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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
"Jo" wrote in message ... Anyone heard of this? What are your thoughts? http://www.awareparenting.com/answer13.htm Its all so confusing! I thought it would be much kinder to them if they didn't cry - a dummy/boob/rocking/wrapping helps that, but what do we really know about how much a baby *needs* to cry? Am I just delirious with lack of sleep for even considering this? Jo (Mum to a cat-napping Will, 4.5 months) Haven't had time to read all responses or the article (sorry), but I have tried CIO with each of my kids (although I think I must have been insane to give it a go with H after what happened with K). I will never do that to another child of mine. It may work with other children, but it sure as hell doesn't work with mine. I do, however let them cry with me there. Both my kids were great sleepers at night, but only napped on me during the day. I was prepared for this with H and now I use a combination of NCSS and cuddling the child whilst lying down where I want them to sleep. If H is tired but past getting himself to sleep, I hold him against me and sing songs until he relaxes and falls asleep. If he's at the "past it" stage (won't bf, won't lie down etc) it might take 5 minutes of crying and cuddling for him to settle down, but he'll fall asleep and stay asleep for either a 20 or 40 minutes sleep cycle ... and then I continue with NCSS where I dash in the minute he rouses and pat, cuddle, bf him back to sleep immediately. Like is says in NCSS, we have those microwakes at night and put ourselves back to sleep ... babies just need a little help with the getting back to sleep after the little wake-up. At the moment, he's giving me a 2 hour sleep most days with a second nap of shorter duration. K is now an old hand and puts herself to bed for a nap after lunch which is usually 2-3 hours Amanda |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
"A&G&K&H" wrote in message ... If H is tired but past getting himself to sleep, I hold him against me and sing songs until he relaxes and falls asleep. If he's at the "past it" stage (won't bf, won't lie down etc) it might take 5 minutes of crying and cuddling for him to settle down, but he'll fall asleep and stay asleep for either a 20 or 40 minutes sleep cycle ....just to be clear ... he will *not* fall asleep after 5 minutes of CIO ....so its not the same thing for us. A |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
"Jo" wrote in message news:dj03k0 I'm still look for the magic answer on how to get him to nap longer than 45mins at a time, but I'm not sure there is one. I don't find it hard to get him to sleep either, just keep him asleep. Jo - maybe I'm being dense but have you read NCSS? She talks about going back at around 40 minutes and soothing as soon as he stirs. I've read somewhere else that sleep cycles are in multiples of 20 minutes, so 40-45 minutes might be the end of a sleep cycle and an immediate bf / cuddle/ rock/ pat whatever you normally do to get to sleep in the first place might do the trick. I've been doing this with H in the day (and at night but he co-sleeps so I barely wake up long enough to remember it) and he'll go back for another 40 minutes (which is plenty for his nap). Its getting easier and he's starting to sleep for 2 hour naps now. Having said that, 11 months was the "sleeping thought the night" age for my kids. They both absolutely *did* need 2-4 bf at night until then. Amanda |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
A&G&K&H wrote:
"Jo" wrote in message news:dj03k0 I'm still look for the magic answer on how to get him to nap longer than 45mins at a time, but I'm not sure there is one. I don't find it hard to get him to sleep either, just keep him asleep. Jo - maybe I'm being dense but have you read NCSS? She talks about going back at around 40 minutes and soothing as soon as he stirs. I've read somewhere else that sleep cycles are in multiples of 20 minutes, so 40-45 minutes might be the end of a sleep cycle and an immediate bf / cuddle/ rock/ pat whatever you normally do to get to sleep in the first place might do the trick. I've been doing this with H in the day (and at night but he co-sleeps so I barely wake up long enough to remember it) and he'll go back for another 40 minutes (which is plenty for his nap). Its getting easier and he's starting to sleep for 2 hour naps now. Having said that, 11 months was the "sleeping thought the night" age for my kids. They both absolutely *did* need 2-4 bf at night until then. Amanda No, I haven't read it yet, but it is something I'm going to follow up on when I'm out and about tomorrow - bookshop! When he does stir at 45 min or so, I do go to him asap. If I don't, he escalates (which I've only experimented with a few times!) and wakes up completely. That is my only concern, really. I'm sure he'll grow out of it - he grew into it, so I'm sure he will! When I cosleep, I hate the idea of using the dummy, so we BF, and I don't wrap him. He still seems to rouse much more often than in his cot, and goes to sleep easier in his cot because I wrap/dummy. I have decided to partially co-sleep Thanks for the comments - it's good to know that what I have been doing (at the 40 min intervals) is what she says in the book I haven't read yet It's great to know that it's so common Thanks, Jo |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
I have just finished reading a book called the No Cry Solution guide to
sleeping. I always wondered about letting them cry... seems they would just get more ****ed off and get too upset to sleep. Also, the author recommends setting them down as they are about to fall asleep and likens it to an adult falling asleep in bed and waking up in another room on the floor... all confused and worried. I am yet to have the baby so who knows. Just from the book though, it seems like a good idea to minimalize crying. |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
"Jo" wrote in message ... Jo - maybe I'm being dense but have you read NCSS? She talks about going Amanda No, I haven't read it yet, but it is something I'm going to follow up on when I'm out and about tomorrow - bookshop! i also 2nd reading NCSS. i found it really helpful! -- elizabeth (in australia) DS1 20th august 2002 DS2 26th September 2005 "In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul." --Lisa T. Shepherd |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
"arachne" wrote in message ... "Jo" wrote in message ... Jo - maybe I'm being dense but have you read NCSS? She talks about going Amanda No, I haven't read it yet, but it is something I'm going to follow up on when I'm out and about tomorrow - bookshop! i also 2nd reading NCSS. i found it really helpful! I'm thinking that this book and Pinky McKay's books should be handed out to new parents at their first antenatal check-up! |
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not CIO but Cry-In-Arms?
..oOrachOo. wrote:
I have just finished reading a book called the No Cry Solution guide to sleeping. I always wondered about letting them cry... seems they would just get more ****ed off and get too upset to sleep. Also, the author recommends setting them down as they are about to fall asleep and likens it to an adult falling asleep in bed and waking up in another room on the floor... all confused and worried. I am yet to have the baby so who knows. Just from the book though, it seems like a good idea to minimalize crying. Just read it, and implementing plans now Working fairly well so far after one day. I'll have to stick to it! THanks Jo |
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