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128 students suspended at Ind. school
"Tori M" wrote in message .. . "Nan" wrote in message ... On Fri, 1 Sep 2006 09:00:33 -0500, "Tori M" wrote: My point (yes there is one G) is that while my comment doesn't apply to school supplies directly, that there are situations in which some families aren't aware of assistance. And I think to say, 'well, the help is out there' is an assumption that judges people and I don't think it's good to make that assumption. Well see you are doing your part by telling them where to get help. I could have just as easily thought to myself, "the help is out there, why don't they go get it?". Well, not just as easily, because I tend to try and look deeper when people are having problems. I just think it's very unwise to operate on assumptions about people. Well I wouldnt do that either when talking to someone who needs help.. but in a discussion with others I can say there are places where they can get help. I know this because I have been there. I have done my homeless time. I lived in 2 differant shelters. The ones in NH actualy charge you rent! When I was pregnant with Bonnie we ran out of food a couple times and thats when we had to humble ourselves and go to the food kitchens.. I am actualy talking from experiance. I skip meals almost daily.. my kids usualy eat all 3 meals or enough so they are not asking for food. When I was a kid, we were homeless for a summer. We went all across the west in the summer heat in a car that overheated every ten minutes. We never stayed in a motel, just by the side of the road, sleeping on picnic tables until the cops would come to kick us off. Reminds me of the Grapes of Wrath. My parents' friend gave us a place to stay for a couple of weeks and then kicked us out, so we had to find another place to stay for awhile, which we were lucky to find. We weren't on the streets homeless, but we were homeless because we did not have a place and pretty much plunked on someone's couch. So yeah, we've been poor, though not as bad off as a homeless shelter. My parents' worldy possesions was a few hundred bucks and a broken down car. They made sure we had a pencil for school, because that was the most important thing in the world. I remember the free lunches and shopping at the (literally) junk yard. I remember my dad always let me eat my fill and then he would eat, so I was never hungry. I just thought he was being nice, but maybe we just didn't have enough to eat. Our entertainment was driving to sit outside the drive-in and watching silent movies. Nan assumes I don't know poor. I do. I also know the poor have services. |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
"nimue" wrote in message ... Actually, I was giving you some very valuable information. Try reading it again when you are less ****ed at me. It will save you a world of trouble with your kids and with others. I've already apologized. I wish you would let it rest already and stop trying to antagonize me. |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
"Barbara" wrote in message ups.com... Nan wrote: On Fri, 01 Sep 2006 12:58:11 GMT, "Jen" wrote: "Jen" wrote in message ... "bizby40" wrote in message ... "Jen" wrote in message ... I'm sorry, but I've always been a believer that the people who stand by and watch are just as bad as the bullies themselves. lol -- I've been called a netnanny and a netcop before for the same reason. I too can't stand to see someone being bullied. I just generally think of bullying as being several people ganging up on one, or one person being belligerent while the other is cowering. This situation seemed much more like a pretty even match between two people. And in that situation, I (obviously don't mind my own business like I should) try to play peacemaker. No, it wasn't only one person, there were others as well. That's why I felt the need to step in. I also meant to say, she sounded *cornered*, and was constantly defending herself, and explaining herself. Yep. Sometimes the dynamic of misc.kids seems to be that new or sporadic posters seem to get targeted, whether intentionally or unintentionally. I have no trouble defending someone I perceive as being treated unfairly. I like a good debate as well as anyone, but it doesn't need to spiral down into what this discussion turned into. Hey Barbara, if you haven't killfiled me, I apologize for my words yesterday. You have far too many interesting ideas and comments -- whether or not I agree with them -- to ever killfile you. I do sincerely regret that things I've said in the past have hurt or offended you. I'll still defend myself by saying that I never intend such an effect, but since my words clearly appear to have resulted in that, I take responsibility for it and apologize. The problem with the written language is that you can't see facial expressions and body language, so things can easily be misinterpreted. It's great that this is being sorted out. I didn't realise that Nimue was new to this group, so am I. I'm glad she's hanging around. Jen |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
toypup wrote:
"nimue" wrote in message ... Actually, I was giving you some very valuable information. Try reading it again when you are less ****ed at me. It will save you a world of trouble with your kids and with others. I've already apologized. I wish you would let it rest already and stop trying to antagonize me. I wasn't trying to antagonize you. I am sorry I did. I meant it -- learning how to apologize effectively is an art that is good to cultivate in general, and ESPECIALLY if you have teenagers. -- nimue "As an unwavering Republican, I have quite naturally burned more books than I have read." Betty Bowers English is our friend. We don't have to fight it. Oprah |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
On Fri, 01 Sep 2006 22:46:48 GMT, "toypup"
wrote: "Nan" wrote in message news Well, I know you're talking about a pen and notebook, which is cheap. But here's the list for my dd's First Grade class: Backpack Box of pencils to share with the class 2 boxes of tissues 4-6 dry erase markers 24 ct. box of crayons Scissors Bottle school glue 3 glue sticks Gym shoes w/non-marking soles 2 boxes snacks to share with class 1 box gallon size storage bags (girls) 1 box quart size storage bags (boys) I know this is a lot. I also know that I never needed all this when I was in school. I also know DS is in kindergarten and his school list requirement was one pencil case, period. Everything else was supplied. Backpacks were prohibited (just for kindergarteners). Is your community more or less affluent? What is the supply list for first grade in Nimue's community? Our community is poor working class, for the most part. However, I'd say 75% or more of the students qualify for the free or reduced cost lunches and book rental fees. My dd's kindergarten school supply list was almost the same as the above, except for crayons. Those were supplied. Nan |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
On Fri, 01 Sep 2006 23:00:14 GMT, "toypup"
wrote: Nan assumes I don't know poor. I do. I also know the poor have services. No, I didn't assume any such thing. When you stated in another post that your family bought clothing for 25 cents a pound, I figured it out. My point has always been that services may be there, but those who need them may not be aware. Nan |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
"Nan" wrote in message ... On Fri, 01 Sep 2006 22:46:48 GMT, "toypup" wrote: "Nan" wrote in message news Well, I know you're talking about a pen and notebook, which is cheap. But here's the list for my dd's First Grade class: Backpack Box of pencils to share with the class 2 boxes of tissues 4-6 dry erase markers 24 ct. box of crayons Scissors Bottle school glue 3 glue sticks Gym shoes w/non-marking soles 2 boxes snacks to share with class 1 box gallon size storage bags (girls) 1 box quart size storage bags (boys) I know this is a lot. I also know that I never needed all this when I was in school. I also know DS is in kindergarten and his school list requirement was one pencil case, period. Everything else was supplied. Backpacks were prohibited (just for kindergarteners). Is your community more or less affluent? What is the supply list for first grade in Nimue's community? Our community is poor working class, for the most part. However, I'd say 75% or more of the students qualify for the free or reduced cost lunches and book rental fees. My dd's kindergarten school supply list was almost the same as the above, except for crayons. Those were supplied. Nan And the list is almost the exact same list as the 3 closest schools to me. WI has open enrollment.. I think thats what it is anyway... If I chose public school the monkeys could technicaly go to any public school in the state. I, of course, being addicted to the internet, checked out all 3 online :P Tori |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
"nimue" wrote in message ... toypup wrote: "nimue" wrote in message ... Actually, I was giving you some very valuable information. Try reading it again when you are less ****ed at me. It will save you a world of trouble with your kids and with others. I've already apologized. I wish you would let it rest already and stop trying to antagonize me. I wasn't trying to antagonize you. I am sorry I did. I meant it -- learning how to apologize effectively is an art that is good to cultivate in general, and ESPECIALLY if you have teenagers. Yes, it is. However, you have not cultivated it to a high enough art form if you're posting as you did above. I do not find it to be friendly advice at all. I have already apolgized to you twice. Please let it rest. |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
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