What she tells the kids.

This is related to the "She never gets enough money" thread...
Background: My 32% (the standard for 3 or more children here in Illinois) CS
is deducted from my check. No one controls how she spends the money. She
buys herself a sport car and my daughters have to work while in high school
to pay their own way. She claimed all 3 daughters on taxes. She has more $
per week to live on than I do plus I provide medical insurance and Public
Aid pays her co-pays for her...

On my last job change, she got an additional $342/month in CS. She asks for
additional money for clothes during the start of the school year. She asks
for money for getting the girls auto insurance and auto repairs. I'm
wondering why she can't pay these things with the additional $342/month
she's getting.

Anyway, if I don't give her additional money on top of the CS, she tells my
daughters that their father doesn't want to help. I consider that I'm
already helping paying her the money in CS, but she is using it on herself.
Personally I don't care what she buys herself or how many trips she takes a
year to watch races, etc, but I pay my share of support and don't get to
control how she spends it. I feel it makes it my business when she is
asking for more money for the things that I already pay CS for. I don't
like her telling my daughters I don't want to help them when she's taking
their money and spending it on herself.

CS is to pay half of what the CP needs for the raising of the kids...I
wouldn't give her a dang dime over that. The more you give her the more
she'll expect and know that you "can" give her. How old are your
daughters? Any parent who dogs out the other parent to their kids is an
unfit parent in my book, why hurt the kids for the sake of making
yourself look good? Your ex is a scumbag for doing that but know, that
eventually the kids will know the truth. Everything she does to you or
says to the kids against you, write it down! And date it...you won't
believe what a weapon that can be against an evil unfair ex! DON"T pay a
dime more than what you are ordered to unless you want to!

On Jun 9, 5:57?pm, "Roger_N" wrote:
This is related to the "She never gets enough money" thread...
Background: My 32% (the standard for 3 or more children here in Illinois) CS
is deducted from my check. No one controls how she spends the money. She
buys herself a sport car and my daughters have to work while in high school
to pay their own way. She claimed all 3 daughters on taxes. She has more $
per week to live on than I do plus I provide medical insurance and Public
Aid pays her co-pays for her...

On my last job change, she got an additional $342/month in CS. She asks for
additional money for clothes during the start of the school year. She asks
for money for getting the girls auto insurance and auto repairs. I'm
wondering why she can't pay these things with the additional $342/month
she's getting.

Anyway, if I don't give her additional money on top of the CS, she tells my
daughters that their father doesn't want to help. I consider that I'm
already helping paying her the money in CS, but she is using it on herself.
Personally I don't care what she buys herself or how many trips she takes a
year to watch races, etc, but I pay my share of support and don't get to
control how she spends it. I feel it makes it my business when she is
asking for more money for the things that I already pay CS for. I don't
like her telling my daughters I don't want to help them when she's taking
their money and spending it on herself.

Rog- I am in the same exact boat here in Illinois as you. Same thing.
Also you might want to check out this other forum. It's much busier
than this one.

http://www.divorcesource.com/ubbthre...eads.php?Cat=0

Roger_N wrote:
This is related to the "She never gets enough money" thread...
Background: My 32% (the standard for 3 or more children here in Illinois) CS
is deducted from my check. No one controls how she spends the money. She
buys herself a sport car and my daughters have to work while in high school
to pay their own way. She claimed all 3 daughters on taxes. She has more $
per week to live on than I do plus I provide medical insurance and Public
Aid pays her co-pays for her...

On my last job change, she got an additional $342/month in CS. She asks for
additional money for clothes during the start of the school year. She asks
for money for getting the girls auto insurance and auto repairs. I'm
wondering why she can't pay these things with the additional $342/month
she's getting.

Anyway, if I don't give her additional money on top of the CS, she tells my
daughters that their father doesn't want to help. I consider that I'm
already helping paying her the money in CS, but she is using it on herself.
Personally I don't care what she buys herself or how many trips she takes a
year to watch races, etc, but I pay my share of support and don't get to
control how she spends it. I feel it makes it my business when she is
asking for more money for the things that I already pay CS for. I don't
like her telling my daughters I don't want to help them when she's taking
their money and spending it on herself.


Put it to you this way: if she's that sort of person, she would tell
your daughters that you were rotten one way or another.
Do you get visitation? Seems like if the kids do need those clothes,
rather than giving the woman the money directly, just go out there and
have the kids pick them out then pay for them directly. You don't have
to go through her to support your own kids.
Ultimately, however, I think in the end liars become self-evident.
People are not stupid. If your daughters have to pay for their own
stuff while mom is cruising around town in a corvette, pretty soon
they'll know what is up.