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teaching good sleep habits (xpost)
PEOPLE, she is a new Mom to TWINS!! Give her a break. She is simply asking
for any tips it teaching good sleeping habits from the beginning. It is so nice to hear that so many of you had all the answers from the beginning!!! Maybe you have forgotten that when the babies are small and they are both wanting to be rocked and there was only one of you there at the time. I think that in posts like this rather than being judgmental of the post and condemning her for "considering" Ferber or what ever else you want to call it, you should sympathize with her and give her some tips that may have worked for you. She didn't ask to be judged she asked for advice. Now she probably feels guilty for considering a perfectly understandable thing for twins A SCHEDULE!!!! Read her post again!!! She said that she KNOWS they are too young for Ferber she asking for tips in getting them on a schedule other than FERBER. Here are the questions she asked. When/how can I start teaching them to relax themselves to sleep on their own? When/how do I start trying to introduce a "scheduled" nap-time into their lives? Try answering the post instead of being judgmental of a new Mom to and being appalled that she would want advice on getting them to sleep a little quicker. ~Kimberly Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02 come see us... http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/ |
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Sorry Kim, but I am appalled. I too was a new mom, and never had kids until
42, didn't have any siblings so I had no clue, but I'd never let a baby cry. We all told her that and to lighten up and just go with the flow and forget "getting them to sleep in their beds." We went after parents here that let their kids cry and they were 6 months or more...sorry for being so hard BUT, of course she is the mom of twins, so are most of us and more. I remember sitting on the floor crying because the babies wouldn't go to sleep but I would not have thought to let them "cry it out." They just got here, how could I. Judgmental, yes, but there was also a attitude about starting out right as opposed to "help" I'm in need of your suggestions, she wanted to know how to get them to sleep in their beds - NOW! And we all gave her our suggestions - it doesn't happen in the beginning - it happens later. We are supportive but we are also on the side of the babies too. Shirley "KimandJuan" wrote in message ... PEOPLE, she is a new Mom to TWINS!! Give her a break. She is simply asking for any tips it teaching good sleeping habits from the beginning. It is so nice to hear that so many of you had all the answers from the beginning!!! Maybe you have forgotten that when the babies are small and they are both wanting to be rocked and there was only one of you there at the time. I think that in posts like this rather than being judgmental of the post and condemning her for "considering" Ferber or what ever else you want to call it, you should sympathize with her and give her some tips that may have worked for you. She didn't ask to be judged she asked for advice. Now she probably feels guilty for considering a perfectly understandable thing for twins A SCHEDULE!!!! Read her post again!!! She said that she KNOWS they are too young for Ferber she asking for tips in getting them on a schedule other than FERBER. Here are the questions she asked. When/how can I start teaching them to relax themselves to sleep on their own? When/how do I start trying to introduce a "scheduled" nap-time into their lives? Try answering the post instead of being judgmental of a new Mom to and being appalled that she would want advice on getting them to sleep a little quicker. ~Kimberly Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02 come see us... http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/ |
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I don't necessarily think they were being hard on Marie (ok, they weren't
answering her questions) , just attacking Marty. Honestly, I haven't had my triplets yet, and so I haven't formed any opinions upon how to get children to sleep. I just remember my mother who did not run over and pick us up every time we cried. There were times at night she would let us just cry ourselves to sleep. I know that my mother is not the only one. It was the train of thought back in the late 60's early 70's that this was ok. I don't have problems with ABANDONMENT or SEPARATION. So I honestly don't think that letting the babies cry leaves an emotionally damaged child. I have friends who were raised the same way, and THEY are not emotionally damaged either. I agree that 1 hour of crying seems a bit excessive to me, but if it is working for her than more power to her. I have learned as a teacher that each child is different and react differently to the same events. I'm sure she would change her method if it wasn't working. Gayle "KimandJuan" wrote in message ... PEOPLE, she is a new Mom to TWINS!! Give her a break. She is simply asking for any tips it teaching good sleeping habits from the beginning. It is so nice to hear that so many of you had all the answers from the beginning!!! Maybe you have forgotten that when the babies are small and they are both wanting to be rocked and there was only one of you there at the time. I think that in posts like this rather than being judgmental of the post and condemning her for "considering" Ferber or what ever else you want to call it, you should sympathize with her and give her some tips that may have worked for you. She didn't ask to be judged she asked for advice. Now she probably feels guilty for considering a perfectly understandable thing for twins A SCHEDULE!!!! Read her post again!!! She said that she KNOWS they are too young for Ferber she asking for tips in getting them on a schedule other than FERBER. Here are the questions she asked. When/how can I start teaching them to relax themselves to sleep on their own? When/how do I start trying to introduce a "scheduled" nap-time into their lives? Try answering the post instead of being judgmental of a new Mom to and being appalled that she would want advice on getting them to sleep a little quicker. ~Kimberly Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02 come see us... http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/ |
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Kim
Very well put...thanks! Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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Shirley M...have a goodaa \;-) wrote:
Sorry Kim, but I am appalled. I too was a new mom, and never had kids until 42, didn't have any siblings so I had no clue, but I'd never let a baby cry. We all told her that and to lighten up and just go with the flow and forget "getting them to sleep in their beds." We went after parents here that let their kids cry and they were 6 months or more...sorry for being so hard BUT, of course she is the mom of twins, so are most of us and more. I remember sitting on the floor crying because the babies wouldn't go to sleep but I would not have thought to let them "cry it out." They just got here, how could I. Judgmental, yes, but there was also a attitude about starting out right as opposed to "help" I'm in need of your suggestions, she wanted to know how to get them to sleep in their beds - NOW! And we all gave her our suggestions - it doesn't happen in the beginning - it happens later. We are supportive but we are also on the side of the babies too. I have to agree with you, Shirley. In fact, I was up until 2 am last night with Katerina. Did I let her CIO? No. It's my JOB as a parent to comfort my child. It's definitely not easy but who said parenting is supposed to be. Am I tired today? You bet! But so what. It comes with the territory. To the OP, try reading, "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. I refer to it every few months. Wonderful book. WRT schedules, we started a very loose, extremely adaptable one around 4 months. It was more of watching their natural patterns and adapting a schedule to fit those patterns. You might want to establish a bedtime routine. That way they have an idea of what's coming next. Ultimately, they will figure out how to sleep on their own. But if you don't want to force them it might take awhile. I still comfort my children when I put them to bed but the type of comfort and the length of time it takes has changed many times. As to "teaching" them "how" to fall asleep, I don't think you really need to worry about that. It will come in time. I also strongly suggest getting a couple of Maya wraps so you can wear them. They'll save your arms and your back. -- Brigitte aa #2145 edd #3 February 15, 2004 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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