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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes
can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. Here's where we stand: He can "hold it" for hours. He can ask for a diaper when he wants to go. He has never ever made anything in the potty. Only on a few occasions has he sat his bare bottom on the potty and although he sat that way and watched a whole video he didn't make. (45 min on the potty then held out for a diaper.) He will not pull down his pants or let me so he can sit on the potty - right now he is sitting there fully dressed but i figured it's something!! I can't bribe him -he's not that kind of kid. If he happens to be undressed and i offer him a tape and say "why don't you sit on the potty and watch this" he will - that's it. I have put him in cloth training pants a few times, he is reluctant to put then on and just waits and waits i guess. last time i eventually put him in a diaper because we had to go out. Should i just keep him in training pants or underpants till he has an accident so he can see what happens? i thin khe mnight be upset by that. Because i would have to refuse to give him a diaper for that to happen - and he is refusing to use the potty. Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) Any input and advice will help - i am not looking for an overnight success i just don't know what i am doing and if i should stop!! Thanks - JoAnna |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
If he doesn't seem interested yet, I'd wait til he's 3 to get the ball
rolling... so I'd wait a few months... Maybe even not mention it at all for a few weeks. My son just wasn't interested until a month or two after he turned 3... we encouraged him as much as we could, but being even the slightest bit pushy about it had the opposite intended effect. g One day he just started going in the potty and never looked back- and this was when I stopped mentioning it at all, LOL. ( we had some help from grandma LOL, she had him overnight and gave him some extra encouragement, and when he came home he was all about the potty) I think what helped him was thinking it was his own choice, you know? so it may be an "overnight success" if you let him choose when. In my mind it seemed silly to struggle for several months with it, with the net result of him being completely potty trained, rather than just waiting out the few months until he felt ready, with the net result of him being completely potty trained (in the same amt. of time). and less clean-up too! But- my son can be really obstinate, this is all from my point of view- you know your son best and what will work best! Age 2 is (in my mind, anyway) "almost a baby" still. and, of course, boys potty train later than girls. I like Kat's suggestions to get him pumped up for it! Good luck! Bethany "Drop50" wrote in message . net... Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. Here's where we stand: He can "hold it" for hours. He can ask for a diaper when he wants to go. He has never ever made anything in the potty. Only on a few occasions has he sat his bare bottom on the potty and although he sat that way and watched a whole video he didn't make. (45 min on the potty then held out for a diaper.) He will not pull down his pants or let me so he can sit on the potty - right now he is sitting there fully dressed but i figured it's something!! I can't bribe him -he's not that kind of kid. If he happens to be undressed and i offer him a tape and say "why don't you sit on the potty and watch this" he will - that's it. I have put him in cloth training pants a few times, he is reluctant to put then on and just waits and waits i guess. last time i eventually put him in a diaper because we had to go out. Should i just keep him in training pants or underpants till he has an accident so he can see what happens? i thin khe mnight be upset by that. Because i would have to refuse to give him a diaper for that to happen - and he is refusing to use the potty. Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) Any input and advice will help - i am not looking for an overnight success i just don't know what i am doing and if i should stop!! Thanks - JoAnna |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
"Drop50" wrote in message . net... Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. Here's where we stand: He can "hold it" for hours. He can ask for a diaper when he wants to go. He has never ever made anything in the potty. Only on a few occasions has he sat his bare bottom on the potty and although he sat that way and watched a whole video he didn't make. (45 min on the potty then held out for a diaper.) He will not pull down his pants or let me so he can sit on the potty - right now he is sitting there fully dressed but i figured it's something!! I can't bribe him -he's not that kind of kid. If he happens to be undressed and i offer him a tape and say "why don't you sit on the potty and watch this" he will - that's it. I have put him in cloth training pants a few times, he is reluctant to put then on and just waits and waits i guess. last time i eventually put him in a diaper because we had to go out. Should i just keep him in training pants or underpants till he has an accident so he can see what happens? i thin khe mnight be upset by that. Because i would have to refuse to give him a diaper for that to happen - and he is refusing to use the potty. Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) Any input and advice will help - i am not looking for an overnight success i just don't know what i am doing and if i should stop!! Thanks - JoAnna I'm with Kat on this. My dd is 3 years 4 months and now she is past the refusal stage and will go sometimes. If I pressure her she and she is diaperless she will go anywhere but the potty or her chair. Sometimes she chooses to wear her underwear (Nemo!) and she will make a perfect score both going poop and pee in the potty. Little stinker wants the control and I can't say I blame her. At her age this is her way of ruling the roost! Anni |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
"Drop50" wrote in message . net... Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. DS is afraid of the toilet. He's okay around it, but he refuses to get on it. I let him use a potty chair and he's fine with that. Why don't you try that? I take a portable toilet with us in the car when we go out. It folds up and is more sanitary than a public restroom. DS is not completely potty trained. He won't be 3 until June. He does go when we put him on the potty chair and he occasionally tells us he needs to go. I wouldn't worry just yet. You might just try the potty chair, though. |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
"toypup" wrote in message news:PoQUb.240281$na.397050@attbi_s04... "Drop50" wrote in message . net... Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. DS is afraid of the toilet. He's okay around it, but he refuses to get on it. I let him use a potty chair and he's fine with that. Why don't you try that? I take a portable toilet with us in the car when we go out. It folds up and is more sanitary than a public restroom. DS is not completely potty trained. He won't be 3 until June. He does go when we put him on the potty chair and he occasionally tells us he needs to go. I wouldn't worry just yet. You might just try the potty chair, though. I guess i wasn't clear on that...we have a seat for the toilet AND a potty chair for him. he won't even entertain the idea of getting near the toilet. the rest i said had to do with the potty chair. |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
Drop50 wrote:
Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. Luke will be three in April. He is the same way. He is physically ready. He can do his own clothes, he stopped himself from peeing on the bed when we were getting dressed the other day. He declares he loves his diapers and doesn't want to use the potty. At this point I'm not doing anything at all about it. I'm not up for the stress, lol. If he hasn't declared himself ready by next fall I'll try to encourage him a bit. I want him to be able to do some out of home activities and around here they all require them to be trained. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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Potty Help Please
"Drop50" wrote in message
. net... Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. Here's where we stand: He can "hold it" for hours. He can ask for a diaper when he wants to go. He has never ever made anything in the potty. Only on a few occasions has he sat his bare bottom on the potty and although he sat that way and watched a whole video he didn't make. (45 min on the potty then held out for a diaper.) He will not pull down his pants or let me so he can sit on the potty - right now he is sitting there fully dressed but i figured it's something!! I can't bribe him -he's not that kind of kid. If he happens to be undressed and i offer him a tape and say "why don't you sit on the potty and watch this" he will - that's it. I have put him in cloth training pants a few times, he is reluctant to put then on and just waits and waits i guess. last time i eventually put him in a diaper because we had to go out. Should i just keep him in training pants or underpants till he has an accident so he can see what happens? i thin khe mnight be upset by that. Because i would have to refuse to give him a diaper for that to happen - and he is refusing to use the potty. Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) Any input and advice will help - i am not looking for an overnight success i just don't know what i am doing and if i should stop!! Thanks - JoAnna Your son sounds physically ready, but it also sounds as though you've created a control issue. My advice is to go back to diapers all day. Matter-of-factly, with no emotion, tell him that boys who tinkle on the potty can wear underpants. Then, wait! Yes, just wait, until he tells you he wants to go on the potty. He clearly understands what it's for and what not to do in his underpants, but you've become too emotionally invested in it for him not to enjoy the power of his rebelliousness. You might ask, maybe only 2 or 3 times a week, if he would like to go on the potty, but seem completely unconcerned whether his answer is yes or no. If he says no, say 'okay, maybe some other time.' If he says yes, be pleased, but not overly joyous. If he actually goes on the potty, don't overly praise him either. This has to be about him doing it for himself. You might even buy him some very cool character underwear and let him know they're in his drawer for when he's ready. Just as a matter of fact! HTH, -Patty, mom to Corinne (5.75y) and Nathan (3.5y) and stepmom to Victoria (13.5y) |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
On Fri, 06 Feb 2004 16:25:21 GMT, "Drop50" wrote:
Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) He's not even three yet. Boys tend to train later. My son didn't potty train until he was almost 4, my daughter trained at about 2.5 My advice is to put him back in diapers and leave it until the summer. Then let him run around totally pantless so he can see what is happening. Also make sure he sees dad using the bathroom. He may want to stand up to pee and you can put something he can aim at in the potty for peeing (Someone suggested a cheerio, I think). -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Potty Help Please (x-posted)
"toto" wrote in message ... On Fri, 06 Feb 2004 16:25:21 GMT, "Drop50" wrote: Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) He's not even three yet. Boys tend to train later. My son didn't potty train until he was almost 4, my daughter trained at about 2.5 he is going to school next sept. and they want them potty trained. My advice is to put him back in diapers and leave it until the summer. Then let him run around totally pantless so he can see what is happening. i will be trying that Also make sure he sees dad using the bathroom. He may want to stand up to pee and you can put something he can aim at in the potty for peeing (Someone suggested a cheerio, I think). he has seen dad go baziillion times, he kows how it all works - i tried having a step in the bathroom for him to try using the toilet standing but he won't even let me undo his pants!!!!! (no - he won't do that himself...) just a little fustrated . i have put the potty awayt for now and will wait for a while. grrrumble. (but thanks for the tips) -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Potty Help Please
"PattyMomVA" wrote in message ... "Drop50" wrote in message . net... Okay...I don't know what to do so i hope someone who has been in my shoes can help. My DS is going to be 3 in May. I want to work on using the potty with him but he flat-out refuses to use the Big Potty (i have akiddy seat for the toilet) and is very reluctant to sit on his potty. Here's where we stand: He can "hold it" for hours. He can ask for a diaper when he wants to go. He has never ever made anything in the potty. Only on a few occasions has he sat his bare bottom on the potty and although he sat that way and watched a whole video he didn't make. (45 min on the potty then held out for a diaper.) He will not pull down his pants or let me so he can sit on the potty - right now he is sitting there fully dressed but i figured it's something!! I can't bribe him -he's not that kind of kid. If he happens to be undressed and i offer him a tape and say "why don't you sit on the potty and watch this" he will - that's it. I have put him in cloth training pants a few times, he is reluctant to put then on and just waits and waits i guess. last time i eventually put him in a diaper because we had to go out. Should i just keep him in training pants or underpants till he has an accident so he can see what happens? i thin khe mnight be upset by that. Because i would have to refuse to give him a diaper for that to happen - and he is refusing to use the potty. Is he just not ready? I do not want to push him but he seems ready in most respects. he just seems to *love* his diapers! (maybe i'll switch him to leaky cheap uncomfortable ones!!) Any input and advice will help - i am not looking for an overnight success i just don't know what i am doing and if i should stop!! Thanks - JoAnna Your son sounds physically ready, but it also sounds as though you've created a control issue. My advice is to go back to diapers all day. Matter-of-factly, with no emotion, tell him that boys who tinkle on the potty can wear underpants. Then, wait! Yes, just wait, until he tells you he wants to go on the potty. He clearly understands what it's for and what not to do in his underpants, but you've become too emotionally invested in it for him not to enjoy the power of his rebelliousness. You might ask, maybe only 2 or 3 times a week, if he would like to go on the potty, but seem completely unconcerned whether his answer is yes or no. If he says no, say 'okay, maybe some other time.' If he says yes, be pleased, but not overly joyous. If he actually goes on the potty, don't overly praise him either. This has to be about him doing it for himself. You might even buy him some very cool character underwear and let him know they're in his drawer for when he's ready. Just as a matter of fact! HTH, -Patty, mom to Corinne (5.75y) and Nathan (3.5y) and stepmom to Victoria (13.5y) thanks . he's got some snazzy thomas undies but he is totally against them. i don't think he is into a power struggle - i think he is just scared to be out of diapers for some reason - i dunno maybe not scared but he has made it clear to me so far that the potty is not for him!!!! oh well - i put the potty away for now. we'll see what happens next month. |
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