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"Dave" Dave@freedoms-door wrote in message ... Being a "real man" is a feminist code word for a man to be a obey them as a loyal indentured servant without question. I always thought it meant agreeing with whatever a woman says even though you know better - as in - "Honey, everyone knows that washing machines eat men's socks." Because if a man presses a woman to own up to personal responsibility the response will be a total breakdown of communication - as in - "If you don't like the way I do the laundry, do it yourself." |
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Of course some men behave badley, including good men. This is true of
bother genders. I have to ask though, does pornography make a man bad these days? It's a natural urge, guys are visual. The only reason we have kids in the first place is because we appreciate the female body. I could blow away the rest of the article, but in the end, the only one who can judge if you are good or not is you. We all have our morals and ideas of what is and is not acceptable, and if we live up to what we believe to be good, we are. I refuse to let a butch dike with a bad haircut tell me how I should behave. -Drew "chillin'" wrote in message om... Women! All those who feel as thought they have been wronged in a relationship! What kind of man are YOU looking for? Are there any good women out there who would search for a good man, or is it all about "sex" and "money"? Straight Talk: Men - August 11, 2003 Guest Column by Harvey Yoder Macho. Crude. Insensitive. Controlling. Obsessed with sex. These were some of the first responses I got at a recent men's seminar when I asked what they thought society's perceptions were of males. They agreed these unflattering labels weren't true of all men all the time, but admitted that our gender had earned all too many of these negative stereotypes. We men do often behave badly. We leer at women, demean them by focusing on their body parts, and have been known to sometimes use, abuse and abandon them. And as the ultimate insult, more and more men have become addicted to pornography, have become regular supporters of a growing multibillion industry that uses women as moral prostitutes and reduces men to moral adolescents. I'll never forget the advice an older high school teacher once gave: "If you want a good woman, you have to be a good man. It's as simple as that," he said. "So start by listing the good qualities you are looking for, then concentrate on becoming that kind of person yourself, rather than just looking for those traits in someone else." That sounds basic. Just be a good man. You can only deserve the kind of person you are. But what is that kind of person like? For starters, a good man shows a high level of respect--for everyone. He treats women the way he would have other men treat his own daughter, mother or sister. That means seeing them not just as desirable, warm bodies, but as precious human beings with real minds, and with interests and feelings other than about sex. A good man strives to be a good lover, but realizes love has more to do with being patient than being passionate, with being kind and dependable than just amorous in bed. A real man knows real love is more about giving than about getting. A good man is honest. An "I love you" is never used just to get someone to give him what he wants, but is matched by kind, caring behavior in every part of his life. A good man doesn't indulge in pornographic fantasies of artificially endowed models (anorexics with breast implants) dying to have sex with him. He recognizes pornography use as not only infantile but dangerously addictive and downright harmful to relationships. A good man regards each human being as a genuinely beautiful person, not just for their physical shape or appearance, but for who they are as a child of God, a unique individual of incomparable worth. A good man sees sex as a God-given gift meant not only for pleasure, but for uniting one man to one woman "for as long as they both shall live." And, of course, for creating children who can grow up in a stable, loving family. A good man honors his commitments. When he says "for better or for worse," he means it. When he promises "until death do us part," he honors that promise. A good man knows how to be a decent Dad. He takes a strong interest in his children and provides for their physical, emotional and spiritual needs. They are always a number one priority in his life. But is being a good man really possible? Not perfectly, of course, and maybe not always, but it's what God created each of us to be, and what God can enable us to become. And when we fail, as we sometimes do, we are ready to admit it, immediately and honestly. We do whatever it takes to change and to do better, to avoid repeating the same kind of mistakes over and over again. As an imperfect father of two young adult sons, each of them imperfect but good men, and as a father-in-law of another one, I can only say that constantly working at this goal is worth all the effort it takes. The Bible tells the story of David, who when he had committed adultery and then realized the awfulness of what he had done, cried out to God on one of the greatest prayers of repentance in the Bible (Psalm 51). God honored him by calling him a "man after God's own heart." Likewise, God will love and bless us in our pursuit of becoming good men. And our wives, families and friends will forever thank us. |
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Of course some men behave badley, including good men. This is true of
bother genders. I have to ask though, does pornography make a man bad these days? It's a natural urge, guys are visual. The only reason we have kids in the first place is because we appreciate the female body. I could blow away the rest of the article, but in the end, the only one who can judge if you are good or not is you. We all have our morals and ideas of what is and is not acceptable, and if we live up to what we believe to be good, we are. I refuse to let a butch dike with a bad haircut tell me how I should behave. -Drew "chillin'" wrote in message om... Women! All those who feel as thought they have been wronged in a relationship! What kind of man are YOU looking for? Are there any good women out there who would search for a good man, or is it all about "sex" and "money"? Straight Talk: Men - August 11, 2003 Guest Column by Harvey Yoder Macho. Crude. Insensitive. Controlling. Obsessed with sex. These were some of the first responses I got at a recent men's seminar when I asked what they thought society's perceptions were of males. They agreed these unflattering labels weren't true of all men all the time, but admitted that our gender had earned all too many of these negative stereotypes. We men do often behave badly. We leer at women, demean them by focusing on their body parts, and have been known to sometimes use, abuse and abandon them. And as the ultimate insult, more and more men have become addicted to pornography, have become regular supporters of a growing multibillion industry that uses women as moral prostitutes and reduces men to moral adolescents. I'll never forget the advice an older high school teacher once gave: "If you want a good woman, you have to be a good man. It's as simple as that," he said. "So start by listing the good qualities you are looking for, then concentrate on becoming that kind of person yourself, rather than just looking for those traits in someone else." That sounds basic. Just be a good man. You can only deserve the kind of person you are. But what is that kind of person like? For starters, a good man shows a high level of respect--for everyone. He treats women the way he would have other men treat his own daughter, mother or sister. That means seeing them not just as desirable, warm bodies, but as precious human beings with real minds, and with interests and feelings other than about sex. A good man strives to be a good lover, but realizes love has more to do with being patient than being passionate, with being kind and dependable than just amorous in bed. A real man knows real love is more about giving than about getting. A good man is honest. An "I love you" is never used just to get someone to give him what he wants, but is matched by kind, caring behavior in every part of his life. A good man doesn't indulge in pornographic fantasies of artificially endowed models (anorexics with breast implants) dying to have sex with him. He recognizes pornography use as not only infantile but dangerously addictive and downright harmful to relationships. A good man regards each human being as a genuinely beautiful person, not just for their physical shape or appearance, but for who they are as a child of God, a unique individual of incomparable worth. A good man sees sex as a God-given gift meant not only for pleasure, but for uniting one man to one woman "for as long as they both shall live." And, of course, for creating children who can grow up in a stable, loving family. A good man honors his commitments. When he says "for better or for worse," he means it. When he promises "until death do us part," he honors that promise. A good man knows how to be a decent Dad. He takes a strong interest in his children and provides for their physical, emotional and spiritual needs. They are always a number one priority in his life. But is being a good man really possible? Not perfectly, of course, and maybe not always, but it's what God created each of us to be, and what God can enable us to become. And when we fail, as we sometimes do, we are ready to admit it, immediately and honestly. We do whatever it takes to change and to do better, to avoid repeating the same kind of mistakes over and over again. As an imperfect father of two young adult sons, each of them imperfect but good men, and as a father-in-law of another one, I can only say that constantly working at this goal is worth all the effort it takes. The Bible tells the story of David, who when he had committed adultery and then realized the awfulness of what he had done, cried out to God on one of the greatest prayers of repentance in the Bible (Psalm 51). God honored him by calling him a "man after God's own heart." Likewise, God will love and bless us in our pursuit of becoming good men. And our wives, families and friends will forever thank us. |
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Reminds me of a comic strip joke I saw years ago. It showed a woman
getting ready to go out to a night club. She put on fake eyelashes, lots of make-up, put on hair extensions, put her double-D cup bra to hold her breast implants, and so on. Her female room-mate enters and asks her what she is doing. She responds that she is going out to find herself a REAL man. :-P Me wrote in message tnews.com... Well I for one am sick of hearing women tell us what "real men" are supposed to be. They read off a laundry list of characteristics that we are supposed to have then tell us that we are not real men if we don't meet the test? NEWSFLASH! A real man is any average guy walking down the street. Some are good and some are bad but they are all real men. If anyone needs a course in what real men are, it's these women that try to tell us what they are. I'm no less of a man for not meeting your list than you are not a real woman for meeting some idealized version of womanhood that I dream up. |
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Reminds me of a comic strip joke I saw years ago. It showed a woman
getting ready to go out to a night club. She put on fake eyelashes, lots of make-up, put on hair extensions, put her double-D cup bra to hold her breast implants, and so on. Her female room-mate enters and asks her what she is doing. She responds that she is going out to find herself a REAL man. :-P Me wrote in message tnews.com... Well I for one am sick of hearing women tell us what "real men" are supposed to be. They read off a laundry list of characteristics that we are supposed to have then tell us that we are not real men if we don't meet the test? NEWSFLASH! A real man is any average guy walking down the street. Some are good and some are bad but they are all real men. If anyone needs a course in what real men are, it's these women that try to tell us what they are. I'm no less of a man for not meeting your list than you are not a real woman for meeting some idealized version of womanhood that I dream up. |
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"Father Drew" wrote in message
news:IhT5b.47001$nf3.32024@fed1read07... Of course some men behave badly, including good men. This is true of bother genders. I have to ask though, does pornography make a man bad these days? It's a natural urge, guys are visual. The only reason we have kids in the first place is because we appreciate the female body. My boyfriend would disagree with you that "pornography is a natural urge". I strongly believe the looking at something which we find attractive is normal. That is for both genders. It isn't just men who stop and take a look at someone of the opposite sex that they find attractive. Both men and women do it. But *pornography* being a natural urge - no it isn't. My boyfriend does not go out of his way to view pornography. He has a "girlie" calendar hanging in his garage, which I could careless about. It isn't like he is over there drooling, etc. His oldest son put it there, otherwise it wouldn't exist. When I'm with my boyfriend I feel I'm the only female that exists. I have never seen him look (check out, etc) another woman while I'm around. What I experience with my boyfriend is extremely rare. Likewise - my boyfriend will never see me looking at another guy. Since he's been in my life the rest of the men population just doesn't exist. You guys are nothing more than just other people. I guess the real difference is that to my boyfriend attraction goes far beyond just looks. To some all it takes is just looks == that is for both men and women too. I could blow away the rest of the article, but in the end, the only one who can judge if you are good or not is you. We all have our morals and ideas of what is and is not acceptable, and if we live up to what we believe to be good, we are. I refuse to let a butch dike with a bad haircut tell me how I should behave. LOL - I hope so! Tracy ~~~~~~~ http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ "You can't solve problems with the same type of thinking that created them." Albert Einstein *** spamguard in place! to email me: tracy at hornschuch dot net *** -Drew "chillin'" wrote in message om... Women! All those who feel as thought they have been wronged in a relationship! What kind of man are YOU looking for? Are there any good women out there who would search for a good man, or is it all about "sex" and "money"? Straight Talk: Men - August 11, 2003 Guest Column by Harvey Yoder Macho. Crude. Insensitive. Controlling. Obsessed with sex. These were some of the first responses I got at a recent men's seminar when I asked what they thought society's perceptions were of males. They agreed these unflattering labels weren't true of all men all the time, but admitted that our gender had earned all too many of these negative stereotypes. We men do often behave badly. We leer at women, demean them by focusing on their body parts, and have been known to sometimes use, abuse and abandon them. And as the ultimate insult, more and more men have become addicted to pornography, have become regular supporters of a growing multibillion industry that uses women as moral prostitutes and reduces men to moral adolescents. I'll never forget the advice an older high school teacher once gave: "If you want a good woman, you have to be a good man. It's as simple as that," he said. "So start by listing the good qualities you are looking for, then concentrate on becoming that kind of person yourself, rather than just looking for those traits in someone else." That sounds basic. Just be a good man. You can only deserve the kind of person you are. But what is that kind of person like? For starters, a good man shows a high level of respect--for everyone. He treats women the way he would have other men treat his own daughter, mother or sister. That means seeing them not just as desirable, warm bodies, but as precious human beings with real minds, and with interests and feelings other than about sex. A good man strives to be a good lover, but realizes love has more to do with being patient than being passionate, with being kind and dependable than just amorous in bed. A real man knows real love is more about giving than about getting. A good man is honest. An "I love you" is never used just to get someone to give him what he wants, but is matched by kind, caring behavior in every part of his life. A good man doesn't indulge in pornographic fantasies of artificially endowed models (anorexics with breast implants) dying to have sex with him. He recognizes pornography use as not only infantile but dangerously addictive and downright harmful to relationships. A good man regards each human being as a genuinely beautiful person, not just for their physical shape or appearance, but for who they are as a child of God, a unique individual of incomparable worth. A good man sees sex as a God-given gift meant not only for pleasure, but for uniting one man to one woman "for as long as they both shall live." And, of course, for creating children who can grow up in a stable, loving family. A good man honors his commitments. When he says "for better or for worse," he means it. When he promises "until death do us part," he honors that promise. A good man knows how to be a decent Dad. He takes a strong interest in his children and provides for their physical, emotional and spiritual needs. They are always a number one priority in his life. But is being a good man really possible? Not perfectly, of course, and maybe not always, but it's what God created each of us to be, and what God can enable us to become. And when we fail, as we sometimes do, we are ready to admit it, immediately and honestly. We do whatever it takes to change and to do better, to avoid repeating the same kind of mistakes over and over again. As an imperfect father of two young adult sons, each of them imperfect but good men, and as a father-in-law of another one, I can only say that constantly working at this goal is worth all the effort it takes. The Bible tells the story of David, who when he had committed adultery and then realized the awfulness of what he had done, cried out to God on one of the greatest prayers of repentance in the Bible (Psalm 51). God honored him by calling him a "man after God's own heart." Likewise, God will love and bless us in our pursuit of becoming good men. And our wives, families and friends will forever thank us. |
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"Father Drew" wrote in message
news:IhT5b.47001$nf3.32024@fed1read07... Of course some men behave badly, including good men. This is true of bother genders. I have to ask though, does pornography make a man bad these days? It's a natural urge, guys are visual. The only reason we have kids in the first place is because we appreciate the female body. My boyfriend would disagree with you that "pornography is a natural urge". I strongly believe the looking at something which we find attractive is normal. That is for both genders. It isn't just men who stop and take a look at someone of the opposite sex that they find attractive. Both men and women do it. But *pornography* being a natural urge - no it isn't. My boyfriend does not go out of his way to view pornography. He has a "girlie" calendar hanging in his garage, which I could careless about. It isn't like he is over there drooling, etc. His oldest son put it there, otherwise it wouldn't exist. When I'm with my boyfriend I feel I'm the only female that exists. I have never seen him look (check out, etc) another woman while I'm around. What I experience with my boyfriend is extremely rare. Likewise - my boyfriend will never see me looking at another guy. Since he's been in my life the rest of the men population just doesn't exist. You guys are nothing more than just other people. I guess the real difference is that to my boyfriend attraction goes far beyond just looks. To some all it takes is just looks == that is for both men and women too. I could blow away the rest of the article, but in the end, the only one who can judge if you are good or not is you. We all have our morals and ideas of what is and is not acceptable, and if we live up to what we believe to be good, we are. I refuse to let a butch dike with a bad haircut tell me how I should behave. LOL - I hope so! Tracy ~~~~~~~ http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ "You can't solve problems with the same type of thinking that created them." Albert Einstein *** spamguard in place! to email me: tracy at hornschuch dot net *** -Drew "chillin'" wrote in message om... Women! All those who feel as thought they have been wronged in a relationship! What kind of man are YOU looking for? Are there any good women out there who would search for a good man, or is it all about "sex" and "money"? Straight Talk: Men - August 11, 2003 Guest Column by Harvey Yoder Macho. Crude. Insensitive. Controlling. Obsessed with sex. These were some of the first responses I got at a recent men's seminar when I asked what they thought society's perceptions were of males. They agreed these unflattering labels weren't true of all men all the time, but admitted that our gender had earned all too many of these negative stereotypes. We men do often behave badly. We leer at women, demean them by focusing on their body parts, and have been known to sometimes use, abuse and abandon them. And as the ultimate insult, more and more men have become addicted to pornography, have become regular supporters of a growing multibillion industry that uses women as moral prostitutes and reduces men to moral adolescents. I'll never forget the advice an older high school teacher once gave: "If you want a good woman, you have to be a good man. It's as simple as that," he said. "So start by listing the good qualities you are looking for, then concentrate on becoming that kind of person yourself, rather than just looking for those traits in someone else." That sounds basic. Just be a good man. You can only deserve the kind of person you are. But what is that kind of person like? For starters, a good man shows a high level of respect--for everyone. He treats women the way he would have other men treat his own daughter, mother or sister. That means seeing them not just as desirable, warm bodies, but as precious human beings with real minds, and with interests and feelings other than about sex. A good man strives to be a good lover, but realizes love has more to do with being patient than being passionate, with being kind and dependable than just amorous in bed. A real man knows real love is more about giving than about getting. A good man is honest. An "I love you" is never used just to get someone to give him what he wants, but is matched by kind, caring behavior in every part of his life. A good man doesn't indulge in pornographic fantasies of artificially endowed models (anorexics with breast implants) dying to have sex with him. He recognizes pornography use as not only infantile but dangerously addictive and downright harmful to relationships. A good man regards each human being as a genuinely beautiful person, not just for their physical shape or appearance, but for who they are as a child of God, a unique individual of incomparable worth. A good man sees sex as a God-given gift meant not only for pleasure, but for uniting one man to one woman "for as long as they both shall live." And, of course, for creating children who can grow up in a stable, loving family. A good man honors his commitments. When he says "for better or for worse," he means it. When he promises "until death do us part," he honors that promise. A good man knows how to be a decent Dad. He takes a strong interest in his children and provides for their physical, emotional and spiritual needs. They are always a number one priority in his life. But is being a good man really possible? Not perfectly, of course, and maybe not always, but it's what God created each of us to be, and what God can enable us to become. And when we fail, as we sometimes do, we are ready to admit it, immediately and honestly. We do whatever it takes to change and to do better, to avoid repeating the same kind of mistakes over and over again. As an imperfect father of two young adult sons, each of them imperfect but good men, and as a father-in-law of another one, I can only say that constantly working at this goal is worth all the effort it takes. The Bible tells the story of David, who when he had committed adultery and then realized the awfulness of what he had done, cried out to God on one of the greatest prayers of repentance in the Bible (Psalm 51). God honored him by calling him a "man after God's own heart." Likewise, God will love and bless us in our pursuit of becoming good men. And our wives, families and friends will forever thank us. |
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Tracy wrote in message et... "Father Drew" wrote in message news:IhT5b.47001$nf3.32024@fed1read07... Of course some men behave badly, including good men. This is true of bother genders. I have to ask though, does pornography make a man bad these days? It's a natural urge, guys are visual. The only reason we have kids in the first place is because we appreciate the female body. My boyfriend would disagree with you that "pornography is a natural urge". I strongly believe the looking at something which we find attractive is normal. That is for both genders. It isn't just men who stop and take a look at someone of the opposite sex that they find attractive. Both men and women do it. But *pornography* being a natural urge - no it isn't. My boyfriend does not go out of his way to view pornography. He has a "girlie" calendar hanging in his garage, which I could careless about. It isn't like he is over there drooling, etc. His oldest son put it there, otherwise it wouldn't exist. When I'm with my boyfriend I feel I'm the only female that exists. I have never seen him look (check out, etc) another woman while I'm around. What I experience with my boyfriend is extremely rare. Likewise - my boyfriend will never see me looking at another guy. Since he's been in my life the rest of the men population just doesn't exist. You guys are nothing more than just other people. I guess the real difference is that to my boyfriend attraction goes far beyond just looks. To some all it takes is just looks == that is for both men and women too. I could blow away the rest of the article, but in the end, the only one who can judge if you are good or not is you. We all have our morals and ideas of what is and is not acceptable, and if we live up to what we believe to be good, we are. I refuse to let a butch dike with a bad haircut tell me how I should behave. LOL - I hope so! Tracy But what about a man who doesn't have that love of his life and resorts to pornography to help him along in his self-pleasurement? Would you consider that natural or unnatural? I have mixed feelings about pornography but this isn't the place for that discussion. lol T |
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