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Child Custody Change
Hey all, maybe you've heard of me before. Please keep it under your hat.
I have joint physical custody of my 5-year-old son, and am supposed to have him in my care 50% of the time. This has been the case until a little over a month ago. His mother lives alone with 2 cats and a dog. Her chronic severe depression mean that she doesn't keep the cleanest of houses in the best of times, but around the beginning of October her place began to smell so bad that I would gag when she opened the door. I would frequently have to change my son's clothes immediately on getting home because they smelled of permeated animal waste from his mother's house. At first I gave her a couple of days to clean up the place, but I almost vomited one morning when I dropped my son off (I saw flies in the apartment too), and that was the final straw. I spoke with her and luckily she agreed that her place was not fit for a small child to sleep in. She said she knew the problem was one of her cats that keeps peeing on everything, and that she didn't want to clean the carpet until she got rid of the cat at a "no-kill shelter" she'd heard of. I offered to take our son every night until she got rid of the cat and cleaned the carpet, and she agreed. That was over a month ago. Initially she said she would get rid of the cat and take care of the carpet within a week, then two weeks. Then she took our son on a vacation with her family for a week (her family live almost out of state and never see her place -- no one ever does). On her return, the cat and carpet were unchanged. The smell was not quite so bad, but none of what she had promised had been done. She dropped him off to me without complaint. I continue to pay child support as I am ordered to do. I drop my son off to his mother every morning where he stays for four hours before school and half an hour after school, then pick him up after work every day. Nothing seems to be changing, and I am at a point where I have to make a decision. Either I continue to say nothing and let her weave enough rope to hang herself with (the plan here would be to go to court in a year or so and demand full custody), or I start stepping on her heels to get rid of the cat, wash the carpet, and shoulder some responsibility in raising our child. I know the answer is "see a lawyer", and I intend to. I was just looking for some feedback from this group on what might likely happen if I keep on the path I'm on. If I give it a year, transfer our son to the school system in my town, and then file for custody, what's my likely chances? Thanks, Secret Asian Man! |
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"Secret Asian Man" wrote in I know the answer is "see a lawyer", and I intend to. I was just looking for some feedback from this group on what might likely happen if Wake up man, can you not see that your child is clearly in danger of getting infected with some form of illness? Call Child welfare and they will immediately remove the child from that home and award you full custody. No more child support, no lawyers to pay, and you are acting in the best interest of your child! What are you waiting for? |
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Nothing seems to be changing, and I am at a point where I have to make a decision. Either I continue to say nothing and let her weave enough rope to hang herself with (the plan here would be to go to court in a year or so and demand full custody), or I start stepping on her heels to get rid of the cat, wash the carpet, and shoulder some responsibility in raising our child. Why on earth would you think you have the right to get rid of her cat, or make changes in her home? Would you allow her to get rid of YOUR pet, and make changes in YOUR home? I know the answer is "see a lawyer", and I intend to. I was just looking for some feedback from this group on what might likely happen if I keep on the path I'm on. If I give it a year, transfer our son to the school system in my town, and then file for custody, what's my likely chances? Why not simply keep him with you, as you've been doing, and file for physical placement? Request mediation (which I believe is generally ordered when a change in primary placement is requested) and take it from there? Thanks, Secret Asian Man! |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in Why not simply keep him with you, as you've been doing, and file for physical placement? He doesn't have to file for anything, all he needs to do is lift the phone and have child services take a look at the putrid conditions the child has to live in. Would you allow your child to live in such terrible conditions? |
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On Wed, 23 Nov 2005 03:28:25 GMT, "DB"
wrote: "Secret Asian Man" wrote in I know the answer is "see a lawyer", and I intend to. I was just looking for some feedback from this group on what might likely happen if Wake up man, can you not see that your child is clearly in danger of getting infected with some form of illness? Call Child welfare and they will immediately remove the child from that home and award you full custody. No more child support, no lawyers to pay, and you are acting in the best interest of your child! What are you waiting for? 1. Child is not currently living in that home 2. Father wouldn't get the child either, if removed, because he uses the cesspool like daycare, dropping the child off before school and picking child up after school. He will be found just as guilty as mother by child protection. 3. If child is taken by child protection, he will probably pay more in child support. 4. The law seems to frown upon using child protection as a means to secure custody. Seeking the advice of a lawyer before doing anything rash would be the smartest course of action. |
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If the situation is as bad as he describes, why is he still dropping
the kid off to her? Why hasn't he contacted his lawyer, her family, or the authorities? Obviously, he's blowing things out of proportion. Ex-spouses often call child services with unfounded and exaggerated claims of horrid living conditions. He probably doesn't like her cat since he seems to focus on it. DB wrote: "Moon Shyne" wrote in Why not simply keep him with you, as you've been doing, and file for physical placement? He doesn't have to file for anything, all he needs to do is lift the phone and have child services take a look at the putrid conditions the child has to live in. Would you allow your child to live in such terrible conditions? |
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"DB" wrote in message . com... "Moon Shyne" wrote in Why not simply keep him with you, as you've been doing, and file for physical placement? He doesn't have to file for anything, all he needs to do is lift the phone and have child services take a look at the putrid conditions the child has to live in. Would you allow your child to live in such terrible conditions? Of course not - though I recognize that all anyone has is whatever he's chosen to post to an internet newsgroup, which may or may not have any basis in reality. I wonder, though, about ANY person who thinks they have the right to get rid of some else's pet, or make changes in someone else's home. Don't you? |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... Nothing seems to be changing, and I am at a point where I have to make a decision. Either I continue to say nothing and let her weave enough rope to hang herself with (the plan here would be to go to court in a year or so and demand full custody), or I start stepping on her heels to get rid of the cat, wash the carpet, and shoulder some responsibility in raising our child. Why on earth would you think you have the right to get rid of her cat, or make changes in her home? Would you allow her to get rid of YOUR pet, and make changes in YOUR home? He never claimed such right. I know the answer is "see a lawyer", and I intend to. I was just looking for some feedback from this group on what might likely happen if I keep on the path I'm on. If I give it a year, transfer our son to the school system in my town, and then file for custody, what's my likely chances? Why not simply keep him with you, as you've been doing, and file for physical placement? What do you mean by "keep him with you"? Request mediation (which I believe is generally ordered when a change in primary placement is requested) and take it from there? Thanks, Secret Asian Man! |
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "DB" wrote in message . com... "Moon Shyne" wrote in Why not simply keep him with you, as you've been doing, and file for physical placement? He doesn't have to file for anything, all he needs to do is lift the phone and have child services take a look at the putrid conditions the child has to live in. Would you allow your child to live in such terrible conditions? Of course not - though I recognize that all anyone has is whatever he's chosen to post to an internet newsgroup, which may or may not have any basis in reality. I wonder, though, about ANY person who thinks they have the right to get rid of some else's pet, or make changes in someone else's home. Don't you? Nowhere did he ever state that he had the right to do ANYTHING in her home. |
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"DB" wrote in message om... "Secret Asian Man" wrote in I know the answer is "see a lawyer", and I intend to. I was just looking for some feedback from this group on what might likely happen if Wake up man, can you not see that your child is clearly in danger of getting infected with some form of illness? Call Child welfare and they will immediately remove the child from that home and award you full custody. Dream on. No more child support, no lawyers to pay, and you are acting in the best interest of your child! What are you waiting for? |
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