jeff

Thanks for all your advice, I was not sure if anyone could actually
grasp this story,
I told him that I do not want to take the chance and go camping, he is
not mad, and he -might- be leaving my 3 year old home with me while
they all go, but NOT because of the lice, because he wants to be able
to do -big kid- things, and he cant with my daughter, so, WHEW, she
might be safe this weekend. Like I said, he is just covering this up
with a bandaide instead of fixing the problem,

IMO, the other Moms should be turned into CCS or the Health
Department, but I didnt want to sound mean,....

Thanks for your input..

I will keep you posted,



On Jun 21, 10:34?am, Jeff wrote:
It seems to me that you should talk to the mothers and tell them that if
they don't fix the problem with the lice permanently, you're going to
report them to child protective services for child neglect. There is no
excuse for what they are doing. Sure, anyone can get lice. But it is not
that difficult to get rid of it, either. Much easier than living with it
for years.

And do it.

And, I would not let my 3 y.o. daughter over there either, until this is
fixed.

Jeff