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Smoking while pregnant...
This girl I know...I'll not refer to her as a friend becuz I can't stand
her...she is my best friends sister-in-law, is about 5 months pregnant and still smokes almost 2 packs a day. A couple people have commented to her that she is "killing her baby". I feel that she doesn't care enough about her child to quit for the few months left in her pregnancy....does anyone on this board share my opinion, or have a different opinion? "Id like to shoot you in the ass with a B.B. gun, lay there in the tall grass and laugh at what I done. Leave a big blood blister upon each bun, I'd like to shoot you in the ass with a B.B. gun" |
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Smoking while pregnant...
A couple people have commented to her that she is "killing her baby". I feel that she doesn't care enough about her child to quit for the few months left in her pregnancy....does anyone on this board share my opinion, or have a different opinion? Someone very close to me smoked throughout both of her pregnancies and of course I strongly disaproved. However I don't think it is fair to say that she didn't care about her children. Personally I can't see why smokers don't give up but at the same time I know it isn't a measure of love, it's a measure of how addicted to smoking she is. We all make our own decisions about what we need to do for our children and what we need to do for ourselves. Once you conceive these decisions never stop. Some people give up coffee some don't, some take vitamins some don't, some have a few drinks during pregnancy some don't. It's a tough one but there really is nothing you can do about it. Telling her that she is a bad mother will not help. Reminding her of the effects it could have on the baby won't either. I bet she already knows. All you can do is hope that the baby is unaffected and perhaps ask her if she needs any support cutting down on the smoking. Sorry I can't offer any solutions. |
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Smoking while pregnant...
"kereru" wrote in message ...
A couple people have commented to her that she is "killing her baby". I feel that she doesn't care enough about her child to quit for the few months left in her pregnancy....does anyone on this board share my opinion, or have a different opinion? Someone very close to me smoked throughout both of her pregnancies and of course I strongly disaproved. However I don't think it is fair to say that she didn't care about her children. Personally I can't see why smokers don't give up but at the same time I know it isn't a measure of love, it's a measure of how addicted to smoking she is. We all make our own decisions about what we need to do for our children and what we need to do for ourselves. Once you conceive these decisions never stop. Some people give up coffee some don't, some take vitamins some don't, some have a few drinks during pregnancy some don't. It's a tough one but there really is nothing you can do about it. Telling her that she is a bad mother will not help. Reminding her of the effects it could have on the baby won't either. I bet she already knows. All you can do is hope that the baby is unaffected and perhaps ask her if she needs any support cutting down on the smoking. Sorry I can't offer any solutions. My mother smoked while pregnant with me. I was born weighing 9 pounds and 21 inches long. I wish she hadn't smoked, but I seem to be okay (this, of course, is a matter of opinion). |
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Smoking while pregnant...
"Cat" wrote in message ... This girl I know...I'll not refer to her as a friend becuz I can't stand her...she is my best friends sister-in-law, is about 5 months pregnant and still smokes almost 2 packs a day. A couple people have commented to her that she is "killing her baby". I feel that she doesn't care enough about her child to quit for the few months left in her pregnancy....does anyone on this board share my opinion, or have a different opinion? I dont think it means that she does not care about the baby. Smoking is hard to stop for some. As soon as we found out my sister was pregnant, Jarrod and I both quit. (October 13th 2002) My sister quit with us, but unknown to us until labor, she started again at about 7 months gestation. I was worried, but my mom smoked with all of us, and ..well.. bad example lol But I think my generation had more parents that smoked than those that didn't smoke. It was considered "classy' in the 60's and 70's (from old tv shows.. because i was not born until 1992.. LOL) -- LES! Daddie to Alegra Lee. May 25th 2003! "Daddie's Little Diva" before you reply to me via email, please remove your hat ourHat |
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Smoking while pregnant...
"Cat" wrote in message ... This girl I know...I'll not refer to her as a friend becuz I can't stand her...she is my best friends sister-in-law, is about 5 months pregnant and still smokes almost 2 packs a day. Having lived with a number of addicted smokers over the years, I can well understand having a hard time quitting totally. I *cannot* understand not even cutting down. Two packs a day is a *lot*, and the damage is very dose-dependent. --Helen |
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Smoking while pregnant...
I feel that she doesn't care enough about her child
to quit for the few months left in her pregnancy....does anyone on this board share my opinion, or have a different opinion? Nicotine is one of the most addictive substances known. Quitting smoking can be increadibly diffficult to do -- more difficult, perhaps, than quitting illicit drugs, since cigarettes can be easily and legally purchased at every convenience store. Yes, it would be best for her to quit or at least cut back. And yes, I'm sure she knows that. Why she has not quit or cut back, I don't know, but we can't assume that it is because she doesn't care about her baby. (And while, statistically, smoking DOES put her baby at increased risk for many things, of course we all know that many smoking mothers give birth to healthy, normal babies, so she may be one of the lucky ones.) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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Smoking while pregnant...
MMM I agree with a lot of the other posters. I am not educated on the effects of heavy smoking on the fetus, it's a really bad idea, but the kid will probably be born live and "normal" if that's all she's doing wrong, and it's a powerful addiction with which I sympathize. Maybe you can convince her to chew nicotine gum instead. Nicotine is a stimulant, certainly, but she'd be avoiding all the other muck that ends up in her blood along with the nicotine when you use cigarettes as your nicotine delivery system. But all of us of course want our children to be as intact as possible in their own potential and don't want to settle for "normal" where the genetic potential is that the child could have been better off but-for what we're doing. "Cat" wrote in message ... This girl I know...I'll not refer to her as a friend becuz I can't stand her...she is my best friends sister-in-law, is about 5 months pregnant and still smokes almost 2 packs a day. A couple people have commented to her that she is "killing her baby". I feel that she doesn't care enough about her child to quit for the few months left in her pregnancy....does anyone on this board share my opinion, or have a different opinion? "Id like to shoot you in the ass with a B.B. gun, lay there in the tall grass and laugh at what I done. Leave a big blood blister upon each bun, I'd like to shoot you in the ass with a B.B. gun" |
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Smoking while pregnant...
I *cannot* understand not
even cutting down. Two packs a day is a *lot*, Following up on my own post -- two packs a day is forty cigarettes, right? If she smokes for 16 hours out of the 24, that's 2.5 cigarettes an hour, so that means lighting up every 20 to 30 minutes *all day long*. --Helen |
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Smoking while pregnant...
On 10 Jul 2003 16:10:02 GMT, zeldabee
wrote: I'm just so glad I quit a couple of years ago, because I can imagine how stressful it would be trying to quit in early pregnancy. Believe it or not, it wasn't stressful at all for me to quit in early pregnancy. The act of smoking made me very nauseous. I would gag on the cigs. Then I would decide that maybe I should quit. I would quit, and then less than a week later, I would find I was pregnant. Being pregnant made it easy NOT to start again. This happened with BOTH pregnancies. Quitting is easy. Not starting again is the hard part. -- ==Daye== E-mail: brendana AT labyrinth DOT net DOT au |
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