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| And again he barks........ Kane barks ...... again! was Kids should work...
On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 18:32:46 -0800, Doan wrote:
I'm considering your [subject] field for my signature line. May I have reprint rights, and full citation? Thanks in advance. On 4 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 12:01:55 -0800, Doan wrote: On 4 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 10:38:43 -0800, Doan wrote: And others may disagree with you! ;-) But then what happens to that "standard" in "reasonable standard," eh? Reasonable doesn't mean no disagreement! Are you so stupid??? ;-) Thank you for the help with my growing stupidity. No thanks from me. Either you inherited from your parents or you managed to gain it all by yourself! ;-) Which is it? Eh? You squeeked? Reasonable means: 1. Capable of reasoning; rational: a reasonable person. Yes, that sounds correct, but I don't recall disagreeing one what reasonable is. Please point out my stupidity in doing so. Did it say anything about agreement? Gosh, it's so nice to be able to help out a genius. Are you just letting me win this one out of kindness? No, IT didn't say anything about agreement. I did. See your stupidity, now. :-) I guess if I am going to move the discussion forward I must use only your words? Gosh I must be stupid. 2. Governed by or being in accordance with reason or sound thinking: a reasonable solution to the problem. Same...... Stupid! Same. 3. Being within the bounds of common sense: arrive home at a reasonable hour. Same..... Stupid! Same. 4. Not excessive or extreme; fair: reasonable prices. Same...... Stupid! Same. Aaaaah....Does this mean then that the exact point on the spanking to abuse continuimn is very very broad, since all the "reasonable" folks on the planet would likely have a very broad range between the upper and lowermost? Yup! Gosh, that's going to play hell with years and years of posting by the apologists, now isn't it. They insist they can tell where that limit is and that they don't cross it, despite so much evidence to the contrary. It probably looks something like a bell curve distribution. Do you mean "they look"? We are talking about reasonable "people" not reasonable "things." The "reasonable" people are somewhere in the middle. "Somewhere?" I'm stuck again. I have never been able to positive about where "somewhere" is unless someone turns it into a "here." Can you do that for us...the poor spanking parents chomping at the bit to get back to their parental spanking duties and we logic impaired, and "Don't know spanking from beating" folks? The extremes on both sides are people like you and the religious nuts! ;-) They don't spank? Oh, wait I see. Well if I was a spanking parent, I'd have no trouble using your explanation to avoid being on the religious nut end of the spectrum. Trouble is to spank I have to start somewhere, and avoid going somewhere, to avoid injury to the child, and or having my ass slammed in jail and my kids lost. And oddly the spankers who have come roaring in here to tell us just where that line is seemed to, with a blustering "you just better look out fellah," tossed over their shoulders as the door hit them in the ass, not be around much these days. If so, could we establish, for the sake of the poor parents chaffing in anticipation for your answer, and mine of course, and for the sake of all those logic impaired ASZ's to finally get the skinny on this old quandry, what the bottom most point is on the broad boundry...so that NO one will inadvertently cross it and injure their child and wind up with allegations of abuse? Already explained above. See it now, stupid! :-) Yep. Stupid me. I just can't get from your explaination how I can, if I decide to join the ranks of spankers that you are just inches away from convincing me to join, where I should stop to avoid abuse. I may have dozens of kids to spank. I've got the problem with them each being different....some easy to make comply, and some very hard, and then there is this: some of the very hard to get to comply are fragile and delicate, while some of the very strong and hardy are the easiest to get to comply. How easy should I tap the hardy to "discipline them corporally" and how hard can I vigorously spank the highly recalcitrant, but extremely delicate ones? I'm afraid just defining what a reasonable person is didn't work. My apologies for sending you on a wild goose chase. It must have been my failure to define the elements of the question adequately. Nope! Just stupidity on your part. :-) If I we hadn't established, by your sincere efforts to help parentkind, I'd think you were just, like some posters, weaseling. I'm really serious here, Doan. Of all the people that have come her as spankers or apoligists, claiming, when asked, that they knew the answer, YOU are the only one left that is consistently here. Obviously you want to help spanking parents or you wouldn't be here. They, and I, and all the ASZs, want to know. Now is your big chance. Please don't blow it. We'll be so disappointed. But, I have to admit, being the stupid person that I am, I was unable to refine my question further. Do you mind continuing though I have failed? Sure. At least now, we all know that you are a stupid person. Well, if I was truly unable to refine the question so you understood that it was the question about limits, rather than broad, weasely "reasonable standards" then I am truly stupid. Since you can't blame it on spanking (you did claimed to be "never-spanked", right?), I must be stupid. I can't find that post. And illogical too. I might have said certain individuals never spanked me, but that's hardly proof I was never spanked or spanked. I think you are stretching waaaay beyond your capacity...though I can see you don't and never do understand that. It's what gets you were you are right now. it must be inherited then. ;-) One never knows does one. I might be stupid, and I might not be. You on the other hand are sure of your superiority, by the tenor of your posts. Thanks in advance. You're welcome. Don't mention it. Apparently you wish to refute yourself rather than refute me. Apparently, you're too stupid to understand. To understand what? The "reasonable person" standard! Yep. Yah got me again. I am too stupid to understand the "reasonable person" "standard!" At least as it applies to someone whackin' away on a kid when so many folks are NOT reasonable at all, and their standard tends to be more when the kid is in enough pain to comply, and damn the injuries, physical and psychological. If they have to be outside the zone of reasonable then we must know the where the zone begins on the no abuse side of spanking. Can you point out that starting point, for all children if you don't mind? Or the 90% that we can expect will be spanked by American parents. That even reasonable people can't agree on a sufficiently clear and definable boundary narrow enough for use out side your world of "science" {:-]} for the practical applications we have all sought in aps for so very many years? Yes, reasonable people can disagree. Haven't you got that yet? Oh yes, I understand that just fine. How does reasonable disagreement by reasonable people reasonably going to tell me where to stop, what the limit of force is that will injure, not huge injury...that's easy, but when the injury first starts. After all, like all the fine spanking parents that have come here, should I start, I TOO do not want to be accused of hurting my child, and in fact, being the loving parent I am, of course I DON'T want to hurt them in any way that might have effects beyond the moment. So, since you are the one that so frequently defends their right to decide I have to assume you know exactly what they are deciding on! And that would be including the limits of spanking before it can become abuse, would it not? I guess I'm rightly identified as stupid then. Smart folks like you are trying so hard to educate me. I am in no position to educate you. I know. But I thought you were trying to, and I'm cooperative if nothing else. Mind, you keep sending me to look for proof of YOUR claims...as my Sensei used to. So I extend the same respect to you as he. You claim things, wonderful things, like parents can spank without hitting, know the limits wherein the child will not be injured, and have such control over themselves they will not cross that line (the one I can't find). The only thing holding me back, Doan, and I just KNOW you can defeat them, is the ASZ's simplistic solution of not spanking at all and learning non punitive parenting methods. That takes time, it doesn't relieve my own frustrations, if I, the metaphorical "I" of course, were a pervert, it could not make me happy and jolly like spanking can for some folks, and I will, if I stay with them, and not go with you folks, never here those sweet and poignant words from my children: "Well, it never hurt me, yup, not a bibp,..blip...ah....what was the question again?" That is the job of your parents! They did a great job. Did they teach you that it is right to call other women "smelly-****"??? No! How could you ask such a thing? I am shocked and offended. I learned to do that by them being so honest and straightforward as to call and asshole and asshole, asshole and smelly **** sucker. Great models. This kind of name calling came long after their time. I don't live in their time. I am in YOUR time, sucker, and you are just going to have to learn to live with being exposed. From now on. I think the Plant is finally getting the idea I am not going away, and it's feeble attempts to cover up It's ugly hatred of children and families isn't going to be ignored. Others may give up on you, Dung, but not me. Would you mind working your way through all the explanations now and get to the practical applicable answer, the definative one, for our use? I don't mind at all. ;-) Ah. It's coming. I've waited sooooo long. Not patiently I'll admit, but tenaciously. Some kind of border where spankers, (remember we ASZs only have a logic problem, and a defining problem...we don't have the following problem) can be assured they will not cross over into abuse. Yup! Call the local DA office or CPS agency! Ever heard of the "community standard"? All the will tell me is very like what you tell me. They end up with an admonition on the order of, "leave no marks that last beyond x amount of time, and no internal injuries." I mean that's all so confusing to me, and I want to be a good spanker, honest. It's starting to look a little like I'm doomed to being an ASZ I guess, and never getting to spank kids, having to fall back on my non-punitive methods. I am going to miss the fun you folks have. If one is to have a "standard," one is stretching credulity just a tad to claim that "others" might not agree with it, don't you think? No! When one says standard I would hope they were referring to something that could be used for other than weasel debating. Something that can be applied with some hope that it will serve a purpose. Are we dealing with a reasonable person? ;-) I'm going to make a wild guess. I'm going to guess you are a reasonable person. Did I get it right? }:- I was hoping for a dozen or even five, but I guess you being so honest and all I have no one but you to ask: What is the lower limit of the broad "standard that is reasonable that a reasonable person would chose" I cannot cross lest I risk harm to my child by abuse and beating? I am relieved you are here to give me your reasonable answer, and I am shivering with excited anticipation as I await your answer. I think your definition leaves a lot to be desired, especially since all you did was cut and paste definitions of "reasonable" which I think, stupid me, isn't going to answer the original question. You KNOW what that is of course. I can lead you to the water, but I cannot make you drink! Excuse me, was that "I can lead you to the sewer, but I can't make you blink?" And your reply of "reasonable standards" by a "reasonable person" just doesn't cut it. It is to all the reasonable people I met. I know. I have the same problem. I guess you are just like all the others that have slunk away from this ng, but too stupid to leave. Why do you the police use the "reasonable force" standard. Gosh, that has to do with assault, doesn't it? I'm not asking for the standards for assault, only spanking. I mean I'm sure, though the spankings may be terrible ineffective, I can keep from assualting a child under current law. My problem isn't that of a legal limit. It's the injury and long term harm risk limit I'm concerned about. I thought I explained that, again and again and again...ad neauseum. It could mean knocking you to the ground to blowing your off with a gun. Ooooonmy, I'd never do that to a child, I just want to spank them within the safe limits you and the folks you support in making their own decision keep claiming they know. You do know, don't you? I mean precisely? Ask LaVonne to ask the night sergeant where the police draw the line, will you? :-) No, I'm really much more interested in my question, not the one you just thought up to send folks scurrying off from the issue here. I admit, and I think my fellow ASZs will have to agree, we are very very very stupid when it comes to figuring what is and isn't a spanking when it is NOT at the furtherist extreme of either end of the spectrum. True! But anti-spanking zealotS are not "reasonable" now, are they? ;-) Ohhhhhh...how can you say that? I mean their very reason for being Zealots is to be reasonable with children. Hey, I'll bet they can't find the line for that either. THAT'S why the cowards won't spank...dummies. They don't know the limits for spanking vs abuse, nor for reasonable and unreasonable with children, so they chicken out. Hahahah. We'll show'em, won't we Doan. We shall spank merrily away, knowing that whatever reasonable decision we make is the right one, until we have to defend it in court, and our children are injured for life, one way or the other. This is such a fun game you've introduced me to. I don't think I've ever had a chance to play before. Will you play with me some more, please? And I know, being the honest caring considerate soul you so often prove you are, that you don't want have any of us take up spanking wihtout the sage advice you offer, to spank only in a "reasonable" manner. I never want anyone to "take up spanking"! Oh, okay. I didn't mean it that way. Hey! Maybe I could do YOU a favor in exchange for the favor you are doing me. You teach me logic and reasonable spanking and I'll teach you English. I tell everyone to consider all the options and make up his/her own mind. I just think you are wonderful, my hero. "Everyone"! Doesn't that just take your breath away folks? Look he tells "everyone." Now that is a free country for you. And he's reasonably sure that if someone he says that to directly kills their child or causes grevous harm, no one can come back and charge him criminally or being civil suit...or if they can, he is so convinced of his morally and ethically superior position on this issue that he stands foursquare with the parents who spank, until the bitter end. Talk about BRAVE! You see, unlike you, I do believe that parents know what is best for their own kids. You are right. I actually do believe, isn't it silly, that SOME parents do not know what is best, though I'll admit the temptation to let Darwin and nature prevail is tempting. You are sure one up on me there, Doan. I notice that when CPS thinks the parents know best and kill the child later folks here tend to become a bit upset that CPS was so trusting. That doesn't seem to jibe with your wonderful family philosophy paradigm. I learned that from my own parents! :-) We know, }:-} I admit I would be totally at sea if I had a child over my lap and whatever instrument to strike her with if I had to use your "standard" to decide how hard, and when to stop. Then you shouldn't do it! You do have a brain, right? USE IT! ;-) No, no. that's not it. I want to join the ranks of the happy spankers. I want to, and you are frustrating me by making it so hard. If I have to hang out with the ASZ's much longer I just don't know what I'm going to do. By the way, how DO the other parents, the ones with a brain that you seem to think I lack, decide on what is the best instrument, how hard to hit, how long to hit, and what the indicators are that they are approaching the injury boundary and should stop? It's a real mystery to me, and I've admitted to my illogic, my stupidity, and my ignorance, Sensei, so that I could be completely open to your teachings, with out resistence in my heart, or laziness in my soul. Should I go sit in the icy fountain now and await the canning your monks will administer so that I might be enligtened to the truth of spanking? Is that how YOU know? By the spankings your parents gave to you? There teaching? How lucky you are. How unfortunate I. Now please lend us your wonderful scientific mind and help us out. Children's safety could depend on you. I would rather have the parents make up their own mind. How about you? ;-) I would if they'd just stop injuring and killing their children. Unlike you, I am not a brave warrior on the path of spanking righteousness, so coward that I am, I chose not to spank, and I, in my miserable quacking fear racked twitching slobbering whining..well, you get the idea.....beg others not to. I guess I just want others to join me in my misery. I do so admire your bravery on the part of parent and child. I mean, it immediately becomes NOT a standard because two or more folks that have a similar characteristic of "reasonable" "may disagree with you." Right? Nope! Well, okay if you say so. Would you mind then, since MY problem, my stupidity, remains. I cannot find in your answer a way for spankers to decide were to stop...I know THYE think they are being "reasonable" so often when they have flaid hide off their children and broken bones. Really? Do a jury of their peers also think it "reasonable"??? No, I don't think many get off, but there was that teen offspring kicker in Canada just recently. Ah, so, to further explore. Do I have to get a jury of peers to supervise any spanking I might chose to do on my child? Hey! You guys, you spankers that ran off, you never told me that. Cheaters. If you had me back when I asked YOU my problems would have been solved, my new Sensei would not be burdened with my stupidity and stubborness in not seeing, and I would have given up my feeble attempts to get more parents to chose not to spank, and I would be happy to today, happy I tell you. Dang you guys. Apparently, they too....though I'd hesitate to call them stupid or logic impaired as we ASZs seem to be.....lack the necessary standards of reasonableness you are holding out so tantilizingly to us. True! Gosh, this feels just like the first day in Algebra...I'm soooo confused. It will help if you stop frequenting those anti-spanking zealotS websites! ;-) Oh, I spend MUCH more time here at your feet, Master. Help us Doan. Help us. I'll try but I am just one person. I can't help you if you don't help yourself. ;-) I can see that. So you can expect a lot of me here, asking questions, learning, absorbing your courage and wisdom for a long time to come. I mean, after all, your answer could even resolve the age old question of what is and isn't pornography. They already have, stupid! Yes, Sensei, kneeling head bowed low almost to the floor It's called the "community standard". Oh please master, will you cane me again if I ask a stupid question? What is the "community standard?" Does it mean that I get to just Pat my child in Patagonia and Flail them in Flanders? I am soooo confused. I don't think I like "community standard" or even "reasonable standard." You see, when it all comes down to it I am a softy for my kids. I can't bear thinking I might actually hurt them deliberately. Tell me how to spank so that I might not injure them. I beseech you master. I have a hunch you are just saying, as you have so many times in the past, 'let the parent decide, no matter what.' If not the parents, then who? But no, you wouldn't, would you? R R R R R Of course, using the "reasonable person" standard! A moments break. I need to recalibrate my Logical Fallacy **** Detector. There. Now let's run the test. Ah yes, there it is: Whoooop! whooooop! Whoooooop! 5,025 !!! Wow! on the Beggin the Question scale, and a whopping 9,112 !!! Wow! (really it says "Wow!" on the scale) on the Oversimplifying scale, and look at that will yah? A 10,000! WOWOWOWO!! lights going off sirens screaming, on the --- Failing to Accept the Burden of Proof scale. This is an all time record. You will, if you'll give me your address, recieve, via UPS, your very own gold planted tin loving cup filled to the brim with farm fresh bull****, guaranteed to last for at least 10 Usenet aps posts. Do you grease your butt before you stick your head up there, and what will we do when you disappear....we can't do without Doan? Nope! I wiped it every time I think of you! :-) Funny, I never think of you when I wipe my butt. Odd, isn't it? We must be different somehow. Kane " And again he barks........ 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On 5 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 18:32:46 -0800, Doan wrote: I'm considering your [subject] field for my signature line. May I have reprint rights, and full citation? Thanks in advance. Actually this is a public forum and no rights assume. You are free to do as you wish. :-) On 4 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 12:01:55 -0800, Doan wrote: On 4 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 10:38:43 -0800, Doan wrote: And others may disagree with you! ;-) But then what happens to that "standard" in "reasonable standard," eh? Reasonable doesn't mean no disagreement! Are you so stupid??? ;-) Thank you for the help with my growing stupidity. No thanks from me. Either you inherited from your parents or you managed to gain it all by yourself! ;-) Which is it? Eh? You squeeked? Refuse to answer my question, Kane? ;-) Reasonable means: 1. Capable of reasoning; rational: a reasonable person. Yes, that sounds correct, but I don't recall disagreeing one what reasonable is. Please point out my stupidity in doing so. Did it say anything about agreement? Gosh, it's so nice to be able to help out a genius. Are you just letting me win this one out of kindness? I am not a member of MENSA, Kane. You really wanna win? ;-) No, IT didn't say anything about agreement. I did. Yup! That is why I said you are so stupid! ;-) See your stupidity, now. :-) I guess if I am going to move the discussion forward I must use only your words? Gosh I must be stupid. You admitted to being stupid, why take offense now? :-) 2. Governed by or being in accordance with reason or sound thinking: a reasonable solution to the problem. Same...... Stupid! Same. Stupid! 3. Being within the bounds of common sense: arrive home at a reasonable hour. Same..... Stupid! Same. Stupid! 4. Not excessive or extreme; fair: reasonable prices. Same...... Stupid! Same. Stupid! Aaaaah....Does this mean then that the exact point on the spanking to abuse continuimn is very very broad, since all the "reasonable" folks on the planet would likely have a very broad range between the upper and lowermost? Yup! Gosh, that's going to play hell with years and years of posting by the apologists, now isn't it. They insist they can tell where that limit is and that they don't cross it, despite so much evidence to the contrary. What evidence? It probably looks something like a bell curve distribution. Do you mean "they look"? We are talking about reasonable "people" not reasonable "things." So "they look" it is! :-) The "reasonable" people are somewhere in the middle. "Somewhere?" I'm stuck again. I have never been able to positive about where "somewhere" is unless someone turns it into a "here." Where is "here"? :-) Can you do that for us...the poor spanking parents chomping at the bit to get back to their parental spanking duties and we logic impaired, and "Don't know spanking from beating" folks? I can't do miracles! ;-) The extremes on both sides are people like you and the religious nuts! ;-) They don't spank? Oh, wait I see. Well if I was a spanking parent, I'd have no trouble using your explanation to avoid being on the religious nut end of the spectrum. If you are "reasonable"! ;-) Trouble is to spank I have to start somewhere, and avoid going somewhere, to avoid injury to the child, and or having my ass slammed in jail and my kids lost. You do have a brain, right? ;-) And oddly the spankers who have come roaring in here to tell us just where that line is seemed to, with a blustering "you just better look out fellah," tossed over their shoulders as the door hit them in the ass, not be around much these days. Who are you talking about? If so, could we establish, for the sake of the poor parents chaffing in anticipation for your answer, and mine of course, and for the sake of all those logic impaired ASZ's to finally get the skinny on this old quandry, what the bottom most point is on the broad boundry...so that NO one will inadvertently cross it and injure their child and wind up with allegations of abuse? Already explained above. See it now, stupid! :-) Yep. Stupid me. I just can't get from your explaination how I can, if I decide to join the ranks of spankers that you are just inches away from convincing me to join, where I should stop to avoid abuse. There is your problem! I am not here to convice you, OR ANYBODY FOR that matter, to "join". I want you to look at everything and MAKE UP YOUR OWN MIND! I may have dozens of kids to spank. I've got the problem with them each being different....some easy to make comply, and some very hard, and then there is this: some of the very hard to get to comply are fragile and delicate, while some of the very strong and hardy are the easiest to get to comply. How easy should I tap the hardy to "discipline them corporally" and how hard can I vigorously spank the highly recalcitrant, but extremely delicate ones? That is up to you! Why must I parent your "dozens of kids"??? I certainly don't claim to know them better than you! I'm afraid just defining what a reasonable person is didn't work. My apologies for sending you on a wild goose chase. It must have been my failure to define the elements of the question adequately. Nope! Just stupidity on your part. :-) If I we hadn't established, by your sincere efforts to help parentkind, I'd think you were just, like some posters, weaseling. I don't think parents need my help. They have been doing a good job for centuries without me, OR YOU! I'm really serious here, Doan. Of all the people that have come her as spankers or apoligists, claiming, when asked, that they knew the answer, YOU are the only one left that is consistently here. Obviously you want to help spanking parents or you wouldn't be here. I want every parents to use their own brain and make their own decisions! Unlike you, I DON'T and can't tell them what to do. But from my own experience, parents are the most wonderful people in the world. They know their kids better than me or YOU! THEY LOVE THEIR KIDS MORE THAN ME OR YOU. Why do think differently? Is your experience different from mine??? They, and I, and all the ASZs, want to know. Now is your big chance. Please don't blow it. Only if you are open to logic! But that would be asking too much! ;-) We'll be so disappointed. I am so sorry! ;-) But, I have to admit, being the stupid person that I am, I was unable to refine my question further. Do you mind continuing though I have failed? Sure. At least now, we all know that you are a stupid person. Well, if I was truly unable to refine the question so you understood that it was the question about limits, rather than broad, weasely "reasonable standards" then I am truly stupid. Since you can't blame it on spanking (you did claimed to be "never-spanked", right?), I must be stupid. I can't find that post. And illogical too. Here is your chance to clarify it. Come on, Kane. Your problem is you spewed so much that you can't keep track. Tell that I am wrong in saying you were "never-spanked", Kane. Dare to take the bait? I dare you! I DOUBLE dare you! ;-) I might have said certain individuals never spanked me, but that's hardly proof I was never spanked or spanked. I think you are stretching waaaay beyond your capacity...though I can see you don't and never do understand that. Weaseling... LOUD AND CLEAR! ;-) It's what gets you were you are right now. Yeah. Laughing hesterically! :-) it must be inherited then. ;-) One never knows does one. I might be stupid, and I might not be. But you've have publicly admitted so. Shall I read it back to you??? You on the other hand are sure of your superiority, by the tenor of your posts. I have never claimed superiority! I just know, from experience, that anti-spanking zealotS don't dare to debate me. Wanna proof? ;-) Thanks in advance. You're welcome. Don't mention it. Apparently you wish to refute yourself rather than refute me. Apparently, you're too stupid to understand. To understand what? The "reasonable person" standard! Yep. Yah got me again. I am too stupid to understand the "reasonable person" "standard!" Then you are PERMANENTLY EXCUSED from jury duty! Aren't you glad? ;-) At least as it applies to someone whackin' away on a kid when so many folks are NOT reasonable at all, and their standard tends to be more when the kid is in enough pain to comply, and damn the injuries, physical and psychological. But how many of them are "there"? 1%, 5%, 10%, 50%, 99%???? Last I look, neglect topped the list of child-abuse - not physical abuse. Do I have to define to you what neglect is now???? Leaving your child alone 1 minute? How about 5 minutes? How about 18 years? Where is the line, Kane. Wanna play this game with me? ;-) If they have to be outside the zone of reasonable then we must know the where the zone begins on the no abuse side of spanking. Can you point out that starting point, for all children if you don't mind? Or the 90% that we can expect will be spanked by American parents. Take a representative sampling poll of your community. Chart it! It should resemble somewhat a bell-curve. Do the math to find out where the median is. Draw a line, let's day, within one standard deviation to the left or right. There you have it! ;-) That even reasonable people can't agree on a sufficiently clear and definable boundary narrow enough for use out side your world of "science" {:-]} for the practical applications we have all sought in aps for so very many years? Yes, reasonable people can disagree. Haven't you got that yet? Oh yes, I understand that just fine. How does reasonable disagreement by reasonable people reasonably going to tell me where to stop, what the limit of force is that will injure, not huge injury...that's easy, but when the injury first starts. How abot you try on yourself to find out? That would be a good start. :-) After all, like all the fine spanking parents that have come here, should I start, I TOO do not want to be accused of hurting my child, and in fact, being the loving parent I am, of course I DON'T want to hurt them in any way that might have effects beyond the moment. Check with your local DA and CPS agency in your own town. So, since you are the one that so frequently defends their right to decide I have to assume you know exactly what they are deciding on! HUH??? You want to decide but then have me to make the decision for you??? Logic and anti-spanking zealotS...needs I say more? ;-) And that would be including the limits of spanking before it can become abuse, would it not? Again check with your own DA and CPS agency. Do I have to repeat myselft? I guess I'm rightly identified as stupid then. Smart folks like you are trying so hard to educate me. I am in no position to educate you. I know. But I thought you were trying to, and I'm cooperative if nothing else. Mind, you keep sending me to look for proof of YOUR claims...as my Sensei used to. So I extend the same respect to you as he. What claim? I thought you were claiming that crime rate is down because less parents spank now? Did you or did you not? You claim things, wonderful things, like parents can spank without hitting, know the limits wherein the child will not be injured, and have such control over themselves they will not cross that line (the one I can't find). Where did I claim that parents can spanking withou "hitting"? The only thing holding me back, Doan, and I just KNOW you can defeat them, is the ASZ's simplistic solution of not spanking at all and learning non punitive parenting methods. And the proof is??? That takes time, it doesn't relieve my own frustrations, if I, the metaphorical "I" of course, were a pervert, it could not make me happy and jolly like spanking can for some folks, and I will, if I stay with them, and not go with you folks, never here those sweet and poignant words from my children: And you are welcome to parent them as you see fit. "Well, it never hurt me, yup, not a bibp,..blip...ah....what was the question again?" That is the job of your parents! They did a great job. Sure did! Did they teach you that it is right to call other women "smelly-****"??? No! How could you ask such a thing? I am shocked and offended. And you don't think it offend other people when you said it??? I learned to do that by them being so honest and straightforward as to call and asshole and asshole, asshole and smelly **** sucker. And they must be proud of yu! ;-) Great models. This kind of name calling came long after their time. I don't live in their time. I am in YOUR time, sucker, and you are just going to have to learn to live with being exposed. From now on. And you should be proud. :-) I think the Plant is finally getting the idea I am not going away, and it's feeble attempts to cover up It's ugly hatred of children and families isn't going to be ignored. Others may give up on you, Dung, but not me. So now I am a "dung". Showing your character again, Kane. :-) Would you mind working your way through all the explanations now and get to the practical applicable answer, the definative one, for our use? I don't mind at all. ;-) Ah. It's coming. I've waited sooooo long. Not patiently I'll admit, but tenaciously. Happy to comply. :-) Some kind of border where spankers, (remember we ASZs only have a logic problem, and a defining problem...we don't have the following problem) can be assured they will not cross over into abuse. Yup! Call the local DA office or CPS agency! Ever heard of the "community standard"? All the will tell me is very like what you tell me. They end up with an admonition on the order of, "leave no marks that last beyond x amount of time, and no internal injuries." I mean that's all so confusing to me, and I want to be a good spanker, honest. So he is a reasonable person. He can't help it if you are stupid! ;-) It's starting to look a little like I'm doomed to being an ASZ I guess, and never getting to spank kids, having to fall back on my non-punitive methods. I am going to miss the fun you folks have. You are free to do what you wanted to! Doan If one is to have a "standard," one is stretching credulity just a tad to claim that "others" might not agree with it, don't you think? No! When one says standard I would hope they were referring to something that could be used for other than weasel debating. Something that can be applied with some hope that it will serve a purpose. Are we dealing with a reasonable person? ;-) I'm going to make a wild guess. I'm going to guess you are a reasonable person. Did I get it right? }:- I was hoping for a dozen or even five, but I guess you being so honest and all I have no one but you to ask: What is the lower limit of the broad "standard that is reasonable that a reasonable person would chose" I cannot cross lest I risk harm to my child by abuse and beating? I am relieved you are here to give me your reasonable answer, and I am shivering with excited anticipation as I await your answer. I think your definition leaves a lot to be desired, especially since all you did was cut and paste definitions of "reasonable" which I think, stupid me, isn't going to answer the original question. You KNOW what that is of course. I can lead you to the water, but I cannot make you drink! Excuse me, was that "I can lead you to the sewer, but I can't make you blink?" And your reply of "reasonable standards" by a "reasonable person" just doesn't cut it. It is to all the reasonable people I met. I know. I have the same problem. I guess you are just like all the others that have slunk away from this ng, but too stupid to leave. Why do you the police use the "reasonable force" standard. Gosh, that has to do with assault, doesn't it? I'm not asking for the standards for assault, only spanking. I mean I'm sure, though the spankings may be terrible ineffective, I can keep from assualting a child under current law. My problem isn't that of a legal limit. It's the injury and long term harm risk limit I'm concerned about. I thought I explained that, again and again and again...ad neauseum. It could mean knocking you to the ground to blowing your off with a gun. Ooooonmy, I'd never do that to a child, I just want to spank them within the safe limits you and the folks you support in making their own decision keep claiming they know. You do know, don't you? I mean precisely? Ask LaVonne to ask the night sergeant where the police draw the line, will you? :-) No, I'm really much more interested in my question, not the one you just thought up to send folks scurrying off from the issue here. I admit, and I think my fellow ASZs will have to agree, we are very very very stupid when it comes to figuring what is and isn't a spanking when it is NOT at the furtherist extreme of either end of the spectrum. True! But anti-spanking zealotS are not "reasonable" now, are they? ;-) Ohhhhhh...how can you say that? I mean their very reason for being Zealots is to be reasonable with children. Hey, I'll bet they can't find the line for that either. THAT'S why the cowards won't spank...dummies. They don't know the limits for spanking vs abuse, nor for reasonable and unreasonable with children, so they chicken out. Hahahah. We'll show'em, won't we Doan. We shall spank merrily away, knowing that whatever reasonable decision we make is the right one, until we have to defend it in court, and our children are injured for life, one way or the other. This is such a fun game you've introduced me to. I don't think I've ever had a chance to play before. Will you play with me some more, please? And I know, being the honest caring considerate soul you so often prove you are, that you don't want have any of us take up spanking wihtout the sage advice you offer, to spank only in a "reasonable" manner. I never want anyone to "take up spanking"! Oh, okay. I didn't mean it that way. Hey! Maybe I could do YOU a favor in exchange for the favor you are doing me. You teach me logic and reasonable spanking and I'll teach you English. I tell everyone to consider all the options and make up his/her own mind. I just think you are wonderful, my hero. "Everyone"! Doesn't that just take your breath away folks? Look he tells "everyone." Now that is a free country for you. And he's reasonably sure that if someone he says that to directly kills their child or causes grevous harm, no one can come back and charge him criminally or being civil suit...or if they can, he is so convinced of his morally and ethically superior position on this issue that he stands foursquare with the parents who spank, until the bitter end. Talk about BRAVE! You see, unlike you, I do believe that parents know what is best for their own kids. You are right. I actually do believe, isn't it silly, that SOME parents do not know what is best, though I'll admit the temptation to let Darwin and nature prevail is tempting. You are sure one up on me there, Doan. I notice that when CPS thinks the parents know best and kill the child later folks here tend to become a bit upset that CPS was so trusting. That doesn't seem to jibe with your wonderful family philosophy paradigm. I learned that from my own parents! :-) We know, }:-} I admit I would be totally at sea if I had a child over my lap and whatever instrument to strike her with if I had to use your "standard" to decide how hard, and when to stop. Then you shouldn't do it! You do have a brain, right? USE IT! ;-) No, no. that's not it. I want to join the ranks of the happy spankers. I want to, and you are frustrating me by making it so hard. If I have to hang out with the ASZ's much longer I just don't know what I'm going to do. By the way, how DO the other parents, the ones with a brain that you seem to think I lack, decide on what is the best instrument, how hard to hit, how long to hit, and what the indicators are that they are approaching the injury boundary and should stop? It's a real mystery to me, and I've admitted to my illogic, my stupidity, and my ignorance, Sensei, so that I could be completely open to your teachings, with out resistence in my heart, or laziness in my soul. Should I go sit in the icy fountain now and await the canning your monks will administer so that I might be enligtened to the truth of spanking? Is that how YOU know? By the spankings your parents gave to you? There teaching? How lucky you are. How unfortunate I. Now please lend us your wonderful scientific mind and help us out. Children's safety could depend on you. I would rather have the parents make up their own mind. How about you? ;-) I would if they'd just stop injuring and killing their children. Unlike you, I am not a brave warrior on the path of spanking righteousness, so coward that I am, I chose not to spank, and I, in my miserable quacking fear racked twitching slobbering whining..well, you get the idea.....beg others not to. I guess I just want others to join me in my misery. I do so admire your bravery on the part of parent and child. I mean, it immediately becomes NOT a standard because two or more folks that have a similar characteristic of "reasonable" "may disagree with you." Right? Nope! Well, okay if you say so. Would you mind then, since MY problem, my stupidity, remains. I cannot find in your answer a way for spankers to decide were to stop...I know THYE think they are being "reasonable" so often when they have flaid hide off their children and broken bones. Really? Do a jury of their peers also think it "reasonable"??? No, I don't think many get off, but there was that teen offspring kicker in Canada just recently. Ah, so, to further explore. Do I have to get a jury of peers to supervise any spanking I might chose to do on my child? Hey! You guys, you spankers that ran off, you never told me that. Cheaters. If you had me back when I asked YOU my problems would have been solved, my new Sensei would not be burdened with my stupidity and stubborness in not seeing, and I would have given up my feeble attempts to get more parents to chose not to spank, and I would be happy to today, happy I tell you. Dang you guys. Apparently, they too....though I'd hesitate to call them stupid or logic impaired as we ASZs seem to be.....lack the necessary standards of reasonableness you are holding out so tantilizingly to us. True! Gosh, this feels just like the first day in Algebra...I'm soooo confused. It will help if you stop frequenting those anti-spanking zealotS websites! ;-) Oh, I spend MUCH more time here at your feet, Master. Help us Doan. Help us. I'll try but I am just one person. I can't help you if you don't help yourself. ;-) I can see that. So you can expect a lot of me here, asking questions, learning, absorbing your courage and wisdom for a long time to come. I mean, after all, your answer could even resolve the age old question of what is and isn't pornography. They already have, stupid! Yes, Sensei, kneeling head bowed low almost to the floor It's called the "community standard". Oh please master, will you cane me again if I ask a stupid question? What is the "community standard?" Does it mean that I get to just Pat my child in Patagonia and Flail them in Flanders? I am soooo confused. I don't think I like "community standard" or even "reasonable standard." You see, when it all comes down to it I am a softy for my kids. I can't bear thinking I might actually hurt them deliberately. Tell me how to spank so that I might not injure them. I beseech you master. I have a hunch you are just saying, as you have so many times in the past, 'let the parent decide, no matter what.' If not the parents, then who? But no, you wouldn't, would you? R R R R R Of course, using the "reasonable person" standard! A moments break. I need to recalibrate my Logical Fallacy **** Detector. There. Now let's run the test. Ah yes, there it is: Whoooop! whooooop! Whoooooop! 5,025 !!! Wow! on the Beggin the Question scale, and a whopping 9,112 !!! Wow! (really it says "Wow!" on the scale) on the Oversimplifying scale, and look at that will yah? A 10,000! WOWOWOWO!! lights going off sirens screaming, on the --- Failing to Accept the Burden of Proof scale. This is an all time record. You will, if you'll give me your address, recieve, via UPS, your very own gold planted tin loving cup filled to the brim with farm fresh bull****, guaranteed to last for at least 10 Usenet aps posts. Do you grease your butt before you stick your head up there, and what will we do when you disappear....we can't do without Doan? Nope! I wiped it every time I think of you! :-) Funny, I never think of you when I wipe my butt. Odd, isn't it? We must be different somehow. Kane " And again he barks........ 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With all due respect, and a concern for your credibility, I suggest
that when you give a challenge, as below, and that challenge is responded to in proper fashion, it seems a bit childish and manipulative to not respond after two or more requests to do so by the one you accuse. Are you through playing now? An observer might think you were deliberately baiting for effect and to be cruel...but challenging and then not providing the proof you claim. I'm perfectly willing to admit to a mistake if I've made one. I'm unable to say until you show.... Don't you want my admission and apology? It would humilitate me in a fashion you understand...no? Please produce the evidence you are sooooo excited about. And we can get back to the other fish we have have to fry. Kane Doan wrote in message ... On 5 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Thu, 4 Dec 2003 18:32:46 -0800, Doan wrote: snip............... Since you can't blame it on spanking (you did claimed to be "never-spanked", right?), I must be stupid. I can't find that post. And illogical too. Here is your chance to clarify it. Come on, Kane. Your problem is you spewed so much that you can't keep track. Tell that I am wrong in saying you were "never-spanked", Kane. Dare to take the bait? I dare you! I DOUBLE dare you! ;-) I might have said certain individuals never spanked me, but that's hardly proof I was never spanked or spanked. I think you are stretching waaaay beyond your capacity...though I can see you don't and never do understand that. Weaseling... LOUD AND CLEAR! ;-) snip.......... |
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Doan wrote in message ...
Snip..... Here is your chance to clarify it. Come on, Kane. Your problem is you spewed so much that you can't keep track. Tell that I am wrong in saying you were "never-spanked", Kane. Dare to take the bait? I dare you! I DOUBLE dare you! ;-) Why would I "Tell that" you "am wrong" when I have no evidence one way or the other. I have a good memory, but not perfect. I'm prefectly willing to consider that I've made a mistake. I'm perfectly willing to have you show me that mistake. I've responded to your challenge above. A number of times. You haven't? I could be mistaken, no doubt about it. You could be as well. If you are, it's time to admit it. I won't play with you and rub it in, as you seem to be doing with me. Why haven't you responded? Kane |
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On Mon, 8 Dec 2003 12:59:34 +1300, "ChrisScaife"
wrote: "Kane" wrote in message . com... Doan, the accusation that you so freely fling about that others don't respond to your challenges to debate is a fairly serious one among people that take this issue, and the tasks of honest debate seriously. You call it "running away." As in "LaVonne and Chris wouldn't debate me and ran away." Some postings don't deserve a reply. And some don't. If one is challenged by a fool and responds with a polite request to produce the grounds it's the fool that is foolish, not the one attacked. Some of us have other things to do ;-) I've noticed that if I don't want to read a post, I don't. Workss for me. Some threads are falling off the edge of the screen in flame wars and I can't even be bothered to read them all. You are excused then. I hope you didn't think I or anyone would be offended by you not joining in on something that bores or doesn't interest you. I always recon if someone's got something they really want *my* answer to they'll send me an e-mail. Doan cannot reach me by E-mail. Few can. It's rather a good idea to post an e-mail addy that does not feed directly to your workstation. What do you recon ? That Asian Pears have dropped dramatically in price this year, but don't can well. I recon the wife and I will look at a new larger food dryer. Thanks for asking, Kane |
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On Sun, 7 Dec 2003 17:23:42 -0800, Doan wrote:
I couldn't agree more! Besides, since when is calling someone "never-spanked" is a sin? I thought it should be taken as a compliment! ;-) Doan I am usually short with posters, and admonish them, who insult and flame those obviously mentally shaky or CMI, but you'll have to excuse me if you are, as you have me fooled. I've been taking you for normal, in the strictly clinical sense, for most of the time until recently. Again, if needed, my apologies. Rather than try to weasel out of your challenge, and or to prolong the issue, making yourself look simpler by the hour, why not just respond to my willing offer to be humiliated by you. You put this challenge out to me before....yet, somehow, you never followed up on it... "And all I have to look at is this newsgroup. Guess who is the most obnoxious, using terms like "****", "smelly-****", "whore"? They are the two self-proclaimed "never-spanked" persons: Steve and Kane! " (Excuse the embarrassing bit that refers to my using "****" when in a later quote of you you use "****" as an ad hom. It looks patronizing, but I was more interested in accuracy.) and " Well, not unusual for a spanked child when he grows up. How would you know? You were "never-spanked"! :-) " and "And you and Steve are examples of someone who were "never-spanked"??? " by the way, there are roughly 26 posts of these that popped up in an archive google of posts by you with the words [never+spanked] in the search field. Can't say how many times per post you claimed I was "never-spanked" but never once did you include proof of your assertion. And you most often put it in quotes...which of course would suggest it was my statement you were quoting. If so, then where is your proof that I either lied or was mistaken when I either didn't respond, or when I did and claimed mistaken that I had not said that, or at least thought I hadn't? Why are you shying away from this issue after YOU issued a frightfully threatening "I DOUBLE dare you" statement? What ever could be going through your head right now? or... " Sure. At least now, we all know that you are a stupid person. Since you can't blame it on spanking (you did claimed to be "never-spanked", right?), it must be inherited then. ;-) " and... "Wow! A perfect response from a "never-spanked" kid!!! ;-) Why is it that whenever you openned your mouth on this newsgroup, it is "full of ****"??? :-) " and... "At least I didn't claim to have been "never-spanked"! OUCH!!! ;-)" These are coming from posts or replies and each quote is to me, personally. And the dates are going back further and further. "So by your claim above, you were never-spanked? ;-) C'mon, Kane9! You are flip-flopping! Can't even keep your story straight? Sounded like "La Moron"!!! ;-) " The one above was getting even further into your "Twilight Zone" as it was a discussion of who the non-spanked and spanked might be, but I, in our statement "by your claim above, you were never-spanked" have to confess I made no mention in the post that I was spanked or un-spanked, above, below, or to either side that post....so the conclusion you drew seemed too empty to answer. Or a part of your mind is making things up as you co along, so that you can further your argument...whatever that is turning out to be...ooooEEEEEooooooo....I have seen a considerably amount of what I used to call "Third Rail Strawman" as in, "if the poster even touches that it's going to burst into flame and zap him to eternity." Those kinds of strawmen are the ones where the stupid poster has made something up that is going sting him and nobody else. I did a lot of referring to spanking in some posts to many that had not been spanked or speculation on that possibility. It could be you are confused. If you have made a mistake that is perfectly alright, Doan. People, even you, make mistakes, and there is NO reason to feel embarrassed or discomfited. A simple acknowledgment and admission and then briskly moving on seems to be the best response. It will let you relax and be your sweet lovable self again. It's good for the soul, if you are a believer, so I am told. Or if you were correct and I erred, or you can find my words that would show that I didn't just err, that I in fact, lied, you should be in seventh heaven, if you are a believer, so I am told. Either way, you win. But not answering? Hmmmmmmm, after that "DOUBLE dare," and immediate sincere responses by me? Now that can start an erosion that you don't really want to continue, do you? Time to lay it to rest. If you wait, even if you are correct and I am wrong, you will have lost all the impact and folks will wonder why you suddenly screeched to a halt and what? Contemplated your navel while posting to others and not to me, even commenting, to someone else, about my honest and forthright response to the challenge being somehow inappropriate, a flame war, uninteresting to the poster you replied to instead of me? Getting stranger and stranger, Doan, if that is possible for you. Kane |
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The Question, Doan
Thank you for your help so far. Kane |
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On 7 Dec 2003, Kane wrote:
The Question, Doan Thank you for your help so far. Kane Answered! "Reasonable person" standard! ;-) Doan |
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On Mon, 8 Dec 2003 20:54:42 -0800, Doan wrote:
On 7 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: The Question, Doan Thank you for your help so far. Kane Answered! "Reasonable person" standard! ;-) Wasn't my question. }:- Figure you can hold out by repeating yourself until I tire? I'm not the gentleman Chris appears to be, and the decent sort that LaVonne obviously is....Trust me, I'm mean....way meaner than you are stubbornly able to dodge. Doan In fact I looooove to watch you break down into these spins where you don't answer and start claiming you did and the other person ran...who is in fact the person you are answering, post after post, until they get sick of you and throw it all up. Me, I've worked with CMI, dangerous criminals, and much more badly beaten children than you appear to be, and the only thing makes me give up is ... well, I'll work on it...I can't remember ever having given up. The Question The "I DOUBLE DARE YOU" challenge. Got anything? Kane |
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On Mon, 8 Dec 2003 20:59:42 -0800, Doan wrote:
Take my dare, Kane! Just declare loudly that you have NEVER said that you were "never-spanked"! I DARE YOU! I DOUBLE DARE YOU! Hint: google, google, google! Come on, "never-spanked" boy! ;-) Why would you now change the challenge. Here is what you said in the first "DOUBLE DARE" to me. "Here is your chance to clarify it. Come on, Kane. Your problem is you spewed so much that you can't keep track. Tell that I am wrong in saying you were "never-spanked", Kane. Dare to take the bait? I dare you! I DOUBLE dare you! ;-)" Now you say: "Just declare loudly that you have NEVER said that you were "never-spanked"!" This is completely in character with your many "debates." Bogus attempts to change the wording without being caught at it. Some fall for...who knows maybe I have before. I have told you any number of times I do not recall saying it, hence I cannot honestly deny it. Your attempt to get me to lie about it is, well....kind of strange, shall we say. What stops you from just coming out with your claim and proof and then going about your merry way using it as best you can to divert and dodge. That all THIS is: this silly bit of crapping and screaming "I DOUBLE DARE YOU." Aren't you the least embarrassed? Kane Doan On 7 Dec 2003, Kane wrote: On Sun, 7 Dec 2003 21:09:05 -0800, Doan wrote: Ask the night sergeant, LaVonne! Here is a hint: it barks! :-) Have you forgotten you challenged me? "I dare you, I DOUBLE dare you." I'm ready for my humiliation, Doan. Or, should you continue to put it off, the rapid erosion of your credibility even if you are right. Is there any non malicious or non whacky reason you aren't responding to a challenge you made? Can we expect more of this? It IS a constant of yours over the years, but you've often been able to fade into the woodwork, or succeed in disgusting the poster with various handwaving dismissals. Then come back weeks, months, years later, and claim THEY ran and wouldn't debate you. Here we are. A simple short challenge over a two word claim, if it exists, "never spanked," and "I dare you DOUBLE dare you," and suddenly you are all shy. Not like you. Tummy feeling okay? No tightness in the chest or anything? That flu is spreading and I wouldn't want you to not take good care of yourself. But if not, why no reply: Why just a day ago you were attempting, erroneously of course, to rub my nose in something and it only took one post for you to reply. Now here we are with 6, More, replies from me? You right there at the keyboard, and nothing but a small handwaving dismissal....to someone else by remarking in the third person to my posts offering to engage your challenge, as not being relevant...or so the poster was claiming. Your silence is beginning to worry me for you. I wonder what others might be thinking. Doan }:-} |
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