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What is the typical behaviour of a twelve year old?
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Does anybody know a good article on behaviour of twelve year olds? One of my colleagues was taxed as behaving like a twelve year old, because he nearly screemed and didnt let the other part (our professor) finish during a discussion about a mark he got for an exam. The only things I found so far are a wikipedia article with little information and tons of advertisments for pyschology books on youth development. Thanks a bundle, Nikolaus -- Yes, Yes, Yes, more of the DnD flavor MC Beholder on the mike, DJ Mindflayer kicking it massive |
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What is the typical behaviour of a twelve year old?
In article , Nikolaus Wagner says...
Hi! Does anybody know a good article on behaviour of twelve year olds? One of my colleagues was taxed as behaving like a twelve year old, because he nearly screemed and didnt let the other part (our professor) finish during a discussion about a mark he got for an exam. The only things I found so far are a wikipedia article with little information and tons of advertisments for pyschology books on youth development. As in having a hissy fit 'cause he didn't get his way? Yep, that's rather typical for a twelve year old. It's developmental as there are growing capabilities and desires to assert oneself in the world, but the emotional and mental wherewithall is not present yet to deal with the inevitable roadbloacks and complications. Things like - that others have legitimate completing interests and concerns to those dear to oneself, and that one needs to earn certain benefits that one sees accruing to others in the world. There is a spurt of brain activity that occurs in the teen years, synaptic activity similar to that of the toddlers years of development, that may correspond to the formation of the more subtle social concepts. An early adolescent is on the doorstep of this process. There is also a snotty and sarcastic manner (think eye-rolling, hands on hip, tsk'ing) that this age is famous for. Most likely, if you're close (possibly - indistinguishably close?) to your colleague, what I have in brackets is how you would counsel him. Possibly, the manner of your colleague contributed to this assessement. Or might even be all of the problem. Even legitimate and reasoned objection, delivered in an immature snooty manner, might suggest a 12 year old. Cheers, Banty (mother of 13 year old) |
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What is the typical behaviour of a twelve year old?
I am the mother of a twelve year old son, and I've also got a 14 year
old boy and an eight year old girl. I dunno if you can be that precise with stamping specific behaviours with specific ages. Every kids comes born with their own temperment and personality, and every one is going to develop at a different pace in different areas. Emotional control and maturity happens at different rates in different people - and obviously - some people, like your collegue, never learn it. Whether the behaviour was typical of an 8 year old, a 12 year old, or a 14 year old, the point is that it was completely inappropriate behaviour for an adult. It showed a lack of maturity, a lack of self control, a lack of respect and restraint, a lack of judgement. Essentially he had a hissy fit against an authority figure, and didn't even do the professor the courtesy of hearing him out. I've had many discussions with my oldest son (now in Grade 9 high school) about his perception of "fairness". In the end, unless its a subject where there is an absolute wrong or right answer, like a math problem, or the conjugation of a verb in French, there is a degree of subjectivity in marking, and the teacher is often looking for things other than straight facts. I tell my son all the time, you don't have to like it, but marks come down to a game. The teacher is in authority. They have knowledge and experience you don't have. You don't have to LIKE what they want out of you, but if you want the marks, you have to give them what they want. So, my son having a hissy fit about marks for neatness, or format of an essay won't get him anywhere. Its part of what the teacher expects. So he can beat himself against the wall all he wants, and it won't get him any closer to the A he wants. I also find with my son that he doesn't always READ the darned question or assignment, so big surprise, he loses marks because he hasn't given the teacher exactly what they wanted, which is part of the transaction he needed to complete in exchange for those marks. I can still remember being in first year university and being totally shocked at my first essay mark. I'd always been an A student in high school, and my university English professor in first year was an absolute stickler for style, format, correct cites etc. I got slaughtered - I think it was a C -, all because of things other than the content itself. However, it was completely sobering, I learned from it, and thereafter, I paid attention to those details!! I figured out the guy didn't just care about the facts, he cared about how I put the argument together, how I presented it - which is just as valid a learn (and probably more so in the bigger picture) as what influences some 19th century poet had. My take on this stuff is that what you take away from these experiences that has real value is not the facts from the courses you've taken but HOW to research, how to write, how to construct arguments....and how to accept criticism without flipping out. Imagine your collegue in a work environment. Its career limiting to have snit fits. Never mind what it does to marriages. Mary G. |
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What is the typical behaviour of a twelve year old?
"Nikolaus Wagner" wrote in message ... Hi! Does anybody know a good article on behaviour of twelve year olds? One of my colleagues was taxed as behaving like a twelve year old, because he nearly screemed and didnt let the other part (our professor) finish during a discussion about a mark he got for an exam. Sounds about right. Does he also take freshly laundered clothes with instructions to put them away, and just toss them to the floor? I just had an eleven year old daughter do that. Responses to queries as to why she did that, or to correct the behavior were loud whiny moans or a scream. My response to that is he is not allowed to go to a Friday afternoon meeting, nor a Saturday evening "Girl's Movie Night" until she puts them away, along with cull through the mess that is in her room. Sure, she could walk out and get herself to these events... but I am pretty sure that she knows that disobedience on something like that would cause all her internet and phone access to be cut off (she is an honor student... she may be going through puberty, but she's not stupid!). I found this series of articles on general adolescent health and development. Just read through the series of articles: http://www.chop.edu/consumer/your_ch...x.jsp?id=-9388 I always thought one of the greatest curses to put on someone is to make them repeat puberty! (we just rented a cute movie called "Sky High"... one of the characters complained that she went through it twice!). The only things I found so far are a wikipedia article with little information and tons of advertisments for pyschology books on youth development. Thanks a bundle, Nikolaus -- Yes, Yes, Yes, more of the DnD flavor MC Beholder on the mike, DJ Mindflayer kicking it massive |
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What is the typical behaviour of a twelve year old?
HCN wrote:
I always thought one of the greatest curses to put on someone is to make them repeat puberty! Mary replies: ROTFL! Way true. Whenever I wish I could get back some time, I never, ever wish I could be a teen again. Too horrible. High school.....shudder! Even college was less fun than advertised due to all the angst, growing pains, stupid stuff I did, stupid stuff my friends did....like.... once was ENOUGH. Maybe late 20's at the youngest for me, but perhaps it took me longer than some to figure out who I was and get comfortable in my own skin (plus gain some perspective on a problematic relationship with the parental units). Bleh! The only part I want back is being able to eat whatever I want and not gain weight. M. |
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