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Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..

Kindly reply.

REgards
Harshada

wrote:
Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..


The main thing is to be patient. It often takes a while to conceive,
even if the couple is having intercourse often and both are perfectly
healthy. If you're under 30, most doctors recommend trying for a year
before seeking medical help. If you're over 30, it makes sense to seek
help after 6 months, since fertility naturally goes down a bit then,
and there is more chance of a real problem.

If you are healthy, have no history of sexually transmitted diseases
and have pretty regular periods, I would just keep trying. Most women
ovulate around 2 weeks before their next period, so it's good to try to
have sex a few times around ovulation. (Mostly in the days before
ovulation. THe sperm can live in the woman's body for several days, but
the egg only lives for about a day, so if you have sex 24 hours AFTER
ovulation, it's too late.

You can also use ovulation detector kits (instructions are on the
box)or chart your body temperature to help see when you ovulate -- but
IMO, I don't think that's a good idea at this point. (Unless you DO
have very irregular periods, in which case they can be helpful.) IMO,
they just make things more stressful, and while (despite what some
might tell you) stress doesn't make it less likely that you'll get
pregnant, unnecessary stress is never a good thing. For a healthy
fertile woman, even if she does everything perfectly, the odds of
getting pregnant in any single month are only about 25-30%. So it
you've been trying for 4 or 5 months, you're well within the normal
range and there's no cause for worry.

Now, if you have reason to think there might be a real problem (you
have VERY irregular periods, or don't menstruate at all, you've had
sexually transmitted diseases or a pelvic infection (which could block
your tubes), your husband has had STDs or works in a very hot place, or
with a lot of chemicals (which can reduce his sperm count), you might
visit a doctor. She can do some basic tests (on both of you) to
determine if there might be a physical problem.

But again, if all seems to be well, the best thing you can do is relax.
It's human nature to think that we can be in control of all things
that happen in our lives -- but we can't. Sometimes we have to trust
nature.

Naomi

wrote:
wrote:
Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..


The main thing is to be patient. It often takes a while to conceive,
even if the couple is having intercourse often and both are perfectly
healthy. If you're under 30, most doctors recommend trying for a year
before seeking medical help. If you're over 30, it makes sense to seek
help after 6 months, since fertility naturally goes down a bit then,
and there is more chance of a real problem.

If you are healthy, have no history of sexually transmitted diseases
and have pretty regular periods, I would just keep trying. Most women
ovulate around 2 weeks before their next period, so it's good to try to
have sex a few times around ovulation. (Mostly in the days before
ovulation. THe sperm can live in the woman's body for several days, but
the egg only lives for about a day, so if you have sex 24 hours AFTER
ovulation, it's too late.

And if you want help figuring this out, Toni Weschler's
book _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ is an excellent resource.

Best wishes,
Ericka

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Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..

Kindly reply.

REgards
Harshada

I wouldn't say trying for about 4 or 5 months is very long. Sometimes
conception happens the first month of trying, sometimes it seems to drag on
and on forever, sometimes a year.
If you have regular periods, then take note of them. Mark on a calendar if
need be. Circle the day on the calendar to mark the first day of your
period. When you're done your period, put an X on that day, and draw a line
through the days between your circle and X. Do that every month you have a
period, and then see if you can time about 2 weeks before your next expected
period.
Fortunately, we've never had a problem with conception. I wasn't 'trying'
for either of my sons - yet I was pg with DS2 when DS1 was about 4 months
old. We tried one month for DD, and we also tried one month for this next
DD. We've been lucky in that way, as I *know* there are people who try for
months and months, even longer.
Also, if TTC, try and see if you can do small little things that will help
the sperm. Have sex often - like if possible, for a good, straight week,
and as often as possible. If you can try every day in the morning and then
again at night, even if you can sneak one in during the afternoon, do that.
Also, what I read helps is if you encourage sperm to swim towards the egg,
that helps. That means him on top of her. When finished, continue to lay
on your back, use a pillow to prop your bum up a bit, and this is one thing
I read that can help with encouraging sperm to an egg. Do not pee or bathe
right after, as that tends to not encourage anything that will help.

Other than that, I really don't know...

Best of luck to you, and I'm sure there will be others who might have some
useful tips or ideas for you!

Also, if TTC, try and see if you can do small little things that will help
the sperm. Have sex often - like if possible, for a good, straight week,
and as often as possible. If you can try every day in the morning and
then again at night, even if you can sneak one in during the afternoon, do
that.

actually, the best gap between intercourse so that the little swimmers are
of the best possibly quality and thus more likely to survive the trip is
36hrs. So you could go for activity roughly every 36 hrs over the time you
think you are fertile. Though we got pregnant with our 2nd on a similar
schedule to above ;-).

Anne

oh yes, you can try some natural remedies like evening primrose oil,
what you do is take 1000mg a day starting on the day you start your
period and then the day you ovulate you should STOP taking the
medication, you then can substitute it with Flaxseed Oil Soft Gel caps
1000mg from the day you stop taking the primrose oil all the way
through positive or negative pg test....if negative then start the
primrose again if positive you can continue with the flaxseed oil but
mention it to your doctor.

Also, taking a baby aspirin an also help, you can take one a day
safely up to 28 weeks, but most say to stop after you get into the 2nd
trimester.

then if you really want something more simpler to take, go to
www.fertilaid.com it is AWESOME...
I had to do IVF to have my first baby, but then we were so broke and
both unemployed we had no idea what we were going to do, we wanted to
have a sibling for my DD, so I looked into the herb thing, I took
Fertilaid and figured that i would do it for a full year and they also
recommend you do it for a year as well anyway, so to my surprise, after
week 11 of taking the fertilaid (I never stopped I stayed consistent
with it) I was pregnant....IT IS AWESOME especially since I have a
hormonal imbalance and need some sort of medication for it, Fertilaid
helped straighten out my hormonal imbalance. I had tried 6 years
before finally have our 1st DD and the herbs gave us in the first month
of trying OUR 2nd DD.

If you have any other questions do not hesitate to email me about it.

Hugs

Sandra
mom to Grace and Anastasia
wrote:
Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..

Kindly reply.

REgards
Harshada

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ups.com...
Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..

Kindly reply.

REgards
Harshada


What I did was using the day of your period for day 1, I had sex on day 10,
day 13, day 17, and day 20. The sperm stays inside for 3-4 days, so if you
have sex every so often it should work. It may not work for everyone, but it
worked for me two different times.

Good luck,
Andrea

wrote:
Hi,

I am married for a year and a half. and being trying to conceive since
4-5 months. But i am unable to do so. i m getting a bit frustrated. Can
any body of you give me some tips for becoming pregnant. We are
desperately planning to have a baby..

Kindly reply.

REgards
Harshada



4 - 5 months trying is nothing. You only have a 1 in 4 chance of
conceiving at any given month assuming you hit the nail on the head with
timing. Take stock of your cycle, calculate you best ovulation dates
which are anywhere between 12 - 16 days after menstruation. Have sex,
enjoy it and stop worrying about it. Stress hormones seem to decrease
the chances of successful conception. If you are still having problems
in another 6 months, visit your doctor and get the ball rolling to see
if there are any 'other' problems. Until then, I wouldn't obsess. Enjoy
the ability to have spontaneous sex anywhere without having to bother
with passion killing prophylactics or nasty little pills. BTW, if you
have previously been on the pill for any length of time, you would
normally have to wait about 4 months for everything to return to normal
anyway. Chances are, you'll conceive without trying.

Wookie