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So... How was the first day back? And the second?
"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Wed, 7 Feb 2007 23:27:49 -0000, "Patrick Mullin" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: snip I just feel that whilst my rational mind has accepted the reality of it all, my emotional mind is still in denial. I think that over the coming weeks, when I have no adult company of an evening, it will hit me harder. Part of me is looking forward to that, so that I do not feel so much like a fraud. That strikes a chord with me. I think it's part of being different from what we know of widowed persons. We're not old enough to be widowed. We don't see ourselves as particularly needing the same empathy because we weren't married for as long as most widowed people. The "widows with children" who deserve help... well, that's just not us. Anyway, thanks for checking up on me - I do appreciate it, especially from one who can relate to the situation. Bless you, Patrick Everyone here can relate to parts of what you're going through. Many here have become single parents quite suddenly - widowed, divorced, or never married. We all hoped for the ideal for our children. We're all left with the strenuous, physically challenging, sometimes frustrating but often rewarding job of single parenting. Those babies of yours have a hundred thousand hugs to give you before they're grown. I hope you plan on collecting each and every one of them. 'Kate Kate, I hope to collect every single one and then demand some more. They are my motivation, and my reminder that my wife still lives with me, through them. I do not doubt that - with the support of family, friends and e-friends - I will manage to do my best to raise them. After all, that is all that I can aspire to do. I need to allow my emotions to catch up with reality, and spend some time grieving so that I do not become an embittered old man of a father to them. Once my Mum goes home next week, I am sure that the evenings to myself may help me achieve that, and will make me feel less of a fraud. If I can find the strength to grieve, than I know that the three of us will be fine. Take care, and all of my bect wishes to your three, Patrick |
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Bereavement
On Sun, 04 Feb 2007 16:01:04 -0500, Patrick Mullin
wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message ... On Sat, 3 Feb 2007 19:29:27 -0000, "Patrick Mullin" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: Soup, cold meds, and bandaids. When you're the only parent, you can't be sick or hurt. I think I've probably written this a few times here but I never felt so alone as when I had to pack the kids in the car and drive to the store for a bandaid for a bleeding finger. I hope my car is never DNA tested. :-\ Be prepared! When you can, designate a legal caregiver for your children should something unexpected happen to you. When they're old enough, they'll need to know who that is. And if you don't have life insurance, consider it. You sound like a really nice person, Patrick. I'm sorry all this happened to you. What did you do with your last day off before work? Kate, I actually went out and got some toys for the car, as previously, long journeys involved my wife travelling backwards, giving the kids biscuits, drinks, etc... Obviously that can't be the norm anymore, so anything to distract them is a good thing. Being so young, they should adapt to the new norm quite quickly, which is a blessing... I am currently considering a new will to take the current situation into account, and am just deciding between a couple of options for legal guardians for the kids. sorry to hear all this. A new will is now critical Once i have made my mind up, that will be the next major task. I am fortunate enough to have death in service benefit at work, should anything happen to me, but life insurance will be a must should I decide to change job / quit work, etc... My last day off was spent in the park with the kids and my Mum, and then watching the rugby (Ireland vs Wales), which was good. Had a long chat with an old school friend, and now just relaxing before trying to get an early night. Yesterday was a bit of a low day for me, though today has been better. I imagine that the rollercoaster ride I am on will get steeper over the next months, but as you said, I just need to focus on getting out of bed every morning - everything else follows on from that. Patrick |
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Bereavement
On Sun, 18 Feb 2007 23:11:30 GMT, marika
wrote: On Sun, 04 Feb 2007 16:01:04 -0500, Patrick Mullin wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message ... On Sat, 3 Feb 2007 19:29:27 -0000, "Patrick Mullin" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: Soup, cold meds, and bandaids. When you're the only parent, you can't be sick or hurt. I think I've probably written this a few times here but I never felt so alone as when I had to pack the kids in the car and drive to the store for a bandaid for a bleeding finger. I hope my car is never DNA tested. :-\ Be prepared! When you can, designate a legal caregiver for your children should something unexpected happen to you. When they're old enough, they'll need to know who that is. And if you don't have life insurance, consider it. You sound like a really nice person, Patrick. I'm sorry all this happened to you. What did you do with your last day off before work? Kate, I actually went out and got some toys for the car, as previously, long journeys involved my wife travelling backwards, giving the kids biscuits, drinks, etc... Obviously that can't be the norm anymore, so anything to distract them is a good thing. Being so young, they should adapt to the new norm quite quickly, which is a blessing... I am currently considering a new will to take the current situation into account, and am just deciding between a couple of options for legal guardians for the kids. sorry to hear all this. A new will is now critical If I may ask, why do you crosspost to alt.support.single-parents from other groups? 'Kate |
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Bereavement
On Mon, 19 Feb 2007 15:30:06 -0500, 'Kate wrote:
On Sun, 18 Feb 2007 23:11:30 GMT, marika wrote: On Sun, 04 Feb 2007 16:01:04 -0500, Patrick Mullin wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message ... On Sat, 3 Feb 2007 19:29:27 -0000, "Patrick Mullin" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: Soup, cold meds, and bandaids. When you're the only parent, you can't be sick or hurt. I think I've probably written this a few times here but I never felt so alone as when I had to pack the kids in the car and drive to the store for a bandaid for a bleeding finger. I hope my car is never DNA tested. :-\ Be prepared! When you can, designate a legal caregiver for your children should something unexpected happen to you. When they're old enough, they'll need to know who that is. And if you don't have life insurance, consider it. You sound like a really nice person, Patrick. I'm sorry all this happened to you. What did you do with your last day off before work? Kate, I actually went out and got some toys for the car, as previously, long journeys involved my wife travelling backwards, giving the kids biscuits, drinks, etc... Obviously that can't be the norm anymore, so anything to distract them is a good thing. Being so young, they should adapt to the new norm quite quickly, which is a blessing... I am currently considering a new will to take the current situation into account, and am just deciding between a couple of options for legal guardians for the kids. sorry to hear all this. A new will is now critical If I may ask, why do you crosspost to alt.support.single-parents from other groups? 'Kate i don't crosspost to other groups. I xpost to one group, one is singular. the xpost is to a group that has interest in the stuff here too. sharing -- a good thing |
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crossposting was: Bereavement
On Mon, 19 Feb 2007 20:52:35 GMT, marika
wrote: On Mon, 19 Feb 2007 15:30:06 -0500, 'Kate wrote: If I may ask, why do you crosspost to alt.support.single-parents from other groups? 'Kate i don't crosspost to other groups. I xpost to one group, one is singular. the xpost is to a group that has interest in the stuff here too. sharing -- a good thing -- The replies to several crossposted messages are only from alt.usenet.legends.lester-mosley. Perhaps there is less interest in your generous offer to share than you originally estimated. |
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crossposting was: Bereavement
The replies to several crossposted messages are only from
alt.usenet.legends.lester-mosley. Perhaps there is less interest in your generous offer to share than you originally estimated. I think you have failed in a recent attempt in trying to prove your point. there is more interest in this than you think form this other group. Perhaps research will be proven that the body can not digest precious metals like gold thus when drinking Goldschlager you may get an condition in what is called "Gold Fever" this resulting in a trip to the hospital. but again there is about $2.10 at the current market price worth of gold in a 750ml bottle. I guess using a filter before drinking and flushing away $2.10 worth of gold unless you use more than 4 rolls of TP and start to do impressions of Cornholio. but again wouldnt you rahter have a tasty boiled blah-blah burger from Mars? |
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crossposting was: Bereavement
On 20 Feb 2007 03:31:32 -0800, "Lester Mosley"
wrote: The replies to several crossposted messages are only from alt.usenet.legends.lester-mosley. Perhaps there is less interest in your generous offer to share than you originally estimated. I think you have failed in a recent attempt in trying to prove your point. there is more interest in this than you think form this other group. Perhaps research will be proven that the body can not digest precious metals like gold thus when drinking Goldschlager you may get an condition in what is called "Gold Fever" this resulting in a trip to the hospital. but again there is about $2.10 at the current market price worth of gold in a 750ml bottle. I guess using a filter before drinking and flushing away $2.10 worth of gold unless you use more than 4 rolls of TP and start to do impressions of Cornholio. but again wouldnt you rahter have a tasty boiled blah-blah burger from Mars? Ah, yes. Humor. |
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crossposting was: Bereavement
On Mon, 19 Feb 2007 19:59:28 -0500, 'Kate wrote:
On Mon, 19 Feb 2007 20:52:35 GMT, marika wrote: On Mon, 19 Feb 2007 15:30:06 -0500, 'Kate wrote: If I may ask, why do you crosspost to alt.support.single-parents from other groups? 'Kate i don't crosspost to other groups. I xpost to one group, one is singular. the xpost is to a group that has interest in the stuff here too. sharing -- a good thing -- The replies to several crossposted messages are only from alt.usenet.legends.lester-mosley. Perhaps there is less interest in your generous offer to share than you originally estimated. are you trying to troll me? while i won't say I have evidence to the contrary, i don't think that there's any real correlation between # of posts to level of interest. Not everyone is an inveterate researcher and writer and reporter. discussions posted from assp people are pretty low, but that doesn't mean they aren't interested in reading posts that are crossposted here. I for one was and finally decided to post something here because it so quiet here. apparently no one ever watched carnivale here, but if they did they would have noticed the amount of single parent characters there are in it. It was an interesting place for people to get support from to deal with the social stigma once attached to single parenthood. o well, i guess it was all in vain to even try a discussion. |
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crossposting was: Bereavement
On Tue, 20 Feb 2007 06:31:32 -0500, Lester Mosley
wrote: The replies to several crossposted messages are only from alt.usenet.legends.lester-mosley. Perhaps there is less interest in your generous offer to share than you originally estimated. I think you have failed in a recent attempt in trying to prove your point. there is more interest in this than you think form this other group. INTERESTING: this IDJIT I sorta went with that worked in Charlottesville went to Johnson C. Smith, and I remember I'd never previously heard of it, i know he lurks here, is a single parent and loves carnivale Perhaps research will be proven that the body can not digest precious metals like gold thus when drinking Goldschlager you may get an condition in what is called "Gold Fever" this resulting in a trip to the hospital. no just use bond gold powder to cure the itching side effects but again there is about $2.10 at the current market price worth of gold in a 750ml bottle. I guess using a filter before drinking and flushing away $2.10 worth of gold unless you use more than 4 rolls of TP and start to do impressions of Cornholio. but again wouldnt you rahter have a tasty boiled blah-blah burger from Mars? |
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crossposting was: Bereavement
On Tue, 20 Feb 2007 10:01:11 -0500, 'Kate wrote:
On 20 Feb 2007 03:31:32 -0800, "Lester Mosley" wrote: The replies to several crossposted messages are only from alt.usenet.legends.lester-mosley. Perhaps there is less interest in your generous offer to share than you originally estimated. I think you have failed in a recent attempt in trying to prove your point. there is more interest in this than you think form this other group. Perhaps research will be proven that the body can not digest precious metals like gold thus when drinking Goldschlager you may get an condition in what is called "Gold Fever" this resulting in a trip to the hospital. but again there is about $2.10 at the current market price worth of gold in a 750ml bottle. I guess using a filter before drinking and flushing away $2.10 worth of gold unless you use more than 4 rolls of TP and start to do impressions of Cornholio. but again wouldnt you rahter have a tasty boiled blah-blah burger from Mars? Ah, yes. Humor. Carnivale was a spooky show. |
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