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When children are defiant and difficult
(Quoting another -- ) "James P. Comer, the Yale professor of psychiatry and the mind behind the Comer School Development Program, a highly successful model for transforming urban schools......." "Teachers and parents need to understand from the beginning that you don't yell at Johnny for doing something wrong, but teach him how to do it right," he said. "We have to focus on how to help children function, not on how they sometimes embarrass us or threaten our power. A lot of the bad behavior of children is calculated to reduce the disparity of power between them and us. "But when you develop relationships so that they see you as their ally, they have less reason to battle with you." Of course. I knew that all along. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn...78.html?sub=AR http://tinyurl.com/bktdj And I'll add that of course the way for your child to see you as their ally is to cause them humiliation and pain to teach them. Works every time. 0;- |
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Jennie wrote:
wrote: "Teachers and parents need to understand from the beginning that you don't yell at Johnny for doing something wrong, but teach him how to do it right," he said. But sometimes a couple of swats of the paddle help sting the child into co-operating with you. What methods do you use to get adults, friends, relatives, co-workers, clerks, waiters, spouse, to cooperate with you? By the way, what is "co-operating?" Or are you suggesting that when the child wants you to cooperate they too can use a paddle on you? If not why not? Jennie 0:- |
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Watch the Monkeyboy dance....heheheheheeh
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Watch the "never-spanked" boy lie! ;-) Where are those studies, LaVonne? Doan On 28 Jul 2005 wrote: Watch the Monkeyboy dance....heheheheheeh |
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Jennie,
Is your parenting goal hitting children and stinging them into cooperating with you? My parenting goal was teaching children to make good behavioral choices. I never hit my children. One can parent successfully without hitting. LaVonne Jennie wrote: wrote: "Teachers and parents need to understand from the beginning that you don't yell at Johnny for doing something wrong, but teach him how to do it right," he said. But sometimes a couple of swats of the paddle help sting the child into co-operating with you. Jennie |
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So your parents was NOT successful in raising you? Doan On Mon, 8 Aug 2005, Carlson LaVonne wrote: Jennie, Is your parenting goal hitting children and stinging them into cooperating with you? My parenting goal was teaching children to make good behavioral choices. I never hit my children. One can parent successfully without hitting. LaVonne Jennie wrote: wrote: "Teachers and parents need to understand from the beginning that you don't yell at Johnny for doing something wrong, but teach him how to do it right," he said. But sometimes a couple of swats of the paddle help sting the child into co-operating with you. Jennie |
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