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What to do when your son tell you he hates you.
"Barbara" wrote in message s.com... On Oct 22, 8:49 pm, Chookie wrote: In article .com, Barbara wrote: And, presumably, you never intend to take your kids to a public park. An open air fair or other celebration. A walk around town. The mall. Even the supermarket. You don't intend to allow them to listen to radio other than classical music. Classical music doesn't usually contain swear words, but I will not be in a hurry to explain the plots (let alone the words!) of too many operas to my six-year-old... You got me there. I yield to your wisdom! I wouldn't explain some of the plots of G & S (light opera) to #1, although she loves them on her level. I did explain "I can trace my ancestors back to a prehistoric primeval globule" and the "It was the cat" (cat being cat-o'-nine tails) song. But I think the innuendo/romance is better left until older. She'll appreciate it more then. And some of the political stuff is still over her head I tried explaining "they have to leave their brains outside and vote just as the leaders tell them to" but I think her conclusion was that they were "teasing". I'm not sure she understands all the intent in High School Musical either! Debbie |
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What to do when your son tell you he hates you.
"Beliavsky" wrote in message oups.com... On Oct 22, 11:21 am, Banty wrote: In article . com, Beliavsky says... snip I get the feeling that wasn't quite the case with Banty's son, though. I'm guesting that he was trying to shock and/or anger her. Had she yelled, slapped, punished, etc, she would have shown him that it worked. Her quick-thinking response better defused the situation. He probably never said it again. But that's because he's older; I wouldn't try that on a 4 year old. The b-word is not my in 4yo's vocabulary, and if it crept in, besides disciplining him I would make him tell me where he learned to talk trash so I could eliminate that influence. There will, for example, never be "gangster rap" in my earshot. Curious - of what material do you plan to make this cocoon? Will you punch airholes? Cheers, Banty (yep, his oldest is all of four....) I was born and brought up in the U.S. and am in my late 30s. I don't think I have ever used the b-word or f-word in front of my parents, and they would be saddened if I did. I have the same standards for my kids. Why is that unrealistic? So you're happy for him to use it not in front of you? We have basic cable TV (which does not include MTV), and if my wife has told me that if she thinks TV is becoming a bad influence on our kids, she won't mind getting rid of all TVs in the house. We have been talking about how to child-proof our Internet access. We haven't had, never had, and do not intend to get a TV. #1 very rarely sees TV. Let me tell you they still will hear the words. Occasionally #1 (just turned 7yo) repeats these words. She doesn't know what they mean, but she hears them used around her. We are in a middle class area with few problems, but she still hears them. An example of this was one time she brought me an Enid Blyton book and asked me what it mean by someone was "gay". I told her gay (in this case) meant happy, joyful, so she showed me another place where "gay colours" came up. I told her they were bright pretty colours. She then looked very puzzled and asked why older children use "gay" as an insult, because she thought it sounded like a compliment. What Banty means is that they will hear these words around (assuming you let them out occasionally). Even walking to and from the shops/school they will hear them. You cannot hide them entirely from bad language. At some point they will grow up and leave home and have control over their own life and the language they use. If you keep them away from all inappropriate things until that happens then they may have difficulty dealing with them. Debbie |
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