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In the best interest of the children
I married my first love. She seemed to be a wonderful person but I found out that she would tell you whatever she wanted you to believe, and the truth didn't matter to her. She was the only girl I had been with sexually until after she divorced me. After we were married about a year, I was sent out of town for training and she committed adultery. After I found out, she claimed to be sorry and wanted to be forgiven. I was reluctant to trust her because she's lied before, I think she was sorry that she got caught. I was told that God's will was for me to forgive her. After this I was tempted to "get even" a few times but I didn't do it, my dad was an adulterer and it really hurt mom and us kids, I hated adultery. We seemed to have a pretty happy marriage and had children. After the 2nd child, she started sliding back to her old ways. I found out that she had been telling people that she cheated on me because I cheated on her. I didn't but in hindsight I wish I did, I wouldn't deny it if I did. After she moved out, but before the divorce, she was pregnant with the 3rd child. She claimed she wanted to divorce me because we fought too much and it was "for the best interest of the children". What we fought about was her wanting a divorce. Anyway, she divorced me, I noticed in the whole divorce / child support process it seems assumed that the man is automatically guilty even if proven innocent. I was paying child support on the 3 girls and the ex decides she's to sick and can't handle the kids so they lived with me for a while. The department of public aid got on me because I wasn't paying my child support. I told them that the kids were living with me and I didn't think I needed to send child support. She was living on public aid for her and the kids and going out with her boyfriend and partying like she had no responsibilities. So I paid child support for the time the kids lived with me, and public aid never held her accountable for what she had done. Also, I think it's highly likely that the 3rd daughter isn't mine, but I love her for who she is, not for who her dad is. She later married this boyfriend that she left me for (after cheating on him multiple times). She left and divorced him after he raped one of our daughters. Remember, all this is in the best interest of the kids, good ole mom. In the mean time I got a better paying job and the CS she got more than tripled from what it was originally, which is when she bought herself a sport car but the kids had to work to buy their own car and auto insurance. I ended up with a much better wife and have been married over 10 years now and have a good stable home life. My ex lives with a guy her 2nd husband worked with, and she sluts around with others when they aren't getting along. One of the girls is 18 and just finished HS this year, another will be 18 in October. They are figuring out that their mom is spending their CS money on herself. The kids will be leaving the nest and the old hen will only have whatever whoremonger(s) she can find. Unfortunately the daughters are starting to live their life the way they been raised. It's hard to remember that it's all in the best interest of the children. I just wanted to tell a bit of my story because I'm an exception in many of the instances that are brought up. If I'm paying CS for a daughter that isn't mine, it's because she slept around, not me. I guess getting raped, seeing mom shack with one man after another, seeing mom spend your CS on herself, and having to work till midnight and go to school the next day is all in the best interest of the child! RogerN |
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In the best interest of the children
"RogerN" wrote in message m... I married my first love. She seemed to be a wonderful person but I found out that she would tell you whatever she wanted you to believe, and the truth didn't matter to her. She was the only girl I had been with sexually until after she divorced me. After we were married about a year, I was sent out of town for training and she committed adultery. After I found out, she claimed to be sorry and wanted to be forgiven. I was reluctant to trust her because she's lied before, I think she was sorry that she got caught. I was told that God's will was for me to forgive her. After this I was tempted to "get even" a few times but I didn't do it, my dad was an adulterer and it really hurt mom and us kids, I hated adultery. We seemed to have a pretty happy marriage and had children. After the 2nd child, she started sliding back to her old ways. I found out that she had been telling people that she cheated on me because I cheated on her. I didn't but in hindsight I wish I did, I wouldn't deny it if I did. After she moved out, but before the divorce, she was pregnant with the 3rd child. She claimed she wanted to divorce me because we fought too much and it was "for the best interest of the children". What we fought about was her wanting a divorce. Anyway, she divorced me, I noticed in the whole divorce / child support process it seems assumed that the man is automatically guilty even if proven innocent. I was paying child support on the 3 girls and the ex decides she's to sick and can't handle the kids so they lived with me for a while. The department of public aid got on me because I wasn't paying my child support. I told them that the kids were living with me and I didn't think I needed to send child support. She was living on public aid for her and the kids and going out with her boyfriend and partying like she had no responsibilities. So I paid child support for the time the kids lived with me, and public aid never held her accountable for what she had done. Also, I think it's highly likely that the 3rd daughter isn't mine, but I love her for who she is, not for who her dad is. She later married this boyfriend that she left me for (after cheating on him multiple times). She left and divorced him after he raped one of our daughters. Remember, all this is in the best interest of the kids, good ole mom. In the mean time I got a better paying job and the CS she got more than tripled from what it was originally, which is when she bought herself a sport car but the kids had to work to buy their own car and auto insurance. I ended up with a much better wife and have been married over 10 years now and have a good stable home life. My ex lives with a guy her 2nd husband worked with, and she sluts around with others when they aren't getting along. One of the girls is 18 and just finished HS this year, another will be 18 in October. They are figuring out that their mom is spending their CS money on herself. The kids will be leaving the nest and the old hen will only have whatever whoremonger(s) she can find. Unfortunately the daughters are starting to live their life the way they been raised. It's hard to remember that it's all in the best interest of the children. I just wanted to tell a bit of my story because I'm an exception in many of the instances that are brought up. If I'm paying CS for a daughter that isn't mine, it's because she slept around, not me. I guess getting raped, seeing mom shack with one man after another, seeing mom spend your CS on herself, and having to work till midnight and go to school the next day is all in the best interest of the child! RogerN And it wouldn't be at all surprising to find that you are biologically unrelated to the children. In fact, I think it would be common. Phil #3 |
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In the best interest of the children
On 2008-06-01 09:48:02 -0500, "RogerN" said:
I married my first love. She seemed to be a wonderful person but I found out that she would tell you whatever she wanted you to believe, and the truth didn't matter to her. She was the only girl I had been with sexually until after she divorced me. After we were married about a year, I was sent out of town for training and she committed adultery. After I found out, she claimed to be sorry and wanted to be forgiven. I was reluctant to trust her because she's lied before, I think she was sorry that she got caught. I was told that God's will was for me to forgive her. After this I was tempted to "get even" a few times but I didn't do it, my dad was an adulterer and it really hurt mom and us kids, I hated adultery. We seemed to have a pretty happy marriage and had children. After the 2nd child, she started sliding back to her old ways. I found out that she had been telling people that she cheated on me because I cheated on her. I didn't but in hindsight I wish I did, I wouldn't deny it if I did. After she moved out, but before the divorce, she was pregnant with the 3rd child. She claimed she wanted to divorce me because we fought too much and it was "for the best interest of the children". What we fought about was her wanting a divorce. Anyway, she divorced me, I noticed in the whole divorce / child support process it seems assumed that the man is automatically guilty even if proven innocent. I was paying child support on the 3 girls and the ex decides she's to sick and can't handle the kids so they lived with me for a while. The department of public aid got on me because I wasn't paying my child support. I told them that the kids were living with me and I didn't think I needed to send child support. She was living on public aid for her and the kids and going out with her boyfriend and partying like she had no responsibilities. So I paid child support for the time the kids lived with me, and public aid never held her accountable for what she had done. Also, I think it's highly likely that the 3rd daughter isn't mine, but I love her for who she is, not for who her dad is. She later married this boyfriend that she left me for (after cheating on him multiple times). She left and divorced him after he raped one of our daughters. Remember, all this is in the best interest of the kids, good ole mom. In the mean time I got a better paying job and the CS she got more than tripled from what it was originally, which is when she bought herself a sport car but the kids had to work to buy their own car and auto insurance. I ended up with a much better wife and have been married over 10 years now and have a good stable home life. My ex lives with a guy her 2nd husband worked with, and she sluts around with others when they aren't getting along. One of the girls is 18 and just finished HS this year, another will be 18 in October. They are figuring out that their mom is spending their CS money on herself. The kids will be leaving the nest and the old hen will only have whatever whoremonger(s) she can find. Unfortunately the daughters are starting to live their life the way they been raised. It's hard to remember that it's all in the best interest of the children. I just wanted to tell a bit of my story because I'm an exception in many of the instances that are brought up. If I'm paying CS for a daughter that isn't mine, it's because she slept around, not me. I guess getting raped, seeing mom shack with one man after another, seeing mom spend your CS on herself, and having to work till midnight and go to school the next day is all in the best interest of the child! RogerN Those guys - they used to read this copy. They would stick their nose in it. Be careful what you write about - someone who uses teenage prostitutes might use your story as a cover for their own criminal lifestyle. |
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It is the duty of both the parents to pay the insurance for the child, and it is a mutual understanding, you should take a responsibility and took a step further to contact your wife. |
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