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A disconnect at camp
On 11 Aug 2006 05:16:06 -0700, Banty wrote:
In article .com, L. says... Rosalie B. wrote: And they need to know some other skills for coping OT just running to the cell phone and calling mommy. How do you expect a child to "cope" with situations like these? http://www.campsafetyproject.org/id14.html Either you people are incredibly naive or incredibly stupid. Either way, I am damn glad I'm not your kid. So, have you perfected your teletransporter yet? Did these kids have cells? Do you think that would have made the difference? If so, explain. Were they prevented from calling home on a camp phone? IOW what's the rest of the story, and how do these relate to this discussion? Really, digging up these rare instances and pointing to them they way you do belies a distortion of reality. A former highly respected regular here, Chris Biow, had a signoff that is very good to keep in mind. It's the few stories like this that stick in some folks' minds, not the millions of successful camp experiences. It's like folks who are afraid to fly, because they focus on the few crashes that hit the news, not the thousands of daily successful flights. "Beware the vividness of transient events." Karl von Clausewitz Banty I remember Chris. Whatever happened to him? Nan |
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On 10 Aug 2006 22:42:54 -0700, L. wrote:
user wrote: Oh, come on Nan, haven't you heard about all of those YMCA-sponsored rape camps, in which all of the staff members are involved? All it takes is one rape, and yes, it happens. What, exactly, does "All it takes is one rape" mean? That children have been raped? Yes, we know that. No reasonable person denies that. So joke and laugh all you want but the fact is, kids are at risk when they attend camp. You might not think it was so funny had it happened to you, as it did me. Your biggest problem is that you don't see the forest for the trees. You have this fixation on never, ever letting your child get beyond your all-seeing eyes. You're the one who, in months past, was castigating people who let their children get on school buses with "strangers", right? It all goes back to my oft-repeated refrain that the fear-mongering, paranoid parents like yourself do not understand the intrinsic difference between a possibility and a probability. They focus on the possibilities - and particularly on the dramatic, and yet, realistically tiny chance that something bad will happen. They refuse to acknowledge that the true probability is that *nothing bad* will happen. That millions of times a year, children go to summer camps, in the care of, *gasp*, strangers, and have a safe, sane, and pleasantly memorable experience. Now, I'm sure the fear-mongers will immediately feel the need to jump in with, "Oh, but when it happens to YOUR child, won't you be sorry!", and so on. And they're right - I would be sorry. I would also be sorry if I was driving my car and get broadsided by a drunk, and my child is hurt. I would be sorry if someone broke into my house in the middle of the night, and caused us harm. I would be sorry for any number of things. But you know what? I'd be sorry too, if I raised my children to fear all things and all people, because "something might happen." I'd be sorry if my children led shallow, ultimately meaningless lives, unwilling to put their trust in anyone or anything, because I failed to teach them about reality, or how to evaluate risks. And the probability is that teaching your children to fear all people and all things *WILL* lead them into those shallow, meaningless lives. If I wanted to raise sheep, I would have gone into farming, thank you very much. - Rich -- Catapultam habeo. Nisi pecuniam omnem mihi dabis, ad caput tuum saxum immane mittam. http://www.mulveyfamily.com/kids |
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In article , Nan says...
On 11 Aug 2006 05:16:06 -0700, Banty wrote: In article .com, L. says... Rosalie B. wrote: And they need to know some other skills for coping OT just running to the cell phone and calling mommy. How do you expect a child to "cope" with situations like these? http://www.campsafetyproject.org/id14.html Either you people are incredibly naive or incredibly stupid. Either way, I am damn glad I'm not your kid. So, have you perfected your teletransporter yet? Did these kids have cells? Do you think that would have made the difference? If so, explain. Were they prevented from calling home on a camp phone? IOW what's the rest of the story, and how do these relate to this discussion? Really, digging up these rare instances and pointing to them they way you do belies a distortion of reality. A former highly respected regular here, Chris Biow, had a signoff that is very good to keep in mind. It's the few stories like this that stick in some folks' minds, not the millions of successful camp experiences. It's like folks who are afraid to fly, because they focus on the few crashes that hit the news, not the thousands of daily successful flights. "Beware the vividness of transient events." Karl von Clausewitz Banty I remember Chris. Whatever happened to him? He's still the active techie for misc.kids.moderated. I think he's just too busy for much Usenet stuff. Banty -- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/5222154.stm |
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..... and in the spirit of this whole thread, an interesting, albeit somewhat watered down look at paranoid, helicopter parents, and the trend to raise children who never experience negative consequences and situations: http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...12-000010.html Ironically enough, it was just pointed out to me by a 6th-grade teacher friend who was complaining about certain of her students who never have managed to grasp the concept that they are not the center of the universe. - Rich -- Catapultam habeo. Nisi pecuniam omnem mihi dabis, ad caput tuum saxum immane mittam. http://www.mulveyfamily.com/kids |
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"bizby40" wrote in message ... One of the problems with instant world-wide communication is that we hear constant horror stories of what might go wrong. And it's natural to want to protect our children, but you can go overboard. I know a woman who almost won't let her kids out of her sight. She does surprisingly let them go to school, but if they have a field trip and she can't go, then she keeps them home from school for the day. They can't go to day camp unless she or her husband are there with them. The parents still attend all birthday parties with the kids (the older is going into 3rd grade). She will likely keep them safe, but at what cost? The older child is known for asking "What if?" questions like when we were talking about tool safety in cub scouts, "What if someone took a saw and sawed through that pole and then the whole house fell down?" Even I can look back on my own childhood and realize that I had much more freedom at a much earlier age than my kids. It remains to be seen what all this ultra-dependence is going to do to this generation of America. Are you sure it's because of today's society or is it just those particular parents? You have those parents no matter what the generation. My mom never let me sleep over at anyone's house. I couldn't go to camp. I couldn't date. I was the only kid who couldn't attend s*x education class. My kids will get to do those things. It's the parents, not a sign of the times. |
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"Rosalie B." wrote in message ... I'm not saying that we have to get along without those things, but I think one of the points of some camps is to show children that they CAN get along without them. That's a very good reason, which I very much agree with. I just don't like the reasoning of we didn't have it, why should they? That is not a good reason. |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On Fri, 11 Aug 2006 05:53:09 GMT, "toypup" wrote: "Nan" wrote in message . .. But using a land line to report problems to your parents isn't "at will". Sorry, but with the invention of new and better(?) ways to communicate, the perceived 'need' for immediacy (thanks for the phrase, Banty ;-) has been born. If we got along okay without it before, then kids can get along without it now. I am not agreeing nor disagreeing with you. You guys can hash it out. Actually, I like the idea of cellphone-free camps, but I'm not arguing this point. I just cringe whenever anyone says we got along okay without X our kids can, too. Cringe? Why would anyone "cringe" when someone states that kids can get along without their precious cell phone for a week at camp? I am not cringing about not being without a cell phone. I am cringing about the reasoning behind it. Rosalie came up with an explanation which I heartily agree with. What I disagree with is the reasoning that we did without it, so our kids don't need it, either. If you read my post, I do agree with the concept of going cell phone free for a week. |
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In article , toypup says...
"bizby40" wrote in message ... One of the problems with instant world-wide communication is that we hear constant horror stories of what might go wrong. And it's natural to want to protect our children, but you can go overboard. I know a woman who almost won't let her kids out of her sight. She does surprisingly let them go to school, but if they have a field trip and she can't go, then she keeps them home from school for the day. They can't go to day camp unless she or her husband are there with them. The parents still attend all birthday parties with the kids (the older is going into 3rd grade). She will likely keep them safe, but at what cost? The older child is known for asking "What if?" questions like when we were talking about tool safety in cub scouts, "What if someone took a saw and sawed through that pole and then the whole house fell down?" Even I can look back on my own childhood and realize that I had much more freedom at a much earlier age than my kids. It remains to be seen what all this ultra-dependence is going to do to this generation of America. Are you sure it's because of today's society or is it just those particular parents? You have those parents no matter what the generation. My mom never let me sleep over at anyone's house. I couldn't go to camp. I couldn't date. I was the only kid who couldn't attend s*x education class. My kids will get to do those things. It's the parents, not a sign of the times. Well, it's both, of course, but that you yourself describe that you were the only kid who couldn't attend a um-um class ;-) says, that in your day, almost every kid could. Banty -- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/5222154.stm |
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In article , toypup says...
"Rosalie B." wrote in message .. . I'm not saying that we have to get along without those things, but I think one of the points of some camps is to show children that they CAN get along without them. That's a very good reason, which I very much agree with. I just don't like the reasoning of we didn't have it, why should they? That is not a good reason. Well, I don't think it was an argument of "we didn't have it, you can suffer too". Nor was it even an argument like is sometimes heard about seatbelts "we lived without them, right?". It's more like TV. It's absolutely legit to consider how people indeed managed to live without TV, even if the conclusion for any particular family may be to have TV's. Banty -- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/5222154.stm |
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user wrote: On 10 Aug 2006 22:42:54 -0700, L. wrote: user wrote: Oh, come on Nan, haven't you heard about all of those YMCA-sponsored rape camps, in which all of the staff members are involved? All it takes is one rape, and yes, it happens. What, exactly, does "All it takes is one rape" mean? That children have been raped? Yes, we know that. No reasonable person denies that. So joke and laugh all you want but the fact is, kids are at risk when they attend camp. You might not think it was so funny had it happened to you, as it did me. Your biggest problem is that you don't see the forest for the trees. You have this fixation on never, ever letting your child get beyond your all-seeing eyes. You're the one who, in months past, was castigating people who let their children get on school buses with "strangers", right? People let their kids go willy-nilly and then wonder why they get molested, abducted, verbally abused, beat up and bullied. A pinch of prevention is worth a pound of cure. You don't want your kid to have a cell phone, fine - don't give him one. My kid will have one and will use it *if* he needs to. That relates in no way to "never letting [my} child get beyond my all-seeing eyes" - you're just being an asshole with that comment. If you don't think so, then learn to read for comprehension. -L. |
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