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My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. In regards to the window: He has completely ripped his roller shades to bits. I think there's more duct tape on them then there is plastic left. He has ripped out the screen on one. (The screens are on the inside, old house!) He has broken his curtain rod several times. He has drawn on the molding around the windows by scratching with the metal prongs from the plug of his fan. Bookcase: He has pulled it over (small bookcase only 3 feet high). Don't worry it's now screwed to the wall. He has ripped ALL the pages out of 2 board books. One was a library book, sigh. He rips all books somewhat therefore no more books, just empty shelves screwed to the wall. Bed: He has round knobs on the 4 corners of his bed firmly glued in place, yet he has removed three of said knobs. He drew on the footboard of his bed with the above mentioned plug prongs. Dresser: For some reason the only problems we've had is him changing his clothes during nap. No real problem there. Fans: He keeps unplugging them and turning them off. They are plugged into an extension cord because the outlet is far away from the window (window fan). We had wrapped electrical tape around the plugs to keep them in the extension cord but as you can see from the drawings mentioned above he just unwrapped it. Remarkably there is a closet filled with stuff including my clothes and storage that he hasn't been in (to the best of my knowledge). I guess I should lock it as he's running out of damage to do. Also he keeps coming out of his room, at least 20 or more times every nap and bedtime. Tonight I finally put a lock on the outside of his door, but it made me feel really crappy. I don't like locking him in especially since he's so destructive. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. I am running out of ideas since it's not working. Any suggestions welcome for either the destructive behavior or how to get him to stay in his room. I am considering putting toys in his room so he will have something else to focus on at quiet/nap time, but I am afraid of the damage he will be able to cause to/with them. I also feel this is a privilege he needs to earn. We have told him when he stops wrecking his room he can have toys up there but maybe it's too much to ask. Maybe the toys will keep him from wrecking things? He does actually take naps about three days a week and goes to bed after about an hour but it's definitely getting longer. Last night it was three hours before he fell asleep. Tonight we're at 1.5 hours. Thanks. -- Erin Morgan and Megan 2/15/97 Evan 5/14/00 |
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On Wed, 30 Jul 2003 03:09:16 GMT, "Kender"
wrote: HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. What has changed in his life recently? In general something like this doesn't appear out of the blue without any reason for it. snip description of destruction in his room Also he keeps coming out of his room, at least 20 or more times every nap and bedtime. Tonight I finally put a lock on the outside of his door, but it made me feel really crappy. I don't like locking him in especially since he's so destructive. Time to change your naptime routine. Can you sit with him and read a story, then put on some music and rub his back? At three, if he is not tired and you want a quiet time, you need to give him something he can do by himself. Perhaps a book on tape would keep his interest if quiet music doesn't work. Does he have a comfort item that he can take to bed? Can you rearrange his schedule so the nap time is either earlier or later and do the same with bedtime? Does he wake haturally at the time he needs to be up or does he need to be awakened in the morning? If he needs to be awakened, consider trying to allow him to sleep until you find out his natural sleep needs (8 hours, 10 hours, or some other number). Once you know that number, you can attempt to move the schedule so that he goes to sleep in time to wake up naturally though you will have to do this very gradually. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. I am running out of ideas since it's not working. Any suggestions welcome for either the destructive behavior or how to get him to stay in his room. Of course this doesn't work. Punishment almost never does work even when you think it is working (usually when you think it works, it is because that single behavior stops, but the child has substituted some other behavior for it that doesn't help and the punishment cycle continues) Find out what is going on that is causing the behavior. It seems likely that he is not tired and that the room is boring when he is not ready to sleep. Does he generally destroy his toys? If not, then I would say he needs something to play with in his room. I would try to make it something he is likely to play quietly with so that he may go to sleep with it, but anything he really likes and plays well with is good. If he has something really special he likes to play with, try that. If the behavior is because he needs to explore taking things apart, then get him some things he can take apart during playtime and emphasize that these are things that are ok to take apart. Then try to help him learn how to put them together too. Get some simple kits that don't require too much fine motor skills and *make things* I am considering putting toys in his room so he will have something else to focus on at quiet/nap time, but I am afraid of the damage he will be able to cause to/with them. I also feel this is a privilege he needs to earn. We have told him when he stops wrecking his room he can have toys up there but maybe it's too much to ask. Maybe the toys will keep him from wrecking things? Why in the world is it a privilege he has to earn to have toys in his own room. I guess we always had toys in our rooms when I was growing up, in fact that was where most of the toys were kept. At any rate, if he plays well with toys in your other rooms, I see no reason to not allow them in his room, just keep it to ones he is not destructive with. Also teach him *how* to play with toys without destroying things by playing with him. Play games that encourage him to learn how to build and to put things together. Play games that control destructiveness. Allow him to tear paper and then make a collage for example so that he gets the idea of how to use his urge to tear things up. Make distinctions for him when you talk to him about things that are fun and ok to tear and things that are not. Give him a roll of masking tape for example and let him tear off pieces and put it on paper, then let him color on it with crayons or paint it to make a design. You can actually make a vase by tearing tape ane putting it all over a plastic bottle and then having him color that. He might enjoy having a vase of his own for a flower or two in his room. Since it sounds as if his sleep needs are decreasing, he may be ready to give up his nap. If you want a quiet time during the afternoon, perhaps you should consider a special video time and let him stay on the couch to watch it instead of putting him in his room to nap. Be creative. He does actually take naps about three days a week and goes to bed after about an hour but it's definitely getting longer. Last night it was three hours before he fell asleep. Tonight we're at 1.5 hours. It sounds as if his sleep needs are simply getting shorter. You may want to eliminate the nap time or make it very short - perhaps an hour or so. Thanks. Good luck. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. Outer Limits |
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"Kender" wrote in message news:wFGVa.15870$YN5.13898@sccrnsc01... HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. The only thing DS has within reach is his mattress, which is surrounded by two Superyard XT's hooked together. In regards to the window: He has completely ripped his roller shades to bits. I think there's more duct tape on them then there is plastic left. He has ripped out the screen on one. (The screens are on the inside, old house!) He has broken his curtain rod several times. Put the mattress surrounded by Superyard XT away from the windows. He has drawn on the molding around the windows by scratching with the metal prongs from the plug of his fan. The fan is a safety hazard. I put one in DS's room, but it is out of reach, away from his coral. Bed: He has round knobs on the 4 corners of his bed firmly glued in place, yet he has removed three of said knobs. Leave them off until he becomes less destructive. He drew on the footboard of his bed with the above mentioned plug prongs. Get rid of the fan. It's a safety hazard. Fans: He keeps unplugging them and turning them off. They are plugged into an extension cord because the outlet is far away from the window (window fan). We had wrapped electrical tape around the plugs to keep them in the extension cord but as you can see from the drawings mentioned above he just unwrapped it. That is why it's a safety hazard. He may begin practicing plugging it in and plugging other things in, throwing things in the fan, etc. Electrocution hazard, flying objects hazard, cutting off fingers hazard. Also he keeps coming out of his room, at least 20 or more times every nap and bedtime. Tonight I finally put a lock on the outside of his door, but it made me feel really crappy. I don't like locking him in especially since he's so destructive. Superyard XT does wonders. DS just went through a short phase of calling for me every five minutes at bedtime. The phase came on suddenly, but I had to figure out what to do. Finally, I decided to do what everyone else here recommends. I just walked in, put him in bed and left, over and over. No talking or anything. He finally tired of it and just went to sleep. At first, it took an hour. I pretty much camped outside his door. The next day, it was miraculously only half an hour. That was a few days ago. Tonight, he's only called me once. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. I am running out of ideas since it's not working. Any suggestions welcome for either the destructive behavior or how to get him to stay in his room. Superyard XT takes care of both problems. He does actually take naps about three days a week and goes to bed after about an hour but it's definitely getting longer. Last night it was three hours before he fell asleep. Tonight we're at 1.5 hours. Thanks. How long does he sleep when he naps? If he doesn't sleep long, I'd cut it out. He may not be sleepy enough to nap. Maybe then you'd have better luck getting him to fall asleep at bedtime. Good luck. |
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"Kender" wrote in message news:wFGVa.15870$YN5.13898@sccrnsc01... HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. Isn't that crazy?! Mine seemed like angels at two compared to how they are now at three. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. I have finally gotten the boys' room to the point where most everything is attached. They have their beds with drawers underneath that can roll, but not a big deal. I built in a long bench, two corner cupboards and shelves which are all attached to studs with 3 1/2 inch screws. Nothing can be moved! Their dresser and clothes are in my room and their closet full of storage right now is locked. It has been hot. It was 110 here yesterday and 106 today. Tomorrow is supposed to *only* be 103. LOL Fans are a necessity even with air conditioning. Actually we have a swamp cooler since I'm in the desert land of Eastern WA. Some day I'll add central air, but that's a little beyond my budget right now. [...] I am considering putting toys in his room so he will have something else to focus on at quiet/nap time, but I am afraid of the damage he will be able to cause to/with them. I also feel this is a privilege he needs to earn. We have told him when he stops wrecking his room he can have toys up there but maybe it's too much to ask. Maybe the toys will keep him from wrecking things? Maybe what you could do is give him a couple toys in there and let him know that he can add another one every time he's not destructive. Of course having toys might extend the time it takes him to go to sleep, but it might keep his attention better. I can't imagine not having toys in the kids' room, but that's because if they're not there, they seem to take over the entire house. I hope this is only a short lived stage, Erin. Were your girls like this at three? Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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HI - The behavior issue I can't speak to. It sounds as though something else is going on that you need to ferret out. But not napping or taking a long time to go to sleep ... when my 2nd son was three we had to eliminate naptime. If I needed quiet he got to watch TV for an hour (which was sufficient rest for him actually. AN there ar great kid shows on in the mid-afternoon.) Life improved immediately on the elimination of the nap. Just my experience, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. |
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eliminate nap time for him give him a rest time for 1 hour during the day.
works wonders if he is not tired don't insist on nap time cause they will just fight you on it. My son stopped taking naps at 2 1/2 but went to bed early at 7 30 slept til 7 next morning now he puts himself to bed at 8 pm and wakes up at 6 he is 10 i have been trying to keep him up but he refuses.. weird child i call him ( he laughs at me for saying it to him).. Best of luck anyhow!! wendy mom of 4 now!! "Kender" wrote in message news:wFGVa.15870$YN5.13898@sccrnsc01... HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. In regards to the window: He has completely ripped his roller shades to bits. I think there's more duct tape on them then there is plastic left. He has ripped out the screen on one. (The screens are on the inside, old house!) He has broken his curtain rod several times. He has drawn on the molding around the windows by scratching with the metal prongs from the plug of his fan. Bookcase: He has pulled it over (small bookcase only 3 feet high). Don't worry it's now screwed to the wall. He has ripped ALL the pages out of 2 board books. One was a library book, sigh. He rips all books somewhat therefore no more books, just empty shelves screwed to the wall. Bed: He has round knobs on the 4 corners of his bed firmly glued in place, yet he has removed three of said knobs. He drew on the footboard of his bed with the above mentioned plug prongs. Dresser: For some reason the only problems we've had is him changing his clothes during nap. No real problem there. Fans: He keeps unplugging them and turning them off. They are plugged into an extension cord because the outlet is far away from the window (window fan). We had wrapped electrical tape around the plugs to keep them in the extension cord but as you can see from the drawings mentioned above he just unwrapped it. Remarkably there is a closet filled with stuff including my clothes and storage that he hasn't been in (to the best of my knowledge). I guess I should lock it as he's running out of damage to do. Also he keeps coming out of his room, at least 20 or more times every nap and bedtime. Tonight I finally put a lock on the outside of his door, but it made me feel really crappy. I don't like locking him in especially since he's so destructive. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. I am running out of ideas since it's not working. Any suggestions welcome for either the destructive behavior or how to get him to stay in his room. I am considering putting toys in his room so he will have something else to focus on at quiet/nap time, but I am afraid of the damage he will be able to cause to/with them. I also feel this is a privilege he needs to earn. We have told him when he stops wrecking his room he can have toys up there but maybe it's too much to ask. Maybe the toys will keep him from wrecking things? He does actually take naps about three days a week and goes to bed after about an hour but it's definitely getting longer. Last night it was three hours before he fell asleep. Tonight we're at 1.5 hours. Thanks. -- Erin Morgan and Megan 2/15/97 Evan 5/14/00 |
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"David&Wendy" wrote: eliminate nap time for him give him a rest time for 1 hour during the day. works wonders if he is not tired don't insist on nap time cause they will just fight you on it. My son stopped taking naps at 2 1/2 but went to bed early at 7 30 slept til 7 next morning now he puts himself to bed at 8 pm and wakes up at 6 he is 10 i have been trying to keep him up but he refuses.. weird child i call him ( he laughs at me for saying it to him).. Best of luck anyhow!! wendy mom of 4 now!! Enjoy it. My 17 yo son is STILL an early riser. He may stay up late sometimes, but he's usually the first one up in the morning. The only problem is that his twin sister is a night owl -- though they are now old enough so *I* don't have to be up with them, during the summer when they set their own schedules completely I still feel like I'm back in their infancy in some ways, with his sister up until 3 or 4 in the morning, and him up by 7! meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Thanks so much for all your ideas and support.
I've decided to give Evan back his books but no library books. I put some toys in there last night. Thanks Dorothy. Of course he doesn't need to earn them. I just got in a power struggle and didn't realize it. I put the girls dollhouse and accessories (he loves it, they are bored with it) and a fire truck and some puzzles. I need to work out a new situation for the fan. I'm not sure how. It was 100 degrees yesterday and his room has no good positioning for fans. Maybe we can build a shelf. I wish I could move his bed away from the windows but his room is really small, about 7 feet by 20 feet! It used to be an old sleeping porch back in 1913. The garbage bags may be needed on his windows but Evan's on the second floor! Bed knobs are staying off. I think I'll pass on the bullet or brandy suggestion. This all started when he was moved out of his crib in February. He has just gotten braver and more daring each day. It really got bad in May when he was potty trained and allowed to leave his room to use the bathroom. My girls were never like this! Maybe a ripped book or two but that was the extent of it. We had a doorknob cover on the inside of their room room but Evan figured out how to take his off right away, hence the lock on the outside. I think I will use this from time to time but I will try to not make it a habit. It's reassuring that some of you contain your kids too, just in different ways. Evan would definitely figure out a superyard. He's a climber. When he does fall asleep I can get two hours out of him. He already goes to bed at 7:30 so I can't imagine moving up his bedtime. Anyway, thanks for all the suggestions. Keep them coming if you have any more and I will update you on how the toys go. Too bad Janet is in France. Her kids always seem to be into the same things as mine. I guess you're there too Ellen! -- Erin Morgan and Megan 2/15/97 Evan 5/14/00 "Kender" wrote in message news:wFGVa.15870$YN5.13898@sccrnsc01... HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. In regards to the window: He has completely ripped his roller shades to bits. I think there's more duct tape on them then there is plastic left. He has ripped out the screen on one. (The screens are on the inside, old house!) He has broken his curtain rod several times. He has drawn on the molding around the windows by scratching with the metal prongs from the plug of his fan. Bookcase: He has pulled it over (small bookcase only 3 feet high). Don't worry it's now screwed to the wall. He has ripped ALL the pages out of 2 board books. One was a library book, sigh. He rips all books somewhat therefore no more books, just empty shelves screwed to the wall. Bed: He has round knobs on the 4 corners of his bed firmly glued in place, yet he has removed three of said knobs. He drew on the footboard of his bed with the above mentioned plug prongs. Dresser: For some reason the only problems we've had is him changing his clothes during nap. No real problem there. Fans: He keeps unplugging them and turning them off. They are plugged into an extension cord because the outlet is far away from the window (window fan). We had wrapped electrical tape around the plugs to keep them in the extension cord but as you can see from the drawings mentioned above he just unwrapped it. Remarkably there is a closet filled with stuff including my clothes and storage that he hasn't been in (to the best of my knowledge). I guess I should lock it as he's running out of damage to do. Also he keeps coming out of his room, at least 20 or more times every nap and bedtime. Tonight I finally put a lock on the outside of his door, but it made me feel really crappy. I don't like locking him in especially since he's so destructive. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. I am running out of ideas since it's not working. Any suggestions welcome for either the destructive behavior or how to get him to stay in his room. I am considering putting toys in his room so he will have something else to focus on at quiet/nap time, but I am afraid of the damage he will be able to cause to/with them. I also feel this is a privilege he needs to earn. We have told him when he stops wrecking his room he can have toys up there but maybe it's too much to ask. Maybe the toys will keep him from wrecking things? He does actually take naps about three days a week and goes to bed after about an hour but it's definitely getting longer. Last night it was three hours before he fell asleep. Tonight we're at 1.5 hours. Thanks. -- Erin Morgan and Megan 2/15/97 Evan 5/14/00 |
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Kender wrote:
HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. I'd try eliminating nap time and see if he'd lay on the couch and watch cartoons or a movie instead. Then the bedtime could be moved up a tad to allow him more sleep. If my youngest gets too tired at night he becomes Mr. Destructo. If you eliminate nap and move bed time up you might catch him before he hits the bouncing off the walls stage. I'd remove things like books and put toys in his room that are soft. Stuffed animals, cool blankets - maybe a tent, cars made out of material, sponge balls. I think he is to young to understand the earning toys for his room thing. He might understand removing them if he treats them poorly but I'm not sure he'd get good behavior = getting toys. Add interesting things to the ceiling that he can look at. Glow in the dark stars, airplanes perhaps. Things to make it a nice place but that he can't get at. You could actually make a toy that has various buckles, plugs, mazes, etc. and put it on plywood and bolt it to the floor/wall so he couldn't throw it around. You can remove all the window coverings and put a wallpaper boarder or paint around the window so it doesn't look so bare. People will be able to see in but what the heck ;-) I suppose you could cover the outside of the glass with some kind of tint. I'd lock the closet now, Lol. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. Hunter would not have made the connection with those at three. I think some immediate action would be better. I lay with mine until they fall asleep. That works great by the way but be prepared to do it for the long haul since most kids really like that and loath to give it up. If not that I would just take him back to bed every time he got up and do some serious burning off of energy during the day for the next couple of weeks hoping he is so tired at night he starts a new routine of just falling over in bed from exhaustion. It sounds like he has energy to spare. Going swimming, to the park, being outside all day, running in the sprinkler, going to the zoo, building things, playing ball, pounding and painting outside, etc. are all things we do to help ours fall asleep quickly and easily. The downside to that is that the hours between supper and bed need to be really super kid focused or there are meltdowns. They fall asleep fast though so it might be worth a try for a couple weeks just to break the cycle of destruction. Good luck -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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100 degrees, that's enough to make anyone nuts. Is an air-conditioner out of
the question? "Kender" wrote in message news:6VRVa.19701$Ho3.3797@sccrnsc03... Thanks so much for all your ideas and support. I've decided to give Evan back his books but no library books. I put some toys in there last night. Thanks Dorothy. Of course he doesn't need to earn them. I just got in a power struggle and didn't realize it. I put the girls dollhouse and accessories (he loves it, they are bored with it) and a fire truck and some puzzles. I need to work out a new situation for the fan. I'm not sure how. It was 100 degrees yesterday and his room has no good positioning for fans. Maybe we can build a shelf. I wish I could move his bed away from the windows but his room is really small, about 7 feet by 20 feet! It used to be an old sleeping porch back in 1913. The garbage bags may be needed on his windows but Evan's on the second floor! Bed knobs are staying off. I think I'll pass on the bullet or brandy suggestion. This all started when he was moved out of his crib in February. He has just gotten braver and more daring each day. It really got bad in May when he was potty trained and allowed to leave his room to use the bathroom. My girls were never like this! Maybe a ripped book or two but that was the extent of it. We had a doorknob cover on the inside of their room room but Evan figured out how to take his off right away, hence the lock on the outside. I think I will use this from time to time but I will try to not make it a habit. It's reassuring that some of you contain your kids too, just in different ways. Evan would definitely figure out a superyard. He's a climber. When he does fall asleep I can get two hours out of him. He already goes to bed at 7:30 so I can't imagine moving up his bedtime. Anyway, thanks for all the suggestions. Keep them coming if you have any more and I will update you on how the toys go. Too bad Janet is in France. Her kids always seem to be into the same things as mine. I guess you're there too Ellen! -- Erin Morgan and Megan 2/15/97 Evan 5/14/00 "Kender" wrote in message news:wFGVa.15870$YN5.13898@sccrnsc01... HELP! My three year old is a terror at nap and bedtime. He used to be such a sweet child and now, holy cow. He's destroying his room. The only thing he has in there are windows, a bed, a bookcase, a dresser and two fans, as it is very hot here in the Pacific NW. In regards to the window: He has completely ripped his roller shades to bits. I think there's more duct tape on them then there is plastic left. He has ripped out the screen on one. (The screens are on the inside, old house!) He has broken his curtain rod several times. He has drawn on the molding around the windows by scratching with the metal prongs from the plug of his fan. Bookcase: He has pulled it over (small bookcase only 3 feet high). Don't worry it's now screwed to the wall. He has ripped ALL the pages out of 2 board books. One was a library book, sigh. He rips all books somewhat therefore no more books, just empty shelves screwed to the wall. Bed: He has round knobs on the 4 corners of his bed firmly glued in place, yet he has removed three of said knobs. He drew on the footboard of his bed with the above mentioned plug prongs. Dresser: For some reason the only problems we've had is him changing his clothes during nap. No real problem there. Fans: He keeps unplugging them and turning them off. They are plugged into an extension cord because the outlet is far away from the window (window fan). We had wrapped electrical tape around the plugs to keep them in the extension cord but as you can see from the drawings mentioned above he just unwrapped it. Remarkably there is a closet filled with stuff including my clothes and storage that he hasn't been in (to the best of my knowledge). I guess I should lock it as he's running out of damage to do. Also he keeps coming out of his room, at least 20 or more times every nap and bedtime. Tonight I finally put a lock on the outside of his door, but it made me feel really crappy. I don't like locking him in especially since he's so destructive. I take away privileges when he does something destructive to his room. I take away dessert after dinner, storytime before bed, or his fireman sheets that he likes come off the bed. I am running out of ideas since it's not working. Any suggestions welcome for either the destructive behavior or how to get him to stay in his room. I am considering putting toys in his room so he will have something else to focus on at quiet/nap time, but I am afraid of the damage he will be able to cause to/with them. I also feel this is a privilege he needs to earn. We have told him when he stops wrecking his room he can have toys up there but maybe it's too much to ask. Maybe the toys will keep him from wrecking things? He does actually take naps about three days a week and goes to bed after about an hour but it's definitely getting longer. Last night it was three hours before he fell asleep. Tonight we're at 1.5 hours. Thanks. -- Erin Morgan and Megan 2/15/97 Evan 5/14/00 |
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