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Hello all! Some of you I know, and others I am enjoying reading about from
your posts. I just recently had my baby, and thought I would check out this ng since I've been a regular on MKP for the last several months. : ) My name is Alicia, I'm 29 and have just had a beautiful baby boy (Aug 9th) that weighed in at 9 pounds 3 ounces. His name is Raine. : ) Now, my rant: I am breastfeeding my little one, and have had good luck with latching in the last two weeks, the first week was a bit silly because I was compressing the breast the wrong way. OUCH. Anyway, it's all sorted now. BUT, before I even had the baby I had some concerns because I had had a breast reduction a number of years ago. I really wanted to be able to breast feed, but didn't know if it would be possible, or if I would need to supplement. My baby has been doing really well, he's got great colour, he's pooping and peeing well, and he's very interactive and alert. However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! ARGHHHH! I feel like calling her and telling her to f*** off (pardon my harsh language, she just really makes me angry). The course of his little life has been this: He lost about 6 ounces in the first 4-5 days or so, then regained his birth weight and another 6 ounces in the week and that followed. Now, in the last 6 days, he has only gained 4 ounces and the midwife is going crazy with telling me he's not doing as well as he should. I agree that he is not as high as he was, nor is he on the 'average' weight gain for this week. But she's really getting nasty with trying to get me to intervene. Am I crazy for wanting to tell her to leave well enough alone? I know that weight gain is very important for development of the brain and body, but I am sure he is healthy! Of course, if the trend were for him to be underweight, or he was showing any signs of not getting enough milk (other than a few less ounces this week), I would want to do something about it. But I don't feel that one week out of three is enough of a trend to start panicking! Please let me know if I am in the wrong here, I am a new mother, and this is my first baby. I don't want ANYTHING to upset his development if I can help it. But, if I am right about wanting to just leave well enough alone, please also tell me. Have any of you had this kind of experience? How does one handle a meddlesome midwife? She has been paranoid since I first started seeing her. We never connected, and even during my labour she didn't offer any kind of support. : ( Need some encouragement please. Many thanks, Alicia |
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Alicia Elliott wrote:
Hello all! Some of you I know, and others I am enjoying reading about from your posts. I just recently had my baby, and thought I would check out this ng since I've been a regular on MKP for the last several months. : ) My name is Alicia, I'm 29 and have just had a beautiful baby boy (Aug 9th) that weighed in at 9 pounds 3 ounces. His name is Raine. : ) Now, my rant: I am breastfeeding my little one, and have had good luck with latching in the last two weeks, the first week was a bit silly because I was compressing the breast the wrong way. OUCH. Anyway, it's all sorted now. BUT, before I even had the baby I had some concerns because I had had a breast reduction a number of years ago. I really wanted to be able to breast feed, but didn't know if it would be possible, or if I would need to supplement. My baby has been doing really well, he's got great colour, he's pooping and peeing well, and he's very interactive and alert. However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! ARGHHHH! I feel like calling her and telling her to f*** off (pardon my harsh language, she just really makes me angry). The course of his little life has been this: He lost about 6 ounces in the first 4-5 days or so, then regained his birth weight and another 6 ounces in the week and that followed. Now, in the last 6 days, he has only gained 4 ounces and the midwife is going crazy with telling me he's not doing as well as he should. I agree that he is not as high as he was, nor is he on the 'average' weight gain for this week. But she's really getting nasty with trying to get me to intervene. Am I crazy for wanting to tell her to leave well enough alone? I know that weight gain is very important for development of the brain and body, but I am sure he is healthy! Of course, if the trend were for him to be underweight, or he was showing any signs of not getting enough milk (other than a few less ounces this week), I would want to do something about it. But I don't feel that one week out of three is enough of a trend to start panicking! Please let me know if I am in the wrong here, I am a new mother, and this is my first baby. I don't want ANYTHING to upset his development if I can help it. But, if I am right about wanting to just leave well enough alone, please also tell me. Have any of you had this kind of experience? How does one handle a meddlesome midwife? She has been paranoid since I first started seeing her. We never connected, and even during my labour she didn't offer any kind of support. : ( Need some encouragement please. Alicia, talk to Charlotte M. -- Brigitte aa #2145 edd #3 February 15, 2004 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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"Alicia Elliott" wrote in message . ca... Hello all! Some of you I know, and others I am enjoying reading about from your posts. I just recently had my baby, and thought I would check out this ng since I've been a regular on MKP for the last several months. : ) My name is Alicia, I'm 29 and have just had a beautiful baby boy (Aug 9th) that weighed in at 9 pounds 3 ounces. His name is Raine. : ) Now, my rant: I am breastfeeding my little one, and have had good luck with latching in the last two weeks, the first week was a bit silly because I was compressing the breast the wrong way. OUCH. Anyway, it's all sorted now. BUT, before I even had the baby I had some concerns because I had had a breast reduction a number of years ago. I really wanted to be able to breast feed, but didn't know if it would be possible, or if I would need to supplement. My baby has been doing really well, he's got great colour, he's pooping and peeing well, and he's very interactive and alert. However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! ARGHHHH! I feel like calling her and telling her to f*** off (pardon my harsh language, she just really makes me angry). The course of his little life has been this: He lost about 6 ounces in the first 4-5 days or so, then regained his birth weight and another 6 ounces in the week and that followed. Now, in the last 6 days, he has only gained 4 ounces and the midwife is going crazy with telling me he's not doing as well as he should. I agree that he is not as high as he was, nor is he on the 'average' weight gain for this week. But she's really getting nasty with trying to get me to intervene. Am I crazy for wanting to tell her to leave well enough alone? I know that weight gain is very important for development of the brain and body, but I am sure he is healthy! Of course, if the trend were for him to be underweight, or he was showing any signs of not getting enough milk (other than a few less ounces this week), I would want to do something about it. But I don't feel that one week out of three is enough of a trend to start panicking! Please let me know if I am in the wrong here, I am a new mother, and this is my first baby. I don't want ANYTHING to upset his development if I can help it. But, if I am right about wanting to just leave well enough alone, please also tell me. Have any of you had this kind of experience? How does one handle a meddlesome midwife? She has been paranoid since I first started seeing her. We never connected, and even during my labour she didn't offer any kind of support. : ( Need some encouragement please. Many thanks, Alicia I'm no expert, but it sounds to me like he's gaining OK. Heck dropping from a gain of 6 to 4 oz could be the difference of weighing before or after a poo / feed. I think the general rule is that so long as he is gaining weight and pooing and peeing the requisite numebr of times per day (ie 6-8) all is OK. Make sure you bf on demand and for as long as he wants on each side, and check his weight gain over a few weeks. Perhaps you could see someone else, perhaps a LC (Lactation Consultant). In Australia, most major chemist chains have clinic nurses (mine's also a LC) that do free clinics every week. I stared seeing her when my DD was only a couple of months old and got on with her much better than the "official" clinic sister at the family health centre. My DD was born at average weight and quickly dropped down to the 10% line on the weight curve and has followed that ever since. She didn't regain all of her birthweight until she was about 3 weeks old. My ped wasn't worried about this because she has continued to gain at a steady rate. She is a happy healthy, but long and skinny, 1 year old who is walking, talking, dancing and singing, and has passed all the developmental checks for her age. HTH Amanda |
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My baby has been doing really well, he's got great colour, he's
pooping and peeing well, and he's very interactive and alert. However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! ARGHHHH! I feel like calling her and telling her to f*** off (pardon my harsh language, she just really makes me angry). The course of his little life has been this: He lost about 6 ounces in the first 4-5 days or so, then regained his birth weight and another 6 ounces in the week and that followed. Now, in the last 6 days, he has only gained 4 ounces and the midwife is going crazy with telling me he's not doing as well as he should. I agree that he is not as high as he was, nor is he on the 'average' weight gain for this week. But she's really getting nasty with trying to get me to intervene. Am I crazy for wanting to tell her to leave well enough alone? You're not crazy, your baby sounds fine to me, and she sounds really awful! If you can't get rid of her (I don't understand the health care system in Canada) then can you get her off your back by telling her you're eating oatmeal and taking fenugreek capsules? (You might even do it. Can't hurt.) Newborn babies may gain an ounce a day on average, but that's an AVERAGE. They won't gain exactly that much, no more no less, each and every day. If I'm reading you right, your son gained 12 ounces (the first 6 that he lost after birth plus 6 more) in one week and 4 the next, which is a bit more than 1 ounce a day average. IOW, he's bang on. Holly Mom to Camden, 2.5 yrs |
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My dd lost 13 oz after birth which was more than 10% of her weight.
She also had a few days of severely reduced diaper counts and dehydration. Then even when I supplemented I didn't supplement much and kept her to the breast all the time. She didn't get back to her birth weight until 3.5 weeks. She was constantly on the breast it seemed for months though. If your baby is not constantly on the breast, then she is probably getting just the amount of milk that she wants. I don't think my baby had any brain damage from her low supply of food at first as she has been quite ahead on milestones from the get go and still is. But still, I think you should definitely keep an eye out. I know I would be paranoid with a low weight gain. If you do come to believe that your supply is low, you could look into taking domperidone. I take that, fenugreek and chasteberry in order to have enough milk. Supplementing doesn't have to be the first step in treating low supply. KC "Alicia Elliott" wrote in message .ca... Hello all! Some of you I know, and others I am enjoying reading about from your posts. I just recently had my baby, and thought I would check out this ng since I've been a regular on MKP for the last several months. : ) My name is Alicia, I'm 29 and have just had a beautiful baby boy (Aug 9th) that weighed in at 9 pounds 3 ounces. His name is Raine. : ) Now, my rant: I am breastfeeding my little one, and have had good luck with latching in the last two weeks, the first week was a bit silly because I was compressing the breast the wrong way. OUCH. Anyway, it's all sorted now. BUT, before I even had the baby I had some concerns because I had had a breast reduction a number of years ago. I really wanted to be able to breast feed, but didn't know if it would be possible, or if I would need to supplement. My baby has been doing really well, he's got great colour, he's pooping and peeing well, and he's very interactive and alert. However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! ARGHHHH! I feel like calling her and telling her to f*** off (pardon my harsh language, she just really makes me angry). The course of his little life has been this: He lost about 6 ounces in the first 4-5 days or so, then regained his birth weight and another 6 ounces in the week and that followed. Now, in the last 6 days, he has only gained 4 ounces and the midwife is going crazy with telling me he's not doing as well as he should. I agree that he is not as high as he was, nor is he on the 'average' weight gain for this week. But she's really getting nasty with trying to get me to intervene. Am I crazy for wanting to tell her to leave well enough alone? I know that weight gain is very important for development of the brain and body, but I am sure he is healthy! Of course, if the trend were for him to be underweight, or he was showing any signs of not getting enough milk (other than a few less ounces this week), I would want to do something about it. But I don't feel that one week out of three is enough of a trend to start panicking! Please let me know if I am in the wrong here, I am a new mother, and this is my first baby. I don't want ANYTHING to upset his development if I can help it. But, if I am right about wanting to just leave well enough alone, please also tell me. Have any of you had this kind of experience? How does one handle a meddlesome midwife? She has been paranoid since I first started seeing her. We never connected, and even during my labour she didn't offer any kind of support. : ( Need some encouragement please. Many thanks, Alicia |
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"KC" wrote in message om... But still, I think you should definitely keep an eye out. I know I would be paranoid with a low weight gain. I wouldn't call 4 oz in 6 days a low weight gain. Average weight gain for babies is 4-7 oz in a week (according to Dr. Sears). And one week with a weight gain on the low end of average is hardly something to worry about. Nadene |
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my name is allie and I have a 6 mos old and a 2 1/2 year old. My 6 mos old was very happy on three meals a day and now she only eating a little.She has been a little unwell and now wants 4 breastfeed(she was on only twice a day) will she go back to three meal and only twice a day. Was i doing it right before????.Help! allie Wiltshire,England thanks "Alicia Elliott" wrote in message . ca... Hello all! Some of you I know, and others I am enjoying reading about from your posts. I just recently had my baby, and thought I would check out this ng since I've been a regular on MKP for the last several months. : ) My name is Alicia, I'm 29 and have just had a beautiful baby boy (Aug 9th) that weighed in at 9 pounds 3 ounces. His name is Raine. : ) Now, my rant: I am breastfeeding my little one, and have had good luck with latching in the last two weeks, the first week was a bit silly because I was compressing the breast the wrong way. OUCH. Anyway, it's all sorted now. BUT, before I even had the baby I had some concerns because I had had a breast reduction a number of years ago. I really wanted to be able to breast feed, but didn't know if it would be possible, or if I would need to supplement. My baby has been doing really well, he's got great colour, he's pooping and peeing well, and he's very interactive and alert. However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! ARGHHHH! I feel like calling her and telling her to f*** off (pardon my harsh language, she just really makes me angry). The course of his little life has been this: He lost about 6 ounces in the first 4-5 days or so, then regained his birth weight and another 6 ounces in the week and that followed. Now, in the last 6 days, he has only gained 4 ounces and the midwife is going crazy with telling me he's not doing as well as he should. I agree that he is not as high as he was, nor is he on the 'average' weight gain for this week. But she's really getting nasty with trying to get me to intervene. Am I crazy for wanting to tell her to leave well enough alone? I know that weight gain is very important for development of the brain and body, but I am sure he is healthy! Of course, if the trend were for him to be underweight, or he was showing any signs of not getting enough milk (other than a few less ounces this week), I would want to do something about it. But I don't feel that one week out of three is enough of a trend to start panicking! Please let me know if I am in the wrong here, I am a new mother, and this is my first baby. I don't want ANYTHING to upset his development if I can help it. But, if I am right about wanting to just leave well enough alone, please also tell me. Have any of you had this kind of experience? How does one handle a meddlesome midwife? She has been paranoid since I first started seeing her. We never connected, and even during my labour she didn't offer any kind of support. : ( Need some encouragement please. Many thanks, Alicia |
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"allie.hacker" wrote in message ... hi, my name is allie and I have a 6 mos old and a 2 1/2 year old. My 6 mos old was very happy on three meals a day and now she only eating a little.She has been a little unwell and now wants 4 breastfeed(she was on only twice a day) will she go back to three meal and only twice a day. Was i doing it right before????.Help! Allie--you might want to retry your question in a new post; you're more likely to get more replies. Two (or for that matter four) breastfeeds sounds awfully infrequent for a 6-month old, and three meals sounds like an awful lot of solids for that age. The majority of your baby's nutrition should still be from breastmilk at that age. Solids are for practice. Belphoebe |
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"Alicia Elliott" writes:
However, my midwife is constantly trying to bully me into taking lactation aids, and if he doesn't start gaining faster, she wants me to supplement! My bias: I had supply problems that cropped up in the fifth week and eventually led me to supplement with formula at eight weeks. My thoughts: I think the best person to listen to is your baby. If he seems happy and he keeps growing some over the next couple of weeks, then it seems silly to introduce formula and it seems to be better to avoid taking stuff like fenugreek or brewer's yeast that could turn out to be the thalidomide of the '00s. If your son starts to seem unhappy or super hungry, then maybe you could test him by waiting till he's asleep and you have some extra milk, then pumping or hand expressing a few ounces of milk into a bottle, a cup, etc. If you give your baby the extra milk in the afternoon or late at night (i.e., not during evening screaming time) and he devours it like a starving baby, then maybe you have to either supplement or find a quick way to increase your milk supply. If your baby seems happy, he grows some, and he isn't that eager to drink extra milk, then I think I'd talk to a pediatrician and spend some time at a La Leche League meeting before thinking about supplementing. |
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The fact is, Alicia... your baby has gained weight in a short span of 6
days. As long as there are no signs of dehydration, then do tell that woman to f*** off Jo (RM) -- Babies are Born... Pizzas are delivered. |
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