Clingy 1 year old

My normally happy, friendly, sociable DD has turned into clingy
toddler. She still is sociable, but has been really needy and not
wanting anyone but mommy or daddy, and sometimes not us either! Today
when I dropped her off at daycare she clung to me and wouldn't let go.
She did the same thing when DH dropped her off Friday. i'd worry it
was something about daycare except that she was the same way over the
weekend with *us* - we were in the pool and at first she wouldn't let
go of me and was scared of DH, then after awhile we finally got her to
go with him. I swum around abit, and when I came back she was
terrified of me. She otherwise loved the pool and had a blast. Same
thing with other friends she knows well and usually goes to, she would
shriek.

She's nursing fine, otherwise being her normal self, it's just It's
heartbreaking to leave her

They go through phases like this, I don't think 1 was a "classic" time
for a clingy phase, but it sounds like you didn't get one earlier,
around 9mths, so that's likely what it is, it does hurt, but you have to
work through it, and it will likely happen again, DS went through one
recently, about a month or so before turning 4 and it was specifically
me, I ended up taking him to some evening engagements with a bag of
activities and snacks due to the severity of his response to the idea of
being left at home, thankfully it only lasted a couple of weeks.

cheers
Anne

On Jul 16, 10:50 pm, Anne Rogers wrote:
They go through phases like this, I don't think 1 was a "classic" time
for a clingy phase, but it sounds like you didn't get one earlier,
around 9mths, so that's likely what it is, it does hurt, but you have to
work through it, and it will likely happen again, DS went through one
recently, about a month or so before turning 4 and it was specifically
me, I ended up taking him to some evening engagements with a bag of
activities and snacks due to the severity of his response to the idea of
being left at home, thankfully it only lasted a couple of weeks.


Ah yeah, I guess it' s normal. It's just so heartbreaking when I drop
her off and she won't let me go. The babysitter said she's fine within
5 minutes after I leave, and says not to worry, they'll work through
it, but I feel horrible.

And if figures she's just behind schedule! She's like that with
everything else!

Ah yeah, I guess it' s normal. It's just so heartbreaking when I drop
her off and she won't let me go. The babysitter said she's fine within
5 minutes after I leave, and says not to worry, they'll work through
it, but I feel horrible.

And if figures she's just behind schedule! She's like that with
everything else!

each child has their own schedule, it's hard, because you have to figure
out whether they are doing fine, just slower than average on some
things, or if there is a delay that needs addressing, we're struggling
with know the best thing to do with our DD right now, her speech is way
behind, but then so many children are and have an explosion at some
point, we keep not booking an assessment, because it looks likes she's
starting to, then a couple of weeks later realising it hasn't happened!

Anne

Anne Rogers schrieb:

each child has their own schedule, it's hard, because you have to figure
out whether they are doing fine, just slower than average on some
things, or if there is a delay that needs addressing, we're struggling
with know the best thing to do with our DD right now, her speech is way
behind, but then so many children are and have an explosion at some
point, we keep not booking an assessment, because it looks likes she's
starting to, then a couple of weeks later realising it hasn't happened!


Speaking as a mom of a speech development delayed 7 y.o.: go and make an
appointment. No harm done if it turns out to be nothing, but if there's
a problem the sooner you catch it the better you can treat it.
Sam was diagnosed as speech development delayed at around 2.5 I think
and since testing him took for ever we started therapy when he was 3 and
then went to lots of therapy. Now, at 7 he's still somewhat behind and I
wish a doctor would have taken me seriously when I first raised the
issue at around 1.5 years, but I kept being told "Oh, he's a boy, boys
start talking later. He's fine." and suddenly at 2.5 there was a huge
"OMG why didn't you tell us sooner! Maybe his hearing is impaired!" and
stuff. His hearing's fine by the way..

Just be prepared for a loooooong waiting list. We got out first
appointment nearly half a year after when we made it (I think I asked
for an appointment in February and got one for August or something like
that. It was a long wait, but we got lucky, I called them about once a
month and asked about any openings and I think we finally did see a
specialist in June or something like that...).

cu
nicole

"NL" wrote in message
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Speaking as a mom of a speech development delayed 7 y.o.: go and make an
appointment. No harm done if it turns out to be nothing, but if there's a
problem the sooner you catch it the better you can treat it.
Sam was diagnosed as speech development delayed at around 2.5 I think and
since testing him took for ever we started therapy when he was 3 and then
went to lots of therapy. Now, at 7 he's still somewhat behind and I wish a
doctor would have taken me seriously when I first raised the issue at
around 1.5 years, but I kept being told "Oh, he's a boy, boys start
talking later. He's fine." and suddenly at 2.5 there was a huge "OMG why
didn't you tell us sooner! Maybe his hearing is impaired!" and stuff. His
hearing's fine by the way..

Yes!! Exactly what she said - only my son is 8yo

I've never heard a single person say they regretted getting an evaluation or
wish they'd have waited. I will deeply regret not getting the eval sooner.
Language is a complicated thing and I'll always wonder whether or not his
language struggles today would have been less had he gotten the therapy
sooner. He was late in making sense of language and I think that has to
have some lasting ramification. Of course it is a chicken and egg thing but
the earlier the intervention the better - everyone agrees on that


--
Nikki, mama to
Hunter 4/99
Luke 4/01
Brock 4/06
Ben 4/06

we've had her hearing checked, so that one is fine, the thing that's
slowing me down on the speech therapy assessment is that it looks like
it's not covered on our insurance and we're a bit strapped for cash
right now - our taxes went crazy and we're due an enormous rebate, but
that's a significant chunk of money that we don't currently have
available and don't have much idea when it will be.

Cheers
Anne

Anne Rogers wrote:

we've had her hearing checked, so that one is fine, the thing that's
slowing me down on the speech therapy assessment is that it looks like
it's not covered on our insurance and we're a bit strapped for cash
right now - our taxes went crazy and we're due an enormous rebate, but
that's a significant chunk of money that we don't currently have
available and don't have much idea when it will be.

You should be able to contact your local
Early Start office. They provide therapy
for the under-3 crowd. (I'm not sure if
they do this for non-Americans, though.)

-- Anita --

You should be able to contact your local
Early Start office. They provide therapy
for the under-3 crowd. (I'm not sure if
they do this for non-Americans, though.)

I think as residents and tax payers we qualify for everything, but I'm
not entirely sure. The doctor told us our insurance did cover it - which
I know you can't always trust that, but so many people have this
particular one around here that they do tend to know, but when I looked
it up it mentioned speech therapy wasn't covered, but only under a
section on Autism benefits, and no mention of it elsewhere. We also have
this bizarre thing where some things are covered if they are given by a
doctor, but not if they are given by someone trained in that specific
thing, but not a doctor, such as massage, a massage therapist might
actually give you a far better treatment.

Cheers
Anne

Anne Rogers wrote:

I think as residents and tax payers we qualify for everything, but I'm
not entirely sure. The doctor told us our insurance did cover it - which
I know you can't always trust that, but so many people have this
particular one around here that they do tend to know, but when I looked
it up it mentioned speech therapy wasn't covered, but only under a
section on Autism benefits, and no mention of it elsewhere. We also have
this bizarre thing where some things are covered if they are given by a
doctor, but not if they are given by someone trained in that specific
thing, but not a doctor, such as massage, a massage therapist might
actually give you a far better treatment.

Interesting... we have some insurance coverage
for speech, but not related to autism, even
though that's what we have... We have to get
our pediatrician to write a letter recommending
whatever therapy it is (90 minutes of occupational
therapy or 2 60-minute sessions of speech) to
get the insurance company to cover it. We need
to get this every 6 months.

-- Anita --