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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. Why would it even occur to someone who had never been hit with the unfairness of the system to guard against that unfairness? Why would it occur to the poster that the deal his ex and himself made would not be honored? How do you cover yourself against something you know nothing about? Someone else IS to blame in his case. He did everything he could think of to do! Apparently not. Apparently, he didn't think of the idea that if you are involved in something with legalities (like divorce and supporting your children), that there probably shouldn't be private agreements with the person with whom you disagree to *such an extant* that you are getting a divorce. This is insane! Moonie is saying - No father getting divorced should voluntarily give his soon to be ex any money to support his children. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying, that TO PROTECT HIMSELF, he needs to do it in a proveable, verifiable way He should starve her out. Not what I said He should let his children starve. Not what I said |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. There's really no excuse for not covering your own ass, and then trying to lay the blame for a negative outcome on someone else. While I agree with you about covering your own butt, the devil is in the details. For years banks have encouraged their customers to allow them to provide copies of canceled checks on demand rather than returning all of them all every month. When I asked my bank to send me copies of CS checks front and back covering several years, they ignored my request. Then they told me my request was unreasonable and they wanted to charge me to get copies of my checks. Then they ignored my inquiry as to what it would cost. So let me get this straight..... you bank didn't send you the cancelled check, and in your statement each month, there wasn't a copy of every check? Sounds a bit odd to me........ cause as far as I can tell, banks stopped sending the physical checks, and started sending a copy (much smaller, and up to about 16 images on a page, 8 front and back)... The court refused to accept my spreadsheet showing check numbers and the CS amount paid on each check which matched the court order exactly. The court said I couldn't just prepare a spreadsheet as proof of payments made. How could I have anticipated a third party service would not be real when I actually wanted to use it? How should I have covered my butt differently? How could I have anticipated the court would require copies of checks a bank refused to produce? I suppose you could have actually GONE to your bank, talked to the bank manager, explained the need for the checks, inquired as to the cost and how long it would take, and then gone to pick them up. Banks don't generally ignore their customers..... it's bad business. Okay here is more detail just for you Moonie - I went to the bank. I talked to the manager. I had paid CS by check weekly. I needed proof of payment covering three years for a court hearing. That's 52 checks per year, front and back, for three years, or 312 copies. The bank was eventually willing to do the project for a fee (the service was advertised as being free) to meet the court's requirement, but they couldn't get it done before the court hearing. It was at that hearing I learned about the law that says just writing a check is not considered payment. Payment is not made until the check has been cashed. You don't have a check register showing the check as you wrote it, and your bank statement showing that the money went out of your account? Even if the bank didn't provide the cancelled checks, are you saying that your bank doesn't send out a monthly statement with ANY indication of what checks cleared? The judge told me they don't accept check register entries because a person can write anything they want in their check record. And since I couldn't prove the checks had been cashed I had no porrf of payment. Bank statements? I think the IRS recommends keeping records like that for 7 years. Bank statements do not show who a check was made out to so they are not accepted. The judge said I needed proof of who the check was made out to and that they are the party who endorsed it. Without the front and back of each check a father cannot prove what the legal system requires him to prove. The legal principle behind this is a person could make out a check in the court ordered CS amount to anybody (including themselves) and then bring the check book records and bank statements into court to show CS payments were made. For that reason they require front and backs of all checks. So the court went with my ex's version of my paymnet hisotry even though she couldn't prove her claims either. Happens all the time. I can give you more examples. I'm confident other posters here can also give you examples where the mother's allegations were taken at face value without any proof to back them up. |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. Why would it even occur to someone who had never been hit with the unfairness of the system to guard against that unfairness? Why would it occur to the poster that the deal his ex and himself made would not be honored? How do you cover yourself against something you know nothing about? Someone else IS to blame in his case. He did everything he could think of to do! Apparently not. Apparently, he didn't think of the idea that if you are involved in something with legalities (like divorce and supporting your children), that there probably shouldn't be private agreements with the person with whom you disagree to *such an extant* that you are getting a divorce. This is insane! Moonie is saying - No father getting divorced should voluntarily give his soon to be ex any money to support his children. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying, that TO PROTECT HIMSELF, he needs to do it in a proveable, verifiable way That's not what you said. It's right up above a few lines. You can read what you said just like anyone else can read it. |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. There's really no excuse for not covering your own ass, and then trying to lay the blame for a negative outcome on someone else. While I agree with you about covering your own butt, the devil is in the details. For years banks have encouraged their customers to allow them to provide copies of canceled checks on demand rather than returning all of them all every month. When I asked my bank to send me copies of CS checks front and back covering several years, they ignored my request. Then they told me my request was unreasonable and they wanted to charge me to get copies of my checks. Then they ignored my inquiry as to what it would cost. So let me get this straight..... you bank didn't send you the cancelled check, and in your statement each month, there wasn't a copy of every check? Sounds a bit odd to me........ cause as far as I can tell, banks stopped sending the physical checks, and started sending a copy (much smaller, and up to about 16 images on a page, 8 front and back)... I certainly never received any copies of checks printed in this way. I was told that I could get copies of the checks any time I really needed them. But, the one time I did need copies, I had a very difficult time getting anyone to get them for me, and the copies wwere quite expensive. It seemed that the bank wanted to save itself the hassle of returning checks, was perfectly willing to send copies of 1 or 2 checks, but didn't really want to make copies of multiple checks---unless its feet were held to the fire, and they were nagged endlessly for a while. Nowadays, I can just go online and print my own copies of any check I need. Exactly. My bank no longer sends the physical checks, but there's an image of each one in my bank statement. My bank does not send images of checks. They are available online if I need them. But that was not so a decade ago. |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Moon Shyne" wrote in The blame lies with a communist system that practices extortion!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ROFLMAO!! DB........ seek help. I believe you would benefit from it. Anyone like yourself that frequents this NG for entertainment, needs more help! |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. There's really no excuse for not covering your own ass, and then trying to lay the blame for a negative outcome on someone else. While I agree with you about covering your own butt, the devil is in the details. For years banks have encouraged their customers to allow them to provide copies of canceled checks on demand rather than returning all of them all every month. When I asked my bank to send me copies of CS checks front and back covering several years, they ignored my request. Then they told me my request was unreasonable and they wanted to charge me to get copies of my checks. Then they ignored my inquiry as to what it would cost. So let me get this straight..... you bank didn't send you the cancelled check, and in your statement each month, there wasn't a copy of every check? Sounds a bit odd to me........ cause as far as I can tell, banks stopped sending the physical checks, and started sending a copy (much smaller, and up to about 16 images on a page, 8 front and back)... I certainly never received any copies of checks printed in this way. I was told that I could get copies of the checks any time I really needed them. But, the one time I did need copies, I had a very difficult time getting anyone to get them for me, and the copies wwere quite expensive. It seemed that the bank wanted to save itself the hassle of returning checks, was perfectly willing to send copies of 1 or 2 checks, but didn't really want to make copies of multiple checks---unless its feet were held to the fire, and they were nagged endlessly for a while. Nowadays, I can just go online and print my own copies of any check I need. Exactly. My bank no longer sends the physical checks, but there's an image of each one in my bank statement. My bank does not send images of checks. They are available online if I need them. But that was not so a decade ago. That's correct. My bank no longer offers the option to get check copies for free. Immediate withholding on non-IV-D orders did not take effect until new orders were created, or old orders were modified, after November 1993. It took 2-4 years after 11/93 before the majority of CS orders were paid as they are today through the state. My first payments through the state CS accounting unit started in 1/95 and it was done at my request to have the state manage the accounting to stop all the game playing by my ex and the judges to create erroneous arrearages. My ex wanted me to continue paying her directly because she knew she would get the money quicker. I used the law to get the accounting out of her hands. BTW - If the statutory withholding limit is exceeded, a check is still required to pay the amount over the statutory limit even today. |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. There's really no excuse for not covering your own ass, and then trying to lay the blame for a negative outcome on someone else. Like I heard from a couch recently, "you will fine excuses are just that 'excuses'." In my opinion an excuse is not justification or use of reasoning when trying to not own up to responsibility. I've also been told that it is controling behavior when those who attempt to make someone feel guilty instead of being responsible for their personal behavior. Tracy |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. There's really no excuse for not covering your own ass, and then trying to lay the blame for a negative outcome on someone else. While I agree with you about covering your own butt, the devil is in the details. For years banks have encouraged their customers to allow them to provide copies of canceled checks on demand rather than returning all of them all every month. When I asked my bank to send me copies of CS checks front and back covering several years, they ignored my request. Then they told me my request was unreasonable and they wanted to charge me to get copies of my checks. Then they ignored my inquiry as to what it would cost. So let me get this straight..... you bank didn't send you the cancelled check, and in your statement each month, there wasn't a copy of every check? Sounds a bit odd to me........ cause as far as I can tell, banks stopped sending the physical checks, and started sending a copy (much smaller, and up to about 16 images on a page, 8 front and back)... The court refused to accept my spreadsheet showing check numbers and the CS amount paid on each check which matched the court order exactly. The court said I couldn't just prepare a spreadsheet as proof of payments made. How could I have anticipated a third party service would not be real when I actually wanted to use it? How should I have covered my butt differently? How could I have anticipated the court would require copies of checks a bank refused to produce? I suppose you could have actually GONE to your bank, talked to the bank manager, explained the need for the checks, inquired as to the cost and how long it would take, and then gone to pick them up. Banks don't generally ignore their customers..... it's bad business. Okay here is more detail just for you Moonie - I went to the bank. I talked to the manager. I had paid CS by check weekly. I needed proof of payment covering three years for a court hearing. That's 52 checks per year, front and back, for three years, or 312 copies. The bank was eventually willing to do the project for a fee (the service was advertised as being free) to meet the court's requirement, but they couldn't get it done before the court hearing. It was at that hearing I learned about the law that says just writing a check is not considered payment. Payment is not made until the check has been cashed. You don't have a check register showing the check as you wrote it, and your bank statement showing that the money went out of your account? Even if the bank didn't provide the cancelled checks, are you saying that your bank doesn't send out a monthly statement with ANY indication of what checks cleared? The judge told me they don't accept check register entries because a person can write anything they want in their check record. When you match it with your bank statement, there's verification that it was more than just writing it into your register. That's why I said a check register AND your bank statement. And since I couldn't prove the checks had been cashed I had no porrf of payment. Bank statements? I think the IRS recommends keeping records like that for 7 years. Bank statements do not show who a check was made out to so they are not accepted. Well...... this is sounding an awful lot like "why don't you.............." "yes, but............." If you have a register showing a check for a certain amount, made out for the CS, and then back it up with the bank statement showing the same check for the same amount, that's closes up a lot of gaps. The judge said I needed proof of who the check was made out to and that they are the party who endorsed it. Without the front and back of each check a father cannot prove what the legal system requires him to prove. The legal principle behind this is a person could make out a check in the court ordered CS amount to anybody (including themselves) and then bring the check book records and bank statements into court to show CS payments were made. For that reason they require front and backs of all checks. Or using the system to your advantage, which is what I had first suggested, and you stated that you did precisely that. So the court went with my ex's version of my paymnet hisotry even though she couldn't prove her claims either. Happens all the time. I can give you more examples. I'm confident other posters here can also give you examples where the mother's allegations were taken at face value without any proof to back them up. |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. Why would it even occur to someone who had never been hit with the unfairness of the system to guard against that unfairness? Why would it occur to the poster that the deal his ex and himself made would not be honored? How do you cover yourself against something you know nothing about? Someone else IS to blame in his case. He did everything he could think of to do! Apparently not. Apparently, he didn't think of the idea that if you are involved in something with legalities (like divorce and supporting your children), that there probably shouldn't be private agreements with the person with whom you disagree to *such an extant* that you are getting a divorce. This is insane! Moonie is saying - No father getting divorced should voluntarily give his soon to be ex any money to support his children. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying, that TO PROTECT HIMSELF, he needs to do it in a proveable, verifiable way That's not what you said. It's right up above a few lines. You can read what you said just like anyone else can read it. I sure as HELL didn't say the father should starve out anyone, Bob - that's also verifiable by reading the thread. I said... "but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment." |
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C$ paid, yet Judge orders prison time for not paying child support..??
"Tracy" wrote in message . .. "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... It's called cover thy ass. Don't you think that ALL responsible adults should act in their own best interests? Yes, all responsible adults should do what is right for their own interest. Unfortunately there are adults who don't see eye-to-eye in what being responsible is, which is the real problem and why governments have laws, etc. Then it is their own human thinking of what is best for 'them' that could cause even the most responsible people to do stupid things. Think about those who believe it is in their best interest to lie about a subject which they feel is minor to a person who sees it is a major issue. In the long run the lie causes more problems than it is worth. Agreed - but I was referring to things like EVERY adult taking responsibility for their own birth control methods,....... and anyone who has to make a payment for something doing it in a way that they have legally recognized proof of the payment. There's really no excuse for not covering your own ass, and then trying to lay the blame for a negative outcome on someone else. Like I heard from a couch recently, "you will fine excuses are just that 'excuses'." In my opinion an excuse is not justification or use of reasoning when trying to not own up to responsibility. I've also been told that it is controling behavior when those who attempt to make someone feel guilty instead of being responsible for their personal behavior. Pretty much...... it's the bank's fault, it's the ex's fault, it's the lawyer's fault, it's the judge's fault, it's CSE's fault....... seems to be a recurring theme. Tracy |
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