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10 ways to be a better father
In article , Bob
wrote: dragonlady wrote: Bob did. Bob has consistently said that he doesn't think adultry hurts a marriage. Uh, no. That wasn't what Bob said. Bob said that adultry often doesn't hurt a marriage as much as jealousy, spite, vindictiveness, malice, feminism, and *******s. You would probably be better posting your own opinion and not trying to paraphrase someone else's opinion. Bob Bob, you demanded that I show that adultery hurt a marriage, and insisted that there was no harm if the person wasn't caught. If I misunderstood you, please clarify: is adultery harmful to a marriage? Does it make a difference to you if it is a man committing adultery or a woman? Assume that there are NO children conceived or STD's brought into the marriage. Assume, if you like, that they don't get caught. Is adultery under those circumstances wrong and/or harmful to the marriage? meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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On Wed, 26 Nov 2003 12:09:08 -0800, Rauni
wrote: On Wed, 26 Nov 2003 19:44:25 GMT, dragonlady wrote: Can you ever decry men's deeds when THEY are wrong? Of course not! Andre and the soc.men crowd have embraced the "culture of victimhood" You know victimhood empowerment through victimhood-chip-on-the-shoulder, Us-vs-Them mentality. The are trying to outshout and out-whine the very feminist they hate. Maybe they need to examine there immortals words "We have met the enemy... and he is us" Pogo They are engaging in what those who are recovering from abuse call abuse-sizing. My abuse was worse than your abuse thinking. It doesn't promote recovery among the victims of abuse and I doubt it is promoting health among those engaging in it here. "The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple." -- Oscar Wilde -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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dragonlady wrote:
In article , Bob wrote: dragonlady wrote: Bob did. Bob has consistently said that he doesn't think adultry hurts a marriage. Uh, no. That wasn't what Bob said. Bob said that adultry often doesn't hurt a marriage as much as jealousy, spite, vindictiveness, malice, feminism, and *******s. You would probably be better posting your own opinion and not trying to paraphrase someone else's opinion. Bob Bob, you demanded that I show that adultery hurt a marriage, and insisted that there was no harm if the person wasn't caught. Bob suggests that you take a remedial reading class as well as restricting yourself to posting your own opinions. Bob pointed out that dragonlady can not point to any particular harm that adultery (of itself) does to a marriage. Dragonlady posted the strawman about "no harm if the person wasn't caught." Your straw man argument is your own. If I misunderstood you, please clarify: is adultery harmful to a marriage? Does it make a difference to you if it is a man committing adultery or a woman? Bob has consistently advocated equal rights and equal responsibilities. Adultery (by itself) often cause less harm than jealousy, spite, vindictiveness, malice, feminism, and *******s. Dragonlady could not point to any harm that adultery does other than providing a convenient excuse for jealousy, spite, vindictiveness, malice, feminism, and *******s. In real life adultery is not all bad nor all good, nor the same in every situation. In some dried up boring marriages adultery may add spice and excitement to one partner who brings the renewed sexual energy home to the marriage. It can help to "get your battery charged" and be a boon to a marriage. In others situations it may provide an excuse for a feminist looking for a reason to leave her boring marriage and justify (in her mind) hurting her children. Bob finds that moralizing and criticizing generally doesn't consider the particular situation and often only adds to the potential for harm. Assume that there are NO children conceived or STD's brought into the marriage. Assume, if you like, that they don't get caught. Is adultery under those circumstances wrong and/or harmful to the marriage? meh Neither always harmful, nor always helpful. See above. Note: Bob is not Christian and generally does not recognize the moral dictates of that religions as given or "truth." Moral values often vary a lot from one religion to the next, and quite often come down to "do what you're told." Bob |
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dragonlady wrote:
In article , Bob wrote: Whelping a ******* into a family is another matter entirely. A woman out whoring needs to make better choices than to get pregnant and birth a *******. There are technological options today so there is no excuse. Bob As I said, if both parties have agreed to non-monogomy, I have no quarrel with whatever they do; we were talking about the sorts of affairs to which one partner has NOT agreed. Frequently such "NOT agreement" is a ruse for control and domination of one's spouse. Bob observes that control and domination by either spouse is often harmful to the relationship. Both would be better served by supporting the emotional needs of his/her partner, and are poorly served forcing lying by refusing to accept the partners real feelings. You undermine your claim to stand for equality in relationships and support for polyamory when you refer to the men as having affairs, and the women as "out whoring". What would you call it if you weren't beating around the bush? While I agree that, *for both women and men*, taking proper precautions to avoid pregnancy and STD's is critical, I think you should use equally insulting or accepting terms to refer to both men and women involved in polyamorous relationships. meh Would "out ****ing" be better? Bob |
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Andre Lieven wrote:
Its so cute to see that you all, now that you've utterly FAILED to prevail in debate, have now resorted to mutual masturbation fests, where you decry what *you wish we had said*.... They always do that. The femroids need to reassure each other to keep from having to think about how bigoted their beliefs are. Bob |
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On Wed, 26 Nov 2003 14:32:11 -0700, Bob wrote:
You undermine your claim to stand for equality in relationships and support for polyamory when you refer to the men as having affairs, and the women as "out whoring". What would you call it if you weren't beating around the bush? Both men and women have affairs. Or both men and women are *out whoring* It's the same for both, Bob. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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In article , Bob
wrote: Andre Lieven wrote: Its so cute to see that you all, now that you've utterly FAILED to prevail in debate, have now resorted to mutual masturbation fests, where you decry what *you wish we had said*.... They always do that. The femroids need to reassure each other to keep from having to think about how bigoted their beliefs are. Bob Unlike the folks from soc.men, who never resort to just talking to each other to reinforce their bizarre beliefs. . . -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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In article , Bob
wrote: dragonlady wrote: In article , Bob wrote: Whelping a ******* into a family is another matter entirely. A woman out whoring needs to make better choices than to get pregnant and birth a *******. There are technological options today so there is no excuse. Bob As I said, if both parties have agreed to non-monogomy, I have no quarrel with whatever they do; we were talking about the sorts of affairs to which one partner has NOT agreed. Frequently such "NOT agreement" is a ruse for control and domination of one's spouse. Bob observes that control and domination by either spouse is often harmful to the relationship. Both would be better served by supporting the emotional needs of his/her partner, and are poorly served forcing lying by refusing to accept the partners real feelings. IOW, if someone can't manage to keep their vows and their infidelity hurts the marriage, it's really the fault of the spouse who WAS faithful, for not . . . for not, what, exactly? For not saying, "or poor baby I'm glad you were out screwing someone else since that's what you seemed to need? You undermine your claim to stand for equality in relationships and support for polyamory when you refer to the men as having affairs, and the women as "out whoring". What would you call it if you weren't beating around the bush? While I agree that, *for both women and men*, taking proper precautions to avoid pregnancy and STD's is critical, I think you should use equally insulting or accepting terms to refer to both men and women involved in polyamorous relationships. meh Would "out ****ing" be better? Bob I don't care what you call it -- I just want language that is equally offensive (or inoffensive) for referring to what BOTH men and women do when they have sex outside of their marriage vows. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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toto wrote:
On Wed, 26 Nov 2003 14:32:11 -0700, Bob wrote: You undermine your claim to stand for equality in relationships and support for polyamory when you refer to the men as having affairs, and the women as "out whoring". What would you call it if you weren't beating around the bush? Both men and women have affairs. Or both men and women are *out whoring* It's the same for both, Bob. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits Another grammar flame. How enlightened. Bob |
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In article , dragonlady
says... In article , Bob wrote: Andre Lieven wrote: Its so cute to see that you all, now that you've utterly FAILED to prevail in debate, have now resorted to mutual masturbation fests, where you decry what *you wish we had said*.... They always do that. The femroids need to reassure each other to keep from having to think about how bigoted their beliefs are. Bob Unlike the folks from soc.men, who never resort to just talking to each other to reinforce their bizarre beliefs. . . -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care LOL. Oh but the think it's different when they do it... after all, *what* is 'soc.men'? Banty |
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