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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
I'd appreciate tips and advice on weaning a 16 month old.
She's down to 1 feed a day - the reunion feed after I pick her up from the childminder's (I work full-time). When we get home she's like a boob-junkie! Cross, irritable, clingy, whingy until she gets her feed and then she's a different child - pink faced, cheerful, independently pottering off to do her own thing. It's the only feed she asks for but she absolutly demands it. She's a very self-possessed, confident toddler. Both her child-minders love having her and say she's always busy with her own explorations. It seems to me that she's saying "Look Mum, I've been big and strong and grown-up all day and now I need to be babied". It's got nothing to do with food. Exactly the same even if she's just eaten a huge dinner. 6:30 is boob time. I suppose I'm a bit conflicted. I'd love to have my body to myself for a while before another pregnancy but I don't think she's emotionally ready to wean yet. When she feeds it's eyes closed, total concentration, serious feeding. No playing or nipple twiddling. Then she's down, off and happy. Any thoughts or advice? Thanks, Jenny |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
"Jenny Ryan" wrote in message om... I suppose I'm a bit conflicted. I'd love to have my body to myself for a while before another pregnancy but I don't think she's emotionally ready to wean yet. When she feeds it's eyes closed, total concentration, serious feeding. No playing or nipple twiddling. Then she's down, off and happy. Any thoughts or advice? One feed a day? Honestly, I'd just keep doing it. You can decide how to handle it if she wants to increase again, but if it's just one feed a day I'd keep going with it. Especially if she gets upset without it. Ds weaned at 16 months, but he really didn't care about nursing anymore. His last feeding was in the morning and one morning dh got him out of bed and brought him downstairs. He didn't miss that feed and never asked again. To me, that was a kid who was ready. You comment about wanting your body to yourself before another pregnancy. How long each day is your body hers? Ten minutes? Fifteen maybe? Really, it's not that much time in a day. Good luck. -- JennP. mom to Matthew 10/11/00 remove "no........spam" to reply |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
Some sixteen month olds may be ready for weaning, but yours isn't one of them.
:-) If I were you, I would try to be happy that she has this wonderful way of making herself feel reconnected with you after a long day apart, and I would let her continue as long as she wishes to. Lots of babies wean during pregnancy, when the milk mostly dries up. (I'm certainly sympathetic, with my 33 month old who had to be nursed through almost an entire morning Mass at my kids' school today, or else disturb everyone with cries of, "Ba! I want ba! Please, please! Not Later! Now!") Leslie |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
Jenny Ryan wrote:
She's a very self-possessed, confident toddler. Both her child-minders love having her and say she's always busy with her own explorations. It seems to me that she's saying "Look Mum, I've been big and strong and grown-up all day and now I need to be babied". It's got nothing to do with food. Exactly the same even if she's just eaten a huge dinner. 6:30 is boob time. She's clearly not ready for weaning. Her nursing time seems very important to her. Especially since it's just the one nursing session a day, I'd stick with it until she's ready to let it go. -- tristyn www.tristyn.net "i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. i do not think that they will sing to me." |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
Jenny Ryan wrote: I'd appreciate tips and advice on weaning a 16 month old. She's down to 1 feed a day - the reunion feed after I pick her up from the childminder's (I work full-time). When we get home she's like a boob-junkie! Cross, irritable, clingy, whingy until she gets her feed and then she's a different child - pink faced, cheerful, independently pottering off to do her own thing. It's the only feed she asks for but she absolutly demands it. She's a very self-possessed, confident toddler. Both her child-minders love having her and say she's always busy with her own explorations. It seems to me that she's saying "Look Mum, I've been big and strong and grown-up all day and now I need to be babied". It's got nothing to do with food. Exactly the same even if she's just eaten a huge dinner. 6:30 is boob time. I suppose I'm a bit conflicted. I'd love to have my body to myself for a while before another pregnancy but I don't think she's emotionally ready to wean yet. When she feeds it's eyes closed, total concentration, serious feeding. No playing or nipple twiddling. Then she's down, off and happy. Any thoughts or advice? Thanks, Jenny If it were me, I wouldn't try to wean her. My 22-month-old generally nurses 3 times a day: morning, before nap, before bedtime. I figure those are times when I'd be sitting down with him and cuddling anyway, so why not nurse him? For me, weaning would come when the inconvenience of nursing outweighed the inconvenience of weaning - and that hasn't happened yet. Clisby |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
lynn wrote in message ...
Sounds like your child wants some mama time, and is recharging and reconnecting with you after a day apart, which is great, but I don't think it has to be nursing if you don't want to. You could tell her that you don't have any milk, and give her a cup of milk instead and cuddle with her for a story. Call it "mama's special time" or something. She may not like it for a few days, but she'll adjust, and you might well be surprised how quickly she adjusts. I was surprised with my DS. Just as a datapoint, although not quite BF relevant; my son stopped nursing at about 11 months due to work-related bottle preference. He's about 15 months old now, and we still have what I think of as nursing-substitute sessions first thing in the morning and right after day care, during which he gets his only two bottles of the day. It's definitely cuddle/relax/reconnect time; I wish it could be nursing, but it's pretty nice all the same. So I agree with Lynn that rather than trying to skip this session altogether, you might have more luck substituting cow's milk for nursing but keeping the routine otherwise. Mine definitely needs those few minutes of peace and contact, yours probably does too. Beth |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
"Jenny Ryan" wrote in message om... I suppose I'm a bit conflicted. I'd love to have my body to myself for a while before another pregnancy but I don't think she's emotionally ready to wean yet. When she feeds it's eyes closed, total concentration, serious feeding. No playing or nipple twiddling. Then she's down, off and happy. If you want to see if she's ready, try testing her by distracting her at her regular nursing time and seeing how easy that is. If she cannot be distracted, you may have some time to go, but if she can be distracted, then it wouldn't take much to wean her and she probably wouldn't miss it. That's just about how I did it with DS. When he was down to one session before going to sleep, DH would put him to sleep. He said it was no problem DS missed his session but didn't complain. Then, I knew he was ready. So, I had DH put him to sleep for 2 weeks straight and it went well. He only asked for it once or twice afterwards and was not upset when I refused. Very smooth, he barely noticed. |
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Is a 16 month ready for weaning?
Thanks a lot for all your replies. You've helped to clarify the
situation. Both of us need that reconnecting space at the end of a long day apart. I'd be horrifed to lose those cuddles but am feeling like I'm getting to the end of a very enjoyable breast-feeding journey. I'm going to keep feeding as long as she needs it but will try offering her a cup of milk & cream beforehand to start off a slow transition. BTW she adores cows milk with added cream but turns her nose up at plain full fat milk. I guess this is because expressed breast milk seems to be about 40% cream, not 3%. Has anyone else had this experience? Thanks again, Jenny |
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