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Did you hate bf at first?
Hello,
Is there anyone out there that hated breastfeeding at first? DD is 2 weeks old and I really hate breastfeeding. My anxiety starts to rise about 1 hour before each feed because I know she's going to be hungry soon. Every time she fusses the tears well up in my eyes because I know what's coming. We're past the sore nipples phase so it's not the physical pain that's bothering me. It's some type of emotional reaction. Has anyone else experienced this and then went on to have a healthy breastfeeding relationship? Mandy |
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I agree with the above reply about post-p depression. I have heard that
bfing robs you of serotonin. I just got on an anti-depressant myself and it is already helping. The question my dr. asked me was Does your anxiety seem to only be about bfing or does it seem like other stuff also makes you anxious? At my six week check, I said it was just the bfing, but two weeks later, I realized I was panicked about a lot of other issues with the baby. This led me to beginning Zoloft. I had sore cracked nipples, mastitis, and a yeast infection when DD was 2 weeks, so I can empathize with the dread you feel. wrote: Hello, Is there anyone out there that hated breastfeeding at first? DD is 2 weeks old and I really hate breastfeeding. My anxiety starts to rise about 1 hour before each feed because I know she's going to be hungry soon. Every time she fusses the tears well up in my eyes because I know what's coming. We're past the sore nipples phase so it's not the physical pain that's bothering me. It's some type of emotional reaction. Has anyone else experienced this and then went on to have a healthy breastfeeding relationship? Mandy |
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wrote in message oups.com... Hello, Is there anyone out there that hated breastfeeding at first? DD is 2 weeks old and I really hate breastfeeding. My anxiety starts to rise about 1 hour before each feed because I know she's going to be hungry soon. Every time she fusses the tears well up in my eyes because I know what's coming. We're past the sore nipples phase so it's not the physical pain that's bothering me. It's some type of emotional reaction. Has anyone else experienced this and then went on to have a healthy breastfeeding relationship? Mandy Yeah, I have to admit I did. I had a bad time managing all her feeds, and expressed a lot as I thought at the time it would be easier. I then made the decision to cut out all EBM and formula, and although I found it difficult, and it wasn't something I enjoyed at first, once DD was a few weeks older, and I started noticing the cute things she did, I enjoyed it a lot more. She's now 10 weeks and was cracking me up by trying to grin at me while still latched on. I notice now that she *has* to have both hands on my boob when she's feeding, and clings on to my arm with her feet... little things like that make it seem so much better! I breastfeed on demand, which I also found hard at first, but I'm doing a lot better at it now, and because she's such a huge baby (in 6-9 month clothes already) I get a lot of pleasure knowing that it's me that's making her so tall! But like the other replies say, I think you should get checked for PND. It could be a depression/resentment feeling that you've not yet realised, and knowing that DD's going to start crying again for you soon is probably making you feel worse. Try not worrying about all the other things you need to do in the day, and when you're feeling low, just give her a cuddle and notice all the little things about her so you can appreciate her better. *hugs* I really hope you're feeling better about things soon Lucy x |
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Did you hate bf at first?
Is there anyone out there that hated breastfeeding at first? DD is 2
weeks old and I really hate breastfeeding. My anxiety starts to rise about 1 hour before each feed because I know she's going to be hungry soon. Every time she fusses the tears well up in my eyes because I know what's coming. We're past the sore nipples phase so it's not the physical pain that's bothering me. It's some type of emotional reaction. Has anyone else experienced this and then went on to have a healthy breastfeeding relationship? this is you 2nd, isn't it Mandy? I also felt like this at this stage with my 2nd, no idea why, she was a much easier baby to feed than my first, feeds were short and spaced out, so it was hardly difficult, I just plain did not like it. I didn't have postnatal depression, though I had had it with my first, I'm not sure at what point I stopped feeling this way, but she's 15 months now and still feeding so it worked out fine! I wonder if some of it was the shock of a child being totally dependent upon me, after 18 months when I didn't have that (counting from when DS started solids) and wondering how I was going to get through that whilst also caring for DS, but it never really came out as concrete thoughts just generalised dislike of the act of breastfeeding. Anne |
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Thanks to everyone for the replies. I hadn't consider PND because my
negative feelings center around breastfeeding only. But it's definately something to keep in mind. I've been hanging on by supplementing with formula at night time. Getting a break from bf'ing every night gives me the strength to bf again in the morning. To answer Anne, yes, this is my second. I only bf DD1 for a week. I had the same issues with the first but I also had a terrible pregnancy and delivery. I was in terrible physical and mental shape and I gave up bf'ing quickly. I'm hoping to hang on for longer with DD2 now that I'm physically and mentally stronger. Thanks for the encouragement. Mandy (hanging on one day at a time ...) |
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Hi... i hated bf for the first 3-4 weeks. it was the worst possible
feeling abt being a mom. but it comes with practice. i was scared that i did not have enough milk and that she was not getting enough and that she was not abel to latch on. but try and try and u will be a pro. now sania is 6 months old..exclusively bf and she's a great sucker ! i got the my breast friend nursing pillow and it worked wonders. earlier i could not hold her correctly and so she had a hard time latching on but with the pillow it was so much easier. please do not give up. bf is the best thing about being a mom. its someting ONLY u can do.. and now since i have resumed working, i continue to pump at work and nurse in the evenings and mornings. its the best thing that you could give ur baby ! all the best ! wrote: Hello, Is there anyone out there that hated breastfeeding at first? DD is 2 weeks old and I really hate breastfeeding. My anxiety starts to rise about 1 hour before each feed because I know she's going to be hungry soon. Every time she fusses the tears well up in my eyes because I know what's coming. We're past the sore nipples phase so it's not the physical pain that's bothering me. It's some type of emotional reaction. Has anyone else experienced this and then went on to have a healthy breastfeeding relationship? Mandy |
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