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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
I have been reading this tread with interest, and agree with many views
put forward. i do have a couple of questions though. I am in the UK and our children are still in school until the end of july, have the kids in the states finished for the summer? the reason i ask is the original message came from a teacher just wondering how she/he is getting so much time to post? just a thought that occured to me (apologies if you are on maternity leave or something) In the Uk we have some great low cost cothing stores which seen to stock a variety of clothing some i consider in my opinion to be unsuitable for all my girls but a majority i don't. for example plain t shirts in pretty colours for both boys and girls for a couple of pounds (about $3) Over here it is very posible to get good clothes for kids with no problems under say 10. I have noticed however that the clothing for kids above ten can be very provocative, and i have to say if any of my older girls come back from the shops with anything i don't agree with it goes back straightway and the child in question is banned from the shops for a while. I do totally understand that social and ecconomic conciderations muct be thought about and of course differant ethic backgrounds must be taken into concideration. Afterall nobody would see a problem with a child wearing a sari because it is an ethic dress yet these show a couple of inches of tummy skin. We have had the same problem with relatives buying unsuitable clothing or make up in the past (whos crazy idea was Winnie the pooh lipgloss?!?!) But we have not made it clear to the people involved that we won't let the children too young have this stuff so they are wasting there time and money, we get a lot of books bought now which is fantastic. I so believe that this is about parent power, i dress my toddler so she has no say but even as they get older everything in the wardrobe is there on my and other halfs say so. Parents must protect their children from all dangers real or potential. we can not expect other people to do it. governments, the media, clothing companies do not have this moral obligation to do so, we do. I see too many people putting the blame for issues like children dressed as adult at the foot of others but afterall is said and done the parents of children dressed in clothing which makes them look sexualized let those children leave the house looking like that. In My house we have a saying that 'this is a dicatorship not a democracy and what we say goes' It may sound a bit silly but it works for us. Another thought I had was if the energies we are all putting into this tread was put into campaning for longer sentances for deviants and full disclosure of the whereabout of such people after prison we may help the world just a little more. (sorry if the spelling is bad i can't spell nor play boggle and forget playing scrabble) |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
"enigma" wrote in message . .. " wrote in oups.com: Dragonlady, I apologize if I'm not being clear with what I consider "adult" like clothing. I think your confusion with this is not necessarily due to my lack of clarification. I think this is the issue...what is considered too riske for children? i think you meant risque. how many people have to say that "no, we don't approve of the slut puppy look" for you to believe that? i think 2 piece bathing suits on toddlers are stupid, not because it's "sexy", but because a toddler is fine in just a swim diaper. I was about to object to the stupidity of 2 piece suits on toddlers, until I got to the swim diaper part. We never put our toddlers in suits when they were in diapers. But not that little miss is potty trained, the idea of getting her in and out of a wet one piece suit to go does not sound like my idea of fun! She does have a kinda bikini style. I confess that trumped the tankini because it was cheap. But she is so little she could run around buck naked and not offend anyone... or most anyone I guess. All she cares about is that it is pink and has little flowers on it. Of course, a pair of little jeans and a polo is darling and very appropriate. A Sunday dress and mary janes is fine. Certainly clothing when we were growing up is fine. This is a recent phenomenon - which is why it's a discussion that may look on the surface as not being an issue but, in reality, is. by 'recent phenomenom' i'm guessing you aren't aware this trend has been ongoing since the 60s? toddlers in hiphuggers & halter tops? or in the 70s, the little sequin tube tops? this isn't NEW. lee |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
"Tori M" wrote in
: you can't go by advertising to see what children actually wear. go out to a park or something & look at some real kids. for the most part you *won't* see kids dressed in slutty or even "miniature adult" clothes. you'll see jeans, t-shirts, shorts, tanktops, probably sweatpants (which is my big bugbear. i really dislike seeing sweatpants out in public, although i'll tend to be charitable if they're on kids of toilet training age). Jeff thinks I am kookie that I wont wear sweats out of the house and I just tell him they are inside cloths and I refuse to wear them out. He does all the time.. He can look goofy all he wants. Those are the days I am glad I am the only one dressing the kids. well, sweats are exercise wear. wearing sweats out in public just looks lazy & sloppy shrug. it really isn't that much more difficult to put on a pair of jeans or trousers & a t- shirt. even my mom, who has severe arthritis in her hands & has had all her knuckles replaced twice, manages to dress nicely without resorting to anything remotely resembling sweats. i don't think she has ever even *owned* a sweatshirt, never mind sweatpants! the only sweatpants Boo has ever had were part of a Halloween costume, black sweatshirt, black pants, 2 pairs of black kneesocks stuffed & sewed to the sweatshirt. ta da! a spider) lee -- "Fascism would be better described as corporatism, since it is marriage between the state and business" - Benito Mussolini |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
"Stephanie Stowe" wrote in
news:Zxvkg.1$XJ4.0@trndny02: "enigma" wrote in message how many people have to say that "no, we don't approve of the slut puppy look" for you to believe that? i think 2 piece bathing suits on toddlers are stupid, not because it's "sexy", but because a toddler is fine in just a swim diaper. I was about to object to the stupidity of 2 piece suits on toddlers, until I got to the swim diaper part. We never put our toddlers in suits when they were in diapers. But not that little miss is potty trained, the idea of getting her in and out of a wet one piece suit to go does not sound like my idea of fun! She does have a kinda bikini style. I confess that trumped the tankini because it was cheap. But she is so little she could run around buck naked and not offend anyone... or most anyone I guess. All she cares about is that it is pink and has little flowers on it. well, my toddler didn't toilet train until 4.25 years old (but he's a boy & he wears swim trunks & an SPF t-shirt now, so i guess that's technically 2 pieces g) OTOH, i played outside all summer topless until i was 11 years old... and the only reason i had to start wear a t=shirt then was because the neighbor girl who was 6 months younger started to 'develop' and apparently was giving her mom a hard time about wearing a shirt because i didn't & i was older. i may be weird but i really wouldn't make a toddler/preschool daughter wear a shirt anytime i would let her brother go shirtless. i also still use cutoffs & a t-shirt for swimming, as i have since the 60s, because i just can't find a bathing suit (or pattern) i like. lee |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
"enigma" wrote in message . .. "Stephanie Stowe" wrote in news:Zxvkg.1$XJ4.0@trndny02: "enigma" wrote in message how many people have to say that "no, we don't approve of the slut puppy look" for you to believe that? i think 2 piece bathing suits on toddlers are stupid, not because it's "sexy", but because a toddler is fine in just a swim diaper. I was about to object to the stupidity of 2 piece suits on toddlers, until I got to the swim diaper part. We never put our toddlers in suits when they were in diapers. But not that little miss is potty trained, the idea of getting her in and out of a wet one piece suit to go does not sound like my idea of fun! She does have a kinda bikini style. I confess that trumped the tankini because it was cheap. But she is so little she could run around buck naked and not offend anyone... or most anyone I guess. All she cares about is that it is pink and has little flowers on it. well, my toddler didn't toilet train until 4.25 years old (but he's a boy & he wears swim trunks & an SPF t-shirt now, so i guess that's technically 2 pieces g) My boy was also older when he potty trained. We did put trunks on him also. OTOH, i played outside all summer topless until i was 11 years old... and the only reason i had to start wear a t=shirt then was because the neighbor girl who was 6 months younger started to 'develop' and apparently was giving her mom a hard time about wearing a shirt because i didn't & i was older. i may be weird but i really wouldn't make a toddler/preschool daughter wear a shirt anytime i would let her brother go shirtless. Same here. i also still use cutoffs & a t-shirt for swimming, as i have since the 60s, because i just can't find a bathing suit (or pattern) i like. lee |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
enigma wrote: "Stephanie Stowe" wrote in news:Zxvkg.1$XJ4.0@trndny02: "enigma" wrote in message how many people have to say that "no, we don't approve of the slut puppy look" for you to believe that? i think 2 piece bathing suits on toddlers are stupid, not because it's "sexy", but because a toddler is fine in just a swim diaper. I was about to object to the stupidity of 2 piece suits on toddlers, until I got to the swim diaper part. We never put our toddlers in suits when they were in diapers. But not that little miss is potty trained, the idea of getting her in and out of a wet one piece suit to go does not sound like my idea of fun! She does have a kinda bikini style. I confess that trumped the tankini because it was cheap. But she is so little she could run around buck naked and not offend anyone... or most anyone I guess. All she cares about is that it is pink and has little flowers on it. well, my toddler didn't toilet train until 4.25 years old (but he's a boy & he wears swim trunks & an SPF t-shirt now, so i guess that's technically 2 pieces g) OTOH, i played outside all summer topless until i was 11 years old... and the only reason i had to start wear a t=shirt then was because the neighbor girl who was 6 months younger started to 'develop' and apparently was giving her mom a hard time about wearing a shirt because i didn't & i was older. i may be weird but i really wouldn't make a toddler/preschool daughter wear a shirt anytime i would let her brother go shirtless. i also still use cutoffs & a t-shirt for swimming, as i have since the 60s, because i just can't find a bathing suit (or pattern) i like. lee I'm disinclined to let my kids be naked outside of the house (inside, well, that's another story), mainly because I think that sunscreen is creepy, and I'd rather they wear clothes than have me apply sunscreen. (Summer clothes: t shirt and shorts, unless they're going into the woods, when I have them wear their ridiculous white or pink leggings -- easier for seeing ticks...) Caledonia |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
"Tori M" wrote:
Actually I find most of the stuff like this vomitous. Why the hell do we have to dress little kids like mini-adults? What's wrong with cute, CHILDREN'S clothing? I get so disgusted every time I go to buy something for DS (almost 2.5) and all I can find are mini button-down shirts, khakis, etc., which look like the clothing my husband wears for work... What is 'children's clothing' anyway? The only things that I can really 'relate' to being 'children's clothing' is that little boys of my dad's era (b. 1904) used to wear dresses when they were toddlers(probably easier for TT).. The child on the left here in a dress is my uncle with his grandmother and older sister http://www.findagrave.com/photos/200...1039327328.jpg And they didn't wear long pants for good Sunday clothes until they were adults. (Not sure when this picture was taken - probably sometime in the late 1800s) http://familytreemaker.genealogy.com.../0032photo.jpg This is a picture taken probably about 1910 in my grandparent's store, and my dad is wearing suspenders and I think he is wearing knickers http://p.vtourist.com/709773-Inside_...lver_Cliff.jpg But we aren't dressing like that now either. I need to find some of those for Xavier. He looks so cute in button down but all the ones we have show off his tummy, I love Khakis too I would wear them almost exclusivly if I could afford them in my size.. Dont tell my MIL though she is tired of my black pants :P Tori |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
"sha68" wrote in message oups.com... I have been reading this tread with interest, and agree with many views put forward. i do have a couple of questions though. I am in the UK and our children are still in school until the end of july, have the kids in the states finished for the summer? the reason i ask is the original message came from a teacher just wondering how she/he is getting so much time to post? just a thought that occured to me (apologies if you are on maternity leave or something) Yes, school is out in many parts of the US. But I haven't seen all that many posts from the OP, so I'm not sure why you think it's excessive. In the Uk we have some great low cost cothing stores which seen to stock a variety of clothing some i consider in my opinion to be unsuitable for all my girls but a majority i don't. for example plain t shirts in pretty colours for both boys and girls for a couple of pounds (about $3) Wal-Mart also carries plain t-shirts and elastic waisted shorts for about that. We have had the same problem with relatives buying unsuitable clothing or make up in the past (whos crazy idea was Winnie the pooh lipgloss?!?!) You know, I don't really see lip gloss as makeup. It smells good, sometimes tastes good, they put it on, and then lick it off. I don't think we've ever gotten any official "lip gloss" but I have bought tube after tube of flavored chapstick hoping to entice them to wear it, unfortunately they won't. And then DD in particular gets horribly chapped lips in the winter. I've even tried sneaking into her room to put vaseline on her lips after she's asleep, but she always wakes up. :-( Another thought I had was if the energies we are all putting into this tread Why are you so concerned about how other people are using their time anyway? Bizby |
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What's the impact of dressing our children as adults?
Tori M wrote: you can't go by advertising to see what children actually wear. go out to a park or something & look at some real kids. for the most part you *won't* see kids dressed in slutty or even "miniature adult" clothes. you'll see jeans, t-shirts, shorts, tanktops, probably sweatpants (which is my big bugbear. i really dislike seeing sweatpants out in public, although i'll tend to be charitable if they're on kids of toilet training age). Jeff thinks I am kookie that I wont wear sweats out of the house and I just tell him they are inside cloths and I refuse to wear them out. He does all the time.. He can look goofy all he wants. Those are the days I am glad I am the only one dressing the kids. Tori So, I guess you don't exercise in public? Renee |
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