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Talking about death to a 3 year old?
My mother died recently. I used take my son over on a weekly
fortnightly basis (I saw her more frequently after work) I used to take them out to lunch to try to get her to eat more. I have totally avoided the topic. My son was in day care the day of the funeral Now my three year old boy has started to ask "Can we go to Nona's?" What do I say? |
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try to divert his mood by getting him something different...
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Talking about death to a 3 year old?
Avid Fan wrote:
My mother died recently. I used take my son over on a weekly fortnightly basis (I saw her more frequently after work) I used to take them out to lunch to try to get her to eat more. I have totally avoided the topic. My son was in day care the day of the funeral Now my three year old boy has started to ask "Can we go to Nona's?" What do I say? I think you're going to have to talk to him about it, and it will be more challenging because you didn't talk about it at the time (so now you have the double issue that he may worry what else important has happened that you're not telling him about). The good news is that kids tend to deal fairly well with death. They don't have the lookahead ability to really understand how permanent it is, so sometimes it's a little less devastating to them in the moment. Explain to him that she was very sick and her body wasn't able to keep going anymore and so she died and can't be with us anymore. You can add anything appropriate from your faith tradition, if you like. There are lots of books for children, so you could go to the bookstore and see if there's one that seems suitable for your child, his age, and your beliefs. Often, the thing kids worry about most when you tell them about a death in the family is that you'll be next. You probably want to reassure him that what happened to his grandmother is not going to happen to you anytime soon. It's normal for kids at this age to be sad when you tell them, but it's also normal for them to have little reaction. It takes a while for them to process things, and you can usually expect that the topic will come up at intervals over the years as they grow in their understanding. I'm very sorry for your loss--it's a lot to have to deal with losing your mother and also having to worry how to handle it with your child. Best wishes, Ericka |
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