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"Cold turkey" weaning
A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her
six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be so confused. Manda |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
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A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be so confused. Manda Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at you! Maybe she thinks it's a quick fix to a sleep problem? Or the baby is on solids so she thinks the baby doesn't need to nurse anymore. Dear dear..how sad ( Andrea. |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
I don't have a problem with giving up nursing at 6 months, that is a very
personal choice for each individual mother. Any nursing is better then none! I do feel for the poor child though, babies can't give up anything cold turkey can they? The baby must be so confused, a baby learns to trust that when they are hungry, mommy is there to feed them. I hope she smartens up and weans the baby off slowly like any other normal mom would do! KR Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at you! Maybe she thinks it's a quick fix to a sleep problem? Or the baby is on solids so she thinks the baby doesn't need to nurse anymore. Dear dear..how sad ( Andrea. |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
Andrea writes:
: wrote in message ... : A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her : six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl : when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and : said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and : nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how : stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor : little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have : enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of : course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. : Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and : she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have : to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be : so confused. : : Manda : Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months : to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at : you! Well, that's not what gets my goat. It is terminating breatfeeding at the same time that your are starting solids. Studies have shown that for best results, there needs to be an overlap of at least 3 to 4 months of receiving both solids and breastmilk to reduce the incidence of atopic diseases. Stupid if you ask me. Just plain stupid. Larry |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
Andrea wrote:
wrote in message ... A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be so confused. Manda Oh my 6 months? The poor baby! It confuses me that she would choose 6 months to give up, nursing is so special when they are looking up and smiling at you! Maybe she thinks it's a quick fix to a sleep problem? Or the baby is on solids so she thinks the baby doesn't need to nurse anymore. Dear dear..how sad ( I think 6 months was her magic cutoff point that she set before the baby was even here. She says she's exhausted by it. Kind of confusing since this is the point where it actually starts getting easier. It's causing quite the uproar on the board. Not really because of what she's doing - most are strangely supportive - but because everyone is attacking the people who stood up for the baby as being trolls and unsupportive. Manda |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
Poor baby!! That must be a form of child abuse to withhold food from you
child for so long!! -- Michelle P Ava Marie July 14, 2002 wrote in message ... A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be so confused. Manda |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
The mother will be feeling the effects of this cold turkey thing
pretty quickly too you know... I don't want to be in her shoes in the next few days when she develops one nasty breast infection! Don't get me wrong, that baby is suffering both physically and emotionally! There will be reprecutions for years on this one... It is sooo sad to see something like this happen. The best we can do is present an "unbiased" opinion. A clear statement of the facts. Appreciate that she wishes to wean her baby quickly, and explain to her that it at this young age a baby doesn't really understand the difference between "wants and needs". She will want to eat because she needs to eat. She will want to be changed because she needs to be changed. She is not imposing her will on the mother, it's the other way around. In a gentle way we need to make her understand that. Give her tips or references and contacts on how to wean quickly. It has been done before, we just need to get her on the road to success rather than frustration. Give her the example of a smoker. There are not many successful Cold Turkey quitters. They call it weaning for a reason... Weaning means to gradually reduce. This is coming from a woman who has been nursing for the last 9 years... non-stop. No, I'm not nursing my 9 yo... I'm not nursing my 7 yo... My 4 yo nurses very, very rarely... and my 2 yo is on her way to weaning now. I've seen it all... Or just about. Johane "Michelle Podnar" wrote in message m... Poor baby!! That must be a form of child abuse to withhold food from you child for so long!! -- Michelle P Ava Marie July 14, 2002 wrote in message ... A mother on one of the message boards that I lurk on decided to wean her six month old "cold turkey". *sigh* I wanted to cry for the little girl when I read her post. She was trying to get her to take a sippy cup and said that she hadn't eaten much in 18 hours until she finally gave in and nursed her. She keeps talking about how it's a battle of wills and how stubborn the baby is! It upsets me just thinking about it. That poor little thing just thinks that her Mommy will feed her, she doesn't have enough logic to understand that Mommy is never going to feed her again. Of course, most of the other mothers were saying things like 'poor, Mommy'. Poor Mommy?! Mean Mommy and poor baby! Finally, some people spoke up and she attacked them, of course, as being crazy APers. I don't think you have to be AP (and I'm not) to think this seems cruel. That poor baby must be so confused. Manda |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
"Smart Lady" wrote in message om... The mother will be feeling the effects of this cold turkey thing pretty quickly too you know... I don't want to be in her shoes in the next few days when she develops one nasty breast infection! Don't get me wrong, that baby is suffering both physically and emotionally! There will be reprecutions for years on this one... I don't agree with cold turkey weaning because it's so cruel to a child who couldn't possibly understand what's going on. OTOH, I don't think the one incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. What will cause everlasting trauma is the parenting philosophy behind it and the precedence it sets for future parenting decisions. I believe how we treat our babies will often be reflected in a lifelong pattern of parenting. If a mother doesn't respect her child's emotions as an infant, they often don't respect their child's emotions as a teen or an adult. That is only my experience, but it seems to bear true. |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
toypup wrote:
OTOH, I don't think the one incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. I can only give my anecdote. Katerina was force-weaned at just over a year because of nipple confusion/bottle preference. She would not nurse without her brother starting the let-down. When he self-weaned, she was forced to wean but was not ready. Her personality suffered a dramatic change. To this day she gropes and nuzzles me. -- Brigitte aa #2145 edd #3 February 15, 2004 http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/ "Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare." ~ Harriet Martineau |
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"Cold turkey" weaning
DeliciousTruffles wrote:
toypup wrote: OTOH, I don't think the one incident will cause longlasting emotional trauma. I can only give my anecdote. Katerina was force-weaned at just over a year because of nipple confusion/bottle preference. She would not nurse without her brother starting the let-down. When he self-weaned, she was forced to wean but was not ready. Her personality suffered a dramatic change. To this day she gropes and nuzzles me. Ugh. I weaned Luke before he was ready. He is just obsessed with his num-nums. I'm currently weaning him of that too and he doesn't want to let go. I hope this is the end of the whole weaning/nursing/breast thing. We had a pretty awful biting phase as well. He had a history of that but it just went through the roof about 2 months after he weaned. It is hard to always do the right thing for everyone :-( -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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