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Hi, I usually just lurk here but I'm hoping for some useful advice.
My best friend has twin boys,(fraternal) who are almost 3, exact same age as my DD. (by due date, they were a month early) They aren't really talking that much, but are beautiful sweet boys. My friend took them to a very good speech pathologist, who is concerned that they have a lot of the signs and symptoms for autism. From what I do know about autism, it does seem possible. She is understandably pretty upset, and I was really hoping someone here could give me some insight on the best way to support her and the boys, what to say, what not to say, etc....other than just listening and giving hugs. Any good support groups? thanks JJ |
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In article .com,
wrote: Hi, I usually just lurk here but I'm hoping for some useful advice. My best friend has twin boys,(fraternal) who are almost 3, exact same age as my DD. (by due date, they were a month early) They aren't really talking that much, but are beautiful sweet boys. My friend took them to a very good speech pathologist, who is concerned that they have a lot of the signs and symptoms for autism. From what I do know about autism, it does seem possible. She is understandably pretty upset, and I was really hoping someone here could give me some insight on the best way to support her and the boys, what to say, what not to say, etc....other than just listening and giving hugs. Any good support groups? Be open to continuing to visit with each other. As for what not to say, so long as you are not judgemental about her sons' behaviour, you will likely be fine. All too often a parent can be judged as a poor parent catering to a spoiled child rather than a parent who is helping a child to cope by meeting a need that is vital for the child to cope with the world around them. You can suggest that she talk to the speech pathologist about where to find resources in your community that can provide support to her, and therapy if this route is appropriate. But most of all, continue to be the same friend to her and her sons. They are still the same wonderful people they were before the diagnosis. Carol |
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Rob wrote:
The only thing I would suggest to you don't jump to conclusions. Albert Einstein did not speak at all until he was 3 years of age. Please stop perpetuating this rumor. When Albert's little sister Maria was born when he was 2.5, he looked at her and said (in German, of course), "but where are the wheels?" Einstein was working on calculus by the time he was in his teens. He was married twice, with numerous affairs along the way. He was a very social, charming man who later found his way into more political venues. This man was not autistic. All great thinkers need to have intense focus. But, that does not make them autistic. Perpetuating this image does nothing to help autistic children and adults and does them a disservice. -- Anita -- mommy to Pillbug, almost 4, autistic mommy to Rocky, almost 2, speech delayed |
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I know this is not the right time to say it, but there is an excellent book
that is written in the voice of someone with autism. It is "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" by Mark Haddon. I don't know how accurately it portrays autism, but I suspect that is pretty accurate. It does an excellent job of putting the reader in the mind of a person who has a different way of thinking than most of us. I recommend it. Jeff |
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On Sat, 05 May 2007 11:19:55 GMT, Rob wrote:
Albert Einstein did not speak at all until he was 3 years of age. This is NOT true. His sister was born when he was 2, not three and he spoke when she was born. He did probably have a language delay. http://gardenofpraise.com/ibdeinst.htm -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Hi.
My son is now six and was finally diagnosed with a perception problem and resulting speech development delay when he was about 3. At first there were so many things on the table, Autism, Landau-Kleffer Syndrome, Epilepsy, Mutism,... It's scary at first and there will be a lot of testing coming up for them. For me it was important to talk to my best friend and just have her listen. I researched a lot on the internet, there are hardly any books about speech delays in children under 6 y.o. At least there weren't 3 years ago. And I'd talk to her about what was going on, what kind of therapy we were doing, how Sam was doing generally. Her son is about 5 years older than mine and her daughters are 3 and 4.5 years younger, so we didn't really "compare notes" on the development front anyway, maybe that helped, I don't know. Personally I think you know her better than any of us, and you probably know better how she'll react to certain things you say. I wouldn't start "walking on eggs" around her and her kids. Just behave normally, offer your help, and be ready to listen to her ranting about doctors appointments, incredibly rude doctors, waiting times, stupid questions,... ("Do you talk to your child" was one I was often asked. And "You have to sing with your child" was a really great suggestion, because Sam would start screaming as soon as I started singing and honestly, I can not blame him) Other than that, only time will tell what's really going on with the kids ;-) take care nicole |
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Irrational Number wrote:
Rob wrote: The only thing I would suggest to you don't jump to conclusions. Albert Einstein did not speak at all until he was 3 years of age. Please stop perpetuating this rumor. When Albert's little sister Maria was born when he was 2.5, he looked at her and said (in German, of course), "but where are the wheels?" Einstein was working on calculus by the time he was in his teens. He was married twice, with numerous affairs along the way. He was a very social, charming man who later found his way into more political venues. This man was not autistic. All great thinkers need to have intense focus. But, that does not make them autistic. Perpetuating this image does nothing to help autistic children and adults and does them a disservice. -- Anita -- mommy to Pillbug, almost 4, autistic mommy to Rocky, almost 2, speech delayed Thank you for correcting me. I thought it was obvious that I DID NOT think that Albert Einstein was autistic, that was the point. |
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