Name question

"Jill" wrote in message
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Me personally, like I said, I would be maddest if I told someone a name I
was going to use and they had their baby first and used it, knowing I had
it
picked out.

That's why I never discussed our children's names with other people before
they were born, besides the fact that we might get some negative opinions.

"Cheryl" wrote in message
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On Thu, 15 Apr 2004 14:27:59 -0400, "Sophie"
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No, I'm not giving any clues

A good friend, who lives in another country, had her baby yesterday. We
will likely never see this friend again, ever. She named her baby a name
that we're seriously considering. How would you feel if, 3 months after
you
have your baby, a friend used the same name? She has no idea what names
we're thinking of but a mutual friend does. I personally don't think
she'd
care but I just wondered how you all would feel.

I tend to feel that the names I use are *my* names and I might be a bit
miffed if someone used one of *mine*. But I know I'm weird about names -
lol.

I couldn't use it. I would feel like I was using her child's name and
my child needed one of his/her own.

I'd feel like I was naming my child after theirs, even if I wasn't.

"Tori M." wrote in message
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I know of 2 family's from when I was growing up that had been friends
FOREVER and almost all of their last 4 kids had the same names (each
family
had 8 kids).. And they all went to school together. I think that if it
is
a friend you are not expecting to see again then why not use the name you
want to use.

Tori

Wow, I think *that's* a bit much - lol.

I think this falls into the category of things people
have to get over. I'd think twice about reusing a name among
close friends or family, just because I think it's a pain to
have to distinguish among two people with the same name that
you often talk about at the same time or see at the same
time, but even that isn't universal. I have a friend whose
sister and daughter are both named Paige and they manage
just fine with Big Paige and Little Paige when they have to
distinguish. Wouldn't be my cup of tea, though. But a
friend I wouldn't see much using the name wouldn't stop me
at all if I really liked the name, and I don't have a lot
of patience for people getting upset at someone else using
a name. It's not like they're copyrighted or anything ;-)
Names are hard enough without adding to the difficulty ;-)

Best wishes,
Ericka


Uck, my friend did this with her son - she gave him her brother's name. I
think that's just generally weird, nevermind confusing.

I highly doubt we'll ever see these friends again. They're British military
and were here on a 2 yr exchange. They're back in England so we keep in
touch through a mutual friend but I doubt we'll *ever* see each other again.

I agree with Ericka .... I wouldn't like to use names of other kids we see
all the time as I'd hate to have to distinguish. But in this case where
you
won't see much of this friend, I wouldn't worry one bit - if you do get to
meet up when the kids are older, they might get a kick out of meeting
someone with the same name as them (assuming you are staying true to form
and are not choosing a very popular name
my 2c
Amanda

--
DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny angel Nov 2003
EDD 19th August 2004


Actually I have a feeling the name is popular in England but I've heard
Lewis is too - so no big deal.

"Welches" wrote in message news:pLAfc.17563$4N3.11211@newsfe1-win...
Sophie wrote in message
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No, I'm not giving any clues

Dang! Not even just a little hint?

You could feel your way slightly hy saying to her: "I like the name-it's one
we're considering".

I would go this route. That way you can make it clear that you had
already been thinking about the name and that you didn't "steal" it
from her.

When I was pregnant with #2, we had a really hard time picking a boy's
name. We really wanted to use Noah, but were hesitant to use it
because a friend of ours had recently had a baby that she gave up for
adoption and she had named him Noah. We finally just asked her if she
would feel weird about it and she said it wouldn't bother her at all.

My SIL who was due at the same time called one day and told us they
had decided on a name - Noah. We let her know that it was our choice
also. Her response was that which ever baby came first could use the
name, but she also mentioned that if we got to use it first, she still
might use it. I was very disappointed because I had gotten so
attached to the name, but there was no way I was going to use the name
if there was a chance she'd use it also. That would just be too weird
within the same family. She ended up having her baby first anyway, so
she has a Noah and I have an Ethan. It's funny too, because Ethan's
name fits him so much better than Noah would have.

~ Sher

I wouldn't mind. One of my best friends from high school has a daughter
with
the same name as one of mine, and it would never have occurred to me to
mind. I
think it might be a little funky in the same family (depending on
circumstances), but with friends, no, I don't think it should matter. Now,
if
you went around saying "MY Zenobia is much cuter than YOUR Zenobia," you'd
deserve anything you got ;-) But I know you wouldn't do that!

--Helen

Lol. I'll try to remember that

"Sophie" wrote in message
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"Tori M." wrote in message
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I know of 2 family's from when I was growing up that had been friends
FOREVER and almost all of their last 4 kids had the same names (each
family
had 8 kids).. And they all went to school together. I think that if it
is
a friend you are not expecting to see again then why not use the name
you
want to use.

Tori

Wow, I think *that's* a bit much - lol.
I know it was if they each lost all originality The each had a Josiah,
Leah, and Rachel out of 16 kids 6 (or 3 pairs) had the same names.

Tori

"laurie" wrote in message
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I tend to feel that the names I use are *my* names and I might be a bit
miffed if someone used one of *mine*. But I know I'm weird about names -
lol.

Sophie

Honestly, I might be a teeny bit bummed too, but I'd get over it. If it
were
someone I'd see a lot or a relative, I'd be really annoyed, but in your
situation I think it's ok.

Why not ask her?

laurie
mommy to Jessica, 3 years
Christopher, 11 months

I bought some baby clothes to send to her, as well as stuff for her 2 older
children and I think I will include a note telling her that's the name we've
chosen too. And go from there.

I couldn't use it. I would feel like I was using her child's name and
my child needed one of his/her own.

I'd feel like I was naming my child after theirs, even if I wasn't.

Huh? It's a real name, it's not like she's the first to use it and it's
actually getting pretty common (from what I gather) where she lives. I bet
her's won't even be the only one in class.

Considering I never even talked to her during her pregnancy, how could I
have stolen it when I thought of it about 4 or 5 months ago?

I think you guys are weirder about names than I am - lol.