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"Shannon" wrote in message news:2004052613570050073%shannonNOSPAM@sdf1net... I have been TTC for a little while now and of course have been thinking A LOT about pregnancy and child rearing. I feel very confused right now and I'm thinking that many other women probably feel the way I do so I thought I would post and see what people's opinions are. For as long as I can remember I have wanted to have a baby. About 3 years ago I got married and we bought a condo. I was, and still am in many people's minds, very young at the time as I was only 23. The condo was great because it was pretty cheap and so we got to go out whenever we wanted, buy whatever we wanted and travel whenever and wherever we wanted. It was great. But still I wanted a familty. Whenver the topic of children was brought up amongst friends or family people would tell me I wasn't ready to have kids because I was having too much time travelling here and there etc. This past fall my husband and I bought a 3 bedroom house. Money is a bit tighter but overall I think we are doing very well. Now people are telling me that I should wait to have kids until we buy all the stuff we want for the house. I have a great career at the moment where I make decent money. It was shear luck that I got this job and I am so thankful that I have this opportunity. I am afraid that if I have a baby that I may not want to keep the job. I feel like I am letting myself down somehow. Women are 'supposed' to have 'careers' and look after the kids are they not??? Why does it feel like everyone is saying not to have a baby right now? The only person who actually said to go ahead and genuinely looked happy was my doctor. I feel like society went from expecting women to get married, stay home and have children, to expecting them to become 30 something business women who drop their kids off at an expensive day care for 12 hours a day. My husband and I sat down and determined that we have what we need to have a child. Good jobs, a good home, some experience under our belt with 3 years of marriage. My biggest fear is surrounding my job. Will I want to stay home with the kids, resulting in losing my career? Will I be forced back due to finances? Will I want to go back and everything will be just fine? How do you know ahead of time in order to make any sort of plans?? I know I"m kind of babbling, but does anyone out there know where I am coming from?? Do you think that people might just be looking out for me and I should listen to them? Or should I do what I really want to do? I say just do what you really want to do. Don't listen to anyone else unless they say something that you like. You seem to be more stable than we are and I am currently 5 months pregnant. Good luck in your decisions. Andrea #1 due: 09/28/04 |
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"Shannon" wrote in message news:2004052617314816807%shannonNOSPAM@sdf1net... One thing that I never mentioned is that I work from home. I actually don't really like working from home because I feel really isolated but a few people have pointed out that it is great that I work from home because it would come in handy when I have kids. Personally I don't really see it that way. I work full time (8:30 - 5:30) and I am busy constantly. It is a pretty stressful job related to the medical system and so it is hard to work around interruptions. Is there anyone else out there who worked from home before they got pregnant and then continued to work from home after? Shannon I have been wanting to get a job working from home. How would I go about doing that? Andrea #1 due: 09/28/04 |
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Shannon wrote in message
news:2004052617314816807%shannonNOSPAM@sdf1net... One thing that I never mentioned is that I work from home. I actually don't really like working from home because I feel really isolated but a few people have pointed out that it is great that I work from home because it would come in handy when I have kids. Personally I don't really see it that way. I work full time (8:30 - 5:30) and I am busy constantly. It is a pretty stressful job related to the medical system and so it is hard to work around interruptions. Are you a medical transcriptionist by any chance? -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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Andrea J. Richardson wrote:
I have been wanting to get a job working from home. How would I go about doing that? Almost everyone I know who works from home started out doing the same job for the same employer in the office and then was able to make arrangements to work all or part of the time from home. That's how most of my working from home jobs started, though my current one started with me working mostly from home (but I had a connection in the company before I started). There are also some jobs that are more easily done from home. I know graphic designers, editors, researchers, IT folks, and academics who largely work from home, but there are other jobs where I think the pickings are slim. What job skills do you have? How you go about getting a job that allows you to work from home depends a lot on what job market you're looking in. Best wishes, Ericka |
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From: Shannon
My husband and I sat down and determined that we have what we need to have a child. Good jobs, a good home, some experience under our belt with 3 years of marriage. I think this is the answer to your question. If you and your husband feel ready, then go for it. You're 26 years old? That's hardly too young- and you'll be 27 or older by the time you have a baby. Perfect age IMO. As for your career, will you really do that much more in the next few years that you can't go back and do someday? And so what if you decide to stay home with your kids- if you do decide that, it will be because it's the only thing you want to do. If you don't, then you can continue to work out of the home and be a mom, whether you do part time or full time. Only you and your husband can decide, but it sounds to me like you're ready. Don't let other people get in the way of something you've been wanting for a long time! How could they possibly know if *you're* ready to have a child? laurie mommy to Jessica, 3 years Christopher, 13 months |
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Shannon wrote:
Is there anyone else out there who worked from home before they got pregnant and then continued to work from home after? Yes. I work full time from a home office. I can't do my job with out child care and have no idea how anyone else does. There are some nice benefits (which I'm sure you are already experiencing) but they are magnified once you have a baby and time is at such a premium. No commute, can unload your dishwasher while you warm up your soup, etc ;-). I can move my office if I want to and the only reason I seriously consider it at times is the isolation factor. It *is* isolating and became even more so once I had babies. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (5) and Luke (3) |
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I work at home as a medical transcriptionist (that's why I asked because
your work sounded suspiciously like my job) and have for the last six years. I didn't work at home when my babies were small and toddling around, but I have been as they are older now and in school. Child care is going to be a must for you even though you still work at home. I have done without child care for the most part, but I did hire a mother's helper to come in, in the summer to help out. Working at night, naps or early morning is probably what you will adopt. -- Sue (mom to three girls) Shannon wrote in message news:2004052617314816807%shannonNOSPAM@sdf1net... One thing that I never mentioned is that I work from home. I actually don't really like working from home because I feel really isolated but a few people have pointed out that it is great that I work from home because it would come in handy when I have kids. Personally I don't really see it that way. I work full time (8:30 - 5:30) and I am busy constantly. It is a pretty stressful job related to the medical system and so it is hard to work around interruptions. Is there anyone else out there who worked from home before they got pregnant and then continued to work from home after? Shannon On 2004-05-26 13:57:00 -0400, Shannon said: I have been TTC for a little while now and of course have been thinking A LOT about pregnancy and child rearing. I feel very confused right now and I'm thinking that many other women probably feel the way I do so I thought I would post and see what people's opinions are. For as long as I can remember I have wanted to have a baby. About 3 years ago I got married and we bought a condo. I was, and still am in many people's minds, very young at the time as I was only 23. The condo was great because it was pretty cheap and so we got to go out whenever we wanted, buy whatever we wanted and travel whenever and wherever we wanted. It was great. But still I wanted a familty. Whenver the topic of children was brought up amongst friends or family people would tell me I wasn't ready to have kids because I was having too much time travelling here and there etc. This past fall my husband and I bought a 3 bedroom house. Money is a bit tighter but overall I think we are doing very well. Now people are telling me that I should wait to have kids until we buy all the stuff we want for the house. I have a great career at the moment where I make decent money. It was shear luck that I got this job and I am so thankful that I have this opportunity. I am afraid that if I have a baby that I may not want to keep the job. I feel like I am letting myself down somehow. Women are 'supposed' to have 'careers' and look after the kids are they not??? Why does it feel like everyone is saying not to have a baby right now? The only person who actually said to go ahead and genuinely looked happy was my doctor. I feel like society went from expecting women to get married, stay home and have children, to expecting them to become 30 something business women who drop their kids off at an expensive day care for 12 hours a day. My husband and I sat down and determined that we have what we need to have a child. Good jobs, a good home, some experience under our belt with 3 years of marriage. My biggest fear is surrounding my job. Will I want to stay home with the kids, resulting in losing my career? Will I be forced back due to finances? Will I want to go back and everything will be just fine? How do you know ahead of time in order to make any sort of plans?? I know I"m kind of babbling, but does anyone out there know where I am coming from?? Do you think that people might just be looking out for me and I should listen to them? Or should I do what I really want to do? Its strange. When I got married I just felt like everything was going to work out and that I was doing the right thing. With having a baby, I feel like there is so much more to consider. It is kind of scary bringing another person into the world. I am in a constant state of confusion... Shannon -- Shannon Please remove -NO SPAM from email address to email me personally. |
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In my case they just told me when I went for the interview that I would
be working from home. It never occured to me to ask. I know a lot of sales people from various industries work from home (although I'm not in sales) but they also travel quite a bit.. If you do job where you are pretty independent and don't need to collaborate with other team members on a daily basis then it is pretty easy to work from home. You just need a laptop and a phone line. If you already have a job then maybe you should just ask. If your employer is not used to that sort of thing maybe you can convince them to allow you to do it one or two days a week until you can prove that it works well. Then maybe you can do it full time. Shannon On 2004-05-26 20:22:20 -0400, "Andrea J. Richardson" said: news:2004052617314816807%shannonNOSPAM@sdf1net... -- Shannon Please remove -NO SPAM from email address to email me personally. |
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Thank you everyone for your comments. I think they have all been
really nice and do make perfect sense to me. I appreciate your thoughts. Shannon On 2004-05-26 13:57:00 -0400, Shannon said: I have been TTC for a little while now and of course have been thinking A LOT about pregnancy and child rearing. I feel very confused right now and I'm thinking that many other women probably feel the way I do so I thought I would post and see what people's opinions are. For as long as I can remember I have wanted to have a baby. About 3 years ago I got married and we bought a condo. I was, and still am in many people's minds, very young at the time as I was only 23. The condo was great because it was pretty cheap and so we got to go out whenever we wanted, buy whatever we wanted and travel whenever and wherever we wanted. It was great. But still I wanted a familty. Whenver the topic of children was brought up amongst friends or family people would tell me I wasn't ready to have kids because I was having too much time travelling here and there etc. This past fall my husband and I bought a 3 bedroom house. Money is a bit tighter but overall I think we are doing very well. Now people are telling me that I should wait to have kids until we buy all the stuff we want for the house. I have a great career at the moment where I make decent money. It was shear luck that I got this job and I am so thankful that I have this opportunity. I am afraid that if I have a baby that I may not want to keep the job. I feel like I am letting myself down somehow. Women are 'supposed' to have 'careers' and look after the kids are they not??? Why does it feel like everyone is saying not to have a baby right now? The only person who actually said to go ahead and genuinely looked happy was my doctor. I feel like society went from expecting women to get married, stay home and have children, to expecting them to become 30 something business women who drop their kids off at an expensive day care for 12 hours a day. My husband and I sat down and determined that we have what we need to have a child. Good jobs, a good home, some experience under our belt with 3 years of marriage. My biggest fear is surrounding my job. Will I want to stay home with the kids, resulting in losing my career? Will I be forced back due to finances? Will I want to go back and everything will be just fine? How do you know ahead of time in order to make any sort of plans?? I know I"m kind of babbling, but does anyone out there know where I am coming from?? Do you think that people might just be looking out for me and I should listen to them? Or should I do what I really want to do? Its strange. When I got married I just felt like everything was going to work out and that I was doing the right thing. With having a baby, I feel like there is so much more to consider. It is kind of scary bringing another person into the world. I am in a constant state of confusion... Shannon -- Shannon Please remove -NO SPAM from email address to email me personally. |
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Hi Sue,
No I'm not a transcriptionsit, although I work with transcriptionists a lot. I'm actually in IT. Shannon On 2004-05-27 07:45:25 -0400, "Sue" said: I work at home as a medical transcriptionist (that's why I asked because your work sounded suspiciously like my job) and have for the last six years. I didn't work at home when my babies were small and toddling around, but I have been as they are older now and in school. Child care is going to be a must for you even though you still work at home. I have done without child care for the most part, but I did hire a mother's helper to come in, in the summer to help out. Working at night, naps or early morning is probably what you will adopt. -- Sue (mom to three girls) Shannon wrote in message news:2004052617314816807%shannonNOSPAM@sdf1net... One thing that I never mentioned is that I work from home. I actually don't really like working from home because I feel really isolated but a few people have pointed out that it is great that I work from home because it would come in handy when I have kids. Personally I don't really see it that way. I work full time (8:30 - 5:30) and I am busy constantly. It is a pretty stressful job related to the medical system and so it is hard to work around interruptions. Is there anyone else out there who worked from home before they got pregnant and then continued to work from home after? Shannon On 2004-05-26 13:57:00 -0400, Shannon said: I have been TTC for a little while now and of course have been thinking A LOT about pregnancy and child rearing. I feel very confused right now and I'm thinking that many other women probably feel the way I do so I thought I would post and see what people's opinions are. For as long as I can remember I have wanted to have a baby. About 3 years ago I got married and we bought a condo. I was, and still am in many people's minds, very young at the time as I was only 23. The condo was great because it was pretty cheap and so we got to go out whenever we wanted, buy whatever we wanted and travel whenever and wherever we wanted. It was great. But still I wanted a familty. Whenver the topic of children was brought up amongst friends or family people would tell me I wasn't ready to have kids because I was having too much time travelling here and there etc. This past fall my husband and I bought a 3 bedroom house. Money is a bit tighter but overall I think we are doing very well. Now people are telling me that I should wait to have kids until we buy all the stuff we want for the house. I have a great career at the moment where I make decent money. It was shear luck that I got this job and I am so thankful that I have this opportunity. I am afraid that if I have a baby that I may not want to keep the job. I feel like I am letting myself down somehow. Women are 'supposed' to have 'careers' and look after the kids are they not??? Why does it feel like everyone is saying not to have a baby right now? The only person who actually said to go ahead and genuinely looked happy was my doctor. I feel like society went from expecting women to get married, stay home and have children, to expecting them to become 30 something business women who drop their kids off at an expensive day care for 12 hours a day. My husband and I sat down and determined that we have what we need to have a child. Good jobs, a good home, some experience under our belt with 3 years of marriage. My biggest fear is surrounding my job. Will I want to stay home with the kids, resulting in losing my career? Will I be forced back due to finances? Will I want to go back and everything will be just fine? How do you know ahead of time in order to make any sort of plans?? I know I"m kind of babbling, but does anyone out there know where I am coming from?? Do you think that people might just be looking out for me and I should listen to them? Or should I do what I really want to do? Its strange. When I got married I just felt like everything was going to work out and that I was doing the right thing. With having a baby, I feel like there is so much more to consider. It is kind of scary bringing another person into the world. I am in a constant state of confusion... Shannon -- Shannon Please remove -NO SPAM from email address to email me personally. |
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