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I, for one, would just be happy if you would contribute. Please, stay! Heaven knows I got slammed my first time here...and now almost four years later, I maintain the FAQ and wouldn't trade this place for the world. I love these guys. Hell, I got remarried and STILL couldn't let this place go. How about this: I'll quit getting so damn frustrated at what you say. Okay? Promise. Now, why don't you tell us a little about yourself? Hi, I'm *brianne, and I've been remarried for 2 years. I have a beautiful (almost nine) DS who I have residential custody of. My ex is not really involved in his life, however, my current husband loves him as if he were his own. In fact, he says now he has somebody his own age to play with. So, a lot of times you'll hear me say I have two kids. That's why. *b Thank, Brianne. What is a DS? Sounds like things are going well for you. I have been a single mom for about 3 years. I left before I knew I was pregnant with my 2nd son. (They are 2&5). My ex is involved, by coming over and seeing them, but just not financially. (I'm not slamming him, honestly---he does love them a lot.) If you all want me to go away, that's fine. I have lots of questions, but I will respect what you want. |
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"Kristen313" wrote in message ... I, for one, would just be happy if you would contribute. Please, stay! Heaven knows I got slammed my first time here...and now almost four years later, I maintain the FAQ and wouldn't trade this place for the world. I love these guys. Hell, I got remarried and STILL couldn't let this place go. How about this: I'll quit getting so damn frustrated at what you say. Okay? Promise. Now, why don't you tell us a little about yourself? Hi, I'm *brianne, and I've been remarried for 2 years. I have a beautiful (almost nine) DS who I have residential custody of. My ex is not really involved in his life, however, my current husband loves him as if he were his own. In fact, he says now he has somebody his own age to play with. So, a lot of times you'll hear me say I have two kids. That's why. *b Thank, Brianne. What is a DS? Sounds like things are going well for you. I have been a single mom for about 3 years. I left before I knew I was pregnant with my 2nd son. (They are 2&5). My ex is involved, by coming over and seeing them, but just not financially. (I'm not slamming him, honestly---he does love them a lot.) If you all want me to go away, that's fine. I have lots of questions, but I will respect what you want. DS stands for Dear Son or Darling Son. SS would be Step-Son. DH would be Dear Husband or Damn Husband depending on the mood (hehe). My ex and I split when our son was 8 months old. That was the 'official legally separated split', but we had split, really, while I was pregnant. Though I will say he was there for me during the birth and was a trooper (I had severe pre-eclampsia and had to be induced....needless to say it sucked in a huge huge way). The important thing is that your ex is involved. Mine isn't, by his choice, and lately I'm really bitter about that. However, like I said before, my current husband loves my son like his own and we just go day to day. My ex does pay child support, but I would give it all back if he would just see his son every once and awhile. Ask your questions! You'll have to ignore the snotty comments (if any are made) and take each answer with a grain of salt. Remember, support does not equal agreement. Which is cool, because you get different perspectives. And yes, some things are highly controversial and people have very deep feelings about issues. The important thing is being respectful of others differences in opinions. We are a very protective group, some of us have been here literally over three years. A lot of old timers lurk in the shadows and appear from time to time, which is why it may sometimes appear like we pounce a lot. I'll repost the FAQ, that may help. Take a good long read, there are lots of good things in there. with respect, *bri (who does a lot better when she gets enough coffee in her system...hehe) |
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If you all want me to go away, that's fine. I have lots of questions, but I
will respect what you want. If you stick around, you will find that this is a group that is supportive and helpful if you want to talk about your kids. If you want to change us or the ng, then it's just going to be a bunch of silly flaming and trust, me you are not coming out ahead in that game. When you ask for opinions you will get them. Some will make sense. If they make sense use them. Some will not work for you. Ignore what doesn't work. don't be offended by what doesn't work. Some opinions will sting. If you are hurt by the opinion of a stranger, IMO, it means one of two things - either it's true and it hurts to face the truth, or you care too much about the opinion of strangers. When you start getting in the middle of something ask yourself "Do I care what this person thinks?" After awhile, you will find some people with whom you have an affinity. There will be some people you will grow to respect immensly. There will be some with whom you will never agree with about most things, but they will still occasionally say something helpful. Some will always annoy you and never post the way you think they should. Unless you enjoy constant flame wars, I suggest you filter some of the more annoying ones (even if I'm one of them) until you can learn not to let them get to you. You are not the first one to come riding in here thinking you were telling us something new and insightful about how to be supportive. Nor will you be the last to see that we really are helpful and supportive just the way we are. Stick around. Joelle If you want to make God laugh, tell him what you are doing tomorrow Father Mike |
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CME wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Maureen Seufert wrote in message ... hi guys..im new here..found this siite while searching the web......wow i can sympathize with you guys.....im working.....but its considered part time...i get 7 an hr but also get comision(spelling)....i have been there 8 yrs...my rent etc has gone up.....i have asked for a raise 4 x.....and told that because i get commison.....i have to "earn what im worth" its in the telemarketing field and with the new pa do not call list well sales are down im getting 200 $ less then what i was making....i could only pay half my rent.....and the landlord says if i dont come up with the rest my the end of the month they are taking me to court....so i have been looking for another job.....i hate the one i do now but with my situation i have to keep that one and do something during the day....which means my 12 yr old and 6 yr old will be with there dad and sitter most of the week im so down.......my x is no help....keeps telling me this is my punishment for getting div......im also having problems witih my 12 yr old son....before i was div i had discipline problems with him but since sep and div had been worse the child has no respect for me when i tell his dad he just shrugs his shoulders......my son called me a name right in front of his dad...his dad just said "patrick u shouldnt call your mother that" if i said to my mom what he said and MY father was there id have no tongue left in my head!!!!!!!!!! i have a b/f and my b/f knows how he is and cnat stand him and my son feels the same towards him.......i just feel like running away sometimes.....all the stress i am under......i came here to offer advice but i need to vent today......to see if anyone else is going through same things with kids? and i feel sooo much guilt......with the div having to have to work 2 jobs now......i feel like a horrible mom...... I am having a very hard time reading this. Sentences are just running together.... Whatever. Wow Tiff, anything you'd like to talk about? I've never seen you so snippy. Christine Not a thing. Just calling it like I see it. Thanks for your concern though. How are the boys? T |
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Kristen313 wrote in message ... I am having a very hard time reading this. Sentences are just running together.... Whatever. What would the purpose of this comment be? Trying to be helpful in her sentence structure? Didn't think so. This post is days old. What made this resurface? lol Yes it was to be helpful. If people can't read your jibberish, you can't get help. T |
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turtledove wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... Kristen, there are people here with vision problems, with learning disabilities, with all kinds of characteristics that might have made that particular post hard for them to read. Maybe she's just saying that it's hard to read. Maybe that's the whole point of that comment. Come on, do you really believe that? Actually it's true. I, for one, have double vision due to a car accident I had a year ago. When things are written all lowercase, without punctuation, it is really hard for me to read it properly. I can still read it if I had to, but generally I skip those messages. So yes, what Cele said it true and she does believe it. I am just a cantacorous (spell check couldn't help) old grump who feels that if someone does not present themself well enough then why should I bother responding ;-) Dennis |
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Dennis Here youreply typed: turtledove wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... Kristen, there are people here with vision problems, with learning disabilities, with all kinds of characteristics that might have made that particular post hard for them to read. Maybe she's just saying that it's hard to read. Maybe that's the whole point of that comment. Come on, do you really believe that? Actually it's true. I, for one, have double vision due to a car accident I had a year ago. When things are written all lowercase, without punctuation, it is really hard for me to read it properly. I can still read it if I had to, but generally I skip those messages. So yes, what Cele said it true and she does believe it. I am just a cantacorous (spell check couldn't help) old grump who feels that if someone does not present themself well enough then why should I bother responding ;-) Dennis Dennis, no offense, but I wanted to help where spell check couldn't. It's cantankerous. No offense intended. Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. |
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Cele wrote in message ... On 27 Jun 2003 14:24:45 GMT, (Kristen313) wrote: Kristen, there are people here with vision problems, with learning disabilities, with all kinds of characteristics that might have made that particular post hard for them to read. Maybe she's just saying that it's hard to read. Maybe that's the whole point of that comment. Come on, do you really believe that? Yeah, I do. :-) Cele Gee..... don't you 'regulars' believe that I can be mean? lol T |
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"CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... I hope you're feeling well at this point. Very well, thank you much. Surgery and a 2 month stay in the hospital took care of a great deal of it.If you give yourself time to get to know people, sit back a bit, and then post calmly on single parenting topics, I am quite certain you'll be as welcome here as anyone. Cele Again, thank you, but I doubt I will ever be welcome. Pah, if *I* can be welcome, then hell ya the door is open. lol Man, I recall a time I had it in for Dennis, Joelle, Paul F and Steve... but not all at the same time mind you. lmao You forgot me and L Christine |
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