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Working with a behavior child
Studies, doctors, theorpist, and many people say that a behavior is a
disability and children of all ages have this disability. Well My child has a behavior , but I strongly disagree with these diagnosis. Children have a tendency to do what they want when their left alone. Most lash out because of self-esteem issues they deal with. Others have problems listening to other superiors or people telling them what to do other than immediately family or mom dad. I believe that continueous talking to your child or children and giving them praise will encourage them to become better in social life and in school. |
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Working with a behavior child
I agree, some doctors are looking for a label.. kids who can't behave
must have oppositional defiance disorder.. kids who are tired must have chronic fatigue syndome.. and those that run about alot must have attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder! |
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Working with a behavior child
On 19 Nov 2005 16:14:51 -0800, "lilma"
wrote: Studies, doctors, theorpist, and many people say that a behavior is a disability and children of all ages have this disability. What behavior? I don't think anyone labels behavior as a disabilty. However, an *inability* to do certain things or learn certain things that typical children learn quickly and naturally is a disability. Well My child has a behavior , What behavior does your child have? And how are you dealing with the consequences of that behavior to your family, to your child, to the classroom community and the larger community? but I strongly disagree with these diagnosis. What diagnosis? Some diagnoses can be wrong, but that doesn't mean that some children don't have whatever the condition that is diagnosed is. Children have a tendency to do what they want when their left alone. ?????? I don't understand that sentence. Adults tend to do what they want when they are left alone too. Most lash out because of self-esteem issues they deal with. Not everything has to do with self-esteem, though children can have a problem with this depending on how they perceive themselves and that often depends on how their parents and peers treat them. Children with disabilities are sometimes treated badly *because* of their disability and this can lead to self-esteem problems too. Others have problems listening to other superiors or people telling them what to do other than immediately family or mom dad. You believe that children who have problems with listening or with authority figures don't need to be dealt with in some way, especially by teachers and schools? I believe that continueous talking to your child or children and giving them praise will encourage them to become better in social life and in school. Continuous talking without any action on the parent's part is often a cause of *parent-deafness.* Depending on the age of the child, reasoning is good, but it should not be long-winded and it should be followed up by actions that help the child learn to be self-disciplined. You won't do your child any favors by lecturing about behavior without acting to stem the consequences. Praise is also good, but it needs to be specific to the good actions performed to be encouraging. Saying *good boy* or *good girl* is often unhelpful. I suggest that anyone who is working and talking with children read *How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk* by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Remember that listening to your children often helps a lot more than talking at them. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Working with a behavior child
What kind of "behaviour" are we talking about here??
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Working with a behavior child
"lilma" wrote in message oups.com... Studies, doctors, theorpist, and many people say that a behavior is a disability and children of all ages have this disability. Well My child has a behavior , but I strongly disagree with these diagnosis. Children have a tendency to do what they want when their left alone. Most lash out because of self-esteem issues they deal with. Others have problems listening to other superiors or people telling them what to do other than immediately family or mom dad. I believe that continueous talking to your child or children and giving them praise will encourage them to become better in social life and in school. So what's the behavior? |
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Working with a behavior child
"lilma" wrote in message oups.com... Studies, doctors, theorpist, and many people say that a behavior is a disability and children of all ages have this disability. Well My child has a behavior , but I strongly disagree with these diagnosis. Children have a tendency to do what they want when their left alone. Most lash out because of self-esteem issues they deal with. Others have problems listening to other superiors or people telling them what to do other than immediately family or mom dad. I believe that continueous talking to your child or children and giving them praise will encourage them to become better in social life and in school. Go get a copy of "Getting it Right With Children" by Madilyn Swift. www.childright.com I don't know what behavior we are talking about, you post is pretty vague. But praise by itself has the capacity to be a damaging thing. Esteem comes from knowing you are a valuable person, buttressed by achievement and feeling competent. Praise is external. Self esteem is internal. |
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