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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
can someone tell me , if the parents of a pregnant 16 year old teen are
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
On 3 Sep 2006 09:27:59 -0700, "shari"
wrote: can someone tell me , if the parents of a pregnant 16 year old teen are responsible for her and the baby after the baby is born? Your best bet would be to check with a Legal Aid office. They can help you with legal issues if you have little or no income. Nan |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move
out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby Nan wrote: On 3 Sep 2006 09:27:59 -0700, "shari" wrote: can someone tell me , if the parents of a pregnant 16 year old teen are responsible for her and the baby after the baby is born? Your best bet would be to check with a Legal Aid office. They can help you with legal issues if you have little or no income. Nan |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
"shari" wrote in message ups.com... my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby No idea about Michigan... Here you can legally kick your child out at 15, but you are still legally responsible for that child. At 16, they can legally move out or be made to move out. You would not be responsible for her child, as that is her child, not yours. Check with legal aid or something in your area. Social services would know as well, I'm sure, as far as how things work in your area. Nan wrote: On 3 Sep 2006 09:27:59 -0700, "shari" wrote: can someone tell me , if the parents of a pregnant 16 year old teen are responsible for her and the baby after the baby is born? Your best bet would be to check with a Legal Aid office. They can help you with legal issues if you have little or no income. Nan |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
On 3 Sep 2006 10:26:12 -0700, "shari"
wrote: my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby It's probably not a question you'll get an answer to, on a newsgroup. You need to talk with someone versed in Michigan family law. My uneducated *guess* is that you won't be legally responsible for the baby, but I have no idea as to if you'd be legally responsible for your daughter. Instead of trying to find out if you can kick them out, why not research ways you can help your daughter and grandchild so they won't be dependent on others? Nan |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
"shari" wrote in message
ups.com... my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby Maybe you both need counseling if you are looking at kicking her out and worrying if you're responsible for them both. Marie |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
you guys dont have a daughter who thinks everyone should quit their
jobs to raise her kid she wont even get a job. she claims NO rules apply to her...so before you start to preach to me about "counseling" maybe you should know more facts. this is a situation way beyond the counseling stage. she needs to be out on her own. thats why im trying to find out this information. Marie wrote: "shari" wrote in message ups.com... my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby Maybe you both need counseling if you are looking at kicking her out and worrying if you're responsible for them both. Marie |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
"shari" wrote in message
oups.com... you guys dont have a daughter who thinks everyone should quit their jobs to raise her kid she wont even get a job. she claims NO rules apply to her...so before you start to preach to me about "counseling" maybe you should know more facts. this is a situation way beyond the counseling stage. she needs to be out on her own. thats why im trying to find out this information. No, I don't have a 16 year old daughter at all. I *was* your 16 year old daughter, although I didn't have the attitude that you just said your daughter has. Maybe you should give more facts and info. If she wants to lay down and make babies, then so be it. If she thinks she's a big enough girl to make babies and live with her decisions, then she needs to do just that. If she's living in La-La Land, maybe she does need a good shove into the Real World. Call around and get info from your area. No one, it seems, is from the Michigan area (at least, no one has come forward with solid info on how it works in Michigan.) If I were you, I would call child social services, or whatever it is in your area. My mom had booted me out of her house and sent me to foster care, where I had lived for *maybe* 5ish months. I was pg with DS1, 15 and shortly after he was born, I was out of the foster home and I had my own place out of the system. Sure, I was still in school at this time, which was far more important to finish school, on gov't assistance, to allow me to get a real job rather than working some lousy dead end job that just doesn't pay any bills. I did what I had to do, my parents did what they had to do. Now mine are 6.5, 5.5 and 1 - wow, I feel old! Your daughter may need a swift kick in the rear to make her open up her eyes. If she has a really crappy attitude, find ways to help her, not condemn her. Kick her out, but see if there's something like a foster home you can go to - foster care won't make you a bad parent. My mom is a child welfare supervisor and she did what she had to do for me, and also for the family. I really don't think I would be here today if she didn't do what she did. She helped me find support to live, go to school, work, be a good, responsible parent, and at an age where I should have been out acting like a foolish teenager. Things change by decisions we make - your daughter seemed to have made the decision to play house. Now what? No, I'm not attacking you or anything along those lines. Find a way to have her in the real world. It's time she opens her eyes and sees that the real world isn't how she's currently seeing it. If you're done raising your children, finished with raising babies, make that clear that you will NOT raise her child - your grandchild - but offer any support she may want or need, even what she doesn't think she wants or needs. Be a grandma to your grandchild, not a parent. That's not your place. Your place, as a grandma, is to have your daughter and grandchild visit and have fun. You can offer a hand - offer to help her find somewhere to live, find schooling or a job, find childcare when that time comes, help her with housework, laundry, cooking - help her learn, I should say - and offer to be a babysitter on occasion for her to have a break, if that's what you want. Don't offer to raise her child if that's not what you want. Find out what works in your area. Marie wrote: "shari" wrote in message ups.com... my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby Maybe you both need counseling if you are looking at kicking her out and worrying if you're responsible for them both. Marie |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
only reason why she got pregnant is because my 18 year old daughter did
and the 16 year old figured id kick out the 18 year old who helps pay bills....she refuses to get a job and refuses to clean house ..i had to pay her court fines ..for when she was put on probation for skipping school and shes suppose to pay me back but she wont because she says she dont have to do anything this is another reason why i want her to move out when her kid is born because i cant pay for her and her kid.plus she wants me to quit my job .. xkatx wrote: "shari" wrote in message oups.com... you guys dont have a daughter who thinks everyone should quit their jobs to raise her kid she wont even get a job. she claims NO rules apply to her...so before you start to preach to me about "counseling" maybe you should know more facts. this is a situation way beyond the counseling stage. she needs to be out on her own. thats why im trying to find out this information. No, I don't have a 16 year old daughter at all. I *was* your 16 year old daughter, although I didn't have the attitude that you just said your daughter has. Maybe you should give more facts and info. If she wants to lay down and make babies, then so be it. If she thinks she's a big enough girl to make babies and live with her decisions, then she needs to do just that. If she's living in La-La Land, maybe she does need a good shove into the Real World. Call around and get info from your area. No one, it seems, is from the Michigan area (at least, no one has come forward with solid info on how it works in Michigan.) If I were you, I would call child social services, or whatever it is in your area. My mom had booted me out of her house and sent me to foster care, where I had lived for *maybe* 5ish months. I was pg with DS1, 15 and shortly after he was born, I was out of the foster home and I had my own place out of the system. Sure, I was still in school at this time, which was far more important to finish school, on gov't assistance, to allow me to get a real job rather than working some lousy dead end job that just doesn't pay any bills. I did what I had to do, my parents did what they had to do. Now mine are 6.5, 5.5 and 1 - wow, I feel old! Your daughter may need a swift kick in the rear to make her open up her eyes. If she has a really crappy attitude, find ways to help her, not condemn her. Kick her out, but see if there's something like a foster home you can go to - foster care won't make you a bad parent. My mom is a child welfare supervisor and she did what she had to do for me, and also for the family. I really don't think I would be here today if she didn't do what she did. She helped me find support to live, go to school, work, be a good, responsible parent, and at an age where I should have been out acting like a foolish teenager. Things change by decisions we make - your daughter seemed to have made the decision to play house. Now what? No, I'm not attacking you or anything along those lines. Find a way to have her in the real world. It's time she opens her eyes and sees that the real world isn't how she's currently seeing it. If you're done raising your children, finished with raising babies, make that clear that you will NOT raise her child - your grandchild - but offer any support she may want or need, even what she doesn't think she wants or needs. Be a grandma to your grandchild, not a parent. That's not your place. Your place, as a grandma, is to have your daughter and grandchild visit and have fun. You can offer a hand - offer to help her find somewhere to live, find schooling or a job, find childcare when that time comes, help her with housework, laundry, cooking - help her learn, I should say - and offer to be a babysitter on occasion for her to have a break, if that's what you want. Don't offer to raise her child if that's not what you want. Find out what works in your area. Marie wrote: "shari" wrote in message ups.com... my question is, can i make her ( 16 year old daughter and baby)move out after the baby is born...or am I ( the parent) still legally responsible for both my daughter AND baby Maybe you both need counseling if you are looking at kicking her out and worrying if you're responsible for them both. Marie |
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parents of pregnant 16 year old daughter in michigan
shari wrote:
you guys dont have a daughter who thinks everyone should quit their jobs to raise her kid she wont even get a job. she claims NO rules apply to her...so before you start to preach to me about "counseling" maybe you should know more facts. this is a situation way beyond the counseling stage. she needs to be out on her own. thats why im trying to find out this information. Counseling doesn't necessarily mean that the counselor will try to get you to take a different course of action. It just means that you'll get some good advice as to how to do whatever is best for yourself and your family, and will probably feel better about whatever happens as a result. It might also help you avoid some missteps along the way that you might later regret. Clearly you're already aware that there might be legal ramifications to the decision you're contemplating and you're trying to make sure you don't shoot yourself in the foot that way. What other pitfalls are out there? Someone experienced with these sorts of issues might be able to help you steer a better course than you could on your own. Best wishes, Ericka |
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