Now I feel guilty....

In the past pg I only had a midwife, but when I was m/c'ing I needed an

OB once it became a medical issue. So I found my current doc whom I
love. She's excellent, very open. At my appt post-m/c she told me that

as she was no longer doing deliveries anyway, she'd see me thru the
first trimester next time and if all was well, pass me along to my
midwife and go with the homebirth plan.

GREAT! Right?

When I went for my pap in August she said "Oh, great news!
I'm doing deliveries again but only a few per month so if you get pg
let me know ASAP so you can be on the schedule!" Ok.....maybe she
forgot but I didn't want to bring it up.

Today, my first prenatal appt at 6 wks she said "You're my first July
baby! I'm excited!" So now I feel bad that after I spend all this time
with her in the first trimester, I'm going to say "Ok, see ya! I don't
need you anymore!"

She does want to see me every 2 weeks for awhile to make sure things
are progressing appropriately. (I didn't start miscarrying til 6 wks
after the fetus stopped developing last time, posing an infection risk)
But other than that miscarriage, and technically advanced maternal age,
I have no risk factors at this time.

CJRA wrote:
In the past pg I only had a midwife, but when I was m/c'ing I needed an

OB once it became a medical issue. So I found my current doc whom I
love. She's excellent, very open. At my appt post-m/c she told me that

as she was no longer doing deliveries anyway, she'd see me thru the
first trimester next time and if all was well, pass me along to my
midwife and go with the homebirth plan.

GREAT! Right?

When I went for my pap in August she said "Oh, great news!
I'm doing deliveries again but only a few per month so if you get pg
let me know ASAP so you can be on the schedule!" Ok.....maybe she
forgot but I didn't want to bring it up.

Today, my first prenatal appt at 6 wks she said "You're my first July
baby! I'm excited!" So now I feel bad that after I spend all this time
with her in the first trimester, I'm going to say "Ok, see ya! I don't
need you anymore!"

She does want to see me every 2 weeks for awhile to make sure things
are progressing appropriately. (I didn't start miscarrying til 6 wks
after the fetus stopped developing last time, posing an infection risk)
But other than that miscarriage, and technically advanced maternal age,
I have no risk factors at this time.


"Oh gosh, that would have been great... only, because I thought you
weren't available, I've gone ahead and organised a midwife. I now have
my heart set on a home birth and really would love to see that through.
I do want to stick with you through the first trimester, though."

Jacqueline

"CJRA" wrote in message
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In the past pg I only had a midwife, but when I was m/c'ing I needed an

OB once it became a medical issue. So I found my current doc whom I
love. She's excellent, very open. At my appt post-m/c she told me that

as she was no longer doing deliveries anyway, she'd see me thru the
first trimester next time and if all was well, pass me along to my
midwife and go with the homebirth plan.

GREAT! Right?

When I went for my pap in August she said "Oh, great news!
I'm doing deliveries again but only a few per month so if you get pg
let me know ASAP so you can be on the schedule!" Ok.....maybe she
forgot but I didn't want to bring it up.

Today, my first prenatal appt at 6 wks she said "You're my first July
baby! I'm excited!" So now I feel bad that after I spend all this time
with her in the first trimester, I'm going to say "Ok, see ya! I don't
need you anymore!"

She does want to see me every 2 weeks for awhile to make sure things
are progressing appropriately. (I didn't start miscarrying til 6 wks
after the fetus stopped developing last time, posing an infection risk)
But other than that miscarriage, and technically advanced maternal age,
I have no risk factors at this time.

Oh, that sucks! It's so hard to find a doc that you really like. But
she'll understand anyways. You can just remind her of your conversation way
back when, and it's not like she'll be offended. She's a woman too, and can
certainly understand your feelings.

"Cuddlefish" wrote in message
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CJRA wrote:
In the past pg I only had a midwife, but when I was m/c'ing I needed an

OB once it became a medical issue. So I found my current doc whom I
love. She's excellent, very open. At my appt post-m/c she told me that

as she was no longer doing deliveries anyway, she'd see me thru the
first trimester next time and if all was well, pass me along to my
midwife and go with the homebirth plan.

GREAT! Right?

When I went for my pap in August she said "Oh, great news!
I'm doing deliveries again but only a few per month so if you get pg
let me know ASAP so you can be on the schedule!" Ok.....maybe she
forgot but I didn't want to bring it up.

Today, my first prenatal appt at 6 wks she said "You're my first July
baby! I'm excited!" So now I feel bad that after I spend all this time
with her in the first trimester, I'm going to say "Ok, see ya! I don't
need you anymore!"

She does want to see me every 2 weeks for awhile to make sure things
are progressing appropriately. (I didn't start miscarrying til 6 wks
after the fetus stopped developing last time, posing an infection risk)
But other than that miscarriage, and technically advanced maternal age,
I have no risk factors at this time.


"Oh gosh, that would have been great... only, because I thought you
weren't available, I've gone ahead and organised a midwife. I now have my
heart set on a home birth and really would love to see that through. I do
want to stick with you through the first trimester, though."

Jacqueline


Exactly, word for word (more or less), what she said.
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