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Old May 29th 06, 02:23 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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Hi All, just a quick update:

Will turned 1 on Saturday - a great day was had by all... I saw 05:29
and remembered:

12 months ago today I felt the pain, joy, power and wonder of becoming a
mother.

Our breastfeeding relationship is still going strong - luckily, because
Will has gone totally off his solids (again). It's starting to really
worry/frustrate me. Do I even bother offering food? It just frustrates
us both, and it ends up being thrown on the floor (he does it, not
me...) He hasn't eaten much more than 2 or 3 teaspoons of ANYTHING for
breakfast for the last few weeks. Lunch is hit and miss, and dinner is
usually OK.. but not the last few days. Perhaps he is coming down with
something. I don't want to force the issue, as that could cause more
problems, but I also don't want to miss any opportunity to get some food
into him!!

Other than that, I'm working one or two days a week, and DH watches him.
It's good for them to have time together.

This whole lackofsleep/parenthood/breastfeeding thing has done nothing
for my libido though, and our relationship is a little less cuddly than
before (perhaps as a result?) It's like living with a brother... which
is sad. I'm sure it will improve though.

Will is still almost walkign - he's just a bit of a chicken. He is
trying SO hard to talk "buckem buckem duckem duckem"... he can say
'bump' and 'du' (dummy) and mumma and dada, etc. He can say 'woo' (woof)
and 'dog' too

Anyway, that's pretty much it, I think. Overall I'm having fun, but I
wouldn't mind a good night's sleep (just one 10 hour stint would be
wonderful!) Right now I'm too exhausted to care about much of anything
- sad isn't it?

Jo (Breastfeeding a toddler!)

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Old May 29th 06, 02:48 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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"Notchalk" wrote:

Hi All, just a quick update:

Will turned 1 on Saturday - a great day was had by all... I saw 05:29 and
remembered:

12 months ago today I felt the pain, joy, power and wonder of becoming a
mother.

Our breastfeeding relationship is still going strong - luckily, because
Will has gone totally off his solids (again). It's starting to really
worry/frustrate me. Do I even bother offering food? It just frustrates us
both, and it ends up being thrown on the floor (he does it, not me...) He
hasn't eaten much more than 2 or 3 teaspoons of ANYTHING for breakfast for
the last few weeks. Lunch is hit and miss, and dinner is usually OK.. but
not the last few days. Perhaps he is coming down with something. I don't
want to force the issue, as that could cause more problems, but I also
don't want to miss any opportunity to get some food into him!!

Other than that, I'm working one or two days a week, and DH watches him.
It's good for them to have time together.

This whole lackofsleep/parenthood/breastfeeding thing has done nothing for
my libido though, and our relationship is a little less cuddly than before
(perhaps as a result?) It's like living with a brother... which is sad.
I'm sure it will improve though.

Will is still almost walkign - he's just a bit of a chicken. He is trying
SO hard to talk "buckem buckem duckem duckem"... he can say 'bump' and
'du' (dummy) and mumma and dada, etc. He can say 'woo' (woof) and 'dog'
too

Anyway, that's pretty much it, I think. Overall I'm having fun, but I
wouldn't mind a good night's sleep (just one 10 hour stint would be
wonderful!) Right now I'm too exhausted to care about much of anything -
sad isn't it?

Jo (Breastfeeding a toddler!)


Aww, happy birthday to Will!

I wouldn't worry too much about the not eating food thing. I'd just keep
offering it & giving it to him when he wants it. Alexander has days when he
doesn't want anything either but then he also has days when he eats a whole
jar for lunch and half of one for dinner.

Do you give him any snack type foods? Alexander really loves these little
freeze dried apple chunks.
http://www.gerber.com/toddlersite?tm...l&tms promo=2

He'll eat that even if he isn't in the mood for regular baby food.

Congratulations on breastfeeding this far.

rj


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Old May 29th 06, 10:34 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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That year has gone fast, probably not for you though.

My toddlers were always difficult to get to eat anything, perhaps he is
teething? That does not help.

The sleeping/libido thing, it does get better, but it does take a
while. Any chance you could leave Will for at least a couple of hours
early in the evening so you could go out for an early dinner/ get
takeaway/snuggle and still get to bed relatively early?

I remember the exhaustion of continued broken sleep, it is very cruel.

Happy Birthday Will!


Larissa
mum to
DD feb 99
DS mar 01
DD2 dec 03

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Old May 29th 06, 11:12 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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boy, it flys by, I'll be making my own post along the same lines in 2 weeks

btw, you're not breastfeeding a toddler by my definition of toddler, which
means they are walking, but I know it is a milestone, nursing a 1+, I'm just
not sure how I'd phrase it, I don't think Ada will be walking in 2 weeks, in
fact I hope she isn't!

Anne

PS chill about the food, does he do finger food? even if he doesn't, putting
it in front of him in small pieces will help his fine motor skills, even if
it is just a case of picking up and moving it! We have the opposite problem,
Ada doesn't seem to know when to stop and then if she is active afterwards,
she vomits it, gross! A


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Old May 30th 06, 01:51 AM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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"Notchalk" wrote in message
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Hi All, just a quick update:


This whole lackofsleep/parenthood/breastfeeding thing has done nothing for
my libido though, and our relationship is a little less cuddly than before
(perhaps as a result?) It's like living with a brother... which is sad.
I'm sure it will improve though.


I would be wary of attributing too much of this to breastfeeding, especially
with a 12 month old, and assuming that it will improve without work.
Parenthood dramatically changes the dynamics, and it's easy after all those
sleepless nights to begin seeing your partner as a
brother/flatmate/co-worker or in any number of asexual contexts.
I know you -know- this, but don't forget that for women, foreplay takes all
day. Now that Will is a year old, how long will he go between feeds? Can you
get a babysitter and go out and catch a movie, have a hot spa, a romantic
walk? Even just turn off the TV, put on some soft music, and -talk-. Not
about Will, or finances, or home renovations, but about yourselves. And
listen.

/end unsolicited advice


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& Ana born screaming 30/06/04
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Old May 30th 06, 03:52 AM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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My William was 98% breastfed until he was almost two. No kidding. He
would not eat--even try--anything. At 5, he is still very, very picky.
I'm embarrassed to say how limited his menu is.

But you know what? Just over the past month he has finally decided to
try new things! He tried ramen today. Yesterday he declared he loved
dirty rice. And then he said, "I am going to keep trying new things
until I loved every food in the whole world!"

So there is hope. :-) And in the meantime, bf meets his nutritional
needs! William has always been very healthy, btw, growing well and
never getting sick.

Leslie

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Old May 30th 06, 06:06 AM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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Happy Birthday Will,

Congrats on breastfeeding so far, hope u will continue BF him for more
than two years. its too hard to see ur child not taking solids, u
better try solids in attractive way, make sweetdishes, salty, spicy,
fried, may be at last u ubderstand his taste and get the reward

rukhsana

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Old May 30th 06, 08:56 AM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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In article , Notchalk
wrote:

Will turned 1 on Saturday - a great day was had by all... I saw 05:29
and remembered:


Happy birthday! DS2 turned 1 yesterday.

Our breastfeeding relationship is still going strong - luckily, because
Will has gone totally off his solids (again).


Astral twins. DS2 isn't eating much either atm, but he's teething and has a
cold tonight (the big lug is snoring in my lap atm).

He hasn't eaten much more than 2 or 3 teaspoons of ANYTHING for
breakfast for the last few weeks.


Finger food?

This whole lackofsleep/parenthood/breastfeeding thing has done nothing
for my libido though, and our relationship is a little less cuddly than
before (perhaps as a result?) It's like living with a brother... which
is sad. I'm sure it will improve though.


LOL. What's nooky again?

Will is still almost walkign - he's just a bit of a chicken. He is
trying SO hard to talk "buckem buckem duckem duckem"... he can say
'bump' and 'du' (dummy) and mumma and dada, etc. He can say 'woo' (woof)
and 'dog' too


DS2 is walking and added took (meaning chook, since we have two of them) to
his vocabulary yesterday. Previously the chooks were guck-guck.

Anyway, that's pretty much it, I think. Overall I'm having fun, but I
wouldn't mind a good night's sleep (just one 10 hour stint would be
wonderful!) Right now I'm too exhausted to care about much of anything
- sad isn't it?


LOL -- I think I'm *slightly* less exhausted than you are. DS2 is waking
often due to cold/teeth/hunger/whatever and I'm tired.

--
Chookie -- Sydney, Australia
(Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply)

"Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may
start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled."
Kerry Cue
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Old May 30th 06, 01:05 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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Mum of Two wrote:

I would be wary of attributing too much of this to breastfeeding, especially
with a 12 month old, and assuming that it will improve without work.
Parenthood dramatically changes the dynamics, and it's easy after all those
sleepless nights to begin seeing your partner as a
brother/flatmate/co-worker or in any number of asexual contexts.
I know you -know- this, but don't forget that for women, foreplay takes all
day. Now that Will is a year old, how long will he go between feeds? Can you
get a babysitter and go out and catch a movie, have a hot spa, a romantic
walk? Even just turn off the TV, put on some soft music, and -talk-. Not
about Will, or finances, or home renovations, but about yourselves. And
listen.

/end unsolicited advice



Heh, no, keep it coming, don't end it here! I just like to know that
it's normal (ish) I still haven't got my period back, so I guess
that's why I was attributing the no libido thing to breastfeeding - I
figure my body knows it's not time for more babies yet, so why bother
getting excited!?

I can leave will for 8 hours to go to work and he takes no breastmilk in
that time, so I know I could leave him with my sister or my niece. But
that's all so very 'planned' IYKWIM?

Thanks

Jo
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Old May 30th 06, 01:07 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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rukhsana wrote:
Happy Birthday Will,

Congrats on breastfeeding so far, hope u will continue BF him for more
than two years. its too hard to see ur child not taking solids, u
better try solids in attractive way, make sweetdishes, salty, spicy,
fried, may be at last u ubderstand his taste and get the reward

rukhsana


Thankyou

That is a good idea about trying different tastes. I guess you read so
often that babies like bland food... but then he loves that horrible
processed meat that I shouldn't be giving him, and ice cream, and and
and... we've even tried him with a bit of curry sauce mixed in with his
plain veges while we enjoy a beef curry, and he loves it.

I'll definitely keep that in mind.

Jo
 




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