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Runnin from Custodial Parent
I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non-
custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage, properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit- claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his child support?!? How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his support? |
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"Very Determined!" wrote I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non- custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage, properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit- claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his child support?!? == There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are irrelevent. == How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his support? == Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you lowered? Does he have a current support order to you? |
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On Sep 17, 3:54 pm, Very Determined! wrote:
but in the meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to Virgina, together! Just have the NCP assert their Constitutional rights against Virginia's DCSE, DCSE will then proceed to attempt to step on the NCP's throat. |
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On Sep 17, 1:30 pm, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non- custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage, properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit- claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his child support?!? == There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are irrelevent. == How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his support? == Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you lowered? Does he have a current support order to you?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - yes, he has a support order to me...in the meantime he is buying and selling property under her name and benefitting the rewards. |
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"Very Determined!" wrote in message ups.com... On Sep 17, 1:30 pm, "Gini" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non- custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage, properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit- claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his child support?!? == There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are irrelevent. == How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his support? == Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you lowered? Does he have a current support order to you?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - yes, he has a support order to me...in the meantime he is buying and selling property under her name and benefitting the rewards. == Well, what would you do if someone was threatening to take your house? I don't know who advised you to put a lien on his house but it wasn't a smart move. Is he paying any support now? |
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On Sep 18, 11:25 am, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote in message ups.com... On Sep 17, 1:30 pm, "Gini" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote I need a little insight on what I should do next...I found the non- custodial parent in Florida, married with property. They divorced shorly thereafter, that is when I caught wind of the marriage, properties, and sub-sequent mortgages during their divorce. To save my interest in owed child support I, the custodial parent filed a lis pendens on the property he signed over to her in the divorce. A divorce where she kept everything and had to even pay $100.00 in alimony a month and he was required to pay $100.00 in child support a month. Soo, basically a wash. After reciving the Notice of Lis Pendens she hired an attorney and quickly had the non-custodial parent Quit- claim all the properties to her.Long story, short I lost. but in the meantime, he still owes $30,000.00 in support and they moved to Virgina, together! Where she bought another home, soley in her name and co-signed a vehicle for the non-custodial parent. Can she be held accountable for anything, like aiding and abetting to avoid paying his child support?!? == There is no such crime. She is not the obligor so her assets/income are irrelevent. == How can he get away with a change of circumstance and not pay his support? == Did he file for a change of circumstance to have his support to you lowered? Does he have a current support order to you?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - yes, he has a support order to me...in the meantime he is buying and selling property under her name and benefitting the rewards. == Well, what would you do if someone was threatening to take your house? I don't know who advised you to put a lien on his house but it wasn't a smart move. Is he paying any support now?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - I conferred with an attorney in my state as well as in his, and DA's office legally cannot do it...I guess lawyers do not always have the right answers! And no, still no support, because supposedly he is not working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! So the arrearages keep adding up. |
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"Very Determined!" wrote "Gini" wrote: ................................... == Well, what would you do if someone was threatening to take your house? I don't know who advised you to put a lien on his house but it wasn't a smart move. Is he paying any support now?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - I conferred with an attorney in my state as well as in his, and DA's office legally cannot do it...I guess lawyers do not always have the right answers! And no, still no support, because supposedly he is not working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! So the arrearages keep adding up. == Have you tried reasoning with him rather than chastizing him? Have you given him the option of providing direct support such as clothing, food, whatever the child needs? My ex didn't pay CS but he paid for my fuel oil, bought the boys bikes, school clothes and whatever else they needed-- sort of the way parents do before a split. |
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"Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? |
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On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I worked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their job, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. |
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#2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? Because in the USA you, and you alone, had the sole right to bear and keep, abort, adopt, or "safe haven" (legally abandon) your child. The biological father had none of those choices. With rights come responsibilities. If you want to even out the responsibilities, how about relocating and offering him 50/50 custody, and agree to terminate all financial child support? Or do you believe that a divorced/separated father is not being "responsible" if he's not paying the mother a monthly stipend? A lot of people think that way, sadly. You might find that Dad is happy to buy your son those size 15 sneakers if he has a chance to go with him to the store to pick them out and maybe play basketball together a little more often. snip #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Why tell him that? As the CP, your responsibility is to do everything in your power to facilitate a healthy relationship with the other parent. If he isn't paying support, that is not an excuse to abandon your responsibility. As any lawyer will tell you, visitation and child support are "completely separate issues." LOL. |
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