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Jeff wrote:
"Chris" wrote in message (...) I can definitely understand an 11 year old being bored with the traditional after-school program and I would at least give the alternative a try. I agree. It would be good to have a backup plan, in case things do work out, like going back with the 8 and 9 year olds. Yeah, I agree, too. I've already touched bases with the head of her current program, and we could return there. Or even swap off weeks. I think we should do a one-week trial of the middle schooler program and then see what The Kid would prefer to do. The only downside is that the program could fill up. On the other hand, though, I don't really want to commit my kid to a whole summer of a program that she may not like. The kids in the afterschool program that morphs into a summer program aren't just 8 or 9. It runs the gauntlet from preschool through elementary age. The bulk of the kids, however, are on the quite-a-bit-younger side. Thanks for writing. beeswing |
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animzmirot wrote:
Because my son is academically advanced 2 full years, he has no choice but to socialize with kids that are, on average, 3 years older than he is. We've had a few issues, mostly due to his wanting desperately to be feeling the same feelings his friends, who have mostly passed through puberty while my kid hasn't even started, are experiencing with regards to the opposite gender. Other than that, he's basically much much happier with older kids who are much more in synch with his intellectual ability and his sense of humor. His age peers really don't get him at all. His twin sister, who shares his very late August b'day, is also in classes with kids at least a year older. Ditto for camp. She also fits in much better with older kids, even though academically she might be a bit lost. She's just more mature socially than her age peers after being with older kids her entire academic life. This summer she'll be attending the 'teen' program at camp, for kids 13+, but she won't be 13 until the very end of August. Gradewise she's fine, but she is a bit immature in some aspects socially, like being truthful and trustworthy. She's a teenage girl, afterall! Her brother is going away to Yale for summer camp this summer in a program for high schoolers. He will be the youngest by several years, and it might be challanging socially for him. He's mature in some aspects, and a real little boy in other aspects. This might be a tough summer for him, but I have faith that he's going to be much happier in this program than staying with his age peers. I guess I think that your kid, who is after all only 6 months shy of 11, will be happier with older peers than in a boring afterschool program. I'd definately try it if I were you. Thanks for your stories. It's especially helpful because my daugher is younger but academically advanced, so I appreciate hearing how your kids did with older kids. At school, my daughter has been in an accelerated class with same-age peers, so this will be her first time interacting at any length with older kids. On the other hand, she starts middle school (there's a 5th grade) next year and this exactly the age of the kids she'll need to be adjusting to. beeswing |
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Rosalie B. wrote:
"beeswing" wrote: When my oldest daughter was almost 11, I sent her to Girl Scout camp (sleepover) for a week, and then to a primitive horse camp (also GS) for a week. At the regular camp, she was in a group of 9-11 year olds and this was a positive experience. That's great. The Kid is going to Girl Scout camp for a week and will be in a unit of Junior-aged kids. She's right smack in the middle of the age range, and I expect that she'll really like being among kids her age unstead of younger. However the primitive camp was for 11-14 year olds and she was about the youngest there. She was not large for her age, although she was quite academically advanced, and she was emotionally mature, but not physically or socially mature. My daughter looks like a teenager. *sigh* So physically, she'll probably blend in. Socially? I don't know. Could indeed pose a problem. She had no problem with the primitive part of the camping experience - they had tents, but they had to do their own cooking, carry water, from a pump etc. She loved the horseback riding part of the camp. Her problem was that she needed quite a bit of sleep - she's not the kind of kid that can sit up all night and function the next day. The other girls were into nail polish and talking about boys and were wearing bras whereas she was still a little girl. They teased her a bit about that, and about the fact that she wanted to go to sleep rather than painting her toenails or something. Yeah, this stuff concerns me: the whole girls must be into boys and fingernail polish (though not necessarily in that order.) One of the reasons she's unhappy with her current school is that she dislikes this kind of "girl talk" -- and that leaves her excluded. I don't think she was totally miserable or anything, but I think it could have been a better experience for her. I also had a bad week at a Girl Scout camp where I was in a tent with a couple of girls from the orphanage who were less socially mature than the average, and a couple of girls who were much more socially mature than the average, and I was in the middle. I spent a lot of time sitting out on the bluff (and got a really bad case of chiggers) until the counselors called me in to talk to me. I remember dissolving into tears. This was my only really bad camp experience though out of many weeks at camp and while it was a similar problem to that which my daughter experience, it was not really due to an age difference. So my point is that a sleepover camp experience depends a lot on the people you are with, and age is only one factor. For your daughter, I think the problem will be much less at a day camp type place - I think the problems my daughter and I experienced would not have been problems if we were only there during the day. I appreciate you sharing your perspective. Thanks for writing. beeswubg |
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Penny Gaines wrote:
One option might be for her to act as some kind of helper with the younger kids at the current daycare. She might be bored being expected to do what the 8 & 9 yos are doing, but she might enjoy being the big girl helping the toddlers. It's a good idea -- her current program thought of it, too. They've been trying it out (having her help out with the preschoolers at times) with some success. But I think what The Kid really needs is some more same-age/similar-intellect peers. She's getting really burnt out on having preschoolers demolish her elaborately built block structures and such and trying to play basketball and kickball with five-year-olds. It's understandable enough. Thanks for writing. beeswing |
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In article .com,
beeswing wrote: With both programs, you can sign up a week at a time (conceivably, though, they could fill up some weeks). I'm thinking we should try the middle schooler camp for a week, then see what The Kid would prefer to do. She could even swap off weeks and move between the two. You should find out if they usually do tend to fill up, and what their cancellation policies are (should you wish to hedge your bets and sign up for both for some of the weeks). Around here, it would be hard to get a kid into later weeks of a "good" summer program after summer begins. They are starting to fill up around now, with the reality of school ending in under 2 weeks finally hitting home with the parents. It sounds like you need her to be in a program for childcare as much as to entertain her, and if so, you don't want to end up high and dry should the desired (or worse both!) program(s) fill up while you're deciding. Good luck! --Robyn .. |
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Robyn Kozierok wrote:
You should find out if they usually do tend to fill up, and what their cancellation policies are (should you wish to hedge your bets and sign up for both for some of the weeks). Around here, it would be hard to get a kid into later weeks of a "good" summer program after summer begins. They are starting to fill up around now, with the reality of school ending in under 2 weeks finally hitting home with the parents. It sounds like you need her to be in a program for childcare as much as to entertain her, and if so, you don't want to end up high and dry should the desired (or worse both!) program(s) fill up while you're deciding. Good luck! Thanks for the good advice. We do need childcare, but we're very lucky on one count -- we're assured a place in her current program any week we need one. So that's a weight off our shoulders. That leaves the question of whether or not the middle schooler program might fill up...and it might just. I should ask them the likelihood, as you suggest. At least we're not high and dry if it turns out she can't get in. I'd really rather try at least one week in the new program (if The Kid chooses to go that route) before committing to an entire summer there. Thanks for writing. beeswing |
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In article .com,
beeswing wrote: Thanks for the good advice. We do need childcare, but we're very lucky on one count -- we're assured a place in her current program any week we need one. So that's a weight off our shoulders. Ah, that does make things considerably less stressful! I was afraid if you waited until she had a chance to try the new program, you might find *both* programs full for at least some of the weeks, leaving you in a bind. Obviously, it would stink if she loves the new program and then can't get in for the rest of the summer, but at least she'd know about it for the next year. In any case, I'd bet that some weeks might have openings if not all. I don't know how your daughter is about change/variety, but you might see if there are some shorter-term special-interest camps she might be interested in for a single week for variety. My kids like the variety and are signed up for a dizzying array of special-interest day camps for the part of the summer we need them to do that for childcare purposes: arts and crafts, gymnastics, soccer, history, animals, music, horseback riding, etc... Our local library keeps a folder of summer camp flyers that is a good place to start. Anyhow, I hope whatever you end up doing works out well for your daughter! The tween years can be tough. I am starting to see this with my 11yo as well. --Robyn .. |
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For nearly ten years, I have been the storyteller at two residential youth camps at a Quaker conference center near Santa Cruz in California. The camps started 12 years ago with one session for ages 9 and up. After two summers, that got split into two sessions by grade level. One is for rising fifth, sixth, and seventh graders, the other for rising eighth, ninth, and tenth graders. We have made a few exceptions about the 7/8 placement to keep friends or siblings together, but we usually resist the requests of parents to have an eighth grader in the younger camp when that seems based on the parents' wish to postpone teenageness.
I really enjoy working with the younger camp age range [mostly 9 to 12] in storytelling and community building activities drawn from the Alternatives to Violence Project. We have had a few seventh grade campers who came for the first time with an 'I'm really too old for this' attitude about some activities, but our counselors are mostly former campers and great at drawing everyone in. Usually each camp has 25 - 30 campers, 6 teen counselors, 3 young adult program planners/leaders, and 6 older adult support staff. This year each camp still has a few spaces left. You can find out more about them at http://www.quakercenter.org/Pages/Pr...uakerCamp.html and http://www.quakercenter.org/Pages/Pr...rviceCamp.html Tom Farley, Spontaneous Combustion Storytellers http://www.spont.com/ |
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On 2005-06-03, Robyn Kozierok wrote:
You should find out if they usually do tend to fill up, and what their cancellation policies are (should you wish to hedge your bets and sign up for both for some of the weeks). Around here, it would be hard to get a kid into later weeks of a "good" summer program after summer begins. They are starting to fill up around now, with the reality of school ending in under 2 weeks finally hitting home with the parents. "starting to fill up around now"? You must either have a *lot* of summer programs available, or few parents interested in them Most of the programs we were interested in opened registration in March and filled up in April. ------------------------------------------------------------ Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus Professor of Biomolecular Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics (Senior member, IEEE) (Board of Directors, ISCB) life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Affiliations for identification only. |
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Kevin Karplus wrote: "starting to fill up around now"? You must either have a *lot* of summer programs available, or few parents interested in them Most of the programs we were interested in opened registration in March and filled up in April. We did have to register for Girl Scout resident camp that early, and I know if we were trying to get The Kid into aquarium camp (which she did one week one year) or another special-interest program, we'd have to book early. Our current program feeds out of the before-and-after-school program and usually just has a subset of those kids there, so they basically staff it to fit. The other one we're looking at is a community center program, and as such, there's not probably as big of a draw. beeswing |
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